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Just watched this video and thought I'd share. Tonje Gjevjon and Allison Ellis are making a book on young lesbians (18-35) and their experience with gender ideology, and they're looking for lesbians who'd like to share their story (you can be anonymous if you want). So if anyone's interested, you can watch the video for more info:D
i have gained the boss level skill of being incredibly difficult to shame or embarrass. more women should try it. it drives everyone crazy when you’re a woman who doesn’t self-flagellate over any mistake or quirk or prostrate yourself when you aren’t perfect in (insert social role) or hedge your words with a thousand sorries to accommodate the feelings of adults who just expect you to affirm them bc you’re a woman which means validation machine. when you’re nonchalant about your mistakes instead of monologuing about them. when people realize you aren’t bully-able because you don’t give enough of a shit to give them reactions. it’s like watching infinity war in 5d to them. they can’t fucking believe it.
yes!
accept that your fear of being disliked is not only warranted but INEVITABLE. consider that as a woman you are free from this game because no matter what you choose you will be wrong and people will be unhappy with you! :)
in the event you don't know what you're doing, consider that this is genuinely your first time fucking existing and you should be normal about it.
everyone is scared. literally. everyone. of everything. and if they say they're not it's because they're too scared to admit it which makes them more scared than everyone else.
competition is meaningless because ignorance is a permanent fixture of human existence.
virtue does not automatically equal morality. kill the christian capitalist in your head. "meekness" and "patience" and "niceness" are not automatically moral behaviours just because they make someone else feel good or make you feel validated in being nice.
it is unlikely that you will kill a stranger by being rude or mean to them
it is unlikely that you will kill someone you love by being a disappointment to them
people who never get embarrassed don't live. and embarrassment makes you endearing to others more often than not. even if they tease you about it. it's a human bonding thing.
people forget people faster than you think. you're not on that many people's minds for all that amount of time. no matter what you've done. they are chronic worriers.
if you do not feel brave enough to voice your disagreement BE SILENT and REFUSE to verbally agree or display compliance. just be silent and look unimpressed. practice.
people are just as likely to learn how to behave around you from your anger rather than be offended by it. many are more willing than you or them realize to adjust their behaviour to accommodate your emotions for their own convenience.
perfection is stupid in the world of the absurd. you are not getting rewarded for doing a good job. you are just self-flagellating to an audience that barely applauds you and rewards you with more work and impossible ideals if it does. if the reward isn't catharsis or pleasure, you're playing a game without prizes.
get fucking bored of it all. be straight up unimpressed.
indulge in haterism. pettiness is not automatically immoral.
don't demonize the impulse to be mean. observe it.
know that feeling evil and doing evil are two distinct things
people aren't rational and objective judges especially when it comes to women. they know a fraction about who you are so their opinion is likely to be horribly misinformed. and even if it isn't, you are at liberty to change yourself at any time.
people can become better without you. you're not that necessary to other people's growth. nor that destructive.
failure is not unique. it's the eternal companion of people actually doing something. stop being ashamed of doing something.
whenever you're afraid of being cringe, remember we're all going to die and check in to see if that fear still matters.
you hurt someone you loved? what a completely unique human experience. i'm sure no human ever has done that before. wow. how impressive and unique that you're just so uniquely horrible because of this thing that other people definitely haven't ever done in history. (people fucking kill and rape people here, btw).
perfection will not save you from judgement. if anything, people perceiving perfection just makes them pissed at you.
perfection is a fundamentally inhuman trait.
be okay with being disgusting to other people. because even they have to shit and piss. no one can do life clean.
you don't have to pretend to be confident. be confident in the insecurity you feel. stop "fixing" your feelings. just say "yeah i'm insecure about so and so." and then get on with your day. just acknowledge them when they arise. you don't have to do more than that. this works with many other feelings, too.
you are afraid of being judged by the people who are literally exactly like you. ignorant, scared, inexperienced, failing, rude, mean, virtuous, etc. you do not stand out. these are your fellow stupid brothers and sisters. they aren't here to save or fix you. they're here to relate. as companions. some are better for it than others.
i can't stress enough how half the battle of becoming confident enough to do all this is just acknowledging and accepting emotions you impulsively suppress. be it anger, fear, sadness or lust. like just stop policing your own emotions. you don't have to broadcast them, but stop trying to "fix" them. if you feel petty, feel petty. if you feel annoyed, feel annoyed. if you're horny, be horny. don't intellectualize, don't deconstruct, don't demonstrate. just observe. you'll stop treating yourself like a fucking alien over time.
