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but i stay silly! *âsaid in the most world-weary voice you ever did hear*
âbut I stay silly!â
Reblog you stay silly
on it boss
It's hard to really get across how baffling the gatekeeping model of trans healthcare actually is.
Like. You say "maybe patients shouldn't have to put their hand in the pain box from Dune" and people go "but we should be careful". Okay. The pain box from Dune is unrelated to being careful.
"What about detransitioners?"
"Here's an entire systematic review finding that the pain box from Dune has literally no effect on anything related to detransition."
"Well it's important that we don't make people do things they regret"
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"So the pain box from Dune is expensive, has no demonstrable benefit to patients, many patients say the pain box was bad for them. We can remove the pain box at negative cost and it won't be missed."
"Have you considered that this radical activism is alienating moderate supporters?"
It's established that detransition is an unusual outcome, and the nationwide right-wing anti-trans detransitioner dragnet has established that the number of people who detransition and then go on to believe that transition should not be available is effectively zero. So we are talking about a fraction of the patient population "people who transition."
But the gatekeeping model isn't just not helpful to detransitioners. It isn't just ineffective in preventing detransition. It's counterproductive.
What's less traumatic? What's less frightening and humiliating? What's less likely to lead to despair in that small fraction of patients who decide they need to stop/go back?
Option A: "You can transition if you want. Try HRT and see if you like the effects. If you're not sure, you can try a lower dose and ramp up gradually. If you want to stop, you can stop at any time. Some effects will gradually reverse themselves as your body readjust. Some may be permanent. But either way, you'll be fine. We affirm your right to make all decisions related to your transition, and we trust you to protect your own emotional wellbeing throughout this process. We're here to support you."
Option B: "You're about to make irreversible changes to your body, so we need to make sure you're making the right decision. What if you're delusional? Or immature? Or just a pervert? What if you haven't fully considered the potentially catastrophic effects of transition? You know this is mutilation of a healthy body, right? So are you sure? Are you sure? Are you really really sure? You can never go back! Point of no return! Last chance! Final countdown!"
Like, the point of this is obviously not to protect the dignity and peace of some hypothetical patient who got all the way through transition and then is like oh oops.
If that were the case, the emphasis would be completely different. It would not be stuck on let's make sure you're not about to fuck your life all the way up.
If there were any empathy or actual concern, any intrerest in detransitioners or their actual relationship to this gatekeeping process, the problem with this approach would be immediately clear. The problem with treating patients like they're not competent would be clear.
The spectre of transition regret exists to torment trans people and justify external (cis) control of transition. It's brutal because it's intended to brutalize. It's meant to create learned helplessness through shame, to punish everyone who transitions for the sin of self-determination.
And that harms all transitioning patients, but to the extent that eventual detransitioners are within that group, it directly harms them as well. It makes them more psychologically vulnerable in the aftermath, and it makes it much harder for them to trust themselves as they navigate detransition. Informed consent / autonomy helps everyone.
Something to keep in mindâŚ. building muscle is so hard people compete to see who can do it best. If youâre a woman worried about âgetting bulkyâ, i promise you that you cannot achieve that physique by accident. Now go lift weights to increase your bone density & protect yourself from osteoporosis and improve your insulin resistence and eat a fiber + protein dense meal with some carbs to refuel and fat for satiety + energy đŤľ
trans women this goes double for you especially the part about eating 𫵠you are not immune to your bones becoming tapioca in your old age pick up the weights and the fork sister weâre all gonna build our new bodies if i have anything to say about it
in general I find that "why did someone behave this way" is almost always answered by "behaving otherwise was too difficult and frightening for them at the time," and then you have to dig into why that is. people behave in ways that feel 1. easy for them (do not require much thought or effort) 2. accessible to them (patterns that have worked many times before) and 3. safe for them (apparently predictable outcome)
this is true even for behavior that is absolutely horrific and totally unacceptable. which can be a tough thing to accept, I think.
If you ever wondered why they call tattoos and piercings "unprofessional" and "unsophisticated"
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To my 25 - 35 year olds, you've reached the age where people around you are starting to give up on themselves because they think it's too late. Don't let that energy rub off on you. It's not too late.
I became a tattoo artist at 49.
Married the love of my life at 50.
Got my Class A CDL at 59.
You've got time.
As long as you're breathing, you've got time.
I have officially completed all of Outer Wilds and Echoes of the Eye. I did all of it. Am I supposed to just go on with my life now? What the fuck. I have to go to work tomorrow. Just gotta go to work. After experiencing Outer Wilds. What the fuck.
â Time passing isnât an apology. (via letsbelonelytogetherr)
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â Time passing isnât an apology. (via letsbelonelytogetherr)
womenâs bodies werenât âmadeâ to do anything, nature didnât âintendâ anything, no human action is âunnaturalâ and there is no inherent âpurposeâ to a human life
people werenât designed to do anything because they werenât designed at all. Hope this helps đ¤Š
Everyone say thank you to trans femmes for showing us a version of femininity born from joy and desire instead of just through coercion
Everyone say thank you to trans mascs for showing us a version of masculinity born from joy and desire instead of just through coercion
Everyone say thank you to all people outside of the cis gender binary for showing us a version of gender born from joy and desire instead of just through a simple frame work in which our oppressor have used to kill, erase, and censor us.
Thank you for showing us the existence of a history before and a future ahead.
this is (trans) positivity!
i donât think iâm exaggerating when i say that the average height for women in the US would increase by at least an inch if teen girls were allowed to eat as much as teen boys are
and not to bring my own clocky bitch ass into this but if cis women werenât so consistently starved their entire lives youâd see a lot more cis women with the kind of bodies that we currently associate closely with trans women. the amount that the standards of feminine presentation are culturally defined by malnutrition is crazy
Conservative beauty standards are back with a vengeance which means it's especially important to go out this summer with bellies out and bodies unshaved. Also be unapologetically disabled with mobility aids and wearable medical devices and stim toys and ear defenders and all that stuff. You need it. People need to see it. Everyone needs to be reminded that life is unquestioningly more enjoyable when you're not living inside an arbitrary set of rules created by people who are offended by all the wrong things.