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Yeah neopronouns arent a new fangled concept gen z came up with btw
demisexuality can be so hard to explain because it’s misconstrued as you just wanting to trust the other person before you have sex with them. and I get why the misconception happens. But demisexuality differs in that there isn’t sexual attraction at all before that bond forms.
I think what people have difficulty with is the idea that there are people out there who aren’t experiencing sexual attraction at all until a certain point, if ever, because we’re taught that sex, libido, and sexual attraction are all the same, both in and out of queer spaces.
And when you’re learning about asexuality and demisexuality, you may learn that people have romantic and aesthetic attraction separately from sexual attraction, and that sexual and romantic attraction aren’t necessarily intertwined, and that may challenge your worldview on sex.
But “I trust you enough to have sex with you” isn’t the same as “I’m not sexually attracted to anyone but you, and the reason I’m sexually attracted to you now after we’ve established this close bond is literally because of the bond of trust we’ve been able to form”.
It’s easy to see how those can get conflated. On the surface, if you’re unfamiliar with asexuality, they may sound the same. But it’s important to acknowledge the difference between “no sex until I trust you” and “no sexual attraction unless I trust you and maybe not even then”.
Demisexuality is housed under the asexuality spectrum. It’s part of the gray area between being allosexual and asexual. It’s part of why the definition for asexuality includes “little to no sexual attraction”. It’s a mostly asexual experience with an asterisk.
While being demisexual may have impacts on a persons sexual activity, even demisexuals have a varied relationship to the act of participating in sex. Libido and sexual attraction are not always intertwined either, which can make telling the difference tricky.
I think of sexual attraction as libido that has a compass. Since I rarely ever experience sexual attraction, but do have libido, it’s noticeable for me when that libido actually has a direction to go, rather than being a floating, nebulous, independent thing.
Remember, not everyone is demisexual. There’s a difference between waiting to have sex and not having sexual attraction at all until a certain point. This also inherently ties demisexuality to romantic attraction and relationships, and not all demisexuals are alloromantic.
But if you read what demisexuality is and think “everyone is like that” or “that’s just being a woman”, you either 1) are demisexual 2) don’t understand what it is or 3) both. And it’s okay to not know. Just as long as you’re willing to try to learn.
I wish I was as eloquent as you OP many years ago when people were constantly clowning on demisexuality. I was always nervous about reblogging demisexual positive posts because of how angry people got at them. It was absolutely ridiculous
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The cards see all.
"can i identify as aro even if-" you can do whatever you want forever👍
Me, baby aroace: Hmmm I don’t know if I feel comfortable saying I’m queer or part of the LGBTQ+ community. I don’t want to speak over others’ oppression…
Me, after reading ten pages’ worth of Tumblr ace discourse, now older and wiser: I love being part of the LGBTQ+ community. Being queer is awesome. What a great day to be queer. Queer queer queer queer queer I’m so queer.
When I say the transmisogyny affected/transmisogyny exempt thing is binaristic, I really do mean that literally: there are two options, so it's necessarily a binary. You could say that's a pointless observation, trivially obvious with no value beyond semantics, but there is a reason I bring it up.
Consider the following set of characters:
Cis woman with a beard
Drag queen
Butch transfem who doesn't shave her face
Genderfluid person whose gender presentation and conception of gender varies from day to day
NB who isn't really fem but isn't really masc either
Cis guy who always wears a skirt
Intersex NB
Transfem who goes by he/him
Someone who refuses to give pronouns entirely and exclusively identifies as a "faggot"
Which of these people are TMA, and which are TME? You could invent an arbitrary grouping that would sort them into one box or the other, but it would be just that-- arbitrary. Each of these characters will have such a different experience of gender and their gender will be percieved so differently that to try and sort them into a mere two categories is just plainly absurd. Even two people who are both in the same dot point here will have wildly divergent experiences with transmisogyny!! No matter how you arrange it, the terms TME and TMA will miss so many nuances of each person's experience that they fail to have any explanatory power at all. Zero utility in actually telling you anything about these people and their lives.
