Pitiful Old Beholder

Azer || it/its, he/him || 26 y. o. || autistic Radical inclusionist. That Which Lurks.

[suspiciouscatastrophe]

Intro

In case I would ever return to active blogging, I wanted my blog to have a pinned post that would introduce me and my positions. Nothing extra, nothing fancy, nothing very helpful.

I am Azer. I'm 18+ and that might reflect on the subject matter of my blog sometimes, buyer beware. I mostly reblog, but it might happen that an original post appears from time to time. I usually keep my distance from engaging with Tumblr because I have OCD and this website is basically a minefield of triggers, but sometimes my curiosity and the want to self-express just overpowers my self-preservation instincts.

My pronouns are it/its and he/him exclusively.

My positions:

Queer identity discourse of any type is inherently harmful and only benefits those, who would see us all eradicated. It is just bullying in progressive coating done by those who have adopted progressive terminology without the mindset. That being said, no amount of me bitching about it will erase the discourse or its impact, so I feel the need to disclose my positions on the discourse topics I've encountered for the sake of clarity:

Lacking heteronormative sexual/romantic atraction is a queer experience. There is no such thing as stolen valor. Ace discourse did irreparable damage to our community. People's experience with their sexuality and gender is often complex and that creates space for "contradictory" labels. Not understanding something is not a reason for condemning it. Transandrophobia is a useful word for talking about bigotry against queer expression of masculinity. It doesn't mean that trans women aren't opressed or are less opressed, or that transmisogyny is acceptable. The terms are meant to be complimentary, not in competition to one another.

Every trans person's existence is an affront to cispatriarchy, and thus all are affected by a mix of transmisogyny, transandrophobia and exorsexism to varying degrees depending on their unique individual situation.

Transitioning is morally neutral and doesn't say anything about the validity of one's trans identity. Both transitioning and non-transitioning (be it by choice or necessity) people deserve to be represented in conversations about transness and respected. Intersex people are inherently queer and are one of the most vulnerable of queer demographics on the basis of having been systematically erased by the medical community and beyond. The prominence of AGAB-language in our day-to-day queer communication is a proof of how successful their erasure has been. Ever since it has been explained to me by intersex activists, I try my hardest to avoid AGAB-language (especially when discussing trans matters a perisex viewpoint), and it is my honest opinion that you should as well. I use "people with [anatomical organ]", "wolffian/müllerian" and such instead.

Fiction impacts reality, but not on 1 to 1 basis. There is no moral weight to media consumption. Proshipper.

Online harrassement is not activism. Mockery is not activism.

Being a marginalized identity doesn't protect you from having biases and holding phobic positions.

Sex work is work and pornography is morally neutral.

Kinks and fetishes are morally neutral.

There is no such thing as thought crime.

Informed self-diagnosis is not harmful to professionally diagnosed people and is often the only way for someone to stop demonizing their symptoms, access community and develop more effective coping strategies.

People with personality disorders aren't "scary" or inherently abusive.

Feeling empathy is a neutral trait.

Body shaming is always harmful, regardless of the deeds or political opinions of the victim.

Abortion is morally neutral regardless of reason.

Children are a marginalized group.

It is necessary for everyone to oppose racism and xenophobia.

AI (on the current level, while non-sentient) should do hard work and humans should create art, not vice-versa. That being said, criticising and making fun of AI "slop" should never ever veer into ableism. No, people aren't too incompetent, childish or lazy, when they use AI. Stop it.

And while I am firmly anti Ai art, I maintain that using it for making one's daily tasks easier (ie. making it do their shopping lists) is morally neutral.

ACAB

Cats always belong indoors.

Capitalism kills.

The only privileged minority are the rich.

Aside from politics and social justice, I like reblogging/posting about my interests, especially cats, fantasy media and DnD.

I have a running series of posts about gnomes of the Forgotten Realms setting (known for example from the Baldur's Gate games or the Drizzt novels) that I haven't touched for years, but might pick it up any day now:

The Forgotten Folk: All Things Gnome

For original posts, I use the tag #azer_posts.

Side blogs:

Recently I have made myself a heavily NSFT kink side-blog for a little bit of sexuality exploration, and, well, out of sheer curiosity. If you're 18+ and interested in that sort of shit, feel free to have a look. If you run a NSFT blog of your own, I followed you and you want to check me out for a potential mutual, that's probably what you're looking for.

If you have a The Sims themed blog, I followed you and you have no idea why would a random shitpost/discourse dipshit do that, that's because my simblr is a side-blog and I cannot follow you from there. Here it is!

[circumgutter]

[paperandpencilsandskips]

The Magnanimous Airplane

[kawuli]

well, the ears dropped

[free-and-to-none-accountable]

[banchie]

i've been phasing the phrase 'google it' out of my vocabulary and going back to 'look it up'. fuck you youve lost your generic trademark privileges

[jolitl]

the weirdest part about asexuality to me was finding out that people want to do a sex with someone in specific. that its not just a general "i want to have sex" i thought that's how it worked and it was because of social convention and convenience that people did it with a partner. i also didn't understand why it was seen as unfathomable to do it with a family member, because to me it just felt like peeing or something bodily kinda gross you just have to take care of sometimes. i didn't understand that people had a Want to do it with certain people and that this attraction was why they chose to do it. i thought everyone experienced that time of the month where your body just gets weird and people chose a close person or partner to do it as like, a convenience i guess. When i found out that people choose to do it for other reasons than libido it just did not make sense.

