Okay so I got some interest in my post talking about Hera so letās start! (Please note some of this is UPG - please do your own research as well!)
For context Hera has been my primary Patron deity for several years now. Doesnāt mean I donāt also work with other gods, I just have the strongest relationship with her.
Hera initially reached out to me, and originally I turned her down because letās be honest, she comes across as kind of scary/intimidating in her myths. So I told her no, I wasnāt able to give her the proper setup/offerings/respect she was owed, and I wasnāt going to start a dynamic with a deity I didnāt feel I could properly worship.
And she respected that - until it became an excuse. I was mentally in a better place and was using my own fears as an excuse not to worship her rather than a reason. So I said you know what, fair, letās start.
Hereās the thing about Hera: she demands the respect she knows she is due. And yes, this can be intimidating at first. However, itās something sheās taught me to demand for myself. Demand the respect you deserve just for existing. Donāt settle for less. Some people are not worth your time or energy, so donāt let them get under your skin.
Also sheās good with mommy issues.
As a side note, in working with Hera you have to at least make peace with your view of Zeus. She is married to him and she takes that very seriously. It does please her when you show him respect as well not only as her husband but as king of Olympus. You donāt have to worship him as well, but you do at least have to be respectful toward him. This is my recommendation if you choose to work with Hera.
Hera is the type of goddess who will call you out on your shit, but Iāve also learned that she is fiercely defensive and protective of her own. If you build a positive relationship with her, she will look after you. She can be selfish and petty yes, that is true. But she is also extremely loyal and nurturing which I personally feel she does not get enough credit for.
Also when sheās mad oh boy look out. (Iāve never had her mad at me but Iāve seen occasions where she gets frustrated with someone else in my life and may or may not choose to intervene as a result. Iām fairly certain the only reason she tolerates my mom is because I care about my mom and am working on building a better relationship with her.)
So if you want to work on boundaries, mommy issues, confidence, learning to be yourself, being family oriented, I would highly recommend working on building a positive relationship with Hera.
Things Hera seems to care about (both from myth and from experience)
Getting what you are owed
Obviously she is the goddess of women/marriage so if marriage is something you either look forward to or want to take seriously in your life, sheās also excellent to work with. One of the ways I honor her is by trying to be a better husband and hopefully future father. My devotion to my family is an act of worship.
Thereās plenty of correspondences out there on the web, but sometimes I just offer my morning coffee to her as a way to just say thank you for being in my life. Make sure the vessel is washed and your hands are washed (khernips if youāre familiar with that) and just start by making an offering, something that means a lot to you but is still accessible to you.
If you respect and revere Hera she will more than likely take care of you as well. Approach her with humility and respect.
Hera Alexandros - protector of men
Hera Argeia - derived from Argos where she was worshipped
Hera Boopis - means cow eyed, often used in Homeric hymns to represent beauty/divinity
Hera Basilea - queen Hera
Hera Gamelii - Hera as one presiding over marriage
Hera Zygia - Hera as one presiding over marriage, also given to Zeus
I also personally associate her with citrine although she tends to be more commonly associated with blue and green gemstones due to her association with peacocks.
If anyone has any questions my inbox is open!