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The Boyfriend Backlash of 2025 by Ophie Dokie on YouTube
Bi women love our lesbian allies (sapphic solidarity!) and this is a great watch. There's no excuse for bimisogyny and this is what I mean when it say it's important for lesbians to speak up when they see this kind of rhetoric (as well as transphobia/transmisogyny).
it would be funny if they switched a little post train
was reminded of this post and the fact that i intended min to respond "we're chicken choice judy"
petition to relabel "strong sense of justice" in autism and adhd to "strong personal convictions"
Friendly reminder that me choosing not to date men / be involved with men anything beyond platonically, does not mean I donāt love being bisexual. I have an issue with men, not my attraction to them. There is nothing wrong with my attraction, thereās nothing wrong with myself, thereās nothing wrong with my bisexuality, thereās just something wrong with how too many men can be hurtful, thatās all. I love that Iām attracted to all genders, yes this includes men, I donāt want to change a thing about my bisexuality. Am I happy that Iāve cut off men? Yes. Do I wholeheartedly support my fellow bi sisters who have bfās? Yes. Just because I have a bigger soft spot for women and enbies, does not mean I donāt still thirst over Gambit from X Men!
Gorgeous bihet flag made by @asepride-archive !
DO NOT LET SOCIAL MEDIA TURN YOU INTO AN AMERICAN
As an American: Seriously, please donāt
ok well i don't
"Americanization" is a real phenomenon, and how non-Americans should be cautious of it is taught in different countries at school. It's taught in Greece and people from other countries told me their elementary or middle school teachers (using the American grades, to make it make sense to the majority on the site) talked to them about it.
It's common sense here, except for USians, so I'll analyze it a bit more for the dominant demographic here. In a globalized setting, the most dominant culture affects the others and sets the trends. The way our language works, how we think, our levels of politeness and intimacy, and our levels of respect. (flash news, they are going down š)
I don't want to imply that there is nothing good in the US. There are plenty of positives in the country. It's just that for the rest of the cultures online it's a constant daily fight to not forget our roots, with the degree US media and brands have permeated our lives. In Greece at least we watch more US American media than Greek media nowadays, and many of our shows are rip-offs of USian ones, with little adaptation to Greek reality and culture.
And to demonstrate the amount of this exposure, a 22-year-old Greek asked me the other day "if something happens we call 911, right?" This might have literally cost them their life, in a dangerous situation! Because all the movies and songs they consumed (not an unusual thing for the Greek youth) were what they knew. And I found a similar comment in this comment thread.
Lots of Americans in the notes failing to understand this post. It's not about not liking the US. It's not about you feeling ashamed or guilty for being American. It's not about you.
It's about American media drowning out native language media all over the world, and workplaces requiring the English language in your repertoire more and more. It's about proper translations and foreign language dubbing of films disappearing because "everyone speaks/should speak English anyway." All of this is leading to the deterioration of native speaker groups of languages worldwide.
In my country, Dutch language courses can't find enough people who want to study the language, while English language courses are overflowing with people who want to study the language. There is even widespread distaste for the Dutch language for being crude or sounding rough or what have you. That's our native language!!! That is our culture in its purest form!!! That is knowledge we inherit from our parents as they did from theirs!!! That is how we learned fairytales and folk stories and myths!!! That is the language that shapes our communication and our way of thinking!!! To hate your native language is to hate yourself at the deepest level.
And yet it's so normalised. Droves of foreigners living in the Netherlands will never learn a word of Dutch, because "everyone speaks English anyway." We are the world's leaders in non-native understanding of English, but it comes at a cost. A grave cost we will continue to pay.
If you're looking to support your non-American friends in any way that is not performatively shouting "I hate being an American" into the void, first of all, unlearn that hatred of yourself and your culture. You are of no help self-flagellating, and there is a difference between holding your country accountable for its issues, and denying yourself your culture because your country is doing and has done bad things.
(I am not going to get into arguments about whether or not US American culture exists. It does, and if you think differently you are welcome to change your mind.)
Secondly, learn about other countries. Learn a bit of Chinese. Take an interest in the Italian political system. Ask your friends about their countries' folklore. Watch documentaries about art from Nigeria. Absorb information that is not fed to you by American media.
And thirdly, quit expecting your non-American friends to communicate in a way that appeals to you. The French and Dutch will always seem rude to you because our way of communicating is far more direct than the way you communicate. People from other cultures may seem vague to you because their way of communicating is far more indirect, and you're not used to that either. Quit being frustrated when you don't get what we mean exactly. Quit assuming we mean the absolute worst thing you could imagine just because you didn't get what we meant the first time. Ask us to explain if you need us to, and learn to accept that we are different from you.