TLDR: everyone here is normal including you. stop catastrophizing.
ok, for those of you who don't know, jk rowljng donated £70k to an organisation of Scottish women who wanted the legal definition of a woman to be based on biological sex alone in the uk. today they had this ruled for in court.
the legal definition of a woman in the uk is now based purely on biological sex, likely preventing trans people from changing their sex on legal documents. we are still apparently protected from discrimination though.
the worst part of this is that news reports have been treating this as a good thing. jk rowling is painted as an amazing person in school assemblies. after doing not only what she does on twitter, but actively funding the discrimination of trans people.
Actually under the Equality Act (2010) retain their rights but what has been clarified is the legal definition of women
Woman meaning Adult Human Female has been verified as the legal functional definition of woman for all interpretations of legal protections for women including women’s only spaces and measures to achieve gender equality such as women’s representation in politics, business and law
This case was about securing women’s rights and legally clarifying Women as a class with rights and protections under law
No rights were taken from trans people unless you believe it is trans people’s right to undermine and dismantle women’s rights
"No rights were taken from trans people unless you believe it is trans people’s right to undermine and dismantle women’s rights"
And we all know trans activists like OP do believe this. That's why they're all so fucking mad. They wanted so badly to dismantle women's rights because they fucking hate us. It's pure hatred that drives the trans movement.
They think we don’t know their intentions
Trans activists could not have made it more obvious from the moment they claimed Womanhood for themselves
Do not start this war tumblr
GASP a female presenting ankle
It's absolutely cruel to women in general to have gender neutral bathrooms replacing women's rooms, but it's downright unfathomably evil to do this to little and teen girls, especially in schools.
Imagine being 9 and getting your first period, bleeding all over the toilet, thinking you're dying, and having your male peers in the room with you instead of just other girls who can get you cleaned up and comfort you, telling you what a period is and that you're safe.
Imagine being 12 and having endometriosis, curled up on the toilet in agony on your lunch break at school, and hearing the boys in the next stall over making sex jokes (or worse - laughing at your sobbing).
Imagine being 10 and having no way to hide the fact that you changed your pad from the boys in your grade who will then go on to tease you and say you're bitchy and hormonal if you fight back.
Imagine being 14 and trying to find a moment of reprieve from the boys sexually harassing you, only to have them follow you into the bathroom and record audio of you urinating.
Imagine being 6, just entering first grade, and having an older boy kick open the cubicle you were struggling to lock.
Imagine being 17 and having your male peers crawl under your cubicle, phone in hand, camera app on.
Imagine being 15 and having nowhere to be with just your female friends to cry about heartbreak or harassment, or even just to be with girls alone to laugh and joke in peace.
Lack of sex segregated accommodations in wartime prisons are considered a human rights violation by the Geneva conventions for a reason. This is psychological torture towards our girls. It's evil. Truly fucking evil.
are the women unfamiliar with rejection on the planet with us right now? where are the women who have never felt unwanted or ugly?
like that one post said, anyone who has ever tried to posit the existence of male only issues really doesn’t see women as human beings with feelings
Bruh every day I feel unwanted and ugly, men aren’t special
For a start, studies have shown that men have a higher self esteem than women worldwide.
Secondly, men don't know what terror is. "Terror" is not what you feel when you're nervous about a woman not being interested in sleeping with you. Terror is what you feel when you're a child bride on your first night with your paedophilic husband. Terror is when your father, uncle and brothers discuss murdering you because you've "dishonored" the family. Terror is when your boyfriend puts his hand around your neck because you threatened to leave him. Terror is when a man follows you home after you refused to answer his "hello what's your name can I have your number do you live nearby?" Ironically, terror is what women often feel when they reject men.
So here we have another case of men trying to discuss human psychology but being too self involved and misogynistic to make any sense.
i simply do not respect 'non binary' people. You worked out that gender stereotypes are bullshit but all you took from it is 'i am a special interesting third thing, unlike all you boring peasants'
okay so uh, no. you do not get to disrespect people for being non-binary.
Well maybe they should learn to respect themselves cos im not gonna 🖖
How very depressing that Neil Gaiman had trended not even a tiny bit for demonstrating what a fucking horrific person he is.
As a reminder, he's suing Caroline Wallner, one of his accusers, for breaking her NDA. Not for libel. He's saying she shouldn't have told anyone about it, not that she lied.
The author says Wallner broke her NDA by sharing her story with the media, including with New York Magazine.
He doesn't need the money. He's risking the Streisand effect. He is punishing Caroline, he's trying to intimidate other victims who have signed NDAs to scare them into continued silence.
He is no friend to women, to the LGBTQIA+ community, to anyone quite frankly unless he thinks they are of value to him.
