life sucks! and it will continue to suck at times, having an alter ego means you get to slip into an identity that doesn’t have your problems! manifestation is real, girl, mindset=results.
── ⋆⋅𖤓⋅⋆ ── Step 1) Name, Identity
my alter ego’s name is mina (I use her as my blog identity) she’s the daughter of a mob boss and is undercover as a student right now. that’s what i mean, have fun with your alter ego!
Name , Age , Gender , Sexuality
Religion , Morals , Personality Trait , Backstory
Habits , Frequently used sayings !
Music Taste , Type in Love , Beliefs
Appearance (Hair , Skin , Muscles , Clothes)
Style (Music , Aesthetic)
add on whatever you want, have fun okay?
literally any insecurities u have, flip it around and now your alter ego is PROUD of that thing.
── ⋆⋅𖤓⋅⋆ ── Step 2) Embodying
➤ searching for things you already have that matches your alter ego’s aesthetic!
➤ crafting a mood board to find that aesthetic / find things to buy or make that matches the alter ego’s aesthetic!
➤ slowly settle into acting like your alter ego, one new habit or trait a week!
➤ literally just spend time in ur alter ego state <3
── ⋆⋅𖤓⋅⋆ ── Step 3) Results
having an alter ego…
✶ allows reinvention to take place, by way of personality or habits !
✶ builds confidence, in social settings, in self, in abilities and skills !
✶ creates a safe space for you to slip into a protective identity, as it slowly melds into you and your current identity <3
hydration is so super important, make sure ur drinking 3-4 of ur waterbottles a day. i use stanely cups so i drink 3-4 a day. when ur not drinking water the first place you'll see it is in ur skin so this is the perfect first step to having gorgeous skin.
MOISTURIZE RIGHT OUT OF THE SHOWER ;
if ur not moisturizing right when u get out of the shower, but u expect to be glowy and soft ur literally crazy. ur skin is like a sponge freshly washed from the shower, making it the perfect time to use body oil and lotion. gently pat ur skin dry before going in with a lotion -> body oil OR body oil -> lotion, whichever u prefer.
SLEEP ENOUGH ;
yes you ACTUALLY need to sleep if u wanna be glowy and gorgeous. it's called BEAUTY sleep for a reason. focus on how long you're sleeping and the quality of rest that you're getting. aim to sleep between 8-10 hours a night and improve the quality of ur sleep with the following tips.
❤︎ waking up at the same time everyday
❤︎ warm lights > white lights
❤︎ invest in a sleep spray with magnesium in it
❤︎ invest in fluffy blankets and nice pajamas
❤︎ sound baths while sleeping to have the DEEPEST bestest sleep ever
BUILD A SKINCARE ROUTINE ;
simplicity is truly the highest form of luxury and it also applies to ur skincare routine as well. you don't need a gazillion products just ones that are fit for YOUR skin type and ones that are actually effective.
skincare routines should consist of cleanser, toner, a good moisturizer, and SPF.. in that order. i highly recommend the beauty of josen SPF, it's my favorite one to use because it leaves me so dewy and glowy. i love the cetaphil cleanser and moisturizer as well.. and the toners that i tend to use are milky. i love the hatomugi skin conditioner because it brightened and smoothed my skin.
8 lil things you can try to feel better & productive!
Drink at least 2 bottles (or more) of water each day. Staying hydrated can boost energy levels, aid body in breaking down waste & help clear your skin by flushing out toxins!
Make your bed first thing in the morning - because a clean space can lead to a clean mind!
Do a quick 3-to-10-minute cardio workout 4-5x a week. Doing so can boost your mood and confidence while helping you build consistency. This habit can pave the way for exercising more often and for longer periods, contributing to your overall glow-up journey!
Meditate for 5 minutes or more. Doing so grounds you in the present moment and helps you tune into thoughts or physical feelings you might be ignoring. It's a simple way to relax and melt away stress.
Affirm regularly! Affirmations can rewire your subconscious beliefs and dissolve mental blockages. Remember, lasting external change starts with internal transformation—if you don’t trust or love yourself, you might unknowingly block the abundance you’re manifesting.
Spend more time creating, not consuming! Logging out and diving into art, music, writing, or any form of creativity feeds your soul in ways scrolling never will. It’s a chance to recharge your mind, discover new passions, and find fulfillment in making something truly your own.