We are already adapting to your culture 100% of the time we are online. It's your responsibility to adapt to us, too. At least do your friends the courtesy of learning about and adapting to them.
We are already adapting to your culture 100% of the time we are online. It's your responsibility to adapt to us, too. At least do your friends the courtesy of learning about and adapting to them.
things that are nOt okay:
going through your childrenās things (phone, journals, backpack)
talking badly aBout your kid to other people
insulting your kid both to their face and behind their back
āthis is my house you have no privacyā
hitting your kid
compare them to other kids
ā¢ telling your kid youāre doing them a favor by providing the essentials (food, clothing, education, etc)
insinuating that your life path was made worse by having your kid.
i can't be the only one who's just straight-up ... bored with women hating themselves. my mom keeps lamenting to me how upset she is about her gray hair. my friend stares at her laugh lines every day in agony. my sister loses sleep over the horrible unbearable thought of looking fat. and every time these women i love open up to me, i can't help but think ... then stop staring at yourself? stop drowning yourself, narcissus, and just fucking live your life instead of sitting in front of a mirror obeying cosmetic corporations' lies. just stop it. this is getting ridiculous. you're too smart to be falling for this bullshit. "oh no but these men who hate women told me that if i'm ugly i'm worthless!" girl if you actually believe that then good luck. but i am getting worse at being supportive of people whose nonsense worldviews keep them trapped in pain. stop looking at yourself start fucking living i am pleading you deserve to be happy and it is stupid that you disagree
Someone in the comments said "you really said just stop being insecure" and yes :) make an effort to stop spiralling about your looks, challenge insecure thoughts and stop doing things that lead to you feeling insecure.
I always come back to this: Do your insecurities match your morals?
Do you truly believe that having belly fat makes people disgusting? That the media should have final say on how you feel about yourself? If you don't believe it and there is a mismatch between your moral beliefs and your gut reaction to your appearance...
Then yeah. Stop being insecure. It's work but it's worth it.
Promoting @sarkywoman 's tags as that's a perfectly distilled mantra:
I am not the exception to my beliefs
youre monogamous? ohā¦ itās ethical, right? ethical monogamy? okay good for you! i mean pretty much every monogamous couple iāve met didnāt work out but maybe you guys will beat the odds! haha. so is it a sex thing? you guys have sex with- just each other? huh. how does that work? i could never do monogamy, iām too jealous, iād worry my partner would leave me for someone else instead of dating us bothā¦ how do you deal with the jealousy? is it hard? like, how hard? extremely? do you think youāll break up? i mean in the long run these things rarely work out,
i need people to get it through their heads that bisexuals do not actually benefit from hetrosexual patriarchy because no queer or trans person can benefit from hetrosexual patriarchy. i need people to understand that the claim that "bisexuals can live straight lives" is a statement that is technically true of any queer or trans person. a gay man "can live" in a lavender marriage, as can a lesbian. any gay person can, if they choose, live in the closet or live a "straight" life. someone very close to me is a closeted trans man, and he has chosen never to come out for personal reasons. he will live his life as a woman until he dies because he "can". the argument that because bisexuals can experience attraction to the opposite gender then they don't meaningfully experience homophobia is crazy. it's like saying that monogamous people would all be super into arranged marriages. i could point to the many examples in history where gay men and women, and trans people have spoken fondly of the time they "lived as" a straight or cis person. if someone made the argument that because a gay man, lesbian or trans person experienced some degree of Not Shitness while they were closeted/not out then that means they have some form of privilege? you'd immediately clock that as homophobia/transphobia!!! yet people think this is an okay thing to say to bisexuals. it is EXHAUSTING, especially as someone who has experienced homophobic harassment as a bisexual, to hear people falling for the psyop of "bisexual privilege". it's not real!! you're just assuming all bisexuals would be happy in the closet!!! you're assuming all bisexuals are cis!!! you're assuming bisexuality is privileged the same as heterosexuality when there's decades upon decades of data and testimony that prove otherwise. all people are doing when they engage in "bisexual privilege" rhetoric is rebranding the VERY old religious homophobic notion of: if you never act on it, you won't be damned to hell! it also very much gives "don't ask don't tell" rhetoric, which again, is just homophobia!!!! simply being bisexual does not give anyone privilege. i can't tell my homophobic family members i'm bisexual and they'll be fine with it. i don't flash a bisexual card and magically get less harassed. my friend who converted to evangelicalism didn't decide that because i was bi she wouldn't cut me off like all her other gay friends. i am cut off, i am harrassed and i deal with homophobia from people almost every day - as do all bisexuals. stop telling bisexuals, they have some kind of advantage because they can enter into "straight" partnerships as if a) that isn't true of literally anyone and b) as if being in a "straight" partnership is automatically empowering and safe and a privilege at all. maybe instead of equating bisexuals to straight people because you know nothing about queer history or culture, you should read some books and also maybe start caring more about actual systems of hetro-patriarchy and how it makes everyones lives suck rather then like idk telling lies about bisexuals you made up out of boredom and spite
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I meant to have this out yesterday. Happy belated pride. :)
bi4les / les4bi flag <3
Tho the other bi4les / les4bi flags are so pretty, they are made by an individual person (a bisexual or a lesbian) when IMO a flag like this should be a group effort, or I am uncomfy with the OPās views, and sometimes itās both of these reasons lol! I wanted to make a new one for whoever would like to use it!