Share the story. Put it on Facebook and bluesky and whatever else you're on. Make it clear what a horrifying person he is. Tell your friends. He's paying Edendale a fortune to try and cover this up. Make this hard for him. Make it cost him money.
so according to wikipedia, 253 space launches were achieved in 2024, including 58 crewed flights, so why is the world suddenly so mad now that an all female crew went to space? yeah i get it, it’s being framed as feminist even though it achieves nothing but still… to those talking about the environmental consequences, where was all that anger towards all those other flights last year? blue origin has been doing tourist flights for several years already. rich men were already going on useless trips to space. is it somehow just the all female crew flight that’s killing the planet?
my professor spent our entire seminar whining about how there’s too many girls in our group and not enough boys. he was like “i’m not saying women can’t be good surgeons but we need more men” no, we don’t. men suck. deal with it.
CRY ALL YOU FUCKING WANT YOUR TEARS DON’T MEAN SHIT TO ME. YOUR TEARS MEAN DICK TO ME JUST SO YOU KNOW
Okay so not to be that person who adds on to a post with their own story but my mom is a doctor and when I was eleven she took me to these all-female seminar led by a woman who was the head of a hospital because my mom is an empowered and independent woman who wanted her daughter to be the same way and so there’s like thirty females surgeons in the room, all sitting around his huge circlular confrenece table and talking about their experiences in becoming surgeons
most of them were like “everyone told me I should become a nurse or a pediatrician” and “people assume that I don’t know what I’m doing” you know, your average sexist bs
one of the women’s last name was starboard (yeah I know great name) and she was talking about how even though now she was one of the most accomplished surgeons at the hospital, the male scrub techs (read: guys who didn’t go to fucking medical school) and some of the male doctors call her starbitch in the OR because they (scrub techs mostly, strangely enough) try to suggest different ways to care for the patient and she always tells them no you didn’t go to med school and I did and so they would go out of their way to get the male doctors to treat the patient differently and then she would have to argue with him to prove what she was doing es right but sometimes the male doctor would come and take over the case anyway and this went on for a while
but then the hospital statistics changed bc this woman was literally being prevented from treating her patients bc the men were interfering and so the administrative head heard about this (she was female) and she was like y’all better stop or y’all better start looking for new jobs and then starboard was allowed to work on her patients and got the scrub techs replaced and all of the sudden, the patients were suddenly doing much better during and after surgery.
when she told this story she was like “people still call me a bitch, and maybe I am because I won’t let them walk all over me, but when you’ve got something to do, when you’ve got a life to save, you have to ignore their bullshit so that you can save someone’s fuckin life. Sexism should never stop you from accomplishing that”
and little eleven-year-old me still remembers that bc I was insecure and awkward and here was this woman who just did what she had to do and ignored all the people trying to stop here and she really was better than all the male doctors (like her patient stats were better) and I thought I should share with you this inspiring woman with the cool last name
CHOOSE FEMALE DOCTORS
Lesbians were Jojo Siwa’s biggest defenders after she received that rape threat all the while loads of bisexuals and heterosexuals were talking online about how lesbians are just traumatized and underfucked women who need dick. Now she’s proudly shouting “fuck the L” after coming out as queer on television.
I was watching a youtube video of a trial in the US: a young man who killed his father because he'd been raping him ever since he was 6. He got sentenced to life in prison because either the jury didn't believe him or they didn't believe he'd acted in self defence, whatever. I watched him cry as he was being questioned by the lawyers about what he'd endured and I genuinely felt bad for him. I believed him and was moved by his pain. I checked the comments and everybody was being supportive and saying he should be freed, but there were also dozens of comments with thousands of upvotes saying: "if he'd been a girl he would be free right now", "people never believe men", "this is why men don't come forward" and "if he was a girl it would be a whole different story." Men and women, repeating the same thing over and over again, like some rehearsed performance: women are believed more than men and they get a free pass for murder. Basically, that the justice system favours women and hastily punishes those accused of rape. Which is a blatant lie. So why do people believe it? Why do they feel the need to say it every time a man is abused? My empathy for the guy slowly vanished as I remembered that a man would never feel the same way about a woman and that men literally use other men's pain to oppress women further. There's an underlying message with it too: that men rape women so frequently that everyone believes it, which is a privilege. Female privilege. Women and girls are privileged for being assaulted so frequently that it can't be denied. And yet it is.
I looked at the corner of my youtube screen and saw the next recommended video: "Camille Vasquez's Cross of Amber Heard." In the video, Amber Heard cries much like the man I was watching just before, about being raped. The top comments all call her a liar, an evil psychopath, a bad actress and a woman who tried to ruin a man's life with false rape accusations. They're all laughing at her. You really can't make this shit up.