Go outside, boo! Yeah, sprawling on your bed sounds super tempting (I get it), but we need sunlight! Take a small walk around your neighborhood, visit a park, or simply sit on your porch or backyard. The sun's rays are packed with vitamin D, which supports strong bones, boosts your immune system, and even improves your mood. And spending time outdoors can help clear your mind, reduce stress, and reconnect you with nature.
Prioritize rest and sleep. Glow-ups don’t happen overnight—literally! While hustle culture pushes the idea of “never stop” to become the ultimate “it girl,” true productivity starts with balance. Rest isn’t laziness—it’s an essential recharge. How can we show up as our best, higher selves if we’re running on empty? We’re not machines. Rest—both physically and mentally—is the foundation for sustainable growth, glowing skin, and thriving in every way.
While this post was originally written for me, I hope these tips inspire or help someone else on their journey too. Remember, the most productive thing you can ever do is prioritize yourself. Care for your body, nurture your mind, and show yourself the same kindness you so freely give to others—you deserve it. Appreciate who you are right now. Self-improvement shouldn’t come from a place of self-hate—you’re not something that needs fixing or a puzzle piece that has to fit in with the crowd. Work on yourself for yourself, because you love who you are, and want to see yourself thrive. 👑💐🩷
⋆˚࿔ 💜 𝜗𝜚˚⋆Pile 1: The Star – Six of Wands – Page of Swords.
Hi, Pile 1! Not to be dramatic, but you're going to be the person everyone's talking about. Your glow-up is amazing. Like, "Wow, who's that?" but with real people saying it, not just in your head. The Star says you've been glowing differently lately, and even if you don't notice, other people are. And more importantly: you're healing. You're no longer trying to fit in; now you're showing up as yourself, period. Then we have Six of Wands, and that's public recognition, applause, people saying "you deserve it" even though they didn't even notice you before. You might start getting more attention on social media, get invited to something important, or simply become that person who walks into a place and makes everyone's head turn.
And with the Page of Swords, you're fully engaged. Learning, asking questions, researching, and putting together your next move. You're not staying silent or waiting for validation to come on its own. You're taking the microphone and saying, "I have something to say too, and I didn't come here to say it quietly."
So yes. Prepare to be looked at, because your era of influence, charisma, and being more visible than ever is coming.
⋆˚࿔ 💜 𝜗𝜚˚⋆Pile 2: The Empress – Knight of Wands – Queen of Pentacles.
Hi, pile 2! This pile is pure bad bitch energy. Your glow-up is coming from the outside in, and vice versa. Meaning: your style, your vibe, your confidence, EVERYTHING is coming into sync.
The Empress tells us that you're entering a deliciously attractive phase. You're taking better care of yourself, treating yourself, investing in things that make you feel rich even if you're in your pajamas. This glow-up isn't just about looking good: it's about being that person who looks good because they feel good. With the Knight of Wands, it's clear you're letting go. It could be with your clothes (new style! Colors you haven't worn before!), or with your way of moving through the world. This card says: you're going to try new things and you won't care what anyone thinks. An extreme haircut? A dramatic outfit? Pinterest accounts with names like "CEO core"? Whatever, it's going to look spectacular. And the Queen of Pentacles is here to remind you that this glow-up is also practical. You're going to want routines, habits that last, and a steady investment in yourself. Your aesthetic becomes iconic, but with purpose. Beauty with charm, just like you ;). Glam with substance, you have TASTE my pile 2.
⋆˚࿔ 💜 𝜗𝜚˚⋆Pile 3: Death – The Hermit – The World.
Hi pile 3! Let's see… if you chose this pile, come here for a hug. This glow-up doesn't come lightly, so to speak. This is the one that shakes everything up to build something REAL. And yes, it can be scary. But it's also a blessing. Death opens this reading, that version of you that adapted too much, that accepted crumbs, that doubted all the time… it's no longer valid. You're literally going to close cycles that have been hanging over you for a long time: connections, dynamics, ways of seeing yourself. You won't do it from drama, but from clarity.
And of course, The Hermit appears, because a stage of looking inward is coming. You'll want to turn off the noise, stop comparing yourself, and really listen to yourself. You may isolate yourself a little, but it's not depression; it's silent spiritual reconstruction and reinventing yourself.
