The Problematic Nerd

I'm a nerd about problematic queer stuff! Expect fun surveys, infographics, rants, and deep dives ||| he/xe

[theproblematicnerd]

Info Post (yipee :D)

Hiya! I was previously @problematic-surveys but now I'm over here making more problematic surveys, educating and learning about queer communities online that are perceived as problematic, and overall engaging in my special interest in queer and non-conforming identities (especially ones I see a lot of discourse surrounding)

I'm basically here to be a nerd about problematic gay stuff - if you don't like it, block

Oh yeah, and you don't need to agree with me to interact, I only hope you keep an open mind and be prepared to read about all kinds of identities

Quick FYI:

Tags say nothing about me! I tag my posts with the relevant communities they're about or who I think would like the content, but personally I don't label myself as radqueer or really as any similar discourse label besides radinclus

Sometimes I label myself pro-adys/atypical dysphoria and pro-para but I've noticed that when I use these terms, people make unrelated assumptions about my views on transitioning and contact, and seem to think that I therefore support or agree with every post that comes out of the rq/transid/para tags

I'm not here to talk about my own opinions outside the fact that I believe transid people aren't lying about their feelings/experiences, atypical dysphoria is a real thing, consent is key, and thoughts/feelings don't equal action

Yay I'm sure that'll mean I get no more questions or assumed falsehoods about my personal views!

Other Stuff:

Here's my non-conforming identity infodump notion (you'll notice the radqueer page has a whole lot more on it), forever a work in progress

[theproblematicnerd]

Radqueer Infographic (covering the basics)

[PT: Radqueer Infographic (covering the basics)]

Click Here for the .txt file with image descriptions

Sources, credits, and a bit of extra info under the cut

I wanted to make this thing because I know not everyone can be bothered to leave Tumblr and head over to a wiki page, and not everyone trusts what's said by radqueers about their own label (which kinda sucks, but I see where it comes from), so here's a very objective look at what radqueer means from the perspective of someone who's just really interested in it and has spent a lot of time learning in and around the space (over 4 years in fact)

I constantly have to deal with having That Reaction (you know the one) when people get info about my special interest wrong. Because of that, I also want to eventually do a transid one, maybe a para one if Tumblr doesn't kill me, and just more posts talking about the...*checks notes*...over 34,000 words and counting I've written about radqueer alone (which you can read here by the way, forever a WIP)

Symbol Credits & Sources:

[PT: symbol credits & sources]

RQ Symbol (top left) - og flower, flower + strawberry combo RQ Symbol (top right) - I couldn't find the creator sadly but here Sparkles - all just free Canva resources May 2022 recoin TransID symbol (via Transid.org) TransID definition (via Transid.org) Paraphilia flag (via paraflags-wiki.org) Original Radqueer Coining (the most commonly linked one + the one linked on Transid.org is from a few days later: here) EDIT: This is actually the original, from 4 days before the most commonly linked one and 2 days before the one I was referencing, but there are very few differences between this one and the following one

Tags do not reflect me, my opinions are in my pinned post

[theproblematicnerd]

Trace (Transrace) Transitioning Morality Survey

Trace (Transrace) Transitioning Morality Survey

Mashael from @ask-a-radqueer and Alex from @theproblematicnerd and @nonconformityhub are working together to look at your views on the moral

Me and @ask-a-radqueer came together to make this thing!

Who can take it? anyone

What is it about? what your moral views are on certain attempts to transition into another racial identity

What will happen with the data? it's public to view and the results link is here. Either of us may also make posts about the data and things we find interesting about it!

Tagged for reach!

[problematic-surveys]

I'm slowly getting into the rq community and I've had 3 main questions for a while now

1- do radqueers inherently support pro-c paraphiles?

2- do radqueers support transitioning transharmful and transhateful people?

3- do radqueers have to *like* every label or just leave ppl alone when they don't like a label?

1- No, there's no inherent contact stance to radqueer, and the community is majority not pro-c from my findings, I mostly encounter people with more complex/'in the middle' stances

2- There's no inherent stance to this either, and most do not support actually (nonconsensually) harming anybody in the name of transition, I'm yet to see any that support that! The closest I've really seen is transharmful and transharmed people almost 'pairing up', but this is consensual Pro-transid can seem like it means supporting every transition method ever considered, but transgender allyship for example never meant supporting trans men going around and spreading toxic masculinity as a part of transitioning to a 'real man' The basic definition of it is just believing that people can feel as if they should be something or experience atypical dysphoria, and supporting the use of an identity label for that experience!

