#anti-ableism

[masterklaw]

Pro “Men’s Mental Health” in the sense that neurodivergent, traumatized, and disabled (physically or mentally) men shouldn’t be lumped in with real criminals just for showing “signs”, and well-meaning Cishet men shouldn’t be lumped in with bigots just for being uninformed about certain issues.

Not “Pro Men’s Mental Health” in the sense that “men deserve state-mandated girlfriends”.

[only-knives]

suicide isn't a moral failure. it's not the result of someone failing mental health treatment. it's not because they didn't try hard enough, or didn't want to get better.

it is the result of an individual having to cope with things so profoundly distressing to the human bodymind. this can be emotions, past trauma, sociopolitical environments, financial difficulties, relationship issues, current abuse/neglect, chronic illness, and so much more.

at a certain point, the brain has long since kicked into survival mode, and is literally slamming the gas on every base-brain survival instinct it has. freeze: you cease to exist; you cannot do anything and you (as you existed alive) will not be seen. fight: against the self, others, society, love, hate, future suffering, etc. flight: you are no longer in the state/situation you were in (but where are you, then?)

the most heartbreaking, IMO/IME, is fawn. the belief that the world is better off without you. the relief that now you will not burden anyone. the hope that maybe they'll remember you kindly, despite the cruelty while you were alive. or, even, hoping no one remembers you at all, so not even your memory can trouble others.

does that sound like failure to you? or does that sound like someone who has been so, incredibly, deeply hurt throughout their life - maybe without them even noticing, clearly or at all - that they can't see themselves existing.

and moreover: do you think shame, blame, and interrogation will make that person want to stay alive? or do you think they'll just internalize it until they "make a permanent decision to a temporary problem?"

(case to be made all decisions are permanent and all problems are temporary but that's enough, me)

[pettysys]

can pro-endos stop using pluralspace i do not want to see u in the tags

[rusanya-does-edits]

Fuck you, pro-endogenic stimboard. Good luck being ableist and bigoted when your anon privileges are blocked. :3

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[orbitposting]

I hate how people in certain spaces try to seemingly "out-woke" each other. When I was in college and living in the gender-inclusive/queer housing, my partner at the time told me that my fear of water being contaminated was stupid and mocked me because "Awhhh, poor white kid, living in a community with clean water :(". Recently, I finally got diagnosed with OCD, with water contamination being one of my most troublesome fears as of late.

I don't want this to sound like the "woke-ness" is the problem. Looking back, I doubt their anti-isms came from a genuine place of wanting the best for humanity, but rather a selfish place of wanting to be right. I just want to remind everyone that often the people who seem the most politically correct are often the most performative. In my ex's case, they chose to be ableist yet "anti-racist" in order to feel superior instead of just being normal!

[catlovergirl676]

That person whom you called "high functioning" is simply a "high-masking" autistic person who is struggling to get by but has to pretend that everything is fine. Everyday that person had to keep up the pretense that they are "normal" even though they are dealing with sensory overload.

That autistic person whom you thought was having a "temper tantrum", is either on the verge of a meltdown or of an anxiety attack. It's a reaction to extreme stress and/or distress.

That person who "loses focus easily", can't sit still for long, and who has "time blindness" actually has ADD. Which is a constant challenge that can only be lessened with the help of a prescribed medication.

That person whom you say has "bad (physical) coordination", "has an awful handwriting" and "fails at most sports" actually has Dyspraxia. And he/she is seen as a failure and a weakling because of it.

Lastly, most of the individuals whom you called "weird" "sensitive" or "abnormal" are just neurodivergent people who are confused by neurotypicals' social cues because they perceive and experience the world differently.

This post is meant to spread awareness about what having Autism, Dyspraxia, and ADD as comorbid neurodivergent conditions is like for me and other people with similar struggles.

(But, of course, what I mentioned above is only my personal experiences and it doesn't necessarily apply to your situation and experience. Which is okay because everyone experiences neurodivergence differently.)

[fainting-fat-cat]

Disability awareness art by Brittany Ojeda.

Official gravity tester.

Drop it like it's POTs.

Hello darkness my old friend, I stood up too fast again.

Medical rod w/snake

Not to brag but I'm what doctor's call moderate to severe.

Ableism is not punk.

What doesn't kill you requires a co-pay.