[s-art-castic-maverick80-deactiv]

Be you but remember 👆

[nyanakin]

BREAKING CHARACTER REAL QUICK FOR A SLEEP SUPPLEMENT PSA FOR MY FELLOW VAMPIRES AND NIGHT OWLS:

so I've had chronic insomnia since early childhood and the only thing that helps me fall asleep without the "oh, I've been drugged" feeling is melatonin

and never once have I seen any instructions on the bottle anything beyond "take at or before bedtime"

EXCEPT

my doctor tells me last week that you're not supposed to do this otherwise it really fucks with your circadian rhythms! apparently the optimal time to take melatonin is around sunset (if you want to be asleep by 10pm-12am) because darkness is what naturally stimulates the brain to secrete melatonin

taking it too late (i.e., past 9pm if you intend to sleep around 11pm and wake up at 7am) can majorly screw up your circadian rhythm and keep you feeling groggy and sleepy af well into the day!!! which explains a lot for me personally — not the whole picture but certainly some of it! 

so what I've been doing is I take my regular dose as soon as I notice it's dark outside (around 7:45pm these days) and I start getting sleepy around 10pm-11pm depending on the day I've had. I'm fucking full on passing out by midnight, like phone falling on my face, gotta sleep now. and my sleep isn't perfect but it's a lot better than it was! I get a solid unbroken 6-7 hours stretch which is huge for me and I don't feel like death warmed over needing both vyvanse and caffeine to even think about functioning!

anyway if you already knew this then GOOD FOR YOU BUDDY WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL ME AT ANY POINT IN THE PAST 15 YEARS and if not, I hope you try it out and it helps even a bit! 🖤

[teratocybernetics]

also most dosages on the bottle are fucking bananas huge, brains make less than a mg when they do the thing how they're supposed to, try 1mg or even half to start

[sandersstudies]

I feel like in the rush of “throw out etiquette who cares what fork you use or who gets introduced first” we actually lost a lot of social scripts that the younger generations are floundering without.

[sandersstudies]

A lot of tough situations where we now feel like we “don’t know what to do or say” had social scripts just a couple of generations ago and they might have been canned phrases or robotic actions but they could still be meant sincerely and unfortunately we haven’t replaced them with any more sincere or easier new script.

[beemovieerotica]

a lot of people are giving examples in the notes of things they just find annoying like not using headphones in public, but OP is talking about actual literal scripts of things to say in awkward situations

if you have a date or two with someone and you don't see a relationship developing? most millennials / gen Zers just end up ghosting. but a social script that might have been taught and rehearsed in the past could be:

"I really appreciated getting dinner with you the other night and I enjoyed your company, but I'm afraid I didn't feel a spark. I wish you the best, and hope you find that special someone!"

like it sounds kind of trite but it was at least something to say and it can still be meant with kind sincerity. it also communicates in 2 sentences that you don't want to see them romantically again, but there aren't any hard feelings about that. that's it!!! that's all it takes!!!

[elodieunderglass]

I used to adore and re-read these books as a small child. Loved the idea of there being manuals for perfect social behavior that you could study and practice.

[3liza]

btw being polite according to the Ancient Ways still works. the scripts are still expected in the social fabric, they're just currently missing because most people aren't taught them anymore. so if you DO know them. you basically have a golden ticket to impress people with your "lovely phone manner" or whatever. if anything, the people who can still do it are now at a greater advantage than they used to be when more people were trained in formality. if you're autistic or have social anxiety it's especially helpful because you already know what the next line is, and you also know when the other person is being unreasonable because you know how the interaction is supposed to go when it goes well. which makes you harder to take advantage of.

im not going to say im charming or pleasant to be around, i know im not, but the autistic abrasiveness has been significantly sanded-down just through politeness. it gets you from Lt Data to Frasier Crane: both weird guys and a little offputting to the average person in their own ways, but Frasier manages to pass as human while he's doing it. its applicable to everyone, not just autistic people, i just mention it because that's been an interesting result for me personally.

part of it is just aging and having more practice dealing with bullshit, but speaking fluently and confidently really cuts down on how much people antagonize or mess with you on a daily basis.

[goatmilksoda]

A question I get asked a lot while working at a public library is "how do you deal with homeless people?"

And the answer is, we don't.

The unhoused people who come here seeking refuge 99% of the time understand that they will be kicked out if they misbehave.

