i feel better than i have in years (maybe⊠ever) and as much as id like to pick the onesimpletrick that did it i know its the combo â finalized financial plumbing, the julia drawfee big project planning process, the tiny experiments âpactsâ model, konmariâs visualizing the destination, having an externalized & tangible deadline to work towards (the lease being up) and the polycule model â that got the gears connected so i can finally get some traction and get the metaphorical windows down and feel the metaphorical wind in my hair
ummm hmmmm kinda? heres an iceberg tip. keep in mind i got a weird brain
Ratsources personal development list:
First of all, youâre not in trouble and itâs not your fault:
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (book)
Codependent No More (book)
The School of Life youtube channel, most of their books
Who Cooked the Last Supper (book)
Even if it was, itâs okay because people grow and change and everyone is going thru something
Nonviolent Communication
Projection (concept)
The Paradox of Getting Better (comic)
I didnât do the thing today (book about productivity guilt)
Self-Compassion (book)
The Wisdom of No Escape (book)
Talking to Strangers (gladwell book it kinda suxx)
U got a disability girl
Circle of control (concept)
Spoon theory (concept)
Self-care (concept)
What is happening in my brain
Neurotribes (kinda suxx)
Laziness does not exist - Devon Price
How to ADHD youtube channel
Pathological Demand Avoidance (concept)
Unmasking Autism - Devon Price
Donât Think of An Elephant (book)
Thinking Fast & Slow (kinda sucked)
You need Emotional Regulation
(The fuck is an emotion?)
Steven Universe
Brene Brown Atlas of the Heart (or anything she writes)
(what is processing even)
The Artists Way
Somatics in general
journaling in general (it works bc you collaborate between two brain centers narrative and motor - telling a story while writing it down)
You are Not Your Brain (book)
There was a shadow (childrenâs picture book)
(you are not a floating head, your body is also your mind)
Body keeps the score (suxx actually but it is foundational so)
Tai Chi (gets you in your body, shame free, feels nice, huge benefits)
The Whole Brain Child (book)
Anxiety is stalled action -
Karen Pryor dog training (operant training and positive reinforcement. U wouldnât bully a dog for not knowing a trick, why would you bully yourself)
Turid Rugaas dog stuff (calming signals)
Atomic habits (very much an airport read, just google it)
PowerWash Simulator (taught me baby steps)
you need to understand when youre numbing vs relaxing (concept. i personally need active relaxing)
(youâd think Iâd have more books or resources on the nervous system but I find the dog model most helpful for myself. Iâve gathered that if i think of it in terms of only a current state - ie feeling my feelings now, and a past state ie trauma - processing old repressed stuff - it all becomes nice and simple)
What are we even doing here?
Bring Me the Rhinoceros (zen koans book)
Anything/everything by Alain de Bottin, Pema Chodron, Thich Naht Hanh, Joseph Campbell, Carl Jung
So who am I?
Marie Kondo - Lifechanging magic of tidying up
The Artists Way (dates, morning pages)
A Simpler Life (school of life book)
How do I express it?
(some of these are work related)
Julia drawfee youtube big projects (google it)
Linda Barry comics syllabus
Anne-Laure Le Cunff: The 3 cognitive scripts that rule over your life Youtube (the pacts / Tiny Experiments model) Art & Fear (book - essays on making stuff)
Adulting:
Everything is a system
Donât Make me Think (interaction design book, helpful for organizing the house for like, a purpose)
The Extended Mind - book (in the way that your body becomes the car when you are driving, the physical spaces you live in are your brain)
How to make sense of any mess - Abby Covert (information architecture book)
Mental Models (there is a book by farnham street but i didnât read it)
How to take smart notes (zettlekassen)
Good strategy bad strategy (goal setting)
An Elegant Puzzle: systems of engineering management (mix of goal setting and modeling)
concept- dont follow a passion bc thats hustle/grind nonsense. just follow what feels âsatisfyingâ and what youre naturally good at
Money
Your Money Or Your Life (this is the best $$ one iâve ever read)
i mean in the same way we assume movierock was naked by choice the whole time we can also assume movierock is a perverted freak who was more than happy to display a kink in front of his alien bestie.