My beloved mutual @pendragon1400 and I designed this! They have a degree in lesbianism, and I have a degree in bisexuality lol :)) We chose colours that represent the bi flag, lesbian flag, and sapphic flag equally! We also made a symbol of the lesbian black triangle, sapphic violet flower, and biangles! Bisexual and lesbian couples deserve nothing but joy!
f2u! Hope yāall like it!
[the middle bottom bi4les couple is abermeyko, @nunyverse-scribeās OCās]
Bi girls cherish fellow girls. We are not confused cheaters who are stringing girls along <3
i get that americans love their cultural imperialism, but it really does piss me off that june is āinternationalā pride month just because something happened in the united states.
in aotearoa, june isnāt our pride, itās theirs. marsha p johnson and sylvia rivera are their historical figures, not ours. the phrase that āyou owe your rights to Black trans womenā is true there, but here we owe our rights to (mostly) MÄori historical figures. i have the freedoms i do because of the legacy of an entirely different set of people operating in an entirely different context at entirely different times.
But because of american cultural imperialism, most queer people in Aotearoa donāt even know our own queer history. Carmen Rupe, Ngahuia Te Awekotuku, the Dorian Society, Gillian Laundon, Georgina Beyer, and the Wolfenden Association are some of our queer history. We should know their names! we should know what they did for us! but because of the power of the american imperial machine, we donāt.
our national pride month should be july, the month that the Homosexual Law Reform Act passed in 1989. our two largest cities hold their pride festivals in february and march, respectively. american queer history has very little (or nothing, depending on who you ask) to do with our queer history. anecdotally, from my own queries, queer youth in aotearoa know more about american queer history than our own.
anyway, happy pride, americans. iām truly sorry that most of you donāt see the negative impact your nationās culture has on the rest of the world. and to the rest of the world reading this, try searching for your own country and cultureās queer history, donāt accept the american narratives as your own. we deserve our own histories divorced from the cultural hegemony of the USA.
this post is closing in on 10k and itās really quite enlightening reading through the notes.
the most frequent reactions are from people from Not America agreeing that the cultural force of american pride has detracted in some tangible way from their knowledge or recognition of their own history. thereās so many links and references in the notes now, for so many different places. i had a scroll through some of them, that i could find versions of in english. the world has such a rich queer history, and i am inspired by all of the people saying theyāre going to go and research more of their own histories. there have been resources shared from all six permanently inhabited continents (none from antartica, yetā¦), including a lot (relative to the usual zero) from the regions most frequently glossed over in our global queer histories; africa, the middle east, southeast asia, the pacific, and south america. every single person whoās shared a queer historical figureās name, or a book or other source, or a historical event from their country or culture is doing an important thing by helping to dismantle the US pride hegemony.
the next most frequent reactions are from americans pissing on the poor, and claiming that either itās not their fault individually because [nebulous reason missing the point] and/or that iām racist (someone even said fascist lmao?) because the two people i mentioned were Black and latin americanā¦ itās not the fault of those two women nor myself that americans have chosen their faces and names to put at the front of their imperialist pride. cultural imperialism doesnāt have to LOOK racist! you can be unintentionally culturally imperialist and look woke! a lot of the people who do this are queer and liberal or even leftist. the problem is forcing american queer history on the rest of us. shoutout to the Black and latine people in the notes whoāve rightfully pointed out that thatās a bullshit rebuttal. Iāve also noted the autocorrect typo on Marshaās name, and fixed it, thanks for the heads up.
