#peoplepleasers

[carboninclusions]

When the people pleaser learns to develop strong boundaries and protect their peace, they just become angry. Because we see how many people try to manipulate us. So just ignore us if we threaten to fight you.

[blk-worth]

[memeboytrash]

YOU WOULD TELL ME IF I WAS BEING ANNOYING RIGHT?????

at the very least I need you to know that I care enough that I'm trying not to be annoying

Or maybe that makes me more annoying

I'm sorry:'(

[notmyrodricksworld]

Made a lil edit with my new friend on my hot gurl walk🫶🍃

[pampam003]

I’m the type of person who says *sorry* all the time

And I just realized why I feel extremely sad when I make a mistake.

Warning! ⚠️ May contain triggering stuff about childhood memories (nothing to harsh but I talk a little bit about my childhood emotional neglect)

Everyone is kinda trying to please everyone right? But sometimes it gets to a point that is really not that pleasing. As a people pleaser myself, I’m always trying to make everyone happy , to make everyone feel safe and comfortable, and at first this all seems ok “she’s a good person” people can think, but my closest friends and family know that when I “fail” or “disappoint” them I get really really sad , and start apologizing thinking I’m the worst and getting into self destructive conduct.

And believe me when I say I try every day not to cry with little things , to don’t feel bad for things I can’t control that affect others, but I always feel bad, why?

I had a “problem” today, and when I asked them “I’m sorry for stressing you out”, and they said “I’m not stressed , everything is ok, you are the one that is stressed”. I’ve been told that many times before , but this words came out fast when I vomited them:

I don’t want you to feel bad about it so please tell me and I can change everything.

And as I said those words they looked me in the eyes , and gave me the most relaxed looked , like saying “there is absolutely no problem”. It was a reassuring expression but I felt bad.

WHY ? They left the room and I replayed the conversation. And I realized that if they if I was the other person I would have appreciated more the concern and said “thanks for caring but it’s ok” or something like that. I want people to treat me like that, to apologize to me , to say thanks. And I felt sick , cause no sane person feels bad for these type of things, but I do. Because I don’t want to force people into that.

Then I realized that the real reason behind all of these , is that until a few years ago, people didn’t apologize to me when they hurt me. That people made me apologize for making the tiniest mistakes, when I was just a child. Because every time words hurt me, every time people let me down, I wanted them to care and to think how would I feel , when they didn’t. After all I’m just trying to prevent that from happening to others , but at the same time it hurts because I now do it too much and expect it in the same amount from others.

I love my friends, and it’s not their fault. But sometimes I wished they cared a little more , because sometime I’m still that little girl that wants to be taken care of.

[tofu-raven]

boundaries

boundaries are bittersweet. they encompass how it feels to breathe in winter air; so cold that it stings, but the smell of earth is intoxicating. they're difficult to set up, especially as a people pleaser. i saw a quote today, that said something to the effect of "stop waiting for permission to be who you want to be". it has agitated my brain all day, wondering if i'm truly the person i want to be, or if i'm waiting for permission. i looked in the mirror today, and was pleasantly surprised. i look different. like someone who speaks their mind, and isn't afraid of being disliked. i've done many small things throughout the day to build up boundaries, and keep the ones i've already carefully accrued. i finished my schoolwork instead of meeting up with a friend, i spoke in a more matter-of-fact way, and (as insignificant as it sounds), i did not speed when cars were approaching me, nor did i look back. i am sawing away at my safety net; each loose strand bringing me closer to who i'm meant to be.

[avacrisa]

There is saying love is about giving and expecting nothing. If you see your love is being misused against you or any other person stop giving that love asap.

Avacrisa

Disclaimer: This is my opinion I may be wrong.

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