And then The World. Your glow-up comes after the earthquake, and it's glorious. You'll feel whole, new, stronger. It may come with a complete change of look, environment, even city or community. This isn't a glow-up for others, it's for your soul. And yes, you always deserved it. Enjoy pile 3 <3.
⋆˚࿔ 💜 𝜗𝜚˚⋆ Thanks for reading and let me know if it resonated! ⋆˚࿔ 💜 𝜗𝜚˚⋆
do you know how many people are waiting until next year to glow up and actually start to become their dream self? now just think, if you started now, before 2025, how far you would be. how much more skills and knowledge you would have. you're literally getting a head start. so what are you doing dilly-dallying until 2025? heres your guide to ending this year accomplishing everything you need to and starting 2025 with everything you need.
in this post i will include mindset shifts, how to become a better person, actionable advice, actually becoming a new person <3
👑know what you want.
who do you want to become at the end of this year? what does your dream girl look like? what kind of body does she have? her clothes? who are the people she hangs out with on a daily basis- friends?
create a very clear version in your head and use pinterest to show photos of what your goals are- for ex: girls at the gym, journalling, writing, studying, reading, learning, walking, with friends, spending time outside, going swimming, playing sports, doing a skill/ hobby.
you can also find an idol/ an inspiration- a youtuber, influencer, parent, anyone who you look up to and want to somewhat have a similar life like them. (for ex: thewizardliz, tam kaur)
whatever is important to you this goes hand in hand with the next point:
👑goals.
any unfinished projects, any goals you said you'd do in the beginning of the year, get them all down on paper. if you've finished any of them, great!- tick them off. but if you haven't then its time to lock in. pick the ones that are most important to you. that you know that achieving these will 100% get you closer to your goal. doing this makes sure you get rid of the ones that you think are "productive" when in reality they just help you procrastinate.
finish any unfinished projects or books you have before the new year begins because 2025 is about bringing in new, fresh opportunities and things. for me personally, i have a few crochet projects that i want to finish before the end of this year so i can start the new year with nothing old from the year before!
👑cutting.
you are going to be becoming a new person- new mindset, new values, new perception on life, etc. the people in your life currently probably won't align with this new version of you. because if the people around you still only know the old you, your growth won't happen because it will feel extremely unnatural without the right people around you. this means you're going to have to decide whether you are letting any of your friends go. if they don't serve you or make you feel happier or bring in any value to your life, im sorry but its time to cut them off.
but of course if you actually have good, kind, loving friends who grow with you and support you all the way, keep them. the goal is to remove the people who don't serve your highest self. not remove the people who you know will be there for you.
but along with this, if you notice that those people are acting a bit more weirdly/ strangely now that you're improving- giving you backhanded compliments, talking about you behind your back, or just giving you a weird vibe in general, trust your gut. those people don't want to see you going to a higher place where you're thriving- keeping them in your life can be terrible for your highest good.
remember that doing this doesn't mean that you're not going to get better because BETTER ALWAYS COMES. god will give you more people who you couldn't have ever dreamed could be so amazing. so never keep toxic people in your life out of fear that you'll be alone forever. (remember: 8 billion people in the world.)
👑mindset.
dont wait to change your mindset only once you achieve the dream body or the best grade- start now. people can take away everything from you but they can't take away your mindset, skills, and knowledge. here are some mindset shifts to develop:
the abundance mindset.
know that everything happens for your highest and greatest good only! everything will work out in the end for you because God hasn't put you on this earth to suffer. if you are religeous (God) or spiritual (the universe) or even believe theres a higher faith, why on earth would you willingly believe that your purpose here is to have a bad time? obstacles will come your way and you will make bad decisions and mistakes. but all these jsut contribute to the person you are today and the person who you'll be in the future!
i will make it.
believe in your vision and yourself so fiercely that you know in your bones that you will achieve your goals. you will travel the world and discover new places, you will get to retire your parents, you will get to buy expensive bags for your mom, you will be that rich sister/daughter/ wife, you will help people around the whole world, you will have people around you who love and care for you, you will achieve whatever dream you had since you were a kid and whatever dream you have right now. you will you will you will!
know this so strongly but also know that i will achieve there one day, but i also am so blessed and grateful for the life i have right now! i have so many privileges and such an amazing life that i would never trade away for anything.
