Wallflower of Tumblr. Author and artist. they/them

[nobrashfestivity]

Via amandapourlesintimes

[anarcho-catboyism]

We really went from "free the nipple" to "um the public didn't consent to you wearing a choker"

[deadpowol]

[raccoonmilf]

Fun fact: due to the ongoing financial support from the people of tumblr, critically endangered pygmy raccoons being rehabbed in Cozumel are now able to get vaccines for deadly diseases like distemper and rabies before they are released.

[leebrontide]

The funniest and most enduring legacy of dashcon.

[raccoonmilf]

To contribute to the critically endangered pygmy raccoon fund, you can donate:

On the website

On Venmo

On PayPal (make a note that this is a donation for pygmy raccoon conservation)

[redgoldsparks]

THREE EVENTS IN MARYLAND IN JULY!

Because my year continues at a breakneck pace, I have three more public events coming up in July, all in Maryland.

From July 23- 25 I will be attending the Graphic Medicine International Collective Conference at John Hopkins University in Baltimore, MD. This conference is ticketed, and fairly expensive, so if you are planning to attend I assume you've already made your travel plans. I'll be speaking on one panel and also leading a workshop with Dr Sarah Peitzmeier, my co-author on BREATHE: JOURNEYS TO HEALTHY BINDING.

Friday, July 24: Session IV - 4:45-6:00PM Workshop - Why Not Both? Developing Educational Graphic Medicine Comics that Use Both Narrative and Instructional Teaching for Greater Impact (Gilman 132) Facilitators: Sarah Peitzmeier (University of Maryland School of Public Health) and Maia Kobabe (author)

Saturday, July 25: Session V - 10:45AM-12:15PM - Panel Discussion - Keywords/Keyimages in Graphic Medicine (Mudd 26) Organizers: Lisa Diedrich (Stony Brook University) and Briana Martino (Simmons University) Panelists:

• MK Czerwiec & Ebru Ustundag, BODY MAPS

• Maia Kobabe, NON-ADJACENT SEQUENCE

• Emmy Waldman, OCD

• A. David Lewis, CANCER

• Anna Mukamal, THERAPEUTIC PERFORMANCE

• Marianne Pe-t, LAYERS

• Paul Flippen, DRUGS

• Liz Argall, LOSS OF CONTROL

• Sofia Varino, SOLVING/SOLUTIONS

Saturday, July 25, 7pm- New Books in Graphic Medicine: Comics and Healthcare Red Emma's Bookstore Coffeehouse, 3128 Greenmount Ave, Baltimore, MD. Featuring the work of Maia Kobabe and Sarah Peitzmeier, Lisa Diedrich and Briana Martino, Elly Teman and Zsuzsa Berend, MK Czerwiec, A. David Lewis, Sydney Halpern, Laura Godfrey-Isaacs, Grace Farris, and more! This event is free and open to the public, though you can RSVP here to give the bookstore a sense of the audience headcount. This page also has longer bios for all of the participating authors.

Tuesday, July 28, 6pm- I'll be talking about OPTING OUT at People's Book in Takoma Park, MD! This event is free and open to the public, though you can RSVP here to give the bookstore a sense of the audience headcount. I'll be in conversation with Sarah Peitzmeier. We are still trying to figure out if we can get Lucky to attend on zoom or something, since they won't be present in person for this event. I will bring some of my zines to sell at the shop, so if you'd like a copy of The Nonbinary Bunny I will have that and some of my other self-published work. I'm also happy to sign copies of GENDER QUEER or BREATHE!

Let me know if you'll be at any of these events, I'd love to say hello!

[leebrontide]

We saw a firefly on our way home from national night out tonight.

I've lived in this neighborhood for 20 years, and never seen one here, before.

In less than a decade, I've watched the proliferation of native planting, habitat planting, signs saying an area is for pollinators and no pesticides allowed, fewer and fewer monoculture grass lawns. Better raking and soil health practices. Businesses and schools are installing rain gardens and native plants all over my neighborhood, and it's slowly spilling out into more and more types of neighborhoods.

if you haven't been paying attention to gardens for the past decade you'd never notice it.

But it started slow and now it's speeding up rapidly.

Expectations here are shifting.

And tonight, we got a firefly.

[leebrontide]

I wrote this less than one year ago.

Tonight I took a walk at dusk to a park I've been to a thousand times before, where my daughter and I planted replacement trees this arbor day, and there were fireflies everywhere you looked!

