i feel better than i have in years (maybe… ever) and as much as id like to pick the onesimpletrick that did it i know its the combo — finalized financial plumbing, the julia drawfee big project planning process, the tiny experiments “pacts” model, konmari’s visualizing the destination, having an externalized & tangible deadline to work towards (the lease being up) and the polycule model — that got the gears connected so i can finally get some traction and get the metaphorical windows down and feel the metaphorical wind in my hair
ummm hmmmm kinda? heres an iceberg tip. keep in mind i got a weird brain
Ratsources personal development list:
First of all, you’re not in trouble and it’s not your fault:
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (book)
Codependent No More (book)
The School of Life youtube channel, most of their books
Who Cooked the Last Supper (book)
Even if it was, it’s okay because people grow and change and everyone is going thru something
Nonviolent Communication
Projection (concept)
The Paradox of Getting Better (comic)
I didn’t do the thing today (book about productivity guilt)
Self-Compassion (book)
The Wisdom of No Escape (book)
Talking to Strangers (gladwell book it kinda suxx)
U got a disability girl
Circle of control (concept)
Spoon theory (concept)
Self-care (concept)
What is happening in my brain
Neurotribes (kinda suxx)
Laziness does not exist - Devon Price
How to ADHD youtube channel
Pathological Demand Avoidance (concept)
Unmasking Autism - Devon Price
Don’t Think of An Elephant (book)
Thinking Fast & Slow (kinda sucked)
You need Emotional Regulation
(The fuck is an emotion?)
Steven Universe
Brene Brown Atlas of the Heart (or anything she writes)
(what is processing even)
The Artists Way
Somatics in general
journaling in general (it works bc you collaborate between two brain centers narrative and motor - telling a story while writing it down)
You are Not Your Brain (book)
There was a shadow (children’s picture book)
(you are not a floating head, your body is also your mind)
Body keeps the score (suxx actually but it is foundational so)
Tai Chi (gets you in your body, shame free, feels nice, huge benefits)
The Whole Brain Child (book)
Anxiety is stalled action -
Karen Pryor dog training (operant training and positive reinforcement. U wouldn’t bully a dog for not knowing a trick, why would you bully yourself)
Turid Rugaas dog stuff (calming signals)
Atomic habits (very much an airport read, just google it)
PowerWash Simulator (taught me baby steps)
you need to understand when youre numbing vs relaxing (concept. i personally need active relaxing)
(you’d think I’d have more books or resources on the nervous system but I find the dog model most helpful for myself. I’ve gathered that if i think of it in terms of only a current state - ie feeling my feelings now, and a past state ie trauma - processing old repressed stuff - it all becomes nice and simple)
What are we even doing here?
Bring Me the Rhinoceros (zen koans book)
Anything/everything by Alain de Bottin, Pema Chodron, Thich Naht Hanh, Joseph Campbell, Carl Jung
So who am I?
Marie Kondo - Lifechanging magic of tidying up
The Artists Way (dates, morning pages)
A Simpler Life (school of life book)
How do I express it?
(some of these are work related)
Julia drawfee youtube big projects (google it)
Linda Barry comics syllabus
Anne-Laure Le Cunff: The 3 cognitive scripts that rule over your life Youtube (the pacts / Tiny Experiments model) Art & Fear (book - essays on making stuff)
Adulting:
Everything is a system
Don’t Make me Think (interaction design book, helpful for organizing the house for like, a purpose)
The Extended Mind - book (in the way that your body becomes the car when you are driving, the physical spaces you live in are your brain)
How to make sense of any mess - Abby Covert (information architecture book)
Mental Models (there is a book by farnham street but i didn’t read it)
How to take smart notes (zettlekassen)
Good strategy bad strategy (goal setting)
An Elegant Puzzle: systems of engineering management (mix of goal setting and modeling)
concept- dont follow a passion bc thats hustle/grind nonsense. just follow what feels “satisfying” and what youre naturally good at
Money
Your Money Or Your Life (this is the best $$ one i’ve ever read)
“oh I’m too old for stuffed animals” skill issue. sorry you can’t appreciate little creatures made to hang out with you, I on the other hand am full of joyous whimsy and therefore vastly superior.
u should be able to put ur hand down and let the instrument sniff u and if it smells a beautiful quality in ur heart and spirit that's ur instrument now. stray tumpet follow you home.. bwaa
In 2026, the chicest thing a gay actor can do is never explicitly come out as gay but also make it abundantly clear that he is. Coming out is too modern. Staying closeted is too old fashioned. But this method merges contemporary freedom with Old Hollywood glamour and allure, and it weeds out the dumbest people who truly don’t get it. I call it the Pascal Method.
You clearly don't go here or to queer history and signaling, or both, enough to have this conversation and I'm not going to explain it to you. You could have asked questions, you could have done even a modicum of research. You didn't and you made yourself look ignorant. Goodbye.
#I'm fucking crying#this is an instant classic#this is the next meme#i can't believe I'm here to see a baby copypasta nary two hours old#I can't#lol#i laughed way too hard#iconic
sigh…i came all the way to sephora but i don’t know which brands are asexual friendly….i have to hurry jugheads birthday is today…wish someone would help me out
I just randomly remembered an argument I had years ago because I was given an insult I have yet to figure out what it means. Maybe you'd like to take a Crack at it, the person I was arguing with called me a nuance addict.
It's because you have been contemplating the nuances of that insult for several years, like someone combing through their living room rug trying to find one last crumb of meth.
Grace loved too much. He loved so hard that love landed him in the middle of astrophage research as the head astrophage scientist. He loved his kids, knowledge, the Earth.
Grace didn't love enough. He didn't love his kids enough to die for them. He didn't love Earth enough to die for her. He didn't have family, a partner, or even a dog.
I keep thinking how ashamed he must've been. Why couldn't he love less, accept that others would save the world and save himself the pain? Why couldn't he love more, love enough to be brave, to sacrifice himself for the good of all?
In a way, it came down to being in the wrong place at the wrong time. He loved too much and it doomed him.