And this is why I use "binaristic" specifically as a criticism. The world is not binary! Nothing on this Earth is so simple as to have only two possible designations that can adequately describe them. Trying to cram human beings into neat categories always ends up flattening down people's lived experiences into easily digestible narratives instead of actually working to describe the world accurately. To quote that one post, "nice dichotomy idiot, what lies outside it?"
@lumsel on the (fairly realistic) chance that you didn't already know: Even binary isn't that binary - bits being 1 or 0 is an abstraction over a significantly more complex reality, and if you do EE work to actually design chips, you'll find that the VHDL spec for the std_logic type (think: boolean) has 9 different values for what higher levels just think of as "true/false" (And even that is still a simplification of the actual switching characteristics of the underlying physical circuit instantiated in reality.)
And it's not like simplifying assumptions are never useful or valid, but it drives me up the wall when people insist they're dealing with platonic base reality and you can see the layers and layers of assumptions they're ignorantly or willfully blind to.
"Does this matter at all?" Well mainly I wanted @lumsel to have this post to refer back to in case some chucklefuck pushed back on "nothing on this Earth is so simple as to have only two possible designations" with "haha what about binary."
IEEE 1164 std_logic values:
‘1’ Logic 1
‘0’ Logic 0
‘Z’ High impedance
‘W’ Weak signal, can’t tell if 0 or 1
‘L’ Weak 0, pulldown
‘H’ Weak 1, pullup
‘-‘ Don’t care
‘U’ Uninitialized
‘X’ Unknown, multiple drivers
Which approximately translate into
true
false
whatever you want (effectively: this pin is disconnected right now, so nobody will disagree with it)
If 0V is false and 5V is true, some bitch set this wire to 2.5V
defaults to false when not actively forced to true
defaults to true when not actively forced to false
Fuck off
Fuck off
Like Z but opposite - the pin isn't disconnected, and it's disagreeing with whatever it's connected to
fuuuuck now THESE are genders. tag yourself i'm 'Z'
taking 0 as female and 1 as male (for no particular reason)
I'm L
I remember when it was a big shared sentiment in the queer community that "sex =/= gender =/= pronouns =/= physical appearance or expression" and. I feel like everyone even other trans people have forgotten about all that except the first part. and in many cases people forget the whole thing entirely
Important
The first asexual person I met outside of the internet was a 65 year old woman.
I’d been interning with her as an artist/executive assistant for some time. To put a long story short she’d developed a tremor that kept her from doing a certain amount of studio work, so in between sending emails and invoices for her I’d chip in and help with line art or drafting on longer projects. A lot of it was the two of us sitting in her basement studio, doing our own thing, waiting for the phone to ring. We got to talking a lot. I’d just moved across the country and was still finding my footing.
There was a handyman she had over occasionally — he was a personal friend who enjoyed her company more than she enjoyed his. She didn’t dislike him by any means, but he definitely had feelings for her that she didn’t reciprocate. One day, after he’d come over to repair something-or-other and left, she and I started talking about relationships.
She asked if I had a boyfriend. I told her I wasn’t interested in being in a relationship with anyone and that I’d never had a desire to be in a relationship. Admittedly, I was bracing for the “You’ll meet the right person someday” response. I knew it generally came from a place of care, but it never changed how much I dreaded to hear it. I really respected my mentor and I was prepared to nod along to whatever response she gave me. Instead of anything I expected her to say, she just kind of nodded and said, “Me neither. I think I’m — what’s the term — asexual?”
I was ecstatic. I told her I was asexual, too. I saw her sigh in relief, the same way I did. I couldn’t believe it.
We didn’t get much work done that day, we just started talking about our experiences. She’d been married once when she was younger and even during that period of her life her disinterest in a sexual relationship didn’t change. She had a roommate after graduating college who confessed to having feelings for her and she had to tell her “It’s not that I don’t like girls, it’s that I don’t like anybody.” The roommate harbored enough bitterness over this that they had to split ways. Her mother told her that she would quote “rather have a gay daughter than a daughter who didn’t fancy anyone at all” unquote.