It seemed like a lot of them, till I passed a garden near the park on my way home, that was full of native plants. It was absolutely sparkling with fireflies. It was one of those native plant gardens that've gone in in recent years, hitting it's stride and full maturity. Just glittering with this fantastic creature that's in danger of being in decline.

Just a few native gardens, a bit less raking, and not mowing the lawn in May. That's all it takes for a whole little population to thrive.

And there are so many more of these gardens going in now. More every year. Frankly the anti-ICE activity really sped it up over here. And we give each other seeds and seedlings and cuttings and advice to make it go faster. In five years the whole neighborhood will be aglow.

I can't wait till my garden is mature enough for me to sit on my porch and watch them. If I can ever go a year without significant building debris on my yard.

We'll get there. I know we will.

I'm gonna go back in the morning to get a better look at what that neighbor was planting.

[snoopylovessoup]

[thedreammweaver]

We need an alternative to doesthedogdie cause they’ve started fucking paywalling warnings that include timestamps for triggering moments.

[thedreammweaver]

Like what the fuck

[autisticharrywells]

I just checked and

Need to read about trigger warnings? Please click the whimsical dog icon for more information!

I recommend Unconsenting Media. Not as comprehensive as DoesTheDogDie, but if sexual assault is a trigger for you, it’s a good resource

[troglobite]

rbing again real quick--i and other(s?) have noted in other rbs that this is almost never done. it's for very few properties, and it's only for timestamped warnings that are done in-house, not by users.

there are still timestamps available for warnings on those same triggers for those same properties. just bc there's a paywall on something doesn't mean other comments and timestamps can't be posted or read for free on that property or that trigger.

see here:

i don't have an account and haven't paid for anything on the site, so all of those comments are what i'm seeing for free.

i had to search and search to find anything that had paywalls, and had to resort to looking at The Substance, as referenced here. i've been using the site regularly since the op posted and have never organically encountered a paywall on anything, including on very popular properties.

i don't see any reason to stop using the site--everything is still available for free. they just have added another way for some ppl to choose to pay some $ (in addition to ads), since this is a completely free service, and no website is free to maintain.

as an example, someone with the money could pay to see the timestamps, and then leave a free comment with the same timestamps for others if they wanted to.

[sarith-kzekarit]

I've seen this post on my dash a few times now and I want to boost this specific addition. I've emailed the owner of the site to get clarification on this, and I was told the motivation behind this. He wanted to start paying some people to memorize all 200+ triggers on the site, sit down and watch popular movies/shows to thoroughly analyze whenever any trigger pops up, and note down timestamps and details of them. Ads unfortunately do not cover this (they probably only cover the site's base upkeep), so the subscription service is specifically to pay these people. Community comments have never been paywalled and are still accessible.

He thanked me for my feedback when I expressed confusion and concern about the paywalled comments being mixed in with the free comments, and has since updated the site to make them clearly distinct, along with a preview of what the paid comments look like:

He was very transparent about it all and very kind. He also said this was his mistake and is trying to clear it up. Please continue to use DoesTheDogDie.com, it is an excellent resource and there is nothing else like it!

[charlesoberonn]

[prettyinpinkcatgamer]

reblog to form a mighty faggot with your mutuals

[starwarspissorgy]

I also felt this part was hilarious and should be included

[thespoonisvictory]

people misunderstand what ‘gifted kid’ actually means but it’s ok it’s fine it’s cool it’s good

[thespoonisvictory]

it’s not about actually being gifted, it’s about an initial higher scoring on standardized testing that means little to nothing or being good at learning in the way elementary and middle school wants you to, so you get marked as ‘advanced’. in reality, maybe you had faster development in certain areas, but the issue with being a gifted kid isn’t that “everyone told me I was so cool and special for reading and then I actually wasn’t :(” it’s “I wasn’t properly taught to handle things not coming easily to me, but the adults around me were counting on me not being a ‘difficult’ child in school.”

people who use it as some weird bragging method or interpret it that way are ignoring the way a lot of school systems force certain roles on students to simplify the learning process. If your kid doesn’t need to take notes to understand a science concept bc they get it naturally, well that’s good, but now you’re not teaching them how to take notes and they’re not learning that important soft skill. but because ‘gifted’ kids are easy and don’t show that they’re falling behind in learning in other categories that are harder to quantify, they eventually fall behind after that catches up to them. It’s about the failures of a one size fits all school system trying to compensate in the worst way possible.

[jabberwockypie]

And also the thing where ‘gifted’ kids are super likely to also be neuroatypical, which they don’t get screened for because they appear to be doing well in school. Or “You can’t be ADHD/autistic/etc, because you’re doing so well in school!”. Or being shamed for developing mental health issues/generally not being able to keep up with school work later, because you USED TO BE able to do it just fine.

