Am I Adulting Now?

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[medusadyke]

academic dishonesty is not something you can spin as moral lol i do not want to share a career field let alone a social sphere with a bunch of chatgpt using ass bitches

[medusadyke]

"you're just scared your diploma is going to devalue" i'm afraid you dumb bitches are going to become my colleagues and drag social services to hell

[hylianengineer]

I'm afraid they'll become scientists and data that lives depend on will turn out to be wrong - and people will die.

I'm afraid they'll become engineers and sign off on bridge designs that collapse - and people will die.

I'm afraid they'll become medical professionals who don't know what they're doing - and people will die.

The assumption that academic dishonesty is okay is rooted in the idea that what you're learning to do doesn't matter.

[constance-mcentee-deactivated20]

"The assumption that academic dishonesty is okay is rooted in the idea that what you're learning to do doesn't matter."

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

my hetero married mom is turning 65 and I shit you not she’s being denied Medicare unless she changes her legal name back to her maiden name on her birth certificate

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

she’s been contacting attorneys and speaking to every possible office and administrator and I’m like mom you might want to go to the news tbh

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

she is a very mildly unusual case because she had to shorten her first name when getting married so that her name would fit on the license form in 1990 and so now she has to petition for a name change to undo both that and taking my father’s surname because MAGA hates trans people so much lmfao

[penrosesun]

This reminds me of a surreal experience I had in law school, when I learned that my law school had LITERALLY no way to change your name in the system or on your ID. I pointed out that I knew multiple people who had gotten married while in law school, and asked the person at the registrar's office what they did in those cases, and he said that he guessed that they'd just have to not legally change their name while in law school?? I asked him if this was perhaps because the law school had introduced this system back when they still expected to be able to keep women from attending indefinitely, and he got really silent for a bit and then told me that he was busy and I should leave unless I needed something else.

Btw, I've gotten a LOT of traction with conservative folks with this story when I've told it, to the point of some fairly right wing people even agreeing with the much stronger position of "yeah, and why the fuck should you need a court order just to change your name either?" It hits all the right notes of absurdity, and of the government and other institutions intrusively reaching into other people's lives, while also demonstrating that that overreach is a clear attack on people with traditional values too. I always present it as "Now, look, I know it's not as fashionable for a woman to take her husband's name anymore or whatever, but she should at least be able to if she wants to, right?" and I don't even get people trying to argue slippery slope about it, most folks we just jump all the way onto the "preferred names are an issue of freedom" train.

Which is all to say that yeah, your mom should absolutely go to the news about this.

[nosimpincurly]

You’re not depressed. You just need $250,000 in your bank account.

[catherinebunnington]

Reblog to materialize $250,000 in prev's bank account

[bethanydelleman]

My dad raises grass-fed beef cattle and I help him sell it, mainly by maintaining an online presence. For a while, I kept having the most ridiculous conversations with people who I assume were marketing students. I didn't want to be rude so I'd try to let them down gently but this one guy just kept insisting that with his magical marketing skills he could grow our business.

What he could not seem to comprehend is that we could not grow our business, at least not without significant time and monetary investment. Cows take two years from pregnancy to the size that you can sell. If we buy adult cows, our margins become razor thin or even negative. Even if we somehow could acquire some cows, our barn and hay fields are already near maximum capacity. Renting another field would be relatively easy, building a bigger barn not so much.

Cows are living animals, they aren't widgets that can be produced infinitely. Besides that, many businesses inherently cannot grow, because if they do they'll become something else. The delicious bakery down the street cannot produce much more than they do, if they began mass marketing and production they'd eventually be selling the equivalent of Twinkies. We grow grass-fed, organic beef, if we expanded how long would that last? Eventually we'd become the very factor farms that we hate. Some things can only ever be made on a small scale and they are usually the best things.

But also, what are they teaching them at marketing school and how is it so disconnected from reality?

