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hawkpartys

this image came to me in a dream

hawkpartys

guess

elbiotipo

elodieunderglass

Oh WOW

beggars-opera

Everyone in this family is hilarious no notes

ruffboi-mags

#OH. JOE HILL IS A REAL DUDE. #I did think Mr. nashville tenesee was doing a funny lol

I am cracking up so hard bc it lowkey implies Mr. Joe Hills (coming at you like he always does from Nashville, Tennessee) might not be a real dude.

homunculus-argument

There has to be a way to dress gothy and masc in a way that's also comfy. Like "clothes that could also double as pyjamas" level of comfy wear.

gromqueer

sweatpants?

homunculus-argument

Do you have tips on how to style sweatpants in a dressy, goth way?

voidkittyloona

you can get black sweat pants online from any store or goth specific stores if you want a definitive goth look with skulls and crosses or rips and shit, but to be really honest? As a goth myself, I just wear cheap thrifted shit thgat came black or I dyed black and an oversized hoodie with whatever band i like or skull pattern fits the vibe of the day. Oversized shirts and tank tops also work.

you're not gonna make them look fancy, im sorry. Casual is a genre and it clashes with dressy or fancy.

homunculus-argument

I don't want to look like I'm wearing sweatpants. I don't want my "it's illegal to be naked so I just threw some shit on" outfits to look like I just threw some shit on because it's illegal to be naked.

diddleysquin

I'm not sure why you don't already find masc gothy comfy? Can you elaborate on the sort of stuff you wear that you don't find to be the comfy stuff?

Baggy, black cargos were always the staple trouser in my circles, easy to apply stuff to and build up to be more than "just cargos" when ya want, comfy and easy to wear plane. I know you said pajamas but this was essentially our athletics wear (we were parkour kids)

As for top half, can never go wrong with baggy hoodies, personally always a fan of long sleeved, tight fitting tee under whatever else I'm wearing but that's just my idea of comfort and I know most folks would prefer to keep it baggy.

homunculus-argument

My waist is my narrowest part and I have thick thighs. For me, menswear comes in two options: looks bad, or feels bad. There are outliers that are both, and I feel like I need to clarify that I don't need anyone suggesting something that looks bad and feels bad at the same time, I specifically want the opposite of this.

Besides the comfy pants I wear at home, I own three pairs of bottoms: the zip-off goth jorts which I like but are uncomfortable, my suit pants which are good enough but are uncomfortable, and my sweatpants which are sweatpants.

I have no particular problem with shirts, they all fit just fine and none except skin tight ones look particularly bad. The problem is pants.

fulgrims-big-naturals

youre gonna want to get putees or chaps or sew in some laces to the bottoms of your sweatpants to make a cool silhouette with them. and itll look like you put effort into the look. cus. yknow. you did. some neat ones with draw string waists so they can fit over your thighs without falling down those ones. i have this problem with pants too thats why i have two (2) pairs of pants im too lazy to alter any more because i hate sewing waistbands. use belts, chains, paint edgy shit on them with bleach, you know the drill. i think changing the silhouette will make the sweatpants less obviously sweatpants the most

homunculus-argument

I think I'm expressing myself unclearly again:

My problem with sweatpants isn't specifically the sweatpants, it's looking untidy and not put together. Disguising the sweatpants to make them look like a different type of pants that also look untidy and not put together simply adds extra effort without fixing the problem.

vaguely-damp

I'm an old masc Retired Goth who hates textures and being restrained by clothes. These are still my comfy go-tos.

1) Casual, but put together: Get some black harem pants and a renaissance shirt with sleeves that taper at the wrist. To be extra fancy, throw a vest over that. Can be stylized with chains, scarves, and rings to your preference. A chunky belt will also (ironically) go a long way in obscuring the narrowness of your waist. Can also be a stretchy belt. Goth pirate vibes. Very comfy.

2) Dressy: Loose chinos. You can get kinds with stretchy fabric. Don't get the kind with a tapered ankle, or they'll just look like joggers. You can pair this with either a tunic-style top or a tanktop with a dark shawl. You might be afraid the shawl is femme. It can be, but if you style it like you're a Sith in Star Wars, rather than a white woman, that goes a long way, and it'll also obscure your waist. Belt can also be used here to enhance masc effects. Stylize like you're a Sith on a desert planet. I swear it helps.

I hope I hit the mark of what you're looking for!

cilantrhoes

dragon-in-a-fez

under US law, it's illegal for anyone who's not a member of a recognised native tribe to own an eagle feather. the penalty is a $100,000 fine.

