#diamoricism

[this-is-amato-heteronormativity]

Non binary characters' ships always getting tagged as yaoi or yuri. Exorsexism but qls9 diamoricism?

This is diamoricism (which inherently branches from exorsexism.)

The only times it is ever okay to label a relationship with an enban as yaoi or yuri is if the character themselves has canonically done as such, or if the character has canonically expressed being binary-aligned (and expressed being okay with binary terms) and is with someone else who is binary/binary-aligned

Instead, use the following terms (which function in the same way sapphic and achillean do):

- Diamoric (Any relationship that involves a non-binary person)

- Enbian (EnbyxEnby)

- Toric (Enbyxman) or Adonic (ManxEnby)

- Trixic (Enbyxwoman) or Maedic (WomanxEnby)

Or use these terms (which function in the same way that lesbian, uranian, and straight do):

- Ceteramoric (Enby Primarily attracted to enbies)

- Viramoric (Enby primarily attracted to men)

- Feminamoric (Enby primarily attracted to women)

- Tria[sexual/romantic/platonic/etc] (Anyone, binary or non-binary, who is primarily attracted to Enbies. Ceteramoric falls under this.)

(Feel free to reblog and tag any ships from any fandom that involves a non-binary character. Spread the word.)

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

“A woman in a room full of men is terrified, but a man in a room full of women is aroused”

Is it wrong for me to feel like this phrase is kinda… icky? Cause it feels like it’s doing that “men are always hornier than women” thing in addition to framing women as perpetual victims and men as perpetual aggressors. Plus, what kind of man/men and woman/women are we talking about? How do you think a Black man would feel in a room full of white women? A male rape/sexual assault victim whose perpetrators were women in a room full of women? What if the man is aroace?

This is toxic masculinity, andro-amatonormativity, and heteronormativity.

First of all, not all women are terrified in a room full of men. Not all women have androphobia (the psychiatric phobia of men), and also, this ignores factors like "Are the men strangers? Does the woman have social anxiety or trauma? How many men are there? What is the vibe of the men? Are there any racial, class, or disability disparities? Are all the men pericis, allo, monohet, monogamous, and just generally nonqueer?" and just stereotypes all the men as creeps.

Second of all, not all men are interested in women. Mono turians, diamoric men who aren't into women, and aspec men who aren't into women exist.

Third of all, even if a man is into women, that...doesn't mean they're into EVERY woman?? The room could be full of women they aren't interested in, or the man could be aroacespec (ie; demisexual) and need a deeper connection before experiencing such interest.

And fourth of all, men with gynephobia (the psychiatric phobia of women) exist. And nuances also exist, the questions come full circle, but in the other direction. "Are the women strangers? Does the man have social anxiety or trauma? How many women are there? What is the vibe of the women? Are there any racial, class, or disability disparities? Are all the women pericis, allo, monohet, monogamous, and just generally nonqueer?"

I am not a man, but I am intersex transmasc, and I have been sexually assaulted by men and women. Many others like me exist - victims of SA and violence whose perpetrators were women. If I were in a room full of women I do not know, I would be just as terrified as if I were in a room full of men I do not know. Victims of women exist, and we do not deserve to have our trauma undermined for the sake of gender essentialist bullshit.

[sproutshq]

I get that gay men/veldians and lesbians can be nonbinary and some are also attracted to nonbinary people, but as a cenelian can you at the very least stop tagging nblnb if your post is about a (binary) man or woman please

(This is a problem in #wlnb, #mlnb and sometimes #enbian as well)

[this-is-varsexism-transphobia]

I was showing this girl my sketchbook and she made a joke about me drawing a ton of yaoi but no yuri so I said “well these two characters are non binary so they could be yuri” and she went “I don’t like labeling nb couples as yuri since I don’t wanna perpetuate the idea that all nbs are AFAB/fem”

And I was internally like “shit she thinks I’m unwoke and doesn’t know I mean they’re an intersex xxy androgyne transfem turigirl and a altersex demifluid transmascfem boygirl butch bi lesboy so it’s yuraoi”

It's kind of ironic in a way that she assumed based on appearance alone the genders of the characters you were drawing, but then went on to say she doesn't like labelling enben couples as yuri/yaoi.

She's right about the yuri/yaoi thing (see more on that here [link]), but it is a little funny that she made gender assumptions of your characters.

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

"No one should be proud of liking men"

"No one should be proud of being a man"

But as a gay trans guy I AM proud of being a boy and I AM proud of being a boy who loves boys <3

This is anti-masculinity, androqueerphobia, homoandrophobia, monosexism towards mspecs attracted to men, and diamoricism towards enben attracted to men.

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

"wallahi why are males allowed to be ugly and dirty looking 😕

bi/het women I want better for you"

This comment I saw on a post I saw about how Harry Styles is not hot or something idk. I didn't really pay attention to the post itself so much. Idk why they were arguing about the attractiveness of Harry Styles

This is anti-masculinity, oddly homoandrophobia and diamoricism (because it implies that men "need to be better" for women and that anyone else attracted to men are irrelevant,) and andro-amatonormativity (because it implies men need to cater to women.)

It's also giving androableism vibes cuz judgement of appearance automatically impacts people with disabilities that affect hygiene, but that's a whole other rabbit hole.

[this-is-amato-heteronormativity]

The idea that same-gender relationships are legalized and therefore homophobia, monosexism, and diamoricism does not exist is utterly absurd and also deeply US-centric.

Homophobia, monosexism, and diamoricism does not end with legalized marriage, first of all. Marriage is one of many rights we need. We also need:

1- Legal protections (that are actually enforced and not just "technically in place") and work opportunities. 2- Representation in media, including children's media. (And don't try to tell me that we are represented. We are not. Our representation is very minimal, and when it does exist, it is usually highly stereotypical in nature, background characters, or characters who meet a tragic end.) 3- Queer inclusive sex education. (Yes, this obviously also includes sex education about genderqueer and varsex people, but that's a topic more for my other account.) 4- Queer inclusive biology class and history class. 5- Adoption rights and reproductive rights. 6- Religious acceptance. (No, not religious eradication. Westernized conservatism just needs to be separated from religion. Religious queers deserve to exist in peace.) 7- Eradication of conversion "therapy", conversion "methods", and conversion camps. (Yes, they still exist in many locations of the world, and even if they are "illegal" in some locations, they continue to be run using code names.)

Yes, a few of these things have already been progressed in a few locations. But the majority of the world still suffers from these forms of discrimination.

Even where same-gender marriage is legalized, non-binary people often cannot be recognized as non-binary during their marriages, and hence diamoricism remains prevalent.

Homophobia, monosexism, and diamoricism is not gone by the presence of marriage rights, and marriage rights aren't even present in most countries.

Please expand your idea of queer liberation past marriage rights and past the US.

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

Being told as a trans male who's MLM I can't date my partner since they are genderfluid because then I wouldn't be gay or I'm not really trans if I am fine with them calling me feminine stuff which I've told my partner is fine if from them

This is transandrophobia, exorsexism, and homoandrophobia.

Just as it is diamoricism to group all enben under the achillean or sapphic labels, it is also exorsexist to say that they can't be those things, or that you can't be a uranian man if you are in a relationship with an enban.

Enben are not a collective. Some enben are achillean and sapphic, some enben want absolutely nothing to do with those terms because they feel it doesnt reflect their experiences. Neither of those groups are wrong.

It is transandrophobic, also, to say you aren't really trans just because you enjoy fem-associated terms. Titles, pronouns, clothes, sex, none of those equate to gender. They can be connected for some people, but for many people they are entirely different things.