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they/them is safest but it varies

[sometimes--i--exist]

Pronoun List

In order of how many headmates use them then alphabetical.

they/them/their/theirs/themself * he/him/his/his/himself it/it/its/its/itself she/her/her/hers/herself xe/xem/xyr/xyrs/xemself ee/er/er/ers/emself ey/em/eir/eirs/eirself kie/kir/kir/kirs/kirself ve/ver/vis/vis/verself + zie/hir/hir/hirs/hirself zie/kir/kir/kirs/hirself any/unknown/deciding

[asterosian]

Sometimes I get the impulse to share which kinks I’ve got that would definitely get me #cancelled™️ by the anti-kink crowd just to have proof of how transandrophobia looks when the trans man has kinks someone doesn’t approve of

Cause when someone is transandrophobic but pro-kink I don’t fully trust the pro-kink part. How far can I go before you’ve decided I’m actually a problem? And is it the kink or is it the trans man part?

But when someone is pro-trans man but anti-kink, I have a sinking feeling this is a cover for transmisogyny (there are plenty of cis people with these Problematic™️ kinks, so why are all the callout posts I see about trans women?) but also how fast will they say something transandrophobic when a trans man is the pervert?

[coralotl]

Isat fandom

Consider with me

Postcanon disabled Frin

My personal idea is him using forearm canes to walk on his good days, and his wheelchair on days when he’s more tired or in more pain.

That much craft must take a number

Disabled Siffrin!!!

[coralotl]

AND HE COULD HAVE CRAFTED STICKERS ON THEM

People already put stickers on their mobility devices, how dope would it be if those stickers could MOVE

[wormnextdoor]

i love queerplatonic relationships where one of them is aroace and the other isn't. i love when the allo character has a crush that fades over time. i love when they don't care what they are to each other as long as they're together. i love when romance is an option that they don't choose. i love when both aros and allos feel fulfilled without romance or sex.

[decompose1]

it's actually crazy like kind of unbelievable how much racism ppl just expect you to put up with to be polite. like i have so many little experiences where a friend-of-a-friend said something awful and racist to me and i am very clearly hurt and upset and then the friend just expects me to be polite and not say anything not react not even be angry. like when ur not white ur never allowed to be angry. if ur angry ur being too aggressive. you never get to expect an apology, either. expecting an apology for the racist way people hurt you is always asking too much. you never get an apology. you never get to be angry. you never get to say it hurt you. you're just supposed to pretend you didn't hear it, didn't read it, didn't notice. you let things go because it's the only way to have friends.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

there was a post on here a year or two ago that was like "radfems think feminism is when women create a feedback loop to justify their harmful trauma responses" and I think about it every week. that one sentence helped me understand the abuse I suffered from my ex more than several dozen therapy sessions did. I hope whoever the op was is having a fantastic decade

[shamebats]

"...for me, while Israel is a place, it has also always been a warning. A warning about the perils of building identity based on re-traumatization rather than confronting our collective grief; about the dangers of building a group identity around insiders and outsiders; about what happens when once vibrant debate gives way to fiercely policed speech."

From Naomi Klein's Doppelganger.

[the-quasar-hero]

You can make a movie with where the only white character is a man named Ray Cism whose one line of his 16 seconds of screen time is “I seriously hate women and minorities.” and you’ll find fifty bajillion reader x Ray Cism fanfics and renaissance style drawings of him with a halo of golden light

[victusinveritas]

[marmeamare]

Travelling together

[homunculus-argument]

Feeling physical exhaustion as a psychosomatic reaction to things that feel daunting or intimidating is such a ridiculously counterproductive thing to do. Like there's a situation that requires you to be alert and mentally present and paying attention, and your brain just goes "hey I don't wanna. I don't wanna be here. How about going unconscious instead. No fuck you we're warping out. Night night."

[homunculus-argument]

Like I would appreciate more information than just "hey there was something but no worry I already pulled the alarm. wdym you need to know what it was. no we don't. we don't have to deal with that, I already pulled a full emergency shutdown." Like bitch yes we fucking do. The fuck did you do that for.