14 years ago when I had recently moved to Alaska, I went hiking with an Aleut friend, and she pointed to a feather lying on the ground and said "hey that's a bald eagle tail feather, you should grab it!" and I was like "uhh I'm very white and that's very illegal" and she went "they're fuckin everywhere up here man. I have 20." so she grabs it off the ground and hands it to me and says "there, now it's a ceremonial gift from an indigenous person."

and I'm like, okay, cool, I guess this is how we do things in Alaska. nice.

so I keep this bald eagle tail feather around for years. display it in my home among other cherished memorabilia from places I've lived and visited, etc.

on a whim, I have just now looked it up. there is no exemption to that law for a ceremonial gift from an indigenous person. the last 7 years I lived in the US, I was technically a bald eagle poacher.

probably a good thing I don't intend to move back there anytime soon. I wonder what the statute of limitations is on bird crimes.

dragon-in-a-fez

@freedomisscaryshit I'm fucking dying I think you forgot the word "feathers" in your tags?? or do you just wish you could grab whole ass eagles that land in your yard??

emotional-support-husband

As an Indigenous person, it continues to astound me that there are such strict laws (written by White people) in our name, laws against...picking up things just found on the ground. Like, stop pretending this is "for" us. We don't want this.

dragon-in-a-fez

so, for clarity, that's not what this is. the law against possessing feathers is an anti-poaching measure, derived from a North American treaty protecting certain migratory bird species from hunting. that treaty has an exemption for indigenous people to allow tribes that use eagle feathers in ceremonial or religious practices to continue doing so.

chekhovs-raygun

i used to collect feathers (illegally) as a teenager and the thing is that it's incredibly important for feathers from wild birds to be illegal to possess because it ensures that they never become fashionable to wear. the reason we passed the migratory bird act was because the american and european fashion industry was driving species to extinction in a timespan of years. not just decades. the ecological devastation of exporting birds for hats was absolutely insane and people were watching wetlands and forests and meadows just empty out in realtime. look at the wikipedia article for the plume trade.

the law against 'picking feathers up off the ground' means that you can't go shoot an eagle then sell the feathers on etsy by saying you 'just found them'. you can't own them no matter where they came from, which makes sure that they're not going to come from any birds killed and then secretly disposed of.

these laws, as harsh and ridiculous as they seem, saved flamingos, spoonbills, egrets, and all kinds of hawks and eagles from extinction. the minute these laws weaken and people can make money off killing them again, they're fucked.

lizardlicks

this is one of those "no actually this regulation exists for a reason" laws much like work place safety and building fire codes (that Republicans keep trying to roll back) and is written in blood just like them as well. it's just not human blood this time, and the fact that people actually cared enough about long term future over short term profit to get it put in place is nothing short of astonishing. That it didn't get put in place in time to save several species is heart breaking.

hapalopus

And yes, it's still needed today, despite no one wearing hats. People will go to crazy lengths to acquire rare feathers

By Andrew Court In 2009, a college kid named Edwin Rist broke into the British Natural History museum…

caspercryptid

I would actually go as far as to say that MOST abuse is unintentional. I think most people will go through their lives without ever experiencing intentional abuse. People are abusive because they're selfish, because they're stressed, because they care more about what society thinks they should do than the impacts of their actions on their children and partners, because they think what they're doing is correct, because they've made it make sense in their own heads, because they think they can fix their victims, they think they can fix their relationships, they think they can stop you from leaving, they think they can make you a better partner to them, they think that means you need to do what they want. We've sort of constructed mental illness in a way that doing this shit to other people counts as a form of mental illness because it is anti social behavior in the literal sense— it is behavior that causes social harm.

I don't say any of this to excuse it. I think everyone needs to be more aware of this because if you think abuse has to be intentional you will never realize you are capable of abusive behavior. You will never realize you are being shitty to the people you love, because YOU know what you mean, YOU know you don't mean any harm. But you're doing harm. You need to pay attention to the impact you have on other people, and you need to do it all the time, Especially when you feel least capable of doing so. Sorry! You live in a society. Get your head out of your ass.

beardedmrbean

this sounds like a party to me

grand-theft-carbohydrates

sztupy

A German regional court has ruled that Google is directly liable for the content of its AI search overviews. According to the court, previou

ayeforscotland

Let’s fucking go

grimeclown

This is a fucking new one

tchaikovskaya

cutecipher

as a feminist i support recreational abortion

cutecipher

i have mixed feelings about competitive

cutecipher

*maddest ive ever been, eye twitching* thats baseless. its something else actually.

pronouncingitwang

at some point in your life you will be boiling fruit, water, sugar, and lemon juice in a pot to make a syrup or jam. the instructions will tell you to simmer for a certain amt of time. your timer will go off and you will look at the pot and go, "hm, this doesn't look thick enough. maybe i'll let it go for another 10 minutes." this is the devil speaking. it's only so liquid right now because it is at boiling point. it will thicken when it cools down. learn from the follies of my youth and do not let this happen to you

yokowan

at some point in your life you will be making a sauce or a stew in which you need to add cornstarch to thicken it. and you will prepare a slurry of starch in cold water and think "this looks like way too little starch to thicken this amount of liquid." this is the devil speaking. cornstarch instantly polymerizes at 95°C and if you add too much it will turn into an impossibly thick goop.

le-jardin-inculte

at some point in your life you will be making some sort of cream based dessert that requires gelatin to thicken it. and you will soak some gelatin sheets in