I didn’t have nearly as many experiences as she did, but I was able to share my own for the first time. I shared how it was easier to say I was taking time to work on myself than to say I had no interest in being in a relationship. We talked about the words “You’ll meet the right person someday” and “You’ll know when you’re in love” and “Don’t worry, one day you’ll meet some guy that changes everything.” As if something was broken.
“I’ve been alive for sixty five years,” my mentor told me, “and I’ve never felt like I was missing something, even if everybody told me I was.”
Currently, my mentor lives with her parrot, her cats, and her backyard-wildlife pals in a house that she owns. She makes art and hosts community art groups and volunteers at care homes and is the most self-fulfilled woman I’ve ever met. And she loves her life. She loves the people she knows and they love her, too. If I could be half as cool as she is when I grow up, I think that’d be pretty amazing.
“Asexuality” isn’t a problem to be fixed or a phase to grow out of. Sometimes you’re fifteen and sometimes you’re sixty-five. I knew in my heart that older asexual people existed but it changed me completely to meet one. We were here before and we always will be.
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The 'villain' antagonist being like, "true love doesn't exist," expecting the 'good guy' protagonist to refute it (*cough* disney movies *cough*) only the protagonist is also aromantic and the two of them have a really deep discussion about not understanding (and being confused by) romance as a thing that unfortunately exists. Bonus points if they're in the middle of a fight.
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"You think you can wake her up with a kiss?" the villain sneered. "She's a princess, and you're nothing more than a little blacksmith."
"True," the blacksmith said, swinging his sword to block the villain's, and striking in the gap it left. "But you didn't say she has to be woken up by royalty."
"Nothing can wake her now." The villain swung down again and the blacksmith dodged and blocked once more.
How to Make Your Own Binder that Fits Well and Looks Good
A while back I was in need of some new binders and thought hey, I bet I can make one way cheaper than buying it from somewhere (especially cus some of the ones I’ve bought in the past didn’t really fit right). Except when I started looking for a binder patterns online, I was very surprised that I really… couldn’t find many that looked very nice lol. Most of them had really wrinkled necklines, or didn't bind well, or just overall looked weird. A lot of the patterns also required a serger, which I don't have.
So I just said fuck it and made my own pattern! And it ended up being relatively easy! And the binders fit REALLY WELL and are comfortable to wear, even for long periods. The neckline doesn't show under shirts with loose collars, and the bottom hem doesn't gap or stick out. Here's me wearing one:
(plus I was able to make myself 5 of them for a total of like ~$50.)
So I figured I could throw together a guide to help out anyone else who wanted to make their own binder but was dissatisfied with the patterns available!
Disclaimer: This tutorial is going to assume a baseline level of sewing experience, and also will require access to a sewing machine. It is not a complicated pattern, but it will most likely require some tweaking and adjustments after you make the first one. Don’t be afraid to make alterations to make it fit better!
This tutorial is for a gc2b-style half-tank binder. It could be altered to be a full-tank binder, but all instructions will be for the half-tank design.
btw, not only is Dorothy queer…
but her girlfriend is TRANS!!!
I LOVE THESE BOOKS THAT WERE WRITTEN 100 YEARS AGO
does anyone know if we have transmasc and transfem love and friendship today
We do. And tomorrow and the next day and every day forever and ever and ever too. :)
a long time ago i was struggling with being transmasc because i felt like i was betraying womanhood somehow. then one of my best friends came out as a trans woman and i realised "ah... there will always be so many beautiful women in the world, so it's okay that i'm not one of them". what i'm trying to say is you need to love each other or there's no point to any of this
in a reversal of this. when i came out as transfem i was almost dissapointed because i spent so long trying to be a truly good man. i was raised with a lot of shitty guys so i tried to be the most pro-feminist comfortable dude i could be for the women around me. when my egg cracked, i almost felt this feeling of "shit, are the only men who think like this secretly women inside?" and it feels nice to see that proven so utterly and completely wrong by the trans men i know in my life. i love seeing people take on the masculinity i hated and do amazing shit with it, god bless trans dudes
The thing for me is that I'm so disconnected from my sexuality that it almost doesn't occur to me that *any* of it applies to me. Someone finds me sexually attractive? How? Why? I'm just here. What's my sexuality? You talking to me? I don't have one. Can't you tell? Do I date? Do I look like I date? Is that the impression you get from me?
