The Stained Glass System

Hello there~! 👋 Welcome to our mental health blog. 😄 My name's Tony, and I'm the host of The Stained Glass System. My preferred pronouns are They/Them, but other pronouns are acceptable. Do not message me if you're a minor, please and thank you! This blog is SFW. Any posts/reblogs containing swearing will be tagged "swearing tw" for those troubled by such. Our system name was derived from a favorite quote of ours by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, which goes, "People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within." If you want to know more about me, I'm a 27 y/o disabled ND spoonie, an ambulatory wheelchair user, and a happy plant mama~ 🌱💚 I'm also autistic, an ace panromantic enby, and a mental health advocate. You'll find posts about self-care and self-love on this blog, as well as relatable posts about chronic, physical, and mental illnesses, disorders, and disabilities. Last but certainly not least, you'll find some misc. content throughout; mainly things that I find to be heart-warming, funny, fascinating, etc. Message us anytime; I promise, we don't bite. 😊

[pepperoniwhirlwind]

Hi 👋, My name is Mohammad, and I’m reaching out in a moment of desperate need. I’m a father of three young children living in Gaza, and we are caught in the midst of a catastrophic war. Our home is no longer a safe haven, and the future here seems increasingly uncertain. 💔

I’ve launched a fundraising campaign with the goal of raising $40,000 to relocate my family to a safer place where my children can grow up in peace and have a chance at a brighter future.

Unfortunately, my previous fundraising efforts were abruptly halted when my account was terminated without explanation. However, I remain determined to keep fighting for my family’s safety and well-being. 🫶

If you could take a moment to read our story, consider donating, or simply share our campaign with others, it would make an incredible difference. Every act of kindness, no matter how small, brings us one step closer to safety and a new beginning. 🙏

Thank you for your time, compassion, and support. ❤️‍🩹

https://gofund.me/fd1faea2 🔗

I'm so happy to see you reached your goal! 💕 I gladly donated, and encourage others to do so if capable! I only wish I could have donated sooner! 😅 Unfortunately I don't have my own source of income, and had to wait until I had some holiday cash. For anyone else who's capable of donating, I'll help this circulate further, as even though they've reached their goal, I'm sure they could always use more in light of the circumstances. I hope you and your family only know safety and peace going forward~! 🕊️❤️

[daaamnafrica]

Sometimes I just ignore anon hate because theres a proverb I learnt in a Nigerian movie that said. ‘You cannot run naked after a mad man in the street after he has taken your clothes away from you because the public will not know who is the mad person between the two of you’

[celtic-pyro-deactivated20230725]

I feel like this proverb was based on firsthand experience.

[sickpage]

[lakesbian]

people vaguely saying 'the horrors' as shorthand for 'life problems, don't worry about it' in conversations where the problems are not going to be delved into has got to be one of my favorite new Ways Of Speaking that has emerged. like it's polite and vague and succinct enough for impersonal conversation but also extremely honest. it's very funny. The Horrors. we all know of them.

[showerthoughtsofficial]

“The camera adds 10 pounds” is a phrase of the past. Now people look better in their pictures than they do in person

[kichengunnet]

When people say that the camera adds ten pounds it’s because cameras used in filmmaking/TV production have a wider focal length and therefore subjects look wider or bigger. Whereas cellphone cameras have a short focal length that makes subjects appear thinner or smaller.

Nowadays, with DSLR’s and a variety of lenses, we are able to depict a wide range of focal lengths by using one kind of camera.

So that is why most people on social media may seem to look thinner than they do in person (especially in selfies because the front facing camera on phones especially have short focal lengths).

And that is also how the phrase “the camera adds ten pounds” came about.

[grayskyluna-art]

this is actually so interesting I had no idea

[pepperoniwhirlwind]

A photo for easier comparison; I found it on Google Images and figured I’d add it here.

[c3rvida3]

Bad News: Our boss locked the keys inside the building.

Good News: We didn’t have to wait around for a locksmith.

