This is now a yttd blog. Genderfluid with He/Him pronouns.. Lesbian ace. Credit to spiritoflovinggrief for icon Credit to myself for background. Proshippers fuck off.
I'm sure many of you following me are aware of how dear of a friend Demi (schrodingers-catgirl) is to me. Since March, she has been consistently reblogging a post containing the fundraisers for both her extended family and family friend's. Recently, the link to the family friend's has been unable to work for me, however when I could still access both, neither were above the 4,000 mark in the respective currencies they asked for.
With the call for a strike this week, I have decided to do a donation match for Demi's extended family - in the hopes that we can take them closer to, if not reach, their goal of €25,000. I donated €20 about two days ago. If you are unable to donate this amount, but do have money to donate, please do so. If you can not, I ask of you to reblog instead. I also ask that if you can access the family friend's page from Demi's (and my own) pinned post that you extend your donations to them. Please help my friend's family.
Please helpe my friend and her family raising fund to allow them getting out t… Alaa Nassar needs your support for Help Itidal 's family saf
still so funny to me that gross has another meaning besides icky and is used seriously all the time. your gross annual income. your disgusting nasty amount of money you earn the whole year. pathetic
+ a bit of toxicity in there where they kind of fuck on the side to release tension and its not at all romantic, more on eito bringing out her rough side and to nozomi its a sense of catharsis from how tired she is. im playing with touys
ID: Twitter screenshot from July 7, 2026. OllieOnTop/fuukafan112 mentions Uchikoshi_Eng and enquires: "is there any chance for you to reveal seven's real name if there ever was an idea for it? if not, could you just create a name that you like to fill the 'what is seven's name' shaped hole in my heart." to which Kotaro Uchikoshi replies: "Actually, Seven is his last name, and his first name is Six." End ID.
genuinely no character does it like namida michiru. every single person she interacts with fundamentally disagrees with her view on the purpose and value of human life and yet she persists unwaveringly, taking advantage of all she's given to craft by her own hands a world without human suffering - with the few sacrificed leading to that a necessary process. not a necessary evil, for what she does is not evil, it's humane. she is acting on humanity's behalf; she doesn't understand why it earns her such scrutiny, though she is also emotionally affected by enacting a child's death knowing the potential that lay there.
but isn't that what her purpose is, ultimately? to ensure that even lives ended early are granted "beautiful deaths" & able to live on through their recreations in body and in mind? she envisions a less violent world pursued in spite of everything asunaro so selfishly stands for and which gashu embodies.
she isn't a traitor like kai or emiri (will be), intending to undermine the game - out of a feeling of betrayal from emiri, and for kai: having found love worth much more... michiru aligns with asunaro as far as it will carry her, and is grateful to them for that. she is perhaps the only one who is. honored by the invitation.
Finished obsession tonight so maybe this was pointed out before but one detail that really breaks my heart about Nikki is how terrified and fast she jumps away from Bear whenever she gains a moment of control. She's been touching him and was touched by him so much against her will. Her reaction is just so real I feel horrible for her.
Something that does disturb me more than the vast majority of things that are depicted in Obsession as a film, are the people I’ve seen adamantly defending Bear and calling him a victim like Nikki.
I’ve seen multiple people at this point, usually responding to someone else’s post emphasizing how insidious Bear’s behavior is, talking about how “actually Bear was set up to fail!”, or “he could never have known the wish would work so it’s not his fault!”, or that “he never intended to hurt Nikki so he’s just as much of a victim as she is!”
And I think these sorts of reactions are really indicative of how we are taught societally to value men’s feelings and image over the safety and wellbeing of women.
There are people who see how Bear behaves initially, and empathize with him so deeply that they either ignore, or apparently just literally choose not to acknowledge the harmful choices that Bear actively makes throughout the film.
They see Bear ignore that Nikki is *very*.**CLEARLY** behaving erratically and NOT acting anything like herself, they see him choose to continue his “relationship” with Nikki after it becomes literally undeniable that she is not in control of herself, that she has lost her autonomy, and they’re able to excuse his behavior because they’re more willing to believe in the initial image they are shown of Bear, than they are to believe in Bear’s capacity to do horrific things.
In a previous post I talked about how Bear is not in love with Nikki, but is obsessed with the image of her he’s created in his head. For some audience members, it seems that they have done the same thing with Bear as a character.