sort of the point of cultural imperialism is that the people doing it donāt notice it on an individual level. of course you donāt feel like youāre responsible! of course you struggle to see it when the rest of us point it out! thatās by design! if the rest of the world is saying something is a real experience that theyāve had, and you say āwell i donāt see it / iām not responsible for it,ā that is blatant denial of a very real issue.
finally, for the love of god, stop using they/them for me, a trans woman who exclusively uses she/her. my pronouns are front and centre on my blog! funny how the people calling me racist and transmisogynistic for Using Examples are also frequently degendering me in the process, huh?
anyway, this vent was never intended to go viral, i posted it on a quiet afternoon after a conversation with a friend about our queer history here. iām glad it has, though, because glossing over the americans swinging and missing, the breadth of history and knowledge being shared in the notes is a wonderful thing.
The Architecture of Biphobia (Lāarchitecture de la biphobie) by French bisexual activist Floralie Resa, is really good and everyone should read through in its entirety, especially if you're a bi+ activist or ally and want the language and facts to talk about systemic and institutionalized biphobia from the cisheteropatriarchy as well as lateral aggression from the queer monosexual communities.
Of course, no matter who you are, if you have doubts that biphobia is real or that bisexuals also experience direct homophobia/lesbophobia alongside biphobic monosexism, then I encourage you to read this as well. Her sources are well-cited and she also talks about the importance of forming mutual support systems between cis and trans bi+ women/fems given our places within the LGBTQ community as pariahs, as well as the need for bi+ men/mascs to participate in building safe, gender-neutral and trans-inclusive community spaces for bisexuals.
Recently Iāve been thinking about different components of sexual orientation, and how it is effectively formed of both internal identity and external behaviour. Itās interesting that, without a detailed conversation with other individuals, we can only assume their orientation and identity on the basis of their external behaviour, which is all that is visible to us.
For example, if someone is in a long term, committed, monogamous relationship with a member of the opposite sex, they are assumed to be straight, and their behaviour is interpreted as representative of heterosexuality. But they might be bisexual. If someone is in a long term, committed, monogamous relationship with a member of the same sex, they are assumed to be gay/lesbian, and their behaviour is interpreted as representative of homosexuality. But they might be bisexual.
In this context, what external behaviour could someone exhibit that would lead to the assumption they were bisexual, and therefore that their behaviour is representative of bisexuality? Theyād have to be engaging with the same sex and the opposite sex more or less simultaneously in order not to be assumed to be straight or gay/lesbian. How might that work?
They could be having regular sex with multiple people of both sexes (bisexuals are promiscuous, bisexuals are easy, bisexuals are sluts). They could be having multiple concurrent and short term relationships with people of both sexes (bisexuals canāt commit, bisexuals will leave you for a member of the other sex). They could be having sex with people of both sexes at the same time (bisexuals are kinky, bisexuals have group sex, bisexuals want to have threesomes all the time). They could have a committed relationship with a member of one sex, and affairs with members of the other sex (bisexuals CHEAT). They could be non-monogamous and having various relationships with members of both sexes (bisexuals canāt be satisfied with just one person).
So. In order for other people to recognise you as a bisexual person, you have to be engaging in some form of stigmatised and nonconforming sexual activity, all of which just happen to be typical stereotypes about bisexuality. The only way to be perceived as a bisexual person is to conform with bisexual stereotypes. A bisexual person who doesnāt conform to a single bisexual stereotype cannot be perceived as a bisexual person, and therefore cannot disprove or undermine those stereotypes in the mind of the person perceiving them. Because if they donāt conform to a single bisexual stereotype, they are perceived as heterosexual/homosexual, and their nice, conforming, virtuous behaviour is ascribed to that perceived monosexual identity. Even if they had previously exhibited bisexual behaviour (bisexuality is just a phase, theyāll eventually pick a side).
Alternatively, they could verbally assert their identity regularly enough to offset the assumptions others make on the basis of their behaviour (bisexuals are self-obsessed).
There is no way of being consistently perceived as a bisexual person, in the current landscape, without reinforcing bisexual stereotypes in the minds of those perceiving you, because if you donāt align with and reinforce those stereotypes you are unperceivable as a bisexual person.
And, mentioned, but none of those stereotypes are positive. All of them come down to "bisexuals are bad"
So is or you bisexual and therefore bad or you are hetero/homosexual
I think every lesbian who says she wouldn't date a bi woman is functionally on the same wavelength as men who say they would only marry a virgin
it all boils down to "penis steals women's purity" and there's literally no non-shitty way to believe that. being gay doesn't give you a get out of jail free card for being sexist