Bad News: My boss finds it very concerning that I know how to pick locks, and tried to unlock my Tragic Backstory™. I was too embarrassed to admit that the reason I learned was because, at thirteen, I figured that was the kind of skill that would impress cute girls.

Good News: A cute girl saw me do it.

Bad News: It was Maggie, and since she’s already seen me fall out of several trees, cry because I saw a fawn that was just too damn small, and knows I can ride a unicycle, she’ll never think I’m cool no matter what I do. It’s too late. She knows.

[sailorbryant]

There are million dollar blockbuster movies that were less entertaining than the rollercoaster this post just took me on. 

[ad-wills]

[just-wanna-travel]

[the2headedcalf-movedagain]

having a tumblr blog is for those of us who could never manage to keep a diary for more than two weeks when we were twelve

[atomic-two-sheds]

I think it's better than that. A Tumblr blog isn't just a journal or diary; it's more of what was known as a commonplace book.

Commonplace books aren't just for recording your thoughts and personal histories. They include quotes, stories, drawings, ephemera, and other pieces of things that catch your attention or that you find significant. If one heard a poem they wanted to keep, or saw a field they wanted to sketch, or had an insightful thought about a play, they would collect all that in the commonplace book.

Isn't that what we do here? We collect and create art, and jokes, and commentary, and political thought, and a lot of us cram it all onto the same blog and throw it at our followers who can then choose to keep it for themselves or let it pass by. We're basically in a salon passing our commonplace books to one another and occasionally copying a passage (reblogging), making an addition (reblogging with commentary), or making an aside to our companions (commenting in the tags/replying).

And I like that a lot.

[furiousgoldfish]

if your child wishes to die only to get the hell away from you, you’re an abuser.

[unwelcome-ozian]

[plotanic]

[succubusboyfriend]

if you’re offline or away and i message you something (like a link to a meme or a picture or w/e) honestly just assume that i’m just leaving it there for when you get back and not expecting you to answer straight away. i don’t need you to respond with “hey, sorry, i wasn’t at the computer!” or anything. i was leaving u a gift for later.

[slightmayhem]

This also applies if you’re online and just don’t want to or have the energy to deal with humans in the moment. Just because we have the ability to reply in real time does not mean we have the obligation.

[foone]

Friendly reminder for any other people on the autism spectrum:

It's not recommended to offer to kill someone's dad, especially if you're talking to a stranger

[thoughtfuldragon]

may I please have more context?

[foone]

Sometimes dads are terrible and should die, and you can console people by offering to rid them of this troublesome parent, but you should be friends with the person before making the offer

[dustedonrouteguano]

how the fuck are we supposed to make friends if not through gestures of patricide?

[foone]

Unknown. I'll provide updates if I ever figure it out

[jaubaius]

[feralratbitesu]

hi im a cat expurt (like pur its a cat pun im a cat expert) this little guy isnt stretching all cute! theyre actually using level 2 psychic lightning attack on their owner. unfortunately their owner will not survive this

[krakintakin]

[caintooth]

seeing people my age talk about how scared they are of memory loss, which they only associate with old age, is so surreal to see as a 24 year old who has actively experienced memory loss for a long time now

there are causes for memory loss besides dementia and alzheimer’s, i hope y’all know that. dissociative disorders, trauma, brain injuries, thyroid problems, even just stress and lack of sleep can fuck up your ability to store, process, and access memory. and that’s just a few of the many causes i can think of off the top of my head right now.

please stop treating disabled people like some scary “other” that you might become only in the distant, decades-away future. we are your age, too. you may become one of us sooner than you know. stop acting like memory loss marks the end of a life, when so many of us have so much living left to do!

[pepperoniwhirlwind]

I'm aliiive, and back from my rather extended hiatus~! I fell off of Tumblr a while back, and was not in the best place. I'm back though, and in a much better place now. I'll keep this post brief, but I wanted to post something proper to celebrate my return from the land of the dead, rather than my first post being a random re-blog.