growth mindset
if you fail, IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. please stop being afraid of failing, be afraid of never trying!! you have no idea how freeing failing is because once you do, then you'll never have that "what if" in the back of your mind, never have that small voice asking what could have happened if you had done that thing. so if you do fail, perfect! that means that you won't waste any more time wondering what would have happened.
having a growth mindset means that you know you're human and you'll make mistakes, but that doesnt make you a bad person and it doesn't take away your capability to still accomplish your goals. if you fail be able to brush it off, and keep trying again and again. Thomas Edison had 1000 failed attempts to make the light bulb. yet he learnt from what didn't work, took that into consideration, then tried again. and again. and again. and now? your probably sitting in a room with light that you have because he persisted in his goal!
stay positive
always have a positive outlook and perspective of life. look at the beauty and what you have instead of what you lack. feel happy joyful energy vibrate through you everyday. do things that just make you a more positive person in general! feeling happier makes you look 100x more attractive and will change the way you interact with the world!!
👑be a better person.
new year new you right? so its time you up level the way you talk and treat others. because the goal isn't to be A b*tch, the goal is to be THAT b*tch! so going around being rude isn't going to do anything for you. being kind however- having manners, checking up on people, asking how their day was, being charismatic, etc- thats what can get you so much more opportunities!
you're going to be kind, but not a people pleaser- ofc prioritise yourself always but also at the same time- if you have made a commitment to be somewhere for someone at a certain time, honor that commitment. be the friend you wish you had.
being mean to everyone just because you were hurt by someone else is not it. yes, so you were hurt. grow, evolve, heal. you're stronger than this. you're stronger than you think. you can overcome anything and you can become an even better person, capable of loving fully and wholly!
misc tips:
change what you consume. start watching thewizardliz, tam kaur on youtube. have an inspiration/ idol to look up to in life.
workout. i dont care if its not one of your goals to have a fit body, but don't workout for that. workout because you love yourself. because its actually proven to make you happier, because you deserve a healthy, fully functioning body.
DRINK WATER. do you know how many benefits something as simple as that has? clear skin, unchapped lips, better digestive health, weight management, better health, feel more alert and energized, better for immune system, increases brain power, eliminate toxins, ETC ETC!
have a morning routine that literally sets yourself up for success. stimulate your mind with reading self help, learn something, study, focus on a skill, do something that makes your mind active.
journal & check in with yourself.- document your progress! write about how you felt after everyday. did you feel esp happy during anything? do you feel satisfied at the end of the day? or do you find that your day made you feel tired and drained? do you feel regret and wished you did more at the end of the day?
diary- links with the earlier point. document the day. you can write about it, or what i also like to do is video myself yapping to the camera. talk about whatever you want and let your mind wander free!
you are that it girl! dress the part, smell good, make yourself feel so good that you just can't help but feel like you can conqure anything!!
make sure you're consistently reminded of your goals. what do you want? why do you want to achieve it? reminding yourself of your goals will actually motivate you and make you stop procrastinating. for me its that i don't want any old projects or books having to continue into the new year so i've made a plan that will definitely get it done before the next year!
He already deals with testosterone all the time, with stress and tension... they are biologically prepared for conflict... The masculine man is dominant, strong and a provider...
He takes the lead because that's how he feels useful. He likes to provide and protect because it makes him feel needed. But no man feels like doing that for someone equal or stronger... Therefore, men look for something in women that they lack.
He is looking for a woman capable of bringing order, beauty and peace to his life. And when a man finds a woman like that... he goes to great lengths to win her over. And to live this there is no other way than to become more feminine...
The woman's sweetness nourishes the man. It is cultivated on a daily basis, it is not a technique that you use for convenience. People can tell when you're pretending, especially because it becomes that thing that's forced and not at all natural... no one can keep that mask on for long.
A sweet way only enchants when accompanied by loving gestures, a warm look and kind attitudes, what you do for others... That's why sweetness must come from within... it's the outside that reflects the inside - never the other way around.
If a woman only feeds on negative thoughts, it becomes much more difficult to be sweet, because that's not what she has within herself... there's no way to give someone else something that she doesn't even have within herself... you know? It's a natural process...
A woman can only be feminine and sweet when she dedicates herself to seeking the truth in her life, when she makes an effort to cultivate the virtues she needs and is able to authentically express all the beauty she has cultivated within herself.
