just thinking a lot lately about that tiktok series of a guy asking strangers 'do you think this person is gay or straight' and its this whole chain of people being like oh im obviously straight everyone can tell and then getting called gay when their picture is shown to other strangers. overall pretty funny series exposing how fake and fragile it all is. but very notably the videos with all men are just calling each other gay but the ones with all women are completely unpromptedly calling the strangers in the photo trans.
the question of "do you think they're gay or straight" is being interpreted not as "can you guess this person's sexuality from their appearance" but "what kind of deviant do you think this person is" and trans men just do not occupy the societal headspace as a potential deviant to watch out for the way trans women do. fail to live up to the standard of cishet man and you're still a man you're just gay. fail to live up to the standard of cishet woman and you're not even a woman