The people you have to watch out for are Jessica, who only came because the kid she didn't want had to visit for a homework assignment and she just *needs* to yell at her child for asking to borrow two books or stay an extra five minutes, or Michael, who came in to look at porn on our computers for whatever fucking reason, or Karen who just wanted to come by to throw a fit that the particular book she wanted was checked out and harrass our staff about our collection being too limited.

99% of the time, the people we need to ban are middle to upper-middle class white people while the homeless and mentally ill/disabled people mind their own damn business and are honestly some of the best patrons we have.

[goatmilksoda]

I bring this up because today we had a man come in. He stopped at the desk, pulled up a chair and said "I'm newly homeless and was living in my car. I'm disabled. It was impounded. It's raining. I don't have a phone and I don't know where to go tonight."

And we did what we could to help. He was incredibly kind and patient despite his obvious anxiety and stress, more than most able bodied, housed patrons are to us under much less dire conditions. I liked knowing that we were the first place he came.

We have so many people like this who come in everyday. Many are quiet and keep to themselves, but sometimes they talk to us.

They tell us about how they're taking a few courses on a scholarship they applied for from our library's computer at the local community college to get their diploma. Or ask about a manga or dvd or book we might have to help them pass the time.

One woman, who comes in daily with her tattered walker always says hello to me and likes to work on the new jigsaw puzzle with me when we set one out.

So like, treat unhoused people like people. Treat disabled people like people. I don't want my library to feel like the only safe space in the world, but I'm glad it can be one of them.

I'm so sick of hearing about how "the homeless are ruining everything" when they are some of the kindest, most respectful people here. Sometimes they mutter, might not have had a place to shower, and might need a little extra space for their backpacks but that's FINE. It Doesn't Matter Actually. None of that is a problem or any of my business to care about (unless they request help/services), and I also don't think it's any of yours.

[maddiesharafian]

Oops, I never uploaded this one to Tumblr (which I only realized when someone else did, but then was kind enough to tag me, thank you)!

This is the comic that kickstarted my obsession with telling stories with as few panels as I could (usually 10-11 haha), so it’s got a soft spot in my heart. 

[dogposts]

[dogposts]

the beavers attacked

[thatlittleegyptologist]

psst...while the MET apparently has many trafficked artefacts, the temple I've seen some of you refer to? That was given to US by the Egyptian government as a thanks for helping with the relocating of Abu Simbel. Several other countries who helped also got gifts like this; Ägyptisches Museum in Berlin, Germany, the Rijksmuseum in Leiden, The Netherlands, Museo Egizio in Turin, Italy, and Parque de la Montaña, Madrid, Spain.

So this thing, and accompanying items?

Is not looted, stolen, or trafficked. It's there entirely legally.

[teaboot]

Wild that folks keep saying beekeepers abuse bees as if bees are not both venomous flying animals and fully unionized

[teaboot]

Hubris to think you COULD abuse bees

[teaboot]

I think that if you see a balrog in an unlocked kitty kennel then you can assume that it wants to be there

[vegance]

Actually, beekeepers take many precautions to keep their bees from leaving.

many clip the wings of the queen, destroy new queen cells, cull queens they don’t like and use bee pheromones to prevent a hive from naturally swarming or absconding. They also try and prevent mating with the African honey bee, which makes them less docile among other things. During artificial insemination of queens, drones are crushed and „spare“ queens are killed.

and commercial beekeepers even cull their hives during winter, or when they are not producing well.

Coupled with the fact that there is evidence that insects do feel pain, this is not great.

(Not to mention that honeybees are an invasive species in most places, competing with native pollinators and spreading disease)

[tetrafelino]

It is so fucking bold of you to link the exact same paywalled book thirteen times in your reblog to throw people off the fact that you’re using one source from 1859.

[findingfeather]

having gone to the linked source I’m actually very unsure even if you got behind the paywalled source it says what it’s claimed, as among the preview pages are:

“In all our operations with the bees we must use gentleness. All quick sudden jars and motions irritate them. So does breathing on them. Bees are always more gentle and less inclined to sting when they are gathering honey; and at such times hives can be opened with very little danger; whereas when a dearth of honey prevails the inmates of the same hive might show a great spirit of resentment. I have observed that colour exerts some influence on the temper of this insect. I have found that dark shades of clothing, particularly red, are more distasteful to them than white. Hence when working among them I always go in shirt sleeves pr in light coloured clothes.”