If I'm not actively having a moment of trying to work out what the hell is going on with me, I am not thinking about it. It's like I have object impermanence about my sexuality. I will put it down after looking at it for a while and forget about it. And what's more? I will be suspicious that you're asking me about it. How do you know about that? I think I left it in my kitchen. What have you been doing in my house?
“It’s like I have object impermanence about my sexuality” well that’s a description I find very interesting!
Can artists STOP dressing up like religious figures just to be provocative? They are disrespecting all christians and yes, I am referring to Chappell Roan singing dressed up as a nun or Joan of Arc.
Stop it. Nuns and Joan d'Arc aren't your LGBT+ icons. They are religious women the first and a beloved saint the second.
Joan of Arc was literally killed for her cross-gender presentation. She was accused of blaspheming by wearing men's clothes and was offered the chance to live if she renounced wearing men's clothing. But she said "for nothing in the world will I swear not to arm myself and put on a man's dress." Only under torture did she desist, but returned to men's clothes again.
Joan of Arc chose to die rather than return to a gender performance that wasn't right for her. Yes she IS our LGBT+ icon and she is the martyr of every queer person put down, hurt, and killed by the church. The church's co-opting of the French peasant and folk heroine cannot stand above her reality. The story of Joan of Arc belongs to the people even more than it belongs to the church that killed her and then posthumously presents her in the garments she refused, even to the point of death.
As for nuns, there have been many lesbian nuns. Sor Juana Inez immediately comes to mind. More importantly, you don't control how the people your institutions have grievously harmed respond to that harm.
Signed, a practicing, faithful, queer Christian and current seminarian.
She was wearing men's clothes for comfort in battle, not because she was genderfluid or trans.
Also, claiming that the Catholic Church and not the English killed her is so wrong, even historically speaking, she was not killed because she was considered an eretic, she was killed because the English wanted to execute her at all cost!
The men's clothes was not the motivation, they had to find a ridicolous one because she was very devoted and they couldn't condemn her at first. She accept to wear female clothes to continue attend Mass, she asked to have back men's clothes because she was molested by the guards, not because she actually wanted to wear men clothes or feel different than her actual gender. Then, she was accused and condemned.
Thank you, I am familiar with this argument, and I was hoping you would try this with me. Let's talk history.
1. It's an entirely modern convention to consider being trans an identity. From a theory standpoint, trans identity is created when someone transgresses gender norms. The words that Joan used for herself don't change the fact that she and I share the fundamental experience of transgressing gender boundaries. I have every right as a trans person to celebrate the people who lived the way I do, even with different language. No one who hates trans people hates us for our identity; they hate us for our behavior. Likewise, Joan was not executed for any unknowable "identity" but for her cross-gender behavior.
2. Joan's motivations for wearing men's clothing are unknown. She never spoke of her motivation herself (Hotchkiss). Although witnesses arrested that she endured guards attempting to assault her, there is no unified witness on why she returned to men's clothing or even if she did that herself or if guards forced her to. (Guards forcing her to wear men's clothing does not negate my point, I'll get there in a second.) The assertion that she wore men's clothes to protect against sexual assault is nonsensical, as scholars have pointed out that men's clothes don't afford a lot of protection when you're shackled in a jail cell (Hotchkiss, Schibanoff). Personally, I don't know what people who perpetuate this myth think men were wearing at the time that was assault-proof. She was in a tunic, doublet and breeches. Furthermore, if men's clothing made women so impervious to rape, why didn't ALL women crossdress in the middle ages? Analyses of Joan's crossdressing that treat it as a minor detail rather than central to who she was fail to deal with the fact that very few women crossdressed! Joan initially wore men's clothing to fight in battle. Why she wears men's clothing outside of battle she never comments on, except that it was her call. She only desisted under torture. Accepting women's clothes in order to go to mass after being tortured doesn't indicate that wearing men's clothes was not personally important to her but the exact opposite. After she returned to wearing men's clothes, which triggered her execution, she told the judge that she never intended to swear off men's clothing! (Warner). Joan herself never stated that it was to avoid assault; this is extrapolated from witnesses who described guards assaulting her. Only recent scholarship has dealt meaningfully with Joan's cross-gender behavior. The Catholic church, on the other hand, has a vested interest in myths like "she wore men's clothes to avoid rape." The Church must dismiss Joan's crossdressing as inconsequential in order to both canonize her and denigrate trans people simultaneously. But it is not a serious historical argument.
