#assertivecommunication

[succulentsiren]

Dark Feminine Tips 🥀- Never allow people to disrespect you

❝ Those sly comments that you are afraid to acknowledge, communicates to others you can be ran all over and spoke to in any kind of way. Never allow this disrespect go under the radar. Check then right then and there by asserting your boundaries calmly and standing up for yourself. They will then understand that they can no longer disrespect you. ❞ — H.S.

[kalavathiraj]

There is a powerful word that should be used more often, and that word is- “No.”

if only women could, QUOTUS

[femmefatalevibe]

I don’t want to be a lawyer but I love debate and watching the moots mock court. Any tips on how to be transversed in communication and confident speech like lawyers when they prep? Thank you!

Thoroughly review and research

Deep dive into all of the facts and plot points/characters & timelines of your "case"/argument

Create a logical story arch based on fact, statistics, reason, and common sense with enough evidence to dispel the counterargument (the "defense")

Refine your argument to engage in compelling, convincing storytelling using words, factual-based arguments/interpretations, personal anecdotes, visuals, videos, etc.

Hope this helps xx

[ramyeonupdates]

{ #selfacceptance } || source: alyssamariewellness

[femmefatalevibe]

how do you deal with people copying you…

When on occasion, whether socially, behaviorally, or aesthetically, take it as a form of flattery

If persistent, take the compliment that someone admires your taste and preferences in things or how you think/hold yourself in different situations, but consider distancing yourself from this person because they probably are jealous of you and your life. You don't want them to become obsessive, clingy, or try to sabotage you because they can't develop their own sense of self & personality

At work or school, ensure all of your original ideas, work product, and related communications regarding your projects are documented via email, Slack, or voice recordings. Have sources to back up that someone is trying to steal your ideas, clients, opportunities, and projects. Call the person's intimation out as necessary to get recognition for your work. It's one thing to share the credit in a group effort and another to be overshadowed by someone stealing your ideas to get sole credit or overstepping to stifle your professional growth/new opportunities

[femmefatalevibe]

good morning/afternoon/night femme! tysm for answering my other ask and giving great advice. any advice how to confront my vry vry close friend on her negative behaviours. i feel like she now views me as a threat since i became confident so she tries embarassing/humbling me. i was going to quietly distance myself but i decided that i want to explain my side, hear hers and then decide if to pull away (not completly since we're in a close circle) tyyy

Hi love! Glad to hear my response was helpful <3

I would say in a circumstance like this, the best way to confront someone is to ask to have an open dialogue and proceed in the following manner:

Describe their behaviors without labeling them as personality traits (e.g. "I've noticed you do XYZ regarding or in response to XYZ situation/action/remark, etc." vs. "You act very rude and selfish towards me.")

Give them a chance to explain the "why"/intention behind their actions. Allow them to give themselves the benefit of the doubt/a chance for self-awareness before accusing them of intentional toxic behavior

If they seem to be remorseful or self-aware of how their behavior is negatively impacting you (empathy), share how you feel when they act/respond a certain way and bring forth a mutually beneficial solution/way to communicate and respond that allows you to strengthen/preserve your relationship

If they get aggressive and start accusing you of having bad intentions/qualities, remain as neutral as possible – detach emotionally and continue to silently distance yourself. There's only so much you can do to save someone from themselves

Hope this helps xx

[femmefatalevibe]

I am a bit of a doormat/people pleaser, but today i made up my mind to speak up if something was bothering me, the type of stuff i would ignore or laugh off, like someone sitting in my chair or ignoring what i said, at first i felt like i was going to cry (i wasnt that emotional but my eyes felt wetter than usual) but it gradually became easier and im really proud of myself. (i have a bit of a reputation for being “the nice one” so it was a bit nerve racking but i had fun! I was nice without sacrificing my peace (even if it was something i would have previously said it’s not a big deal and silently dealt with))

PS- if you have any advice on crying/feeling like you’re about to cry over nothing (or when you’re mad) it would be appreciated.

~xoxo

Hi love. Congratulations on acknowledging your needs and starting to set your boundaries in life! That's a huge accomplishment that I'm glad to see you're celebrating for yourself.

My best advice for building your emotional resilience when standing your ground is to keep the following mindset reframes in mind whenever you feel that you're about to lose your cool while asserting a boundary:

Remember that the only control we have over external situations is our reaction to the circumstances. We owe it to ourselves to act with integrity even when there's uncertainty and potential conflict in our presence.

Focus on the long-term results over your immediate reaction: Consider how much more being assertive will benefit you in the long term/improve your confidence vs. the temporal comfort that comes with letting your emotions out on the spot.

Remind yourself that remaining assertive and stating your boundaries clearly are promises to yourself. Every time you succumb to these long-standing urges, you're breaking a truce with yourself.

Remember that emotional resilience is a mental muscle, you need to use it to gain consistent strength and long-lasting positive results that maintain themselves on near autopilot if worked out enough – you use it or lose it.

Hope this helps xx

[femmefatalevibe]

Have you ever be in the situation like someone making jokes about you and u didn’t reply to them and didn’t stand up for urself but laugh with them or be quite?

And i really regret i didn’t stand up for myself even though it was before 5 months and i totally regret i didn’t reply to them. Why sometimes i don’t reply please any tips how to deal with this

Act dumb, and ask the person: "What did you mean by that?" or "I didn't quite catch that, can you repeat what you just said? I want to make sure I'm understanding you clearly."

These types of assertive communication usually make people backtrack and refrain from making comments like this in the future as they know you're not giving them the emotional reaction they desire at that moment (slash they know you're onto them).

Hope this helps xx