Your Misogyny Is Showing

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[rulesofmisogyny]

Written out under the cut:

1st rule of misogyny: Women are responsible for what men do.

2nd rule of misogyny: Women saying no to men is a hate crime.

3rd rule of misogyny: Women speaking for themselves are exclusionary and selfish.

4th rule of misogyny: Women's opinions are violence against men, thus male violence against women is justified.

5th rule of misogyny: Women and Feminism must be useful to men or they are worthless.

6th rule of misogyny: Women who go around being female AT men by menstruating and breast feeding babies deserve punishment.

7th rule of misogyny: Women should always be grateful to men for everything.

8th rule of misogyny: Men are whatever men say they are and women are whatever men say they are.

9th rule of misogyny: Men always know the "real reasons" for everything women do and say.

10th rule of misogyny: The worst thing about male violence is that it makes men look bad.

11th rule of misogyny: Whatever women suffer from, it is worse when it happens to men.

12th rule of misogyny: Women's ability to recognize male behaviour patterns is misandry.

13th rule of misogyny: Angry women are crazy. Angry men have trouble expressing themselves.

14th rule of misogyny: Women have all the rights they need: The right to remain silent.

15th rule of misogyny: Men are the default, women are strange, the other.

16th rule of misogyny: Women's bodies are public property. Everyone owns women's bodies except the women themselves.

[thebasedkaiya-deactivated202605]

it feels so disingenuous whenever i see posts about how feminists are causing trans murders because they always make it seem like trans people are getting shot by lesbians who hate penises and not by violent men targeting sex workers

[preposterousblasphemy]

[river-grunfeld]

Also that it blanketly just doesn't happen that much. Most of the "trans genocide" is actually trans people killing themselves, and even that is hard to accurately verify due to cormobity with other mental conditions.

[hugewoman]

The human rights campaign reports that in the us and Puerto Rico from 2017-2023, a six year period, there were 263 homicides of transgender people

Meanwhile in the us in 2023 alone, a single calendar year, the fbi reported that 4,360 women were murdered, for an average of 140 a day

Europe’s trans murder monitoring estimates that 321 trans people were killed globally in 2023, a full third of which took place in South America and the Caribbean

In that same year the UN’s conservative estimate is that 85,000 women and girls were murdered on a global scale. They freely admit that the true number is likely much higher

[girlfishes]

The murder of transgender identifying and gender non conforming individuals is a huge problem in many Latin and South American countries. But by generalizing this violent bigotry as applying to all countries they’re actually reducing the visibility of these victims and making it harder to pinpoint the conditions and individuals which are responsible for their untimely and horrid deaths.

[rulesofmisogyny]

1st rule of misogyny: Women are responsible for what men do.

11th rule of misogyny: Whatever women suffer from, it is worse when it happens to men.

[glitter-soda]

Suggestions for some more “Rules of Misogyny”

Violence and other bad behavior is significantly worse when a woman does it.

Bad things done by a man reflects only on him, good things done by a man reflect on men as a whole. Bad things done by a woman reflect on women as a whole, good things done by a woman are ignored and belittled.

Misogyny isn’t a real form of oppression because it doesn’t affect men.

May add some more later

[glitter-soda]

Everything that a woman says must be met with extreme scrutiny. The only exception is when she’s praising men.

Teenage girls are simultaneously children who know nothing and grown adults who must take accountability for both their own and others’ shortcomings, depending on who’s speaking about them.

[grittneyspears]

People have more empathy for a freak with his pants down to terrorize a doordash driver than the doordash driver and that's really disgusting because we all know he did it on purpose.

[glitter-soda]

In misogynists’ eyes, there are two explanations when a woman talks about being sexually harassed/assaulted: Either she deserved it or she’s lying about what actually happened. Probably both.

[rulesofmisogyny]

1st rule of misogyny: Women are responsible for what men do.

9th rule of misogyny: Men always know the "real reasons" for everything women do and say.

[cryptid-catnip]

the attempt to erode the language that transfeminists (and just trans women in general) use to discuss our culture and the bigotry we face is, without question, a fully intentional one.

"tma/tme are intersexist", "transfem means trans and feminine", "transbian also refers to transmasc lesbians", "egg jokes are problematic" ect are all conscious violence against trans women and an active effort to strip away from us the terms we use to express ourselves, our experiences, and the oppression we face.

