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lisa, russian, radfem

[wonderwomanisaradfem]

[vintage-bentley]

LGB people don’t need others to “affirm” our sexuality. We don’t need anyone to participate in our own understanding of ourselves. We don’t need surgeries, drugs, and other medical interventions to become our true selves. Quite the opposite: governments have used medical interventions to punish us for being our true selves. We don’t require that language be changed for us, other than simply expanding the definition of marriage—a legal definition—to include same sex relationships. We don’t try to convince ourselves and others that we’re anything other than how we were born. We don’t demand that taxpayers pay for anything related to our sexuality. This is all just off the top of my head…but there are so many differences between us and our goals, and the trans community and their goals.

[detrans-lesbian]

many radfem leaning spaces like to claim to be friendly to detransitioners but then turn around and mock tifs with so much vitriol that it really doesn't feel that way

[detrans-lesbian]

since i'm getting some misinterpretations of this post, let me clarify:

what i am tired of seeing is people mocking the effects of hormones (ie making fun of tif voices) or implying all tifs are stupid for buying into trans ideology (good for you that you avoided our fate, but many of us transitioned due to some combination of trauma and internalized misogyny. i would just hope for more empathy from fellow feminists)

these are things that are off-putting to me, as a detransitioned woman. i'm not saying you need to be nice and polite to any tif who is making misogynyistic or abusive statements

[alicelawstan]

[radosne]

fuck "slavic doll", fuck "slavic bimbo", fuck "oooh slavs are so mean and cold they got the scary Slavic Stare", fuck you romanticizing our pain and generational trauma, fuck off with only representing our countries with those old post-soviet dilapidated housing as if no time has passed since the 90s and we didn't progress at all, fuck off with reducing us all to some old Russian stereotypes, fuck off with your fetishising aesthetic build off of 5 emaciated models from the 2000s, some photos of fur coats and ushankas thrown in the mix and the usual coquette bullshit you just try to rewrite in cyrillic because it' "different" and "exotic", yet still fits a white supremacist beauty standard.

Tying your bullshit anorexia and starvation romanticisation to an ethnic group that has experienced so many famines, crisises, wars, back to back poverty for generations is disgusting.

[xcounterforcex]

and fuck your "Natasha" shit, because you laugh at how the lives of tens of millions of people collapsed in just a few days and women of various nationalities (whom you stereotypically call "russians", although the USSR was not only Russia ( ukrainians, belarusians, kazakhs, etc.) and therr are also a very large part of ppl who historically live in Russia but are not russians ) were forced to sell themselves, secretly leaving for abroad in order to somehow feed their children or just survive. "Natashas" were killed en masse while "doing their jobs," and "funny russian gold diggers" lived on tenterhooks, knowing that only the mood of their "sugar daddy" stood between them and being thrown out on the street without papers or knowing a local language. The consent was formal and forced. Many disappeared without a trace. Many ended up in sex slavery, for example, in Turkey (which is the center of human trafficking till nowadays).

I don't give a fuck whether you're a drag queen, or a gay, or a regular staight male, you're just fucking disgusting assholes, nothing new. I only hope that women who repeat this crap from TikTok drag show clips or consider it "aesthetics" or "easy life" will finally wake up before they ended up dismembered in trash bags.

[empiredivinite]

i don't understand how gay males can expect solidarity from lesbians when they can't even admit they're more privileged than them.

[kanelia]

Apparently, JK Rowling has pissed off a lot of gender critical people on twitter by admitting that she has a trans woman friend she refers to with she/her pronouns because that individual is her friend and she wants to make the said person happy. I think it is so tiring how easily people fall into black and white thinking and fail to learn anything from the cult behaviour of tras. More than two things can be true at the same time: It can be wrong to force people either through law or social pressure to lie and control their speech and it is dangerous and offensive for media and researchers to report and record people's sex falsely. But when it comes to someone's personal life, they can still be free to choose to refer to someone with preferred, although inaccurate, pronouns. Just like they should be free to choose not to do this.