The broader page is about how being stung is unpleasant but not the end of the world, and you can easily minimize it…. By being thoughtful and careful and calm. I can’t find reference to clipping wings or culling; there is a mention of removing drone comb but only carefully, and it’s useful to remember that the hive itself literally drives the drones out to die once they’ve served their purpose. There’s no mention I could find of artificial insemination of queens, and I’m VERY sure that in 1859 they did not have reliable access to BEE PHEROMONES xD xD

There is mention of using smoke but dire warnings of oversmoking; and since the first record of Africanized honey bees is from THE NINETEEN FIFTIES, not the eighteen fifties, that poster is DEFINITELY lying about that citation, as unless the Victorian writer of that book was a fucking Time Lord, they can’t have known that cross breeding was a concern.

This is why it’s not enough to merely assume that because someone has REFERENCED a source, this means they have evidence. It is necessary to check that the source says what they claim. In this case that is in many cases literally impossible, and in all other cases unproven.

[headspace-hotel]

being a pepper plant has to be so weird.

Imagine evolving capsaicin specifically to stop mammals from eating your fruits, and then a mammal comes along that not only will eat your fruits, but likes them specifically because of the capsaicin, so much that it starts using its weird paws to distribute and care for your seeds, which turns into a strong selective force that literally starts evolving you into producing MORE capsaicin and makes you a WAY more successful and wider ranged species than you ever were before

simply because this mammal LOVES Pain Chemical. that evolved specifically to produce pain in mammals. It's not that the capsaicin isn't WORKING. It's just that these freaks like it.

[headspace-hotel]

This is the same mammal with social instincts so goddamn strong that they literally try to form social bonds with their predators, and end up evolving the predators into a new species that fits into their social communities as a form of mutualistic symbiosis, and exists in several different forms with unique morphology and behaviors based on the function they perform.

Instead of, I don't know, EVOLVING TO BE FASTER, this animal finds a faster animal and sits on it. Which shouldn't even work because the faster animal is a prey animal and this animal is a predator, but SOMEHOW they FORM A SOCIAL BOND WITH THE PREY. So they can sit on it while it runs fast. And somehow the prey animal?? is cool with this?? and benefits from this relationship???

Literally how can you hate humans. Humans are possibly the most hilarious thing evolution has ever done.

[headspace-hotel]

other things humans have done

eat poison plants, decide they like getting poisoned, and evolve the plants to poison them more

evolve to not have hair, but they find mammals with thick fluffy hair and put the hair on themselves, and evolve the mammals to produce extra hair so they can both have a warm coat of hair

split up their parasitic lice species into two separate species because they start taking other animals' hair and putting it on themselves so much

learn how to set things on fire on purpose. maintain body temperature by just standing beside some wood that's on fire instead of literally any normal option

figure out that their prey tastes better and is easier to digest when they hold it over a fire after killing it. get smarter because they digest food so good after it's been held over a fire.

find a poisonous plant and try washing it in boiling water until they don't die when they eat it anymore

go across the ocean by making a floating nest despite not being able to breathe underwater, drink ocean water, or even swim naturally

drink milk from other mammals even though they can't digest it and it makes them sick. Evolve those mammals to produce more milk than their babies can drink so they can drink the milk. Some members of the species evolve to be able to digest milk because they were so hellbent on drinking it.

find flowers, bugs and minerals that are nice colors and crush them up to try to turn other things that color

eat mushrooms that make their nervous systems malfunction because they like malfunctioning their nervous systems

[headspace-hotel]

humans worldwide looking up into the celestial vault of stars a million light years away, separated from Earth by the deadly cold and emptiness of space: I bet there are guys up there to form social bonds with

[lloras]

exactly

[damnselfly]

it also doesn't mean "everything is happy and easy between us all the time" or "none of us can have sex with each other"

[revolupine]

[ID: A tweet by Twitter user @dr3amt3am3. It reads:

"Found family doesn't mean 'we fit into a traditional family structure' or 'we think of each other as siblings/parents/child/whatever,' it just means this group of people are Home send tweet."

End ID.]

