My radfem side blog

[blackpilljesus]

I saw this from the female separatism subreddit & the responses are some of the biggest reasons for separatism et al (or extinction if I'm being candid here). Moids cant be reformed they are fully aware of the hell they force women to live in. MaIe achievement & happiness is rooted in female exploitation & life. Their glory days are based on our horrific days. No amount of love, kindness or facts will change maIes and we cannot happily or even neutrally coexist with them.

Main points across answers:

Many want to experiment but not permanently be women

They dont want to be in constant danger or lose their autonomy at the hands of maIes for merely existing

They dont want to deal with childbirth (& periods)

They dont want to have to share spaces with species much stronger than them with ulterior motives

It makes me go crazy seeing people give moids benefit of doubt for their evil like "maIes just dont understand", "we need to teach maIes", or claiming that maIe violence is a result of maIes struggling with (expressing) their feelings. I get that women love maIes and it can be hard to imagine that people can intentionally be so evil but it is what it is. MaIes have no problems expressing themselves, abusing women is what maIes choose to do because they enjoy & benefit from it - that is their expression.

MaIes see the same news of women being abused, raped, and killed like we do except rather than be disheartened or alarmed they're either apathetic or satisfied. It isn't aliens that's committing GBV it's maIes & maIes have no problem reminding women of this when women anger them (such as rape threats & threatening women they'll end up on the news/true crime). The victim blaming, denial, and derailment of misogyny is part of the game to keep the system alive, they know the events occured & are a systemic occurence they just dont care. Hell not only do they not care, they rejoice in it or get off on it.

MaIes set up environments that work in their favour which simultaneously ensures that women will lose. They know women are set up to live in damn near impossible conditions for us. It's normalised for women to defenselessly share personal & private spaces with beings much more stronger than them with ulterior motives for us, it's trap. It's interesting how these moids aren't saying that they'll just cover up and *poof* harrassment gone, or they'll just pick a nice guy & they'll be okay. MaIes know the net negative they are towards women.

MaIes know that childbirth is a painful process & what do they do? Demand it happens and make it even MORE painful for women. MaIes that impregnate women do not love or care for them. Pregnancy itself is dangerous & sometimes lethal, often comes with a range of health issues, to cause someone to be in that condition especially in a environment where abortions are illegal is reckless & unloving. Now imagine how sinister & full of hatred one has to be to impregnate someone and abuse them on top of that. Many women risk their health & lives to reproduce with a Y and they get abused by said Y instead of being taken care of. Deranged.

Realising that maIes are aware of the evil they inflict is one of the things that radicalised me. It isn't a miscommunication or ignorance issue, their violence is intended. They want control. The cruelty is the point. Instead of wasting time & energy trying to change maIes or hope that they "understand" one day, focus on yourself & other women (who prioritise women). Moids aren't oblivious to female pain they enjoy it. A lot of women treat maIe evil like it's a mistake on maIes part but it's calculated terrorism. I know that this will go over many womens heads as they refuse to hold strong negative sentiments about moids as a collective so if you're not a woman like that, take this post as a sanity check. You aren't crazy, it isn't all in your head.

[blackpilljesus]

Adding honourable comment from the separatist subreddit:

TLDR: Don't waste time debating or educating moids. Focus on (building for) yourself & other women who aren't maIe apologists.

Few others in my gallery I couldn't include in the main post:

[secedenconquer]

Notice the apathy these men talk with about all the horrible suffering women have to endure, as if it's someone else's problem, as if it isn't their mothers, daughters, sisters, and spouses experiencing these horrors first-hand 24/7 trapped on this planet with them. Notice that "sucks to be them🤷‍♂️" attitude as they casually list all the pains women go through. The cold, detached awareness they have of half the population's misery. I don't know how women convince themselves "not all men". Clearly men collectively prefer patriarchy and want to maintain the status quo. Women can stay deluding themselves but reality is reality.

[genderresister]

Men are aware of their sociopolitical and physical advantages that they hold over women and that being male in a male dominated world shields them from the majorities of rape, sexual abuse, sexual harassment and male violence victimization in general. They are aware of women’s reality, and yet they express no remorse, no empathy, no compassion or regard for women’s humanity and have no desire to make amends or remedy the damage they cause women on a global scale.

This proves men are largely self-serving and misogynistic, attempts to humanize men or consort with them are better spent enriching your own life or those of other women.

