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Look, it's simple. If a person has to actively work to make money, they're not "the rich" and they're not the problem. A surgeon making $200k a year still stops making money if they stop showing up to do surgery, because they're still selling their labor. The radical discrepancies in how we value different skills are certainly a problem, but the guy who makes money when he doesn't even get out of bed is the one making money on the value of other people's labor.
I had (and still have, much more rarely) frequent and violent migraines throughout puberty. I was (and still am but to a much lesser extent) very sensitive to smells and they were a trigger. It was mostly BO and a few types of floral perfumes, this was middle school in the early 2010s so the whole school smelled like that. Bath and Body Works Japanese Cherry Blossom and Sweet Pea were the two major offenders I remember plaguing me everyday and Cherry Blossom still makes me dry heave.
What was worse than the middle school olfactory torture was that I became sensitive to rose-scented products. They were my momās favorite thing in the world. She wore rose perfume everyday and I could hardly stand to be in the car with her. Iād never been carsick before but I started getting queasy every time weād go anywhere and she noticed. I knew it was her perfume. The problem was she loved her perfume, I bought her expensive rose-scented perfume and candles for Motherās Day most years, smelling like roses was part of her identity and her expression of self and she was going through a really difficult period in her life. I didnāt want to tell her that I suddenly couldnāt stand the way she smelled, that it was repulsive and nauseating to me now. I was so afraid but I eventually told her it was triggering to me and she sacrificed that part of herself and started wearing honey and tangerine scents, scents that did not trigger my migraines. No complaints. No questions. She loved me so much she changed the way she smelled.
I love my mom so much. Sheās made so many sacrifices for me. This one seems comparatively little but it was so meaningful in an odd melancholic way.
"The trannies should be able to piss in whatever toilet they want and change their bodies however they want. Why is it my business if some chick has a dick or a guy has a pie? I'm not a trannie or a fag so I don't care, just give 'em the medicine they need."
"This is an LGBT safe space. Of COURSE I fully support individuals who identify as transgender and their right to self-determination! I just think that transitioning is a very serious choice and should be heavily regulated. And there could be a lot of harm in exposing cis children to such topics, so we should be really careful about when it is appropriate to mention trans issues or have too much trans visibility."
One of the above statements is Problematic and the other is slightly annoying. If we disagree on which is which then working together for a better future is going to get really fucking difficult.
Someone who says they don't care if dudes wear dresses and makeup is a better ally than someone who says they're a safe space for women and non-binary people. I am not joking.
yeah I went to a gay bar recently with my husband tumblr user beemovieerotica, and a VERY confused capital S Southerner straight man in cargo shorts and a trucker hat showed up
apparently he (who through my drunken memory I remember only as Earl) liked some woman, and she told him that he wasn't cultured enough and needed to attend his first drag show (she also flaked on him)
Now I'm reasonably androgynous and was wearing makeup, a short leather skirt, and black heeled boots, but still when this guy came up to me when I was standing off alone and asked "So. Do you come here often?" with a very earnest expression, I thought. Surely not. This guy doesn't think I'm a straight woman does he????
Anyway I start talking with this guy and he has no idea what the fuck is going on but he is just a very kind and earnest dude and asked a lot of questions (while asking if it was alright if he asked those questions). I track down my husband and friends and I'm like y'all. We need to make sure that Earl has a Good Fucking Time tonight.
Man was completely out of his depth. At one point they put on a puppy auction to raise money for Pride, that started with a 6 ft drag queen in all her glory leading a leather pup out on a leash to the tune of that damned RSPCA "in the arms of the angels" song
We look at Earl. Nervous. He squints, laughs, and then goes "I was wondering why people were dressed like that!" He turned to me and asked "So they're like dogs?" And I said yeah pretty much. And he just chuckled and went "Yeah I thought so with the tails! Never seen this before!"
When the first drag king came out, Earl looked at me wide eyed and went "There's a dude version too?!" And I said yeah they're called drag kings. And he said, low, "Drag kings."
During one of the queens performances, he frowned, shook his head and told me, "Your legs are better than hers." in a tone that implied he thought there was some travesty taking place and I should also be getting paid
When he found out I was there with my husband (and that I am not a woman) he profusely apologized and said "I'm so sorry, it's dark in here and I thought you were a hot chick! I wouldn't have said nothing if I knew you had a husband, I'm so sorry about that."