3- You don't have to like everything that's ever been tagged radqueer! In my time around it, the community has been through all sorts of phases of discourse (transharmful, winterpunk, pro-c, all sorts of transitioning discourse) and it's a big reason why we have non-community radqueers and pro-transid pro-paras who don't use radqueer (eg. me) There's also lots of discourse stances coined under radqueer (eg. other blankqueer terms) that obviously you wouldn't have to support, the bare bones of radqueer (at least the newer, more common definition of it) is just pro-para and pro-transid, nothing to do with contact, transitioning, or anything else

[problematic-surveys]

Non-Traumagenic System / Plural Survey

The Formation and Presentation of Non-Traumagenic Systems and Plurals

IMPORTANT: Please do not answer this survey if you believe trauma was involved in the formation of your system/plurality. You can have tra

Who can take it? people who are plural due to anything other than trauma (regardless of individual headmate origins)

What is it about? how non-traumagenic plurals are formed and how they present/work

What will happen with the data? it's public to view and the link is in the survey description!

Are you plural yourself? I am not! But I have a big interest in plural communities and have done for years now! I'm anti-hate towards any plural origins and I engage a lot with the community and love learning about it

[problematic-surveys]

TransID Survey about the definitions of TransID and its relationship to Queerness!

Three Questions for Non-Gender TransIDs

A three-question survey for anyone with non-transgender transIDs to find out how transIDs are best defined. Typically, they're coined in the

Who can take it? anyone who identifies with transids besides transgender

What is it about? how transid folks define their transids, whether they think they're inherently queer, and how they define 'queer'

What will happen with the data? it's public to view and the link is in the survey description! I may also make a post on the results here or talk about the results on my Notion, it won't be used to make the transid community 'look bad' or anything like that, I think that's just mean

Are you transid yourself? I am not! But I have a big interest in the transid and radqueer communities and as you can see by my Notion I love talking about it in a very autistic manner! I'm anti-hate towards people who identify this way and I engage a lot with the community, but don't label myself radqueer (tags are for reach as usual)

[radnews-the-radqueer-newsletter]

@radsaurus-q

[problematic-surveys]

Check out Radnews everyone! Super cool to see some of my writing in there

[problematic-surveys]

Heya, this is a genuine question but is it okay to be radqueer but "anti-contact" for MAPs and similar? I agree with pretty much all of the radqueer ideals, but whenever I look though the community I unfortunately see a lot of "pro-contact" MAPs... and like, obviously I support MAPs but I cannot agree with the idea that relationships between adults and minors can somehow not be inherently harmful, and that's always made me feel like I'm unwelcome in radqueer or transid spaces

This is absolutely okay, radqueer does not specify a contact stance

Some stances are louder on Tumblr or more talked about, and the community gets labelled as pro-contact all the time, but most I meet are in the complex contact range

I do like that the community is more open to different contact stances now because there was a time where if you even dared to have complicated or nuanced views on the topic then you were heavily disliked, but it's swung a lot in the other direction

You'll still find tons of radqueers with pro-c dni or that are not pro-c!

[problematic-surveys]

Anti-Transids, there is room for you to support transids, you probably already do

In light of my recent survey on transID transitioning, I also wanted to throw out some of my favourite times people who are supposedly rampantly anti-radqueer have been blatantly pro-transid and pro-transition

I call these guys anonymously pro-transid, they fit the definition but they're convinced that they don't because they mischaracterise it for a variety of reasons - there's more support out there for the concept of transids than you think!

In my hunt for anti-transid arguments I was actually finding a lot of stuff like this:

Chronosian - the first variant of an accidentally pro-transid term I know of and it's still being used/coined for despite it literally being transage with a 'disconnection from the community/term

'The making of an atypical dysphoria awareness flag

Arissomei - whilst claiming to be anti-transition and anti-transid, the coiner also states that "if your "transition" doesn't hurt others, yourself, appropriate, glorify, fetishize, or romanticize anything, you're fine!" and they include amputation as acceptable transitioning. The term lists some of the most common reasons for transidentification

Arriso- Subterms - these have started covering everything from transage and transabled to things like transvoice and transnationality. In my view there really isn't a distinction between these anymore especially as more radqueers are considering themselves non-community radqueers

More acceptance towards transitioning methods deemed harmless, especially social transitioning and self-disabling transitioning

Generally, I think anti-radqueers have moved past their weaker arguments about the trans- prefix and how atypical dysphoria isn't real (remember when that was an argument? wow how times have changed) have moved on to stretching assumptions about the community being pro-c, romanticising/fetishising their identities, pro-all types of transitioning, pro-every term ever coined that's been tagged as radqueer, so on.