[radfemart]

damn so you're saying it doesn't feel good to have the language & terminology you cultivated to define and convey the reality of your tangible oppression be redefined & violently stripped of meaning? damnn that's crazy

[mechabird-girl]

can you imagine being such a piece of dog shit to see a post from a minority group that is getting so demonized right now, and then actively choosing to be a coy, snide, fucking stronzo.

you’re saying “you deserve it for what you did to us, to ME”

because you’re all a bunch of selfish pieces of shit who’re going to rot in hell.

[radfemmll]

Yes in fact you completely deserve it <3 The audacity to complain about the same thing you did to women, whom, I know it may comes as a shock to you, are already an oppressed group. Lol. Ig whatever we do, men are always going to act like victims 🤷🏻‍♀️

[rulesofmisogyny]

8th rule of misogyny: Men are whatever men say they are and women are whatever men say they are.

11th rule of misogyny: Whatever women suffer from, it is worse when it happens to men.

[casyndrome]

If you want men to be better as a majority, instead of being a sexist pos who tells men from the minute they're born that they're doomed to be monster, you could try-hear me out-

Raising them better.

It starts in the home, with the parents. New kids are born every day, this generation should know better about teaching actual equality to both their male and female kids.

Nothing can really be done about adults currently, as you can't change those who don't want to change (tho quiet a few of you are only making it worse with 0 remorse or accountability),

But you can absolutely do something about the next generation.

If you continue to cry about how awful men are (because of how they're raised. A man is not inherently a monster just like a woman is not inherently submisive), yet you do nothing to help the next generation, then you are too blame when things don't get better.

Ask yourself if you're actually fighting for a better world, or if you're just addicted to complaining without actually doing anything to help sometime.

Cause if you're fighting for a better world, you'll deal with your traumas and sexism and raise your kids to believe in true equality.

If you're only looking to complain, you'll continue telling little boys they are just born monsters, and you'll continue fear mongering your little girls, which will only make the divide worse.

(Adding some questionable tags so this reaches the right people)

[pineapplecake555]

Men do not become monsters because their Mom didn’t try hard enough. Fuck off.

Adult men can try taking some fucking responsibility for once.

[rulesofmisogyny]

1st rule of misogyny: Women are responsible for what men do.

[cuttingcherub]

Ew. This person: "Men are more opressed than real women because the man put a dress on! It's true because I said so! If you disagree with me I'll see red👿". Pathetic.

How is op so loud and wrong? So embarrassing.

[niiwa-angel]

Right. The men in dresses threatening real women with rape, physical violence, death, harm to their children, and doxxing are totally "the most oppressed women on the planet"

[unsentimentaltranslator]

Rule 11 of misogyny: Whatever women suffer from, it is worse when it happens to a man

[glitter-soda]

Suggestions for some more “Rules of Misogyny”

Violence and other bad behavior is significantly worse when a woman does it.

Bad things done by a man reflects only on him, good things done by a man reflect on men as a whole. Bad things done by a woman reflect on women as a whole, good things done by a woman are ignored and belittled.

Misogyny isn’t a real form of oppression because it doesn’t affect men.

May add some more later

[transmasc-punpun]

to those who say they are intersectional feminists and trans-inclusive (particularly cis ones): please please please be careful of how you talk about (cis) men. it can start to lead into bioessentialism, whether you know/mean it or not. it comes off as how conservatives talk about men and women, just with a progressive twist.

men aren't a different species. marginalized men exist. don't leave us out of your intersectional feminism simply because we are men. our masculinity/manhood doesn't negate any other marginalized identities we might have. remember that.

[unsentimentaltranslator]

To those who say they are feminists, do not let anyone, even marginalised men, even trans people, guilt trip you out of naming actions perpetrated by men as a class. While these people are getting their feelings hurt by women complaining about men, women are getting beaten up, raped and killed by men, and that is a more important problem.

[rulesofmisogyny]

3rd rule of misogyny: Women speaking for themselves are exclusionary and selfish.

5th rule of misogyny: Women and Feminism must be useful to men or they are worthless.

[gctomcat]

If males don't want to be seen as rapists then they need to stop being rapists. Idk why y'all get mad at women for being wary of males instead of the men who are doing the raping and giving males that reputation.