[anelimvix]

[peachtwigs-deactivated20230912]

[strawberriseason-deactivated202]

No extremist, manhating feminist has ever painted an uglier picture of men than the average man just casually talking about his own gender. Like men will just openly admit their “boys chats” and other locker room talk is way worse than the stuff that gets abusers and rapists convicted. They mock the concept of a man who’s remotely nice to a woman (these days it’s simp, before that it was whipped). They laugh at how unrealistic romance movies are because a man would never do any of those things for a woman in the real world. They’ll go into detail about their rape kinks if you let them. Most men are completely open about how awful they are, and they feel safe doing it because for some reason, most women won’t believe them. It’s a terrible thing the way a man will go “I’m a genuinely evil person” and women will immediately rush to say “awww I’m sure that’s not true! I bet you’re sweet and misunderstood underneath it all! I bet you’re joking! Ok, maybe you and all the men you know are like that, but not all of them!”

Your female socialization and your kind heart has you searching for a humanity in men that they don’t even pretend to have. Listen to men when they tell you who they are.

[realwomanstuff]

A "trans woman" would have been able to open a bank account in 1973. We're not the same.

[niiwa-angel]

A "trans woman" could have;

Owned property before 1968

Opened a line of credit before 1974

Voted before 1919

We are not the same. And we never will be.

[unsentimentaltranslator]

Owned a wife as property before 1970 (California, first state in the US to pass no-fault divorce) or 1980 (New Zealand)

Legally raped his wife before 1993 (USA) or 1985 (New Zealand)

[rdthoughtdaughter-deactivated20]

Will sex ‘work’ exist without men? Will brothels exist without men? Will sex industry exist without men?

[moidsmalding]

Rapists are often spoken of in such a distanced way. Especially by males. They will act like these men are uncanny and otherworldly, as if only a small minority of them are the ones committing all these crimes. As if some spooky boogeyman is lurking in some dark alley assaulting and killing thousands of women at once.

Most men won't even call their actions rape. A man can wheedle and coax a reluctant woman into having sex with him and won't think anything wrong with it, a man would climb onto his sleeping wife and go "but we're married!", a man will purposely shower a woman with gifts and then say "now you owe me".

Rape is opportunistic. Even a man who has no track record or ever entertained the thought will jump on the chance once he thinks he can get away with it. There's no physical trait associated with it. A man could be courteous and kind and make you feel safe and then turn around and assault you. There is no way to predict which man is a rapist.

And it's because there's no way to tell, that they maintain this narrative of rapists being beastlike and abnormal. It's just another way of refusing to take accountability.

[noodleincident]

its amazing how johns have rendered themselves practically invisible in the discussion of sex workers. like every justification for a sex work industry has everything to do with whether women have the right to make a living and not whether men have the right to purchase sex. the women are the actors here but men are just the force of nature. this applies to a lot of dynamics but it feels so evil when it comes to the sex industry. 

[pleasesetmywagononfire]

Most heartbreaking moment of a girl’s life is finding out that there’s always going to be this fundamental social difference in the way you’re treated in comparison to your male friends.

It’s the most awful thing when the boys you’ve been friends with your whole life suddenly get the memo that they are men and you’re a woman.

Once this switch happens nothing ever really feels the same, everything becomes laced with this overarching bitter aftertaste that poisons every interaction and every accomplishment. The conscious or unconscious knowledge that nothing you do will ever exist without the lens of your inferiority forced upon it.

The people you used to know become more and more like the men of fiction who you swore were unrealistic tropey caricatures of men.

The creeping sense of a lack of safety or acknowledgement for your own personhood seeps into your life, crawling into every crevice of your being. Breeding a resentment in your soul for people that were once your best friends. People who you no longer know and who no longer care to know you.

It’s the ever present fact that to these people, your friends, you are no longer and never will be a person.

And in tandem with this subtle change in the wind everything starts to close in on you. “When are you getting a boyfriend?” “When are you having kids?” I hope you find a good man soon and don’t waste your life away” “don’t let these modern ideas get in the way of the true joys of life” all of these seemingly harmless statements pile up in your mind, cumulating in the central idea that if you’re not devoting ever bit of your identity and time and energy and effort and life to a man then you’re doing something abhorrently wrong.

Because in the end it always goes back to the fact that they are men, and you are a woman. They are people, you are helpful. They are important, you are beautiful. They are men.

You’re a mother. You’re a wife. You’re a whore. You’re a daughter. You’re a spinster. You’re a bitch. You’re crazy. You’re hot. You’re ugly. You’re fat. You’re easy. You’re emotional. You’re high maintenance. You’re hysterical. You’re a slut.

You’re anything but a person.

And that is an absolutely heartbreaking realization to have

[lordradquad]

Confusing complaints about women's accountability become much clearer when you realize what men are truly saying.