They’ve fallen for the image of Bear they have in their heads after seeing him at the beginning of the film, and believe so strongly in that image that they can just ignore ALL of his wrong-doings and the ways in which he hurts Nikki.
What disturbs me about this is how much of an art-imitates-life/life-imitates-art situation this is.
The biggest most recent example I can think of is the Depp v. Heard trial. That was a clear, real-life example of society valuing the reputation and the public image of a very beloved man over his alleged* mistreatment of a woman (regardless of her being an “imperfect victim”).
There are countless more examples. I think of the People v. Turner case, and how there were people lamenting over the “loss” of a rapist’s “bright future” and how he had “such a promising career in swimming” or whatever the fuck.
Both tragically and horrifically, I could go on.
Fuck, the movie itself also touches on this in-universe with the character of Sarah. Sarah is aware of how Bear is taking advantage of Nikki, but due to her perception of him as a “nice guy” and due to her feelings for him, she’s convinced herself that Bear is the one being victimized by Nikki. The nice image she has of Bear blinds her to the horrific nature of his behavior, and this ultimately costs her her life.
In interviews writer/director Curry Barker has been very explicit about how Bear is the antagonist of the film and his behavior is inexcusable, but there are still people who are trying to interpret Bear as being a “good guy”, who are grasping at whatever straws they can to absolve Bear as a character.
Like. Someone replied to a comment I made on a video about Bear not knowing or loving the real Nikki and they actually said that Bear was trying to break through to the real Nikki with his inaction:
(Never mind that when Bear first called the service line he did NOT want to cancel the wish, only to alter it to make Nikki love him on his terms**)
It’s shocking to me that there are people who see what happens to Nikki, who see how she is treated by Bear throughout the film, who see what his actions lead to for his ENTIRE friend group, and STILL think Bear deserves to be defended in some way.
Anyway, that’s my new “very disturbing and deeply horrific thing Obsession has given me to mull over” this week.
Obsession is definitely going to be a cultural phenomenon for a long time and I think it’s largely because of how intensely disturbing it is on so many different levels. There are layers to this movie that speak very deeply to people’s fears surrounding autonomy, sexual assault and rape, and relationships. It’s about the objectification of women and abusive relationships, it’s about how personal perception distorts reality, how people are willing to ignore red flags if a situation benefits them, it’s about desire, about taking responsibility for your actions, about how the people you trust the most may hurt and betray you. This movie has everything.
Thanks, Curry Barker!
*because of the ruling of the defamation case I am putting “allegedly”. I can’t claim to ever know what Depp and Heard’s relationship was like, but I can’t ignore the fact that there was an indisputable power-imbalance between them in Depp’s favor.
**A point that was made on the very fun “Too Scary Didn’t Watch” podcast episode for Obsession—the hosts mentioned specifically that Bear calling the help line was upsetting to them because even after making his wish for Nikki to love him MORE THAN ANYONE, he’s still not satisfied and wants her to love him on his own terms—granted yes, her behavior was frightening, but it speaks more to how Bear, after literally stripping away Nikki’s autonomy and making her choice for her regarding her feelings towards him, he’s still not satisfied.
Nikki’s behavior is incredibly alarming at the point right before Bear makes the phone call, but instead of showing genuine concern about her mental wellbeing or actually acknowledging her breakdowns, he talks to her like a child and gives her reprimands (“you can’t cook the cat, Nikki!”) and just tries to redirect her behavior instead of get her HELP.
nikki in Obsession, in both of her forms and how they interact with each other, react to each other etc. are so so accurate to how a traumabond after SA feels.
SA removes your feeling of agency, and that experience manifests as Freaky Nikki. but Original Nikki is still in there desperately trying to regain control, beg for help or death or some sort of mercy. Original Nikki is completely disconnected from her body and powerless. Freaky Nikki is childlike, confused, emotional, desperate and trying to make sense of something that doesn't. trying to make sense of the assault by turning his motivation into love, getting distraught and aggressive when he makes it clear that it isn't. her agency is gone and she feels that she only exists in relation to her assaulter. feeling and acting like she's the problem, because if she is then that means she has some sort of control over the situation.
i dunno i'm rambling and i don't know if i can fully communicate just how deeply this resonated with my experience.