Or the assumption that just because you can read well or you like math class, you’re somehow more EMOTIONALLY mature than your little kid brain is actually capable of being.

Or gifted kids whose parents and teachers put immense pressure on them to Do Great Things and Save The World and you’re like. “I’m 10 and I have no idea how to do that, but everyone is saying that’s my job?”.

[swordplease]

This is the best “gifted kid” post out there. I never took notes until college because I didn’t have to, snd when it got challenging I had to literally teach myself note taking at age 18. It also fucks with your perception of asking for help - you’re advanced, you’re competent, you should be able to understand every topic easily. Asking for help/going to office hours/asking for a tutor feels like failing when you were praised in your early years for not needing to do that.

[doomhamster]

#no one cares how smart you are as an adult they only care about the things adhd makes you bad at <- @elspethdixon, quoted for truth.

[omegasmileyface]

Montana Supreme Court Rules Its Constitution Entirely Protects Trans Citizens In Landmark Ruling

The ruling will have enormous impacts for transgender residents in the state.

HOLY SHIT

[definite-human]

"The Montana court separately declared that transgender people constitute a suspect class under the state's equal protection clause. In legal terms, a suspect class is a group that has historically faced such severe discrimination that any law targeting them must meet the highest level of judicial scrutiny to survive—the same standard applied to laws that discriminate on the basis of race. [...] The practical effect is sweeping: any Montana law that singles out transgender people will now face strict scrutiny, meaning the state must prove the law serves a compelling interest and is narrowly tailored to achieve it—a standard that laws almost never survive.

"Because the decision rests entirely on the Montana Constitution, it is insulated from the U.S. Supreme Court. Under the principle of adequate and independent state grounds, the federal Supreme Court cannot review a state court's interpretation of its own constitution, so long as that constitution provides more protection than the federal one. [...] What this means in practice is that Montana's transgender residents now have a constitutional shield completely independent of the Supreme Court of the United State’s decisions."

(emphases mine)

[anthonyhurd]

The land connects us - 18x24” acrylic on wood. For a group show at Roq la Rue in Seattle opening June 12th.

[hometoursandotherstuff]

[crazy-pages]

Sometimes you try to write one research paper and your subjects inform you that you will be writing an entirely different one.

[wvterways]

[hahaimdrowning]

Elizabeth Kirkman Fitzhugh, Militant Mary

November 13, 1914

[adelphicoracle]

I had never heard of this character before, but it really was published over a hundred years ago. Here’s a comics blog talking about her, and a couple more gems:

Obscurity of the Day: Militant Mary

It's hard to believe that this blog has been running over a dozen years now, and I am just now getting around to mak

[lemonsharks]

I've been finding a lot of job postings that ask me for a photo lately, which is uncool of them.

So I made an image which lets me bypass their demand. I don't care if I get that particular job, I just want to shame the HR goons who thought the photo requirement was a good idea.

Note: this only applies in the USA.

[msilverstar]

Took me a bit to figure out the implications: this image can be downloaded from here and uploaded whenever a job application asks for an image. Clever!

[lemonsharks]

That's the hope! Save this image and upload to job applications that "require" a photo

[whatbigotspost]

Gen Z men twice as likely as boomers to say wives should "always obey"

“It is troubling to see that attitudes towards gender equality are not more positive," said Julia Gillard of King’s College London.

[innerchildabortionclinic]

>Particularly among Gen Z, our data shows an interesting duality: they are both the group most likely to agree that women who have a successful career are more attractive to men but are simultaneously most likely to agree that a wife should always obey her husband and that a woman should never appear too self-sufficient or independent.

Incredibly stupid things are happening

[cryptiddies]

I know these two things seem contradictory, but there’s nothing a conservative man loves more than to tear off an angel’s wings. There are plenty of women that would willingly choose the obedient SAHM lifestyle, but these kinds of men always seem to go for the opposite. Why? Because it’s a power play. There’s no need to break a horse that’s already broken, and that would do nothing to validate that man, his ego, and his place in a world he sees as designed for him.

[ifoundmybeatingheartagain]

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Another factor is that these men avoid dating conservative women who already want the lives they want them to have because those women's standards are too high. Specifically, such women expect to be the obedient stay at home mum, but they also expect their men to be the masculine ideal from the other half of the equation -- they tend to look down on their men if they cry, they expect them to be able to financially provide for the household, they want them to uphold their end of the bargain. You see this again and again in groups of conservative men who go out of their way to date liberal women; there is a power play, to tame someone untamed and bring her into line with his expectations, but there's also her lack of expectations of him. They want a woman who will do all the household and keep the home but ALSO will not reject him for not being able to afford to finance the family alone. They want a woman who'll respect and obey him but ALSO be fun and relaxed and let him show whatever emotions he wants. They want the Perfect Trad Wife who won't expect him to be the Perfect Trad Husband.