[lew-basnight]

People kept trying to do this to my petcare business. “Let us build you a website! Let us buy you some ads! Let us print you flyers and cards!” I have exactly as much business as I can handle, and I’m happy with that. “But if you expand you could hire other people to do the work and pay them less, and raise your prices and eventually you can work from home!! Let us help you!” I’m doing this because I like playing fetch for a living, I like being outside moving around all day every day, I like spending time with each animal separately, I like being trusted by my clients with the keys and codes of their homes, it makes me feel proud. None of what you’re offering me is what I want. I don’t want a dozen miserable contractors who I pay 40% of each visit, I don’t want to try and wrangle and hire and vet people to do the part of my job that I like for me. That sounds bad. That’s a bad idea. And they looked at me like I was speaking an alien language. “But… website!! SEO! Ad buys! Targeted coverage! Constant growth!!” I don’t want any of that in my life it sounds fucking awful

[stjohnstarling]

One of the cruelties of capitalism is that if you want to do work you’re good at and love, a lot of the time your only option is to enter into some kind of business, and as soon as you do that, all the structural incentives of the system start trying to pull you away from the parts that you’re there for (i.e. the things that make life worth living) and towards various kinds of exploitation. Anyway, this also applies to writing and selling novels.

[thehappysatan]

I agree with OP down to my bonessss. The best things are done with pasison by artisans, who deseve to be compensated respectfully, but aren't into their work from a place of greed or whatever misguided capitalist-brained bros think 'efficiency' is.

I'm plenty efficient, at getting things done the way i intend to.

i described to my econ-brain-rotten brother how i run my tattooing business and got the same responses as above.

It's like he absolutely didn't hear me when i explained the nuanced reasons i even started doing this work; I started tattooing because i was tired of the isolation of my (at that point) decade-long career in the animation industry. I was sick of my best work rotting on hard drives in shut down studios, of never getting to see anyone interacting with my art.

Moved to a big queer city, where my community got me started: queer tattooers patiently shared information and resources with me. early on, friends volunteered to let me experiment on their skin. Then they started offering to pay for materials, then more. Then they brought their friends to me...

I have a beautiful community of people who know me from the drag scene, from the poetry and writing scene, from the techno scene - and all these ppl come to me because they know me, met me, trust me, because they felt comfortable in my presence.

I only have like 1200 followers on my tattooing Instagram - which rly isn't a lot for a tattooer. But i stay busier than some ppl who have more followers - and im pretty sure that it's because 90% of the ppl following me have actually met me irl. I don't give out my info to just anyone. I have to have a nice interaction with them - and they with me - and i basically invite them to get to know my work, if i think they'd be interested, if they seemed excited about it.

I built my business out of love and care, and connection. I built it because i wanted more of these things in my life. I am making what i wanna see in the world.

Im deeply proud of what I've accomplished as a tattooer, exactly because i stuck to my own beliefs and built a business that is fully customized to me, what im excited about, my abiliy and disability levels, and my philosophical values. This part of my life is all mine, crafted and chiselled just how i want it.

I don't like getting up in the morning, so my sessions never start earlier than 1300. I have a hard time focusing alone + i wanna empower ppl who aren't artists to play with art + help ppl practice and engage their decision making and request making skills - so i design the tattoos with them sitting right next to me, being part of the art process. I don't like doing math and counting so i give my clients a sliding scale based on project complexity, and they get to choose how much they pay me. This also doubles as a way to give ppl more agency in the process of getting a tattoo. Etc etc it goes on and on - every aspect of the process is considered and phislophically and emotionally calibrated. I love what I've created and i love giving the gift of a well-crafted thing......

And after hearing me explain all that, my brother said my marketing wasn't efficient and my business isn't scalable...

I dunno, i think smtng abt capitalism legit gives ppl brain damage or smtng wtf

[thehappysatan]

@asmadasthehatters you can't leave that in the comments, buddy

[heymerle]

There's this assumption, in marketing and in business for the last 40 or 50 years, that growth should be unlimited.

That exists in the real world, and it's called cancer. It will kill whatever it's growing in.

[alenseress]

[winter-angst]

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i love halloween

[bellybuttonblue2]

[minmaneth]

just sayin'

[liberalsarecool]

This should be taught in school.