3. Historically, Joan was killed by the church, not by "the English king." Joan suffered a military defeat and was captured by Burgundians allied with the English. Charles VII of France did not attempt to ransom her, which is a significant betrayal, because the ransom of knights was so rote and standardized that there were set prices for it. The Burgundians sold her to Henry V, the English king, who did not kill her, but handed her over to Bishop Cauchon in France. She was then charged with heresy and tried in an ecclesiastical court in France, under the supervision of Cauchon, for heresy. 131 clergy members presided over her trial and execution. Five articles of accusation against her in the trial were related to cross-dressing. You're right that there was a political angle to Joan's death-- Charles VII had no more use for a peasant after he was crowned king, so he didn't ransom her, and everyone involved in her execution, although French, was pro-English. However, it was very much the church that killed her. Why do it through the church? If Henry V wanted to kill her "at all cost" why didn't he simply execute her as a prisoner of war, as he did to the prisoners of war at the Battle of Agincourt just 15 years earlier? (Hollinshed)
4. Because Joan's execution was explicitly punishment for transgressing gender boundaries. It was both misogynistic and queerphobic violence carried out by church authority. This would never have been carried out against a male knight. The trial was rife with hatred of Joan's cross-gender behavior. Even her execution was an act of humiliation specifically for crossdressing. After her men's clothes were burned away and she was presumed dead, they extinguished the flames to display her naked body and posthumously humiliate her for her cross-dressing (Warner). You cannot separate Joan's cross-gender behavior from her betrayal and execution. Doing so is historically and intellectually dishonest. Given that Joan only desisted under torture, said she never intended to recant wearing men's clothes, and chose to die rather than stop, the only reasonable assumption is that wearing men's clothes was important to Joan. Not as a defense, since it is a completely inadequate defense, but for some reason particular to her internal experience. The only reason she herself gave was that it was God's call. Joan spent nearly 500 years as a folk hero before she was canonized in 1920 and, I would argue, co-opted by the Catholic church. You do not own her image or her history. You cannot erase that she was executed for cross-gender (what we would now call transgender behavior). You cannot claim her for the church at the exclusion of generations of queer people that she inspired. You cannot ask us not to see ourselves in her. You do not own her and you do not own queer responses to repressive institutions. Hotchkiss, Valerie R. (2000). Clothes Make the Man: Female Cross Dressing in Medieval Europe Schibanoff, Susan (1996). "True Lies: Transvestism and Idolatry in the Trial of Joan of Arc" Warner, Marina. (1981). The Trial of Joan of Arc. Raphael Holinshed, Chronicles of England, Scotland and Ireland.
So apparently last year the National Park Service in the US dropped an over 1200 page study of LGBTQ American History as part of their Who We Are program which includes studies on African-American history, Latino history, and Indigenous history.
Like. This is awesome. But also it feels very surreal that maybe one of the most comprehensive examinations of LGBTQ history in America (it covers sports! art! race! historical sites! health! cities!) was just casually done by the parks service.
This is really great??