[shithowdy]

i think people with a creative mind, those that tend to consume and tell stories and particularly those of a heroic or fantastical nature, have a very horrible and self-destructive tendency of blurring the lines between those fantasies and their reality when it comes to their health.

people joke a lot about 'main character syndrome' when it comes to oblivious people not considering their impact on others, but the same people making those jokes will avoid taking their pain medicine because they have terminal Narrative Brain and it's more noble and compelling if they anguish until someone intervenes. there's never going to be a moment where you push through the pain and your Hidden Powers activate. there isn't a supernatural reason behind your chemical imbalance. you are not going to roll a natural 20 con save against your lactose intolerance. there isn't a reader on the other side of the 4th wall rooting for you to resolve this as you stare wistfully into the sunset like luke skywalker. you have to take care of yourself, the narrative isn't going to rescue you because it doesn't exist.

[doctordisaster]

I have had it with this likescolding. “Tumblr doesn’t have an algorithm so likes don’t actually do anything” motherfucker I am not clicking that heart to give some post better ~algorithmic visibility~ I am clicking that heart to help my internet friend microdose on serotonin as god fucking intended

[soheavyaburden]

I’m sure this will hit the news soon but just in case it’s not out yet — the Governor of Maryland just signed an executive order tonight declaring Maryland a sanctuary state for trans people seeking gender-affirming care, and for all people who provide such care or help trans people access such care. This executive order includes an explicit refusal to cooperate with law enforcement/prosecutors in any other state where accessing, providing, or helping people access such care is now or will soon be criminalized.

Yes it is absolutely a privilege to be able to travel or to think about moving but if someone can access the resources to move or visit to get what they need to survive and be less likely to be actively targeted for LITERAL EUGENICS AND GENOCIDE, then they should and we should support them.

Please spread the word.

[karadin]

Minnesota is also a sanctuary state, welcome trans people!

[lupismaris]

It hasn't hit the news yet but you can find the order here!

[bryonycloud]

[paynearok]

Tumblr: #this fucking donut #can we talk about this fucking donut for a minute #can we #because on this donut #the sprinkles just comfortably melt into the icing #you can tell that they are so perfectly in tune with each other #and they’ve come so far from when the sprinkles just sort of sat on top #barely touching for fear of rejection #just ugh I can’t #otp: comfortably melting

[thenoodlebooty]

4chan: here’s a picture of someone putting their dick in a donut.

[latinagabi]

reddit: that donut needs to go back into the kitchen and make me a sandwich.

[salt-water-chardonnay-blog-blog]

academia.edu: Here is a pdf of the seminar paper I wrote about the erotics/poetics/semiotics/science of donut eating.

[nega-che-chalaga-deactivated201]

deviantArt:I did not steal this donut. I traced it so now it’s mine.

[farufox]

It got better

[logical-ladle-deactivated201401]

Fanfic.net: The donut is the setting for a high school AU, were two sprinkles meet and realise they have more in common than they ever thought possible, however, the mean chocolate sauce has caught wind of their secret relationship. Will they be able to make it together before it’s too late? M for a lemon flavoured donut.

[strongintherealgay]

This has officially become one of my favorite posts.

[lanadelphoxx]

I JUST REBLOGGED BUT FANFIC MADE IT PERFECT

[althor42]

Ladies and gentlemen, I present you with: The Internet.

[skadi-again-again-deactivated20]

archiveofourown.org: Graphic Depictions of Gluten, doughut/sprinkles, doughnut/glaze, doughnut/sprinkles/glaze, doughnut - character, sprinkles - character, glaze - character, dsg threesome, first time, morning doughnuts, AU - doughnutverse, omg i don’t even know, knotting

[fuckyeahjohnlockfluff]

#THE KNOTTING AT THE END OF THE AO3 IS THE MOST ACCURATE THING IVE SEEN IN MY LIFE

[that-australian-guy]

sometimes i get mad at australian stereotypes but then i remember that my backyard looks like this

[elemental-journey]

IM FREAKING OUT THIS IS MY BACKYARD HOW DID YOU GET THIS PICTURE??????

[elemental-journey]

never mind i just found my brother’s blog by accident

[cryoverkiltmilk]

I can’t believe this dude killed their sibling because they found his Tumblr

[the-haiku-bot]

I can’t believe this

dude killed their sibling because

they found his Tumblr

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[blackbackedjackal]

We failed as a society when everyone stopped wearing headphones.

[blackbackedjackal]

At my parents place with 2 children watching YT on tablets and 2 adults watching tiktoks and reels on their phones and trying not to summon a comically sized Loony Toons hammer out of my back pocket to smash them all.

[mingpu]

아도라가 쉬라가 되는 길을 택했다면 캣트라는 어떻게 됐을까 싶어서