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[robojoshi]

what is up. my pinned post vanished into the ether so im making a new one.

my name is juno. my pronouns are she/it/xe. im not exactly a lesbian, but im close enough that thats what i tell people irl, so whatever. im not quite a femme or a butch but im one of the two

im also some flavor of trans. it would be somewhat correct to call me a woman, more correct to call me agender, and pretty much bang on the money to call me librafeminine but no one knows what the hell that is. i use she/it/xe pronouns and if you use my neopronouns or it/its ill love you forever.

i am objectum. cry about it

i am taken by @transmascrage. if you call us a het couple ill skin you alive

i feel no urge to share what mental disorders i suffer from.

i really dont give a fuck who interacts with my blog, but i will say im not too fond of: - terfs - endogenic systems - people who think trans men get "male privilege" - transmisogynists and transandrophobics, get the HELL off my damn page - people under 18. i know i cant stop minors from looking at my blog but i can tell you this is not a safe space for you and i would recommend getting off my page

[urie]

stop calling it a girl dinner and call it by its formal name: Fend For Yourself dinner in an ingredients household

[thehumantrampoline]

I kept forgetting my nighttime antidepressant so I set an alarm where the sound was a recording of me saying "HEY. TAKE YOUR FUCKING PILL" because I thought it would be funny. It was funny about three times, and then it started making me mad and I'd dismiss it right away to make it stop. So I handed my phone to my partner, who made another recording sweetly saying "Okay Shira, it's time to take your medication" and now I don't get mad anymore and I take my pill. The "compassion over punishment" camp has gotta get something wrong one of these days

[peachfromcmbyn]

Yeah sorry I can't come into work today. I accidentally heard Primadonna by Marina formerly of and the Diamonds. So I need the day to be a primadonna girl. Yeah it's going to be the whole day.

[nixpunk]

[infertilityidol]

[venusswasaboy]

I quote this and laugh to myself very, very often.

[transmascrage]

Something I don't see discussed...ever, is: what's your relationship with your pronouns like, in any language other than English? Could be a first language or something you picked up.

[spr0utling]

"Masculinity is always rewarded in society!!" In the 1900s, women could get lobotomized for anything that was deemed as "masculine behaviour", you dared to even wear pants? lobotomy. In many of these cases doctors recognized that lobotomies would result in either the woman dying or becoming a vegetable, enough that they would be refered to as "a veritable household pet". Lobotomies were done for multiple reasons, but one of them was for being masculine.

If by "rewarded" you mean "getting your entire functions reduced to nothing because you were forced to recieve a nail through your eye to destroy your frontal lobe and most likely dying in the process" then yes, masculinity is "rewarded"

[funnier-when-objectum]

[dragon-in-a-fez]

never going to be over that time I was trying to explain polyamory to my mum, and she said "I just don't understand how someone could be in love with two people at once" and I gave her my the-cognitive-dissonance-is-causing-me-physical-pain face and she said "what??" and I very quietly said "mother....you had an affair...."

[cal3ris]

is this gonna get me fired you think

[glubby]

i would like a hug…. JUST KIDDING! i would like TWO hugs. (suddenly becomes cold and standoffish) i don’t need anything or anyone and i don’t want to talk about it.

[ammi-delta-document]

[discoursedarling]

genuinely sickening how tumblr has gotten to the point they'd rather orbit around a (white) rapist-defending, anti-indigenous, racist pedo-defending blogger just because she happens to be trans than share a community with trans men because *checks notes* they're trans men and that's Icky (tm)

[transmascrage]

Saw a post that was like "transmasc Susie could make sense but I don't trust tmes to write it in a way that isn't transmisogynistic."

TMEs... which includes transmascs... Who probably know what the fuck the transmasc experience is like.

Why would a TMA person know better than a transmasc on the transmasc experience? And why would that telling be transmisogynistic?

[robojoshi]

im gonna go out on a limb here and step into the disk horse rq.

transmascs experience transmisogyny. its the particular brand of misogyny that they experience as society brands them as "misled WOMEN." and transfems experience transandrophobia too. its the particular brand of misandry that they experience when society brands them as "MEN."

its different from your regular ol transmisogyny and transandrophobia. its about the treatment that they experience and the way theyre seen in society.

genuinely i feel like im losing my mind here. how can yall be this slow

[transmascrage]

I fucking love stylized top surgery scars. I think it's one of the coolest concepts transmascs have come up with. When they're shaped like narrative-relevant symbols? I literally lose my mind every time

[happybunnykat]

What if I start a trend called "No one nuts November" where everyone writes about their favorite characters having bad sex that sucks and isn't fun.

[happybunnykat]

Okay so I made a list of 30 (well, 29 actually) prompts I am releasing into the wild. The point of this is that at least one of the participants are not having a good time.

It has 30 prompts for November but feel free to write and post whenever, but please add the tag #No one nuts November or #NoonenutsNovember wherever you post. You do not have to @ or credit this blog if you use any of these prompts.

(Text version under the cut)

1. Safeword

2. Sub/dom drop

3. Loosing intrest halfway through

4. Trying something that doesn't work

5. Medical emergency (bonus points: it happens during bondage)

6. Bad/failed orgasm

7. Should have safeworded

8. "Wait, it's not supposed to hurt?"

9. "Let's never try that again."

10. Sex so bad they break up after

11. Realistic shower sex

12. Incompatible kinks

13. Threw up on that thang

14. Can't get hard/wet/aroused

15. Says wrong persons name during sex

16: ugly crying/overwhelmed

17: "I remembered you being better at this"/"I'm not impressed."/"I've had better."/"You're not hung chill"

18: Allergic reaction/cut off circulation

19. Dirty talk/degradation gets too real

20. Ignored/missed a safeword

21. Random horny confession that kills the mood for the other person/people

22. "No really, that's not going to fit."

23. Fire alarm goes off/interrupted by a third party

24. Pushing themselves into sex they aren't ready for

25. Sex toy gets stuck

26. Only one person having fun/agreeing to boring sex

27. Couple brings in a bad 3rd

28. Sex in a bad location

29. Sex so bad it kills you/one of the participants dies

30. Free day

[sodomit]

On a slightly relevant note, I really don't vibe with how some people (on either side of the discourse) reframe the conversation on trans sexual assault statistics as "[it is said that] trans men are most sexually assaulted".

It's nonbinary people. Most specifically, nonbinary people who were assigned female at birth. According to most reports, nonbinariness adds a very prominent factor to victimization rates, not only sexual victimization.

I understand how that conflation happens, people are grouping nonbinary people afab under "transmasculine", but we really should not be doing that.

There's also a less benign explanation, where binary trans people tend to think of nonbinary ones as cis lite, incapable of being properly affected by transphobia.

[sodomit]

James, S. E., Herman, J. L., Rankin, S., Keisling, M., Mottet, L., & Anafi, M. (2016). The Report of the 2015 U.S. Transgender Survey. Washington, DC: National Center for Transgender Equality.

The point I was making is that nonbinary people seem to be more at risk of victimization than binary trans people both overall and when comparing within the same agab. I chose to mention agab because there exists a stereotype of "theyfabs" (as in, afab nonbinary people) who don't experience anything bad whatsoever.