You see the same thing in conservatives who complain that all their leftie friends are abandoning them, but who won't just hang out with right wing friends instead. They don't want to hang out with other righties because a group of righties quickly becomes judgy and hateful and socially competitive, and is only fun to hang out with when they want to vent, whereas their leftie friends were more relaxed and fun. They want license to be unpleasant and expect unreasonable things of others, but want the people around them to be pleasant and not expect unreasonable things of them.

[sunspotpony]

We have some excellent commentary here, but I want you to keep in mind an adage that will serve you well on the modern internet.

"If something immediately makes me feel anger, repulsion, or joy, with even a simple blurb, it's probably manipulating me."

First off, Newsweek is hardly an unbiased source these days. The majority shareholder is Dev Pagrad, is exceptionally wealthy, and has been repeatedly pushing newsweek to be an arm of the right wing's propaganda machine. It is HARD LINE far-right, Anti-trans, anti-woman, anti-immigrant, anti-science To cite the Southern Poverty Law Center (by way of Wikipedia)

In November 2022, the Southern Poverty Law Center reported that Newsweek had "taken a marked radical right turn by buoying extremists and promoting authoritarian leaders" since it hired conservative political activist Josh Hammer as editor-at-large. It noted the magazine's elevation of conspiracy theorists, publication of conspiracy theories about COVID-19, views such as support for a ban on all legal immigration to the United States and denying adults access to trans-affirming medical care, and failure to disclose potential conflicts of interest in the content published on Hammer's opinion section and podcast. https://web.archive.org/web/20221106005834/https://www.splcenter.org/hatewatch/2022/11/04/newsweek-embraces-anti-democracy-hard-right

Newsweek, when even linking to the study it cites, doesn't... actually link to the study. It just links to newsweek's "study" tab. It does MENTION the study, which allowed me to track it down. https://www.ipsos.com/en-uk/almost-third-gen-z-men-globally-agree-wife-should-obey-her-husband IPSOS is a MARKETING FIRM, whose CEO Jean Laurent Poitou, was the former head of Accenture, under whose leadership, sure did a lot of fraud, engaging in tax avoidance, and other such conservative-leaning behaviors, and who generally is affiliated with the traditional right. Let's add another one. The group "Global Institute for Women’s Leadership at King’s Business School, King’s College London" just so happens to be at the school that the Current CEO of newsweek is not just an alum of, but is a major contributor to the funding for. It's always weird when something extremely polarizing comes from, a group that's directly funded by the CEO or owner of the conservative newspaper that's publishing it, as well as from research done by a Marketing firm in the pockets of wealthy conservatives! Funny how that always seems to happen! But if we actually look at IPSOS's study, you'll see that a lot of the numbers have been gently massaged and their methodology is EXTREMELY opaque. After all, they're not a scientific institution. They're a MARKETING FIRM. The biggest conclusion if you read their own paper, is ACTUALLY, that MOST PEOPLE seem to hold progressive views on women's autonomy, but think that THEIR COUNTRY still majority holds draconian views on women's autonomy. Things their own study says:

A Majority of Gen Z believes that women shouldn't "always obey" their husbands.

A Majority of Gen Z has concerns that their society holds draconian beliefs about women.

What the results of the SPIN on this facts, as well as how many in the comments are reacting, is actually perpetuating the Traditional Right's views on Gender and Marriage. I need you to understand that it actively benefits the traditional right when you lean into gender essentialism and believe that Men Are Evil. That Men Are Monsters. It makes the default assumption of men be that they will always be predators, meaning that when they DO do something predator, nobody's surprised; well that's just how men are; when he finds the RIGHT woman who can Tame Him, then he'll behave; that's the duty of a woman after all; to put up with men abusing her until she finds one who is the Right One, who she can handle. What this article ALSO does, is scare progressive women, scares queerfolk, scares young folk, and makes conservatives feel emboldened and empowered. You need to ALWAYS, ALWAYS, remind yourself: "If something immediately makes me feel anger, repulsion, or Joy, with even a simple blurb, it's probably manipulating me." And more than that, you need to remember the follow up:

WHO BENEFITS FROM MAKING ME FEEL THIS WAY?