Same with romance tbh, i thought people chose a crush as like, the most convenient or close person to go after as a partner. i thought the "crush" thing was either an exaggeration or you just noticing "yeah, this person is cool enough to form a bond"

[dragongirlteeth]

Some core principles I've been thinking about lately:

There are no ontologically evil people

People generally want to believe they are doing good

Under enough stress, anyone will act irrationally

When someone does something terrible, first try to look back and see "how did we get here"

[theslaybymic]

Don’t overlook paternity leave because it’s a hugely important feminist issue

Celebrating fatherhood with official paternity leave policies challenges traditional gender roles and empowers parents in the workplace. It’s one of those rare issues where men’s rights activists and feminists can find common ground with a mutually beneficial cause. It even has an impact on LGBTQ equality.

Follow @this-is-life-actually

[dailymanners]

I’ve reblogged a lot of posts today about why paid paternity leave (or just in general all parents regardless of gender being entitled to the same amount of paid parental leave) is such an important social issue, and these posts have made a lot of great points about why gender equality in parental leave is such a massively important issue for equality, such as:

- It’s important for LGBT+ parents who don’t fit the cis-hetero mold of one mother and one father.

- It’s an important feminist issue for reducing the second shift: when only one parent gets adequate parental leave, it’s only natural for a pattern to develop that the only parent who got adequate parental leave takes on the lion’s share of childcare. However, if both parents get adequate parental leave, then it’s more likely for a pattern to develop of sharing childcare duties. This is obviously massively important for reducing how much women’s careers are affected by having children.

- If the mother has post-partum health issues (anything from recovering from a C-section or other physical traumas, to post-partum depression and/or anxiety) it’s incredibly unfair to expect her partner to just go back to work immediately instead of allowing her partner to stay home and help with childcare duties. When someone is recovering from having a baby, it can be really important for their partner to stay home to help care for them and the baby.

However, one important point I haven’t seen brought up in why equal paid parental is so important for social equality is how important it is for reducing hiring discrimination.

By that I mean, when a country has *only* guaranteed maternity leave, but either no paternity leave (or really short paternity leave of a few weeks like the U.K. has), this is only going to raise the risk of hiring discrimination against women.

So if a company is choosing between two candidates for a position: one is a young woman and the other is a young man, if the country this company is in has a maternity leave policy of several months or more, but paternity leave is either just a few weeks (or completely non-existent), the company will look at the woman as riskier and less reliable to hire than the man.

So equal paid parental leave leads to more equality in the job market, because it means companies are less likely to see women as riskier and less reliable to hire. If everyone, not just women, has the same length of parental leave, everyone runs the same risk of needing to go on leave for the same amount of time.

There’s no reason not to demand that all parents regardless of gender receive equal paid parental leave. All parents and all children benefit from it.

[picsthatmakeyougohmm]

[squonkcity]

wht my penis produces when i ceank it off to Mysterious Porn

[hemipenal-system]

infestation kink but it’s a bunch of worm-on-a-strings

[the-technicolor-whiscash]

Tumblr is the reason why I have something I call the cashier test which is, if i told this to a random cashier at the grocery store, would they think you're crazy at best or at worst would they be warranted in leaping over the counter and beating the shit out of you. Karl Marx mpreg is crazy, but not beating the shit out of you crazy. The cashier will probably talk about you to their coworkers and it might even make their day. Telling someone they're complicit in their own oppression by working a minimum wage job at a grocery store makes them warranted in leaping over the counter to beat the shit out of you.

[whumpster-fire]

Now in handy infographic form for Tumblr users:

[greatmountainfloofsquatch]

OP, who the hell would seriously claim that a minimum-wage worker is "complicit in their own oppression" by working that minimum-wage job?

That's such a complete misunderstanding of socialist theory that I find my gob smacked and my flabber gasted.

[vaspider]

So many people. So, so many people

[thefaultinourchickennuggets]

the bad thing about having unhealthy habits due to mental illness, is when you DO do something healthy style you can't brag about about it because then people will then know you've been doing it yucky style all along. Like you can't brag you changed your sheets or brushed your teeth because then ppl will be like oh did you not brush your teeth regularly before? Thats yucky disgusting! So you just gotta keep it to yourself. And be proud alone, I suppose.

[joycomplexx]

by the way it's fine to like sexual content just for the sake of it. "we can't ban porn because other stuff will get banned" "sometimes nude art has value" "the government will classify queer people as sexual" this is all true but it's okay to just like porn. its okay to not want porn to be banned because you like it.

[everyday-cutephoto]

[starvy]

ever since i was a little girl i knew i wanted to be someones lame ass boyfriend

[duckbunny]

your twenties are not "late" to start hrt. that is a normal time to start hrt. your thirties are also a normal time to start hrt. your seventies are pretty late to start hrt, but not too late. like, statistically, that's at the end of the curve. but if you are not dead, it is not too late for hrt.

[digitalmyyth]

Hanging out with people will make you remember you're the crazy woke friend for like. not wanting to shop at shien

[userfish]

this pride month we’re all going to be radically pro transgender. or else.

[userfish]

hey so this means radically pro ALL transgender. don’t put limitations on this. all trans people are radically accepted here.