In reality, they don't understand that these things are huge discourse starters in the community, which is exactly why lots rq spaces don't talk about them, because they don't want to fragment their already-small and widely harassed community any further

They also don't see that you can be pro- these identities and experiences without being pro- the community they deem as so harmful based on anecdotal negative experiences, and that plenty of radqueers have actually moved past identifying with the community

61.6% of the 112 responses my TransID-only survey has gained so far consider themselves just 'radqueer'. 15.2% are non-community radqueers, 13.4% are pro-transid and pro-para but don't use radqueer, and around 5% either consider themselves not pro-para, not pro-transid, or neither

If you support any of the terms I've listed here, there is room for you to support various transids - you already do

[spektaculouzanti-rattenmauz-dea]

chronosian isn't the same as transage because more often than not, transage people think the age they perceive themselves as is more important than their actual age.

arrizomei isn't the same as transid because transid mfs support blackface and disorder faking. bodily autonomy includes getting limbs amputated. bodily autonomy does not include skin painting which is heavily supported by pro-transid mfs as a way to transition if you're trace. bodily autonomy does not include disorder faking which is heavily supported by pro-transid mfs as a way to transition if you're transabled. also arrizomei doesn't allow for fun ids which is why half of the radqueer community identifies with transids

pro-transid mfs also support transbigot. none of the above points to us supporting anything like that.

you are blatantly making shit up to try and make your community seem more normalized. hope this helps!

[problematic-surveys]

you 👏 do 👏 not 👏 have 👏 to 👏 be 👏 pro 👏 transition 👏 to 👏 be 👏 pro 👏 identity

I'll also once again quote Arrosomei's coiner: "if your "transition" doesn't hurt others, yourself, appropriate, glorify, fetishize, or romanticize anything, you're fine!"

This is the opinion of several transid folk and pro-transid folk. What makes transitioning 'harmful' is always a topic of debate, there will never be a proper community consensus, and so being for all types of transition isn't a necessary part of being pro-transid

People are making sweeping generalisations about what "transid mfs support" or why they identify how they do without knowing anything about the diversity of opinions in community

There is no evidence I've seen during my years in the space or in any of my surveys on the community that imply that they 'mostly' support blackface, skin painting, faking disorders, or deceiving people into thinking they're 'cis'id. Nor that 'half of them only identify for fun'. Nor that they all support 'transbigot' identities and transitioning to them. You'll find a variety of opinions like you will in the radinclus community etc

If it's not in the pro-transid definition, it's not a given, and even then any new transids coined aren't automatically supported by everyone, it's more about supporting the concept of there being other forms of dysphoria and terminology for those identities

You can not like the community, you can not like calling yourself pro-transid, but you're definitely not anti-transid if you're pro-chronosian, pro-arrisomei, and pro-atypical dysphoria - there is room for you to support many transids and you already do

[spektaculouzanti-rattenmauz-dea]

"There is no evidence I've seen during my years in the space or in any of my surveys on the community that imply that they 'mostly' support blackface, skin painting,"

first poll was 30% yes and 29% unsure on skin painting which is already bad enough.

second poll was almost 75% yes to trace "transitioning", which 9 times out of ten includes skin painting

[problematic-surveys]

If you combine the for and the against on that first one, you actually get a majority no or mixed/unsure, and I've already hit that the 'majority opinions' of a community will vary depending on which sect of it you reach and how many of it you reach. I also think being largely pro-transition doesn't equate to being largely pro-all types of it

You also don't need to support the 'dominant views' of a community to support the identity it also supports, which was the main point of my post

Not sure who conducted these surveys but it wasn't me, and I was talking about my experiences not yours. I wouldn't just refuse to accept trace people if they were mostly pro-skin painting, just like how I wouldn't refuse to accept someone's religion if its followers were mostly homophobic.

