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every time i see people trying to normalize fatness by sexualizing it i think of that post thats like “what are you gonna tell a fucking 12 y/o? dont cry dude youre so thick? stop it” bc like. truly. not only do i personally not want my body to be sexualized lol but also its so harmful to kids like?? being fat is normal in all contexts not just when youre in lingerie with a beat face looking pouty at the camera like can we talk about the variances in human bodies without resorting to making them normal only when theyre sexy, my god

moniquill

So I’m a phlebotomist. And sometimes, I work at a site that is directly adjacent to an endocrinologist. Which means I see and take blood from a lot of folks that are trans, or nonbinary, or gender nonconforming.

Do you have any fucking idea how easy it is, in customer-service speak, to respect someone’s gender?

I mean, I’ve had super awkward situations where I have to say things like ‘I’m sorry, that name isn’t coming up in our system. Is there another name…“ And without fail they provide their deadname and I plug it in and I say ‘Ok, that came up, do you want me to fix that in our system?” And they say ‘Yes’ and then I ADD IT AS A SYNOMYMOUS NAME. Same as I would for someone recently married or divorced. The end.

I have never experienced a situation in which I have felt motivated to ask someone’s pronouns.

I have had situations in which I have thought to myself ‘I have no idea if this person is ‘sir’ or ‘ma'am’ and instead have gone ‘Next patient please?’ or ‘I can help who’s next’ or ‘I can help you now’ while looking directly at them.

I have had situations where I’ve gone ‘I’m like 90% certain that I’ve been given a record with this person’s deadname because this name does not match at all the gender presentation of the person I’m looking at’ And I say ‘Ok, can you spell your last name for me? Ok, spell your first name? And your date of birth?’

and then I quietly write ‘preferred name [the name they just spelled] on the top of thier record.

THIS IS NOT HARD.

And if this is not hard for me, as a person working in medicine who has to make certain that the person I’m talking to is the same person on the medical record that I’m looking up, how much easier must it be for, say, a barista who doesn’t give half a fuck who you are? I’ve BEEN a barista in the past. If a Barista is asking your pronouns, that person is an asshole.

naamahdarling

This just gave me so much hope, thank you.

fangirlfromthenorthcountry

Restaurant industry chiming in here, hope you don’t mind!

Many years ago in friendly conversation with another, older industry professional who was more tuned in to the LGBTQ community, I was politely chastised for saying that my go to greeting tended to be something along the lines of “Hello ladies/gentlemen/gals/guys/ladies and gentlemen.”

This person suggested that I switch to something gender neutral, even if I felt confident in the gender presentation of my guests.

Nearly a decade later, I still appreciate this advice because I’m generally not an asshole, particularly not to strangers and never about someone’s gender identity.

My suggestions for addressing groups as a server depend on the crowd, context and expected level of formality.

Informal: folks/friends/everybody/everyone/kids (only if you have a good read on your table as fun loving people older than yourself)/my dears (I can’t pull this one off but my coworker does it and people eat it up, try at your own risk)/sports fans (again, heavily contextual)

In more formal settings, I suggest just going with “good morning (etc.) to you all, my name is Blank and I will be helping you with your meal today.”

If your establishment has particular rules about addressing guests, make sure that you inquire about how they want you to approach these situations and challenge those policies if you feel they’re offensive or out of touch.

gluten-free-pussy

I was high off my ass last night and had this dream where I was in this dense ass forest and sitting there was a tall woman. She was so tall I couldn’t see her face but she was wearing gold and I was like “uh…hi?” And she said “I made you, do you know that?” And I nodded and she was like “I hear your thoughts. Why do you hate my creation? Why do you try to destroy yourself? I made you perfect as you are. Please don’t break my heart”. Then she started crying and it flooded and I woke up with fucking heart palpitations like what does it Mean™️????

animution11

royalhans

polar opposite of this post

hrmsketches

inspiration struck and would not let me go until i drew this

gluten-free-pussy

This is really beautiful!!!

Oh fuck

Instagram

i feel targeted

hugtheteadrinkthekitten

chrinic-geadcake-deactivated202

Oh god it’s me

whitepeopletwitter

mankillercalledbunny

@gokissthewookie how could you leave this in the tags

matters-from-ashes

I was thinking someone else

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

Is it ok to mock teenagers for bad/mediocre writing & artwork?

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

Good. Then stop disparaging yourself for stuff you created in the past. You were and still are growing.

calderawizard

Wow you’re really gonna trap me like that, huh?

biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist

Self Love Is Not A Choice It Is A Gift I Shall Force Upon You

raigash

Me, at the beginning of this post: Who would even think yes?? That’s terrible of course not!

Me now: ….damn you, bastard. This is entrapment

ghibli-collector

The Floral Art Of Studio Ghibli

nearlyisms

Today's announcements.

raggedybearcat

By humble request of the original artist, here is the same thing as previous in a more tumblr-friendly format.

descole-dead

Tintin remembers what comes after 15.

drtanner

FUCKING HELL IT’S BACK FROM LAST YEAR

descole-dead

This literally gets reblogged every 15th of the month. It’s almost two years old. It’s beautiful.

descole-dead

listen up ya’ll this post is 6 years old now and you’re still reblogging it. every month. once a month, my notifications blow up for this one video, but only until the 16th. then the notes on this vid completely stop. it’s so eerily spot on and impressive how you just all collectively know what to do. if I’m not online, people irl still remind me that it’s the 15th. thank you for six surreal years of me wondering if I completely fucking lost it. here’s to the 15th

mysimpsonsblogisgreaterthanyours

thydungeongal

Index Cards Rule

Has this ever happened to you:

“Okay, so it’s Bob’s turn. Oh, shit, wait, I forgot to roll saves for those orcs at the end of their turn. Oh and I forgot to apply the ongoing damage from the poison to them. So let me just take a step back. Huh, that one orc should be dead from the ongoing damage already… wait, let’s just rewind for a bit. Oh, and that one was stunned so it shouldn’t have been able to take any actions…”

Fret not! Because finally there’s a solution!

Hi, I’m that guy who runs the Fuck Yeah Dungeons and Dragons shopping network, and I’m here to tell you about how cool index cards are. Observe.

And ordinary pile of stupid boring index cards transform into the most powerful tracking tool in the hands of an expert GM.

Have your players roll Initiative or some bullshit like that and then roll Initiative for monsters. Write down their Initiatives and names on a card.

Then put them in a nice pile in Initiative order.

And you can use these to track all kinds of information and have it all at hand whenever you have to remember it.

Keep track of monster hit points and conditions.

Keep track of save ends conditions. In here I’ve written the condition at the top so I remember to apply its effect at the beginning of Steve’s turn and also at the bottom to remind me that Steve gets to save against it at the end of his turn.

But there’s more.

Like I wrote earlier, you can use this to keep track of important NPCs and factions. I even made a little countdown clock for their goal. When it’s full the zombie apocalypse happens. Every time the PCs fail to stop the cult’s evil plans or don’t do anything to stop them, the clock ticks forward.