Chapter 1: Prologue: Why LGBTQ Historic Sites Matter by Mark Meinke
Chapter 2: Introduction to the LGBTQ Heritage Initiative Theme Study by Megan E. Springate
Chapter 3: Introduction to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer (LGBTQ) History in the United States by Leisa Meyer and Helis Sikk
Chapter 4: The History of Queer History: One Hundred Years of the Search for Shared Heritage by Gerard Koskovich
Chapter 5: The Preservation of LGBTQ Heritage by Gail Dubrow
Chapter 6: LGBTQ Archeological Context by Megan E. Springate
Chapter 7: A Note about Intersectionality by Megan E. Springate
Chapter 8: Making Bisexuals Visible by Loraine Hutchins
Chapter 9: Sexual and Gender Diversity in Native America and the Pacific Islands by Will Roscoe
Chapter 10: Transgender History in the US and the Places that Matter by Susan Stryker
Chapter 11: Breathing Fire: Remembering Asian Pacific American Activism in Queer History by Amy Sueyoshi
Chapter 12: Latina/o Gender and Sexuality by Deena J. González and Ellie D. Hernandez
Chapter 13: “Where We Could Be Ourselves”: African American LGBTQ Historic Places and Why They Matter by Jeffrey A. Harris
Chapter 14: LGBTQ Spaces and Places by Jen Jack Gieseking
Chapter 15: Making Community: The Places and Spaces of LGBTQ Collective Identity Formation by Christina B. Hanhardt
Chapter 16: LGBTQ Business and Commerce by David K. Johnson
Chapter 17: Sex, Love, and Relationships by Tracy Baim
Chapter 18: LGBTQ Civil Rights in America by Megan E. Springate
Chapter 19: Historical Landmarks and Landscapes of LGBTQ Law by Marc Stein
Chapter 20: LGBTQ Military Service by Steve Estes
Chapter 21: Struggles in Body and Spirit: Religion and LGBTQ People in US History by Drew Bourn
Chapter 22: LGBTQ and Health by Katie Batza
Chapter 23: LGBTQ Art and Artists by Tara Burk
Chapter 24: LGBTQ Sport and Leisure by Katherine Schweighofer
Chapter 25: San Francisco: Placing LGBTQ Histories in the City by the Bay by Donna J. Graves and Shayne E. Watson
Chapter 26: Preservation of LGBTQ Historic & Cultural Sites – A New York City Perspective by Jay Shockley
Chapter 27: Locating Miami’s Queer History by Julio Capó, Jr.
Chapter 28: Queerest Little City in the World: LGBTQ Reno by John Jeffrey Auer IV
Chapter 29: Chicago: Queer Histories at the Crossroads of America by Jessica Herczeg-Konecny
Chapter 30: Nominating LGBTQ Places to the National Register of Historic Places and as National Historic Landmarks: An Introduction by Megan E. Springate and Caridad de la Vega
Chapter 31: Interpreting LGBTQ Historic Sites by Susan Ferentinos
Chapter 32: Teaching LGBTQ History and Heritage by Leila J. Rupp
Let me explain what is happening here, because I don’t think that this post is very representative of why this matters.
The purpose of the theme studies, this one included, is to locate the physical remnants of the past, so that they can be properly preserved by governmental and nonprofit entities. They are not just descriptions of history, they are documents that can be used for grant work, for preventing places from being destroyed, or for promoting the restoration of those places. This theme study is a statement from the federal government that the preservation of these places is important, and that can be translated by the states into these places being legally required to be protected.
The theme studies are also really important because they recontextualized what it means to locate history in a place. This started before the LGBT theme study, there’s a lot of this in the Latino theme study, but they present a reconsideration of what you can call historic when the actions of a group left no physical traces on the spaces that they used. We are now seeing the possibility of considering places like cruising areas as historic properties because they represent the patterns of a culture.
This is the Park Service’s job. This is what you should be expecting from them. There are theme studies and special resource studies on dozens of things. A really important Civil Rights one dropped like last week. The Park Service is charged with running our national parks, sure, but the bulk of their work is like this. This is the type of shit that you can and should expect out of your National Park Service. Nobody else is gonna do it.
LGBTQ America: A Theme Study of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer History is an extensive and comprehensive look at LGBTQ herit
updated link 👍