I don't care about the 'mosts' in the community surrounding the identity, I care about the identity in itself and its standalone definition and experiences. Not what those experiences cause 'most identifiers' to believe in

[problematic-surveys]

Pro-Para Pro-Transid Flag

A flag for anyone who is both pro-para and pro-transid! You do not have to identify as radqueer or anything else to use it

We love a selfish coin, I've been hanging in the general radqueer vicinity for a few years now but have never once felt connected to the label or felt like a part of the community despite the things I've done within the community

I believe that the diverse experiences I've heard about are real and deserve acknowledgement, I'd be a hypocrite to say I'm not therefore 'pro' the existence of these identities as much as I'm aware of the criticism pro-transids especially get

But oh well! This is Tumblr and by definition, I am pro-para and pro-transid, so here's my silly flag that says I could say radqueer but I don't >:D

[problematic-surveys]

Anti-Transids, there is room for you to support transids, you probably already do

In light of my recent survey on transID transitioning, I also wanted to throw out some of my favourite times people who are supposedly rampantly anti-radqueer have been blatantly pro-transid and pro-transition

I call these guys anonymously pro-transid, they fit the definition but they're convinced that they don't because they mischaracterise it for a variety of reasons - there's more support out there for the concept of transids than you think!

In my hunt for anti-transid arguments I was actually finding a lot of stuff like this:

Chronosian - the first variant of an accidentally pro-transid term I know of and it's still being used/coined for despite it literally being transage with a 'disconnection from the community/term

'The making of an atypical dysphoria awareness flag

Arissomei - whilst claiming to be anti-transition and anti-transid, the coiner also states that "if your "transition" doesn't hurt others, yourself, appropriate, glorify, fetishize, or romanticize anything, you're fine!" and they include amputation as acceptable transitioning. The term lists some of the most common reasons for transidentification

Arriso- Subterms - these have started covering everything from transage and transabled to things like transvoice and transnationality. In my view there really isn't a distinction between these anymore especially as more radqueers are considering themselves non-community radqueers

More acceptance towards transitioning methods deemed harmless, especially social transitioning and self-disabling transitioning

Generally, I think anti-radqueers have moved past their weaker arguments about the trans- prefix and how atypical dysphoria isn't real (remember when that was an argument? wow how times have changed) have moved on to stretching assumptions about the community being pro-c, romanticising/fetishising their identities, pro-all types of transitioning, pro-every term ever coined that's been tagged as radqueer, so on.

In reality, they don't understand that these things are huge discourse starters in the community, which is exactly why lots rq spaces don't talk about them, because they don't want to fragment their already-small and widely harassed community any further

They also don't see that you can be pro- these identities and experiences without being pro- the community they deem as so harmful based on anecdotal negative experiences, and that plenty of radqueers have actually moved past identifying with the community

61.6% of the 112 responses my TransID-only survey has gained so far consider themselves just 'radqueer'. 15.2% are non-community radqueers, 13.4% are pro-transid and pro-para but don't use radqueer, and around 5% either consider themselves not pro-para, not pro-transid, or neither

If you support any of the terms I've listed here, there is room for you to support various transids - you already do

[problematic-surveys]

TransID Survey on Transitioning!

TransIDs : Thoughts on Transitioning

READ FIRST You MUST identify as a transidentity other than transgender to take this survey Please skip any questions that do not apply to yo

Who can take it? anyone who identifies with transids besides transgender

What is it about? the transid community's views on transitioning, highlighting transabled and trace especially

What will happen with the data? it's public to view and the link is in the survey description! I may also make a post on the results here or talk about the results on my Notion, it won't be used to make the transid community 'look bad' or anything like that, I think that's just mean

Are you transid yourself? I am not! But I have a big interest in the transid and radqueer communities and as you can see by my Notion I love talking about it in a very autistic manner! I'm anti-hate towards people who identify this way and I engage a lot with the community, but don't label myself radqueer (tags are for reach as usual)

[theproblematicnerd]

reblogging all my old posts before i delete the account woo

[theproblematicnerd]

pedophilia and zoophilia are NOT inherently queer what are you on about

I want you to re-read my whole blog and show me where it was ever implied that I think this :)

[naru-nagi-hoard]

# HYPERSPECIFQUEER

Hyperspecifqueer is when the stances you have are too specific/can change depending on various things so it can be hard to put into [ neu / pro / anti ect ] terms

* it can also be because you feel the need to explain your hyper specific views even when it is not necessary

stances are up to you of course mainly a term for hyper verbal people and people who like being hyper specific :D

[theproblematicnerd]

A message for anti-abuse radqueers and transid/para supporters:

You do not have to allow people with 'all types of different views' into your personal space to be radqueer, you can have an opinion

Your account, your server, your space is your own and you have the right to make a DNI or to voice that you don't want certain views represented in your space. You are not 'less inclusive' for having opinions and personal boundaries and you don't have to ignore this rise in pro (noncon) abuse labels being coined and used

A lot of the community may be uncomfortable right now and cautious about following accounts that don't specify a stance - you saying that you don't support pro-abuse movements is making your account a more comfortable space for those who agree with you

You don't have to be silent in the name of being inclusive of non-consent and abuse. You don't have to stand in solidarity with someone just because they also call themselves radqueer. If you want a change to be made in your community, voice that opinion

It was never in radqueer's nature to be silent on an issue you care about

[endoloris]

This, this, this, this, this. Especially this for the impressionable minds.