[bootyjuice420]

"the sex that's responsible for 99% of rapes is associated with rape, if you don't belong to the rapist sex that's a privilege!!" ok maybe don't rape

[glitter-soda]

Females do have the “90% of rape victims” body and the “~20% chance of being raped during their lifetime” body. Idk, I think that’s a little worse than some social stigma

[rulesofmisogyny]

10th rule of misogyny: The worst thing about male violence is that it makes men look bad.

12th rule of misogyny: Women's ability to recognize male behaviour patterns is misandry.

[gala-xii]

I've never seen something more ridiculously said in my entire life.

Saying cis as if it's an insult. The dehumanization claims, which affect both transwomen and natal women alike.

"People do things to transwomen that, when you tell people about it, they won't believe you."

Ludicrous. That happens to natal women too, stop shoving us to the backburner.

"Transwomen are the women of women."

Just shut up and educate yourself, for goodness sake. It's not as if men are forced to "handle a transwoman's life." They can stop at any time. Women, however, cannot stop being women even if they wanted to.

[unsentimentaltranslator]

Rule 11 of misogyny: whatever women suffer from, it’s worse when it happens to a man.

[nooblysblog]

Alright this is gonna be tough for alot of ya'll to hear but leftist and progressive spaces need to be more welcoming to men especially cis het white men. The more we speak bad about men the more men will go down the alt right pipeline. And obviously that's a bad thing. If we want men to be on our side we should create a space where they can also feel included because if we don't more men will go down the alt right and alpha male pipeline

[randomstringofletterandnumber]

Tagging what is essentially a post blaming leftist women for the rise of alt-right men with "radical feminism" is WILD.

[flowers4medusa]

It's always somehow our fault, isn't it?

[ophelias-revenge]

Men can build their own shit. They aren’t welcome in leftist spaces if their political goals are taking away women’s reproductive rights and forced pregnancy and banning homosexuality and shit

[rulesofmisogyny]

1st rule of misogyny: Women are responsible for what men do.

3rd rule of misogyny: Women speaking for themselves are exclusionary and selfish.

5th rule of misogyny: Women and Feminism must be useful to men or they are worthless.

[onusimeliorism]

I am not the first to say this by any means but it bears repeating: EVERYONE suffers under the patriarchy.

Feminism isn't, and shouldn't be, all about men all the time, but it does include men, and the dismantling of sexist ideologies also benefits the well being of men.

The patriarchy teaches men that they are supposed to never show emotion or vulnerability. It teaches men that they are only worthy if they treat women like sexual objects. It creates men that are angry (the only emotion they are allowed to express), violent, and sexually frustrated.

This is why we have so much of this sexist, anti-feminist sentiment. It's because men hear words like "patriarchy" and "feminism" and they think it's some insult to them. They think, "My life's not so easy. I don't see this 'privilege' I supposedly have."

They don't see that a lot of their own suffering also stems from sexism and expectations placed on them by the patriarchy. Sexist ideas like that women are more emotional and vulnerability = femininity = weakness, or that men are the stronger, smarter, better gender, create societal pressure on men to suppress their emotions or to be successful to prove their manliness. That second one is made even more damaging by a failing capitalist system which prevents a vast majority of men from attaining the finical success that they tie their self worth and masculinity to.

The patriarchy and sexism is damaging to everyone. Feminism isn't about blaming men for all the world's problems. Women can be sexist too, and men can be feminists. Feminism is about dismantling the oppressive system of gender compliance and patriarchy that affects all of us.

[pineapplecake555]

They aren’t going to pick you, sis. Keep your male pandering out of the radfem tags.

Patriarchy isn’t a spell an evil wizard cast that hurts everyone. It’s a hierarchy that benefits ALL men more than it ever harms them.

Racism doesn’t hurt white people

Homophobia doesn’t hurt straight people

Antisemitism doesn’t hurt non Jews

And patriarchy doesn’t hurt men

[rulesofmisogyny]

Definitely:

1st rule of misogyny: Women are responsible for what men do.

3rd rule of misogyny: Women speaking for themselves are exclusionary and selfish.

5th rule of misogyny: Women and Feminism must be useful to men or they are worthless.

Arguable:

11th rule of misogyny: Whatever women suffer from, it is worse when it happens to men.

[open-and-shut-deactivated202505]

Behind every misogynist is a girlfriend/wife and/or mother who is okay with it.