[certifiedgirlthing]

[somedayourocean]

there's a reason this ISNT taught in school. it's because they want you to believe that your struggles are your fault and not the fault of the ruling class hoarding all the wealth

[communist-hatsunemiku]

I think being autistic has made me realize how extremely hostile the environments we have designed are. And I don't mean "this environment is uniquely hostile to me because I am autistic" I mean that even normies are just existing in brutal, stagnant spaces, they have just internalized them as normal. We could have it all, we could live in such a beautiful and fascinating world, designed by humans and for humans who actually enjoy life and it's complexity and wonder. but even now it's like, seen as kinda hippy-dippy bullshit to have "excessive" indoor plants in a workspace or something

[doctoraxiom]

There's a level of abstraction to "autism exists on a spectrum" that most people don't realize- most "neurotypical" adults will exhibit autistic behaviours when sufficiently overstressed.

Just because their threshold for certain stressors are an order of magnitude higher doesn't mean that the stressors are not there.

We could build a kinder world which minimizes the stressors and maximizes the access to calming environments if we were just more conscious of it.

Disability advocacy builds a better world for everyone, it's important to remember this is the case for neurodivergence as well.

[communist-hatsunemiku]

Irt you tags, you did not miss my point at all! Disability advocacy builds a better world for everyone! Like literally!

[murderballad]

I have been listening to Unmasking Autism by Dr. Devon Price ( @drdemonprince on here btw) and he put words to a concept I've been kind of impotently slapping at for years, which is that there's no such thing as a "neurotypical." A neurotypical isn't a person but a framework, a lens through which we view society, a standard that no actual individual person can ever truly meet.

There's some resistance to the idea because we all hate hearing "everyone's a little autistic." We hate hearing it because we know where it comes from--it's a dismissal, it's not rooted in disability justice. But the phrase itself in the most literal sense? It's kind of true! Autism is not a straight line with a distinct origin and termination point, it's a bell curve.

[imaanovernafs]

Teach your kids that cooking and cleaning are basic life skills. Not gender roles.

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[were--ralph]

I can't find the original post anymore so im bringing this back in 2025

[thesillytransgirlnova]

What the sneef is this

[comput3rage]

God the loss of Loki's mind is such a good catalyst for the plot of the bifrost incident. Here's one of the most immediately recognizable figures in Norse myth. You know who she is even if you know nothing about mythology because of the endless pop culture portrayals of her. You hear her name and you know exactly what to expect. But the narrative will not give you what you expect. Because she's not Loki, not really, not anymore. And that absence is felt so severely by Sigyn and Thor that even after seeing her alive they continue to refer to her as if she's dead. By the way the first thing you hear about her is that she was supposed to be dead already. By the way she was destined to die from the start. By the way Loki is a ghost haunting her own body and a gaping wound in the lives of everyone who ever knew her. Three cheers for existing as an echo of your former self! Three cheers for trying desperately to recapture memories of a life you are afraid of living! Three cheers for Loki!

[bajablastlover1-deactivated2025]

no one can break the bond between a girl and a show from the 2000s that have 40 minute episodes and 20 episode seasons

[beesintreezz]

ncis, house, svu, bones, criminal minds, the mentalist, psych, ghost whisperer, and others I can’t think of rn

[artyphex]

“There are no female aliens in our game because we don’t know how to make a female version of this alien” You know that alien you just designed? That male alien? Give it a female voice actor and have characters refer to it as she. That’s it. That’s literally all you have to do 

Make her shorter if you must

Make her BIGGER if you aren’t a coward 

[moonwatcher13]

Take your male alien bodytype, make her like 4 feet taller, give her an extra set of arms and sharper teeth, and as muscular as shit.

Boom.

[skywalkerchick1138]

[lemonsharks]

Give her natural camouflage and make the man like this

Make them exactly the same size and shape but different colors

Give him a huge flock of babies following him around to show off what a great lay he is

Surprise mPreganté

Exactly the same but one of them has a cool hat (you decide which)

Give her a sensible haircut for successful hunting while he has a big dumb mullet so big and dumb the food can see him coming and book it

Please just for the love of pie do not begin and end with boobs

[moniquill]

[tarragonthedragon]

i think every medieval timesey ren fair type attraction should have a booth of pedantry where if you wanna know if something happening is Authentic or you wanna ask questions about real medieval times or whatever you can stop by and there's just a historian sitting on a throne of books eager to show you all their research

[medievaljournalist]

theres too many princesses and maids and knights and whatever. can some of you develop a thatching fetish or something my roof is collapsing