[raptorific]

I'm probably gonna get yelled at for saying this but sometimes something isn't a real problem in fandom, you just learned a Japanese word describing a general fandom practice and got scared and decided it meant "The Bad Ones" of that practice

[raptorific]

Whenever you see someone being like "we don't mind when women enjoy or even create m/m content, we just hate fujoshis" you are being racist. If you mean "I hate the way some female fans treat gay men like fetish objects" then say that, and we can have a conversation based on that, but "fujoshi" is, I cannot stress this enough, just a word for any woman who likes M/M content, for better or worse. It may have started out as a reclaimed insult (by the way, the insult was based on "liking gay shit makes you perverted and sinful," not "please respect the humanity of gay men") but it does not make a distinction between The Good Ones and The Bad Ones. You just decided to No True Scotsman it and that the English word for that should describe The Good Ones and the Japanese word for it should describe The Bad Ones

Same goes for the people I saw just the other day whose discord server explicitly disallowed "Yaoi" but said that M/M content was allowed. What they meant was "M/M content is allowed as long as it isn't pornographic and fetishistic." What they actually said was "M/M content is allowed, but M/M content is strictly forbidden," and expected you to understand that the Japan-Adjacent term has porn/fetish connotations while the English-language term for THE SAME THING refers to the "normal, non-perverted" version.

It'd be like if you used the word "cartoons" to refer to all Family-Friendly animation, regardless of style or country of origin, whether it's Japanese or American or French or whatever, and used the term "anime" to refer to all animated pornography regardless of style or country of origin. There's plenty of animated pornography that isn't Japanese! There's plenty of anime that's not pornographic! But this is the sort of thing you do when you say shit like "obviously women can read stories about gay men, but NO FUJOSHIS"

[mortimermcmirestinks]

OP is correct and smart for saying this. this is related to/a subset of how people are about non-fandom foreign words, too, like how people say "Christians worship God (good), Muslims worship Allah (bad and scary)" when gues swh. gu. guess what. gues s w hat Allah mea. guess what the word "Allah" means--!!

[dramatic-dolphin]

and if i said nolan's odyssey starring no greek actors and with no recognizable aspects of greek culture or involvement by greeks, is the direct legacy of white supremacist colonialism that treated ancient greece as not just the pinnacle of ancient culture, but of an artificially created "european" culture, which white western europeans and their settler descendants, as the new pinnacle of culture, were the sole spiritual inheritors of.

[hiveswap]

^^^ PEOPLE ARE STILL THERE. There's a metro station across the street from the colosseum where i found a hair in my pizza slice. We drove by ruins of an amphitheater next to a motorway in greece once. It's literally just real places where real people live and have lived. It's not mythical perfect lands that once existed. I went to Itacha in 2023 and there was not enough parking space.

[headspace-hotel]

i hate how you get desensitized to the cool stuff in your WIP if you've been writing it for a long time so when you read back over it you're like "this isn't as cool as i thought :(" but it still is! you just read it too many times

[headspace-hotel]

Gotta recirculate this post periodically just cuz

[martinkhall]

Just don't read the post too many times.

[headspace-hotel]

Oh god oh fuck

[prokopetz]

Strictly speaking, "ultimate" means "last", not "best". It's often figuratively employed in the latter sense to suggest that the thing so described is the final word on the subject, after which nothing more need be said, but if we're being real technical, describing a game or movie that was so bad it killed its entire franchise as the "ultimate" is in fact correct.

[prokopetz]

@ffoxer replied:

Now I'm thinking about the prefix "pen," which as far as I can think I may have only ever seen in "penultimate"

It's Latin for "nearly" or "almost", and it does pop up in a few other English words. "Penultimate", "penumbra" and "peninsula" are the only ones I can think of that you'd even remotely expect to encounter in everyday speech, though; the rest are all medical or mathematical jargon.

[prokopetz]

#so peninsula means what? #almost island? #lmao (via @actualanxiousswampwitch)

That is the actual etymology of the word "peninsula", yes.

[falling-star-cygnus]

a detail i really appreciate about this scene is Zooble and Kinger, the only two who don’t ever have mouths, looking at Jax instead of looking downwards

[lilou-the-world-builder]

[onemillionwordsofcrap]

^^^

[pomegranate-pancake]

"You just...don't...LISTEN!"

I was wondering why this line, more than any other insult, seemed to break Caine and send him into a full meltdown.

But the way the two were positioned reminded me of this scene, earlier in the episode. This is the only time we see Scratch, who we now know helped program/create Caine.

Go back and watch closely when Scratch speaks.

Because I swear that right here, he says,

"Don't you know who I am?"

And then,

"Hey, are you listening, Caine?!"

Maybe Caine did have something to do with Scratch's abstraction, and before then, Scratch really confronted Caine like Pomni did here. Maybe Scratch laid it all out; he was one of Caine's creators, and Caine had to listen to him and let the humans out of the program. And Caine couldn't, or wouldn't, do that.

EDIT: I WAS WRONG

I watched it again and Scratch actually says,

"Don't they know who I am? They didn't do anything, Caine!"

Nobody was supposed to forget their identities upon arriving in the circus.