[mysterycat-isme]

And in front of them is the misogynist who is actually doing the awful things so maybe they are the actual fucking problem here and the likely terrified woman should not be made to parent the class that hates her

[unsentimentaltranslator]

Damn all those years I spent being mad at the middle aged men who tried to get me somewhere where they could rape me when I was 19, I should have been blaming their wives or something

[rulesofmisogyny]

1st rule of misogyny: Women are responsible for what men do.

[noideamyguy]

Radical feminism destroys the point of feminism. I’m a feminist and I don’t think women should fuckin take over. Patriarchy and matriarchy are both nowhere near positives. Feminism is about equal rights for all.

[unsentimentaltranslator]

when someone is accustomed to privilege, equality feels like “being taken over”

[cordycepsfem]

Feminism is about freedom from the patriarchy for women and girls, not “equal rights for all.” Perhaps “egalitarianism” would fit OP better.

[rulesofmisogyny]

3rd rule of misogyny: Women speaking for themselves are exclusionary and selfish.

5th rule of misogyny: Women and Feminism must be useful to men or they are worthless.

[montellacen]

reminder that if you peddle your "all men suck and deserve to die" bullshit, men will just continue to go against you. are you fucking stupid or something? you can be cautious, that's fine, that's fair enough, but fully going out and being all like "all men are horrible abusers! they all deserve pain!" is gonna make the misogyny worse. reflect on yourselves and maybe develop some logic?

[unsentimentaltranslator]

Shut the fuck up, read some domestic violence, rape and femicide statistics, and have some FUCKING empathy for the group that is actually being oppressed here. What the fuck is wrong with you.

[sichorean]

"You'll make the misogyny worse"

Does anyone think there's men out there saying "no, don't rape, don't beat those women, you'll make the misandry worse"

No. Of course they fucking don't.

[rulesofmisogyny]

1st rule of misogyny: Women are responsible for what men do.

4th rule of misogyny: Women's opinions are violence against men, thus male violence against women is justified.

[angrysoprano7-deactivated202508]

the idea that men should be included in feminism is actually insane. why would womyn include their oppressors in a movement for their liberation?? if men didn't exist, we wouldn't need feminism!

[mereblogs]

Do you realize, right, that in this way it's a never ending war? Do you realize that men are people? And that there are good men. Genuinely. It's not controversial. They're *people*. Just as much as there are women who perpetuate misoginy. Get a grip, you're spreading hate.

[angrysoprano7-deactivated202508]

"not all men!" in 2025 is actually insane LOL and im not saying men arent people, im saying they have no place in feminism because they arent victims of misogyny and DONT NEED LIBERATION!

womyn are the only oppressed group who are expected to share their movement for liberation. you wouldnt try to force poc to include white people in blm, or lgb people to include straight people in pride!

this is probably because you dont see misogyny as a valid form of oppression, which isnt my problem to fix.

[mereblogs]

The movement needs allies to move together towards change and against the real threats: misoginy, racism and homophobia (and all the other phobias).

How do you expect men to understand and stand with you if, instead of including them, you declare a blind war against them?

Including them in the movement does not mean they need liberation, it means they are with us to create that change.

You won't solve anything by keeping hate and division.

I'm not a liberal feminist.

They hate men too, btw.

I'm with feminists in general on the need of the movement.

I'm with radical feminists on protecting women's spaces.

I'm on my own on not being a fucking misandrist.

❤️

[jessicavovu]

Men as group will never be allies!

men have oppressed and dehumanized women for thousands of years. To think they can be your allies is delusional !

“How do you expect men to understand and stand with you if, instead of including them, you declare a blind war against them?”

bahahahahah, we don’t expect men to stand with that. What men want is to control, dehumanize and treat women as slaves. men have declared war against women since the start of time. men have used the excuses of religion, culture and traditions to commit the most horrid and evil acts towards girls and women.

do you think men are raping girls and women bc current misandry ?

do you think millions of girls were forced into marriage bc current movements ?

do you think girls are oppressed and can’t get education bc of current movement ? men get involved in any movement for women , and then make it about men.

[rulesofmisogyny]

3rd rule of misogyny: Women speaking for themselves are exclusionary and selfish.

5th rule of misogyny: Women and Feminism must be useful to men or they are worthless.

12th rule of misogyny: Women's ability to recognize male behaviour patterns is misandry.