[tra-archive]

They desperately want to portray us as evil women who want all trans people dead and/or hidden away, and when we try and say that’s not true, they cover their ears.

I have a best friend who’s a TIF, I obviously don’t believe she’s a man but I use he/him and use her preferred name because she’s my friend and I want to be nice. I’ll always use preferred names because I hate my own name and go by a preferred name and it sucks to be called something you don’t want to be called. But again, that only applies for my friends and people I respect. A random TIM online sending me rape threats? Nope.

[astropeony]

It is this behavior, instilled in us by female gender socialization, that destroys the lives of other women

By using "chosen" pronouns such as for tifs or tims, you are perpetuating the illusion of their rightness rather than being "polite." This behavior is harmful in any situation where a person engages in practices that are detrimental to them, but others not only remain silent but actively encourage them

It's better to be honest with your tif-friends and tim-fetishists than to give them the illusion that they should retreat into their distorted world

This is especially true for women. By referring to a woman with non-feminine pronouns, you are feeding her internal misogyny. Show her what it's like to be loved as a woman. Show her that being a woman is not shameful or limiting. Don't allow the patriarchy to use compulsive empathy against us, women.

This is not "personal life vs. political life," this is hypocrisy. If you are against fetishists who view being a woman as a costume and consider invading women's spaces a mandatory right, then you are against this. If you desire women's freedom, self-acceptance, and the eradication of misogyny and gender structures, you will not encourage the destruction of the identity of another woman you consider close to you. How can you claim to desire someone's happiness (as Rowling does) when you support their self-destruction and harm to others?

Think about it, ladies

[1000-life-hacks]

[its-terf-or-nothin]

I also recommend Z-Library, Anna’s Archive and Oceanofpdf.

[helenvaughans]

[evvergreen]

stephenie meyer, greatest mind of our generation, talked about this

[quinntheestallion]

When women post this kind of content theyre doing their patriarchal duty of trying to groom other women into thinking "its normal and funny when your husband is a useless piece of shit".

That's the point of husband-complaining with zero intentions of leaving: they need to normalize it for themselves and others.

Other women laughing it off is supposed to be an emotional pressure release valve for the mistreatment so they can have the stamina to continue to endure it. And when we don't play our part: its a problem. Because you're getting treated like shit, there's no pressure release via others cosigning that its okay and all you're left with is the reality of the situation to deal with alone.

[butmuhchoice-deactivated2026051]

lesbianism/FEMALE CENTERED bisexuality/het separatism is the answer for true female liberation. fight me.

[dykemind]

the thing that gets me about posts like this is you can always remove the femme or butch part and have a fully coherent positive post. or you could just say “dyke”. dyke bush saves lives. people who are constantly talking about femme or butch always seem to have femme or butch positivity in place of dyke positivity as if the rest of us don’t do the exact same thing. “sitting on the train butchly” okay

[rocksichord]

i hate everybodys husband

[harpersternupdates]

there aren't even any tomboys in movies anymore. like should we all die

[lisardactually]

now it's "nonbinary"

remember ladies you can't like masculine/unisex clothes and be a woman at the same time

[misandrysaveslives]

I can’t believe we live in a time where I am a racist because I don’t fuck with honour killings, the taliban, women being forced to cover up, children being married off because they’ve started their period, women being told that if they deny their husband sex angels will curse them when they sleep and a woman’s testimony being half that of a male.

None of you care about women and instead you’re too busy dyeing your fucking armpit hairs than talking about the real oppression out there that women are facing.

Somalia is almost entirely muslim. They recently attempted to change the age of marriage to 18 to prevent child marriage. It was overturned within 24 hours because so many men were against it and it didn’t align with islamic teaching.

I’m honestly confused as to how and why your feminism stops when it’s for women outside the west.

[farxistmeminism]

Can the women out there who opt out of body hair removal reblog this? We can show people that we exist, and show others that they’re not alone. 

[capricorn-season]

[deadfish-inabarrel]

"Men who are transgender claiming they are lesbians... ...are aspiring rapists"