bookrock - how dare you eat in front of me! disgust! you want to watch ME eat? you p-p-perv!!! but fine⊠for scienceâŠ
movierock - you look displeasured. lemme show you how a REAL gamer does it. EROTIC EATING NOISES
rocky having zero context for what orifices are sexy PLUS the ability to see orifices humans would never consider is so awesome. heâs so wet for graceâs eustachian tubes. he wants to pop graceâs tympanic membrane like a hymen
it doesnt make sense that a penis would get bigger if yoiu jerk it off youre literally compressing it. go crumple a can rn and tell me its bigger im not buying this narrative
the problem with tumblr spells is all of you lil sluts are casting and not giving it time to charge so you're all casting cantrips and not 9th level death spells. everyone wants to be the one to take them down no one wants to be the one who assists
Oh no Strep thrussy has my threstical so sore and sensitive how will ever swallow anything with this big swollen thrussy đ„ș I sure hope senpai doesn't stick his meat thermometer in there it's so tight and wet how will it ever fit in that tiny hole đ„ș
As today is the 50th anniversary of the moon landing, itâs a great time to revisit Dinah from Devonâs memory of this historic event. And yes, still makes me laugh.
would fuck severely if in extreme cases eridians made pearl like structures around debris and irritants caught in their digestive organs. would fuck even more severely if rockyâs 50+ years in space resulted in him having a couple pearls that grace finds while elbow deep in his ventral seam
yes itâs me, monacan f1 driver charles leclerc,i need your help to win my next race, all you have to do is send me the 16 numbers on the front of your debit card, the expiration, and the 3 numbers on the back
Researchers found that small patches of wildflowers can foster the same biodiversity as entire meadows.
A caveat to this study: the researchers were primarily looking at insect pollinator biodiversity. Planting a few native wildflowers in your garden will not suddenly cause unusual megafauna from the surrounding hinterlands to crowd onto your porch.
That being said, this study backs up Douglas Tallamy's optimistic vision of Homegrown National Park, which calls for people in communities of all sizes to dedicate some of their yard (or porch or balcony) to native plants. This creates a patchwork of microhabitats that can support more mobile insect life and other small beings, which is particularly crucial in areas where habitat fragmentation is severe. This patchwork can create migration corridors, at least for smaller, very mobile species, between larger areas of habitat that were previously cut off from each other.
It may not seem like much to have a few pots of native flowers on your tiny little balcony compared to someone who can rewild acres of land, but it makes more of a difference than you may realize. You may just be creating a place where a pollinating insect flying by can get some nectar, or lay her eggs. Moreover, by planting native species you're showing your neighbors these plants can be just as beautiful as non-native ornamentals, and they may follow suit.
In a time when habitat loss is the single biggest cause of species endangerment and extinction, every bit of native habitat restored makes a difference.
Yeah sure Tumblr is a hellsite but I know someone who wrote a fanfic in the 1990s that someone else didnât like, so when she was selling printed copies of the zine with the story in it out of her hotel room at a convention, this other woman STOOD IN FRONT OF HER DOOR TO REFUSE PEOPLE ACCESS. Because the story featured a ship she disliked. And I feel like somehow, 10,000 Tumblrs still canât compare to that level of Extra.
Iâve actually heard about this event [or a similar event, which I can believe] from someone who was trying to get into the room to either buy the zine, or visit with the writer, or just see what was going on [idr]. Apparently it was quite the talk of the bar that night, and resulted in several heated [re: drunken] debates over whether Door Stander was violating Writerâs free speech, or if removing Door Stander would have violated Door Standerâs free speech.
Me, at the time, a 19yo with very little understanding of the law: âI meanâŠwas it?â
Fandom Friend, who was a 40-something lawyer: âIâll tell you the same thing I told everyone in that bar. No one was violating anyoneâs free speech. Bitch was just being rude, and worse, obnoxious about it. You ever act like that in public, be aware youâre not changing anyoneâs opinion. Youâre just giving them a brand new opinion about you.â
It was a very formative conversation in my young adulthood.
Same person also told me to never mix coke and acid. Which was also pretty solid advice.
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