There is actually a new paper about bias in sentencing men who sexually assaulted minors (!) depending on the sex of victims.
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/bsl.2720
‘regardless of age, having a male victim was associated with the male offender receiving a longer sentence compared to a female victim. Moreover, the older the female was, the likelihood of receiving a lesser sentence increased, but this was not the case with male victims.’
A woman on twitter posted a comic about reporting her professor for sexual harassment and then not only did people accuse her (a 20 year old woman) of ruining his (a middle aged married man) life
But they drew porn of her being raped by said professor.
People not only DON’T believe women, but they are punished and degraded for even speaking out in the first place.
#people seem to hold two contradictory ideas about women in their heads
1. women have the ‘privilege’ of being the sex that gets raped so they will be believed by default
2. women use this ‘privilege’ for manipulation and shouldn’t be believed by default
Perfectly summed up by user flixonase
Interestingly, as I've looked more into the trial I was watching, the jury of the first trial could not reach a verdict which resulted in a mistrial. And guess what? The jury was perfectly divided by gender: all the men voted for first degree murder (= life in prison or death penalty) and all the women voted for voluntary manslaughter (around 10 years). In fact, one of the female juror said that the male jurors had joked about the defendant just being gay which, in their opinion, was how he managed to describe the sexual details of the rapes he had endured from his father.
The women suggested that homophobia and sexism were common in the deliberations. "It was hostile in there," said one juror, Tracy Miller, 27, a bookstore clerk. "There were insults, sexual comments. They tried to outshout us." Another juror, a 36-year-old secretary who spoke on the condition of anonymity, said: "We were called ignorant asses and empty headed and 'those women.' "The split was so deep, so early, that some believed that others arrived with their minds made up creating, in the words of juror Hazel Thornton, “too much prejudice . . . to overcome.” The Pacific Bell employee specifically complained that some jurors had a “bias against homosexuals.”
“There’s a possibility (of abuse), but I don’t think that would rectify the fact that they did take the law into their hands to kill their parents,” said juror Robert Rakestraw, 53, who voted for first-degree murder. “I don’t think that justifies their actions, if molestation did occur.”
In deliberations, Ms. Thornton said, she tried to turn the talks toward issues like burden of proof or the concept of malice, but the male jurors were more interested in whether the defendant was homosexual. When that issue was raised by a prosecutor late in the trial, Ms. Miller recalled that several of the male jurors showed new interest. "You could see they were really excited -- they were going to hear some real dirt now," she said. "I think they came in homophobic and with their minds made up."
Only a deeply misogynist society would enshrine the ideals that womanhood can solely be defined by a feeling in a man’s head, but cannot be solely defined by women’s biology, our lived realities (and oppressions) faced by being female sexed.
learning the backstories of any of your female relatives always amounts to taking 500 points of psychological damage and wondering if the world is irredeemably evil
oh my g-d, the man coddlers are insane.
based on the time stamp this is regarding the gaiman allegations. and op’s main concern is…how it’s going to hurt men’s feefees? like aside from the fact that most men, even the feminist ones, are already 100% self-assured that they are a good, nay the best, person (and an allegation against a famous man won’t change that, they’ll just feel morally superior that they aren’t like him) rendering this post completely pointless, how is your primary concern MEN when multiple women have been brutally victimized?
Preventing female class consciousness has been a high priority for men for centuries. The modern strategy involves the combination of the ideas, "white and/or wealthy women aren't affected by misogyny" and "there's no such thing as a biological female." These ideas in tandem really create a powerful anti-feminist consciousness in our culture-- this cannot be an accident. Women from all different backgrounds share a profound experience: being female in a male supremacist society. Do not let them convince you otherwise! Women must unite and protect each other-- our very lives depend on it.
Listen: It's a male entitlement epidemic. It's a male accountability crisis. Men aren't cruel because they can't share their feelings, they're cruel because they don't care about other people's feelings.
Plenty of girls grow up unable to express themselves. Plenty of women spend their lives isolated, lonely and rejected. The difference is that an angry woman is instantly met with men's comments and scoldings, ranging from "smile more" to "don't have an attitude". The difference is women can't tell a man to mind his attitude or he respectful without risking violence.
Men get away with anger while women are punished for it. That's the problem. Men get away with constant disrespect and blatant selfishness without ever an ounce of consequence.
How many times have you spoken to a man without him interrupting or speaking over you even once? For me, that number is 0. I have not had a single conversation with a man where he did not, at some point, cut me off and begin talking. The blatant entitlement is the problem, not their fucking feewings.
The widespread problem with men is not lonliness, it's their blatant lack of care for others.