DO NOT let people who intimidate and bully you into silence take over your space over supposed non-inclusiveness.

This is extremely important. They will take advantage of your lack of boundaries. You are not "not rxdqueer" for having boundaries and not associating with people who believe in supposed "neutrality" or pro rxpe or non cxnsensual abuse.

Be wary of this in real life as well for other things. For example, if you're monogamous in a relationship with a polygamous person, you are NOT polyphobic for having boundaries and making it clear that you want to be exclusive. There are so many things where boundaries are crossed in our lives.

Don't let yourself be a plaything, speak to your beliefs if you are confident to defend them.

[theproblematicnerd]

?? the original radqueer label was explicitly pro-contact on attractions that cannot be consensually acted on, your community has been pro-rape since the very beginning. you can still get out

For one, I don't actually consider myself radqueer and I am not 'stuck' in the community, my research of it is part of a special interest of mine. I mostly just don't feel connected to using radqueer but part of it is because of these types of assumptions too

You can't outsmart me on this because I've been there and done that when it comes to researching radqueer. Not only can labels grow beyond their original coining, but most radqueers now follow the recoined version or don't even know about the original. The recoin got way more popular, you'll notice this is the flag radqueers almost always use. The coiner is also anti-abuse and has pro-contact dni

Here's the original coining, you'll notice it mentions contact nowhere. This is not an explicit contact stance, so even if people did still regularly refer to and follow this definition, it says nothing about their contact stance.

The original coiner made other posts on different accounts talking about their personal pro-contact opinions, but they purposefully did not integrate these into the term itself. The coiner was repeatedly terminated and the link of the archive of the original definition that gets spread around is from one of their later accounts where there are no surrounding posts. That is why most radqueers have no clue about this

[way2manyusernamez]

the version of radqueer you linked is actually not the original, this version was posted a few days before

the original version includes the line "this doesn’t mean it’s okay to act on harmful attractions, it’s just the inclusion and acknowledgement because of their inherent queerness". which i think is either contact-neutral or anti contact depending on how you interpret it

[theproblematicnerd]

This ^ the original version I linked is the one I see spread around the most and it's the version that got the most popular from my experience besides the recoin - it's also just generally more fleshed out

In the link that mentions the coiner's personal pro-contact opinions, there's the one from a few days before except it seems to be literally just one day newer than your link, it's clear they had a hard time keeping this one up and did a few rewrites. This is a good point, but I wouldn't say that makes the term inherently anti or neutral on contact since its more-used recoined version specifies nothing and the first coiner would be excluding themselves from radqueer if that were the case

It's also interesting that the later version was a lot longer and removed that line about acting on attraction!

[theproblematicnerd]

?? the original radqueer label was explicitly pro-contact on attractions that cannot be consensually acted on, your community has been pro-rape since the very beginning. you can still get out

For one, I don't actually consider myself radqueer and I am not 'stuck' in the community, my research of it is part of a special interest of mine. I mostly just don't feel connected to using radqueer but part of it is because of these types of assumptions too

You can't outsmart me on this because I've been there and done that when it comes to researching radqueer. Not only can labels grow beyond their original coining, but most radqueers now follow the recoined version or don't even know about the original. The recoin got way more popular, you'll notice this is the flag radqueers almost always use. The coiner is also anti-abuse and has pro-contact dni

Here's the original coining (and the first of several versions of it that clearly weren't up for long), you'll notice it mentions contact nowhere. This is not an explicit contact stance, so even if people did still regularly refer to and follow this definition, it says nothing about their contact stance.

The original coiner made other posts on different accounts talking about their personal pro-contact opinions, but they purposefully did not integrate these into the term itself. The coiner was repeatedly terminated and the link of the archive of the original definition that gets spread around is from one of their later accounts where there are no surrounding posts. That is why most radqueers have no clue about this