The claim that women are resistant to accountability is usually brought up in contexts of sexual assault and domestic abuse.

This may confuse a woman, because we think of the word "accountability" in a logical way; when someone performs an action, unless under duress, they are responsible for that action.

So, when a man assaults someone, we hold him responsible for that action. This is the rational course of reasoning.

But males do not think of accountability in a logical way.

Allow me to explain. When males engage in sexual violence, they are engaging in revenge for perceived wrongs. Those perceived wrongs can range from being rejected by women, a bitch wife nagging too much, or walking alone at night. In other words, these men believe they are punishing women for "forgetting their place". The word "punishment" even features in pornography in nearly every language and region.

The important thing there is that these men view rape and abuse as justified actions.

So, when an emotional male claims that an assaulted or abused woman "accept accountability", what he's truly demanding is that she accepts her punishment.

He views women's freedom as a crime. That she may walk freely and freely reject him is a crime against what he believes to be the natural order. In his mind, a woman should stay in the home and of course, always accept him sexually. When she goes outside or says "no", he views this as an infraction of her obligations.

So, when women escape our abusers or rapists, men view this in the same light as a convict escaping jail. They believe the abuse was a deserved reprimand for our "crime" of moving about the world freely, and that we're avoiding our rightful sentence when we do not allow them to hurt us.

This is what men really want to say when they tell women to accept accountability: accept your punishment.

[gender-has-failed-us]

“Because we have lived so intimately with our oppressors, in isolation from each other, we have been kept from seeing our personal suffering as a political condition. This creates the illusion that a woman’s relationship with her man is a matter of interplay between two unique personalities, and can be worked out individually. In reality, every such relationship is a class relationship, and the conflicts between individual men and women are political conflicts that can only be solved collectively.”

— Redstockings Manifesto, 1969

[sweetest-girl-in-the-universe]

[ocaledonia]

can anyone show me one example of transwomen supporting a women's rights cause that doesn't directly benefit them?

can they show me a women's rights cause that they didn't try to derail by language policing women (eg abortion, where they demanded women call ourselves 'uterus havers' and 'birthing bodies' rather than women)?

or one that they didn't try to derail because it centred biological women instead of them (eg trashing the women's march because the pussy hats - which were a direct response to trump's comments about grabbing women by the pussy - were allegedly transphobic)?

transwomen constantly demand 'sisterhood' from biological women, demand we put our issues second to theirs, tiptoe around their feelings in our fight for justice, and even put our safety and comfort aside to make them more comfortable, but they would never do the same for us

[glitter-soda]

If trans women were actually our “sisters”, they’d understand that, as males, A) some women are always going to be uncomfortable with their presence and B) some things just aren’t fucking for them. But no, they get single sex spaces forcibly shut down, they threaten lesbians with rape and other violence for not wanting to date them, they eagerly take scholarships and positions meant for women, etc. That’s not ally or “sister” behavior, that’s male entitlement (duh)

[uninucleus]

Take the penetrative sex out of porn and you end up with men casually beating women

[kronkk]

[goodmiffy]

if you take sex away as a determinate to womanhood or manhood, you’re only left with gender norms to define these categories by, which is regressive and alienating to many if not most people

If you define womanhood and manhood on sex alone, every individual is free to behave and look how they wish without it standing in contrast to their status as a man or woman, which how you deconstruct gender stereotypes

[forwomenbiwomen]

Sex work is work, right? And men, they have needs! Sexual ones!

So why are men not LINING the blocks to have sex AND get paid for it at the same time? It's win-win! It's empowering, right!?!?Why do lonely incel men go to brothels to be sex-buyers and not prostitutes when they would get paid for it?!?

Deep down everybody knows why. Sex trafficking is not work, and it is not empowering, otherwise men would be absolutely shitting themselves silly to get a slice of it.

[pusheen-the-radical]

men are busting at the door of every single female only space other than the provision end of brothels. ask yourself why that might be.

[avobrav]

And if you want to argue that sex work* is a service rather than purchasing a human body:

Why couldn't it be a 60 year old man "servicing" you rather than the young women that make up the majority of sex workers*? The "service" is the same, the only difference is the person doing it. Either of those two people could be doing the work of a cashier, and it wouldn't matter which one you went to because they're doing the same job. So what do you think the difference is?

*The terms "sex work" and "sex workers" were utilized by pimps to make human trafficking more palatable - by pretending captive prostitutes and camgirls are on equal footing and should be lumped together. You fell for it. So many of you fell for it.