When beemovie invited me to the dance floor with him later and I still had a drink in my hand, Earl said "Oh don't worry about that I can hold your drink, you get on out there and shake your ass with your husband!" Then before we left, Earl bought me drinks for "Putting up with me all night and answering everything. Y'all helped me have a great time tonight."
like. You gotta recognize there's going to people who have never had interacted outside of their of their own community. This includes you. And just because your community is familiar with all the right vocabulary and how to correctly say something, it doesn't mean they're actually going to support you. If someone like Earl shows up, confused and out of their depth but kind and curious and earnest, you gotta have patience and truck through the small things, so when he goes back to his friends and his coworkers and they snicker asking how the drag show was, he can genuinely talk about how included we tried to make him feel and that he had a great time
The person matters more than the language
I will reblog this EVERY TIME.
Sanitized language is a tool of oppression, always has been and always will be.
And yes, I get being pissed off by slurs. I do. But in the times we are living in right now, we really need to all pivot our priorities to safety.
"Earl" will talk to all his Busch drinking, tractor-pulling, gun toting, conservative voting friends about the nice and friendly and harmless trannies he met, and they will understand him.
They do not know what gender non-conforming, trans-femme/masc, demiboy, agender genderqueer bisexual lesbians are, and quite frankly, they do not need to.
What we need from Earl and his friends is for them to feel neutrally enough about us to not become violent with us, and to spread the idea that violence against us is not necessary or warranted. They are simply not going to do that in a language that is not their own.
"Gooner game!" "Gooner show!" "Gooner behaviour!"
There's literally nothing wrong with media containing sexual content, appealing to sexual fantasies, or ppl finding aspects sexually appealing.
There's nothing wrong with enjoying sexual fantasies, getting off to media, speaking about finding characters attractive, etc.
And whilst theres nothing wrong with it, a piece of media covering sexual topics or having attractive characters doesn't necessarily mean it's just a "gooner" media either. Things can have emotional depth and be beautifully written, and still have sexual content. You sound like a Puritan.
i don't need tumblr premium because I report every ad I see
'is this ad malicious?' as far as I'm concerned all ads are malicious
"I would kill for you. I would die for you" would you take a break for me? Would you sit down and rest? For a day, a week, a year? Would you let others take care of your needs for me? Would you let yourself be held for me? By me?
OP i hope its okay to reblog with your additions bc they are good
not only is it okay, I think i'd like that very much, thank you.
put rainbow laces on all my shoes recently which is fun and sexy but has the side effect that i have gotten multiple "i like your shoelaces" from strangers and like. i cant NOT "i stole them from the president" in return. just in case. but its recieved mostly awkward laughs and looks of confusion. embarrasing myself in public out here over my damn shoelaces.
not funny anymore guys it's all taking a toll
with love. you have to fact check shit. yes you. you still have to fact check shit. a lot of people are great at fact checking stuff they donāt want to be true, but somehow are still absolute ass at fact checking stuff thatās rhetorically convenient to them. even people my age, who I KNOW grew up doing internet/bibliography literacy workshops, and being warned not to believe anything that isnāt reliably sourced, people who DO harp on fact checking conservative output or whatever, are still kneejerk sharing unsourced shit that is partially or wholly untrue or misleading, because it suits whatever narrative theyāre pursuing in that moment, without even a ātake this with a grain of saltā. fact check!!!!!! look at the sources!!!!! yes itās a drag!!! do it!!!!!
a reminder that "you should probably fact check that" is not an attack on your beliefs. if it's true then you have nothing to lose from fact checking it. and if it's false? you have everything to gain from fact checking it
the best thing you can be as an American citizen is a traitor to your country
does anyone else remember when peoples talking point against asexuality being a queer identity was to make up a cisgender heterosexual but aromantic man who wanted to get in to all the lgbt society meetings or was that just an embarrassing thing people i knew did
the question was always "do you really think that guy should be allowed in" and it was like.... first off you made him up to get mad at for some reason. second off yeah he can come in if he wants. hes aromantic of course he can. other stuff doesnt matter to me. what are you a cop. why are you policing peoples identities so hard
something about freedom and living your truth and being able to tell jokes you couldn't before
there are some rather innocuous kinks that are just hard-nos and thatās okay, you donāt have to justify them. like, Iām sure there are a lot of people who donāt have foot fetishes but would be fine with their partner sucking their toes. me? I could never. the thought of my toe inside someoneās mouth is so horrifying and revolting that it makes me want to scream. nothing wrong with that kink, itās not gross or dangerous. loving your partnerās body is good. but my piggies will stay out of that market.
JK Rowling: I do what I do to protect women! Cis women!
also JK Rowling when a cis woman says something she doesnāt agree with: Emma Watson is a dumb stupid ignorant bitch who has set womenās rights back 50 years
How never having seen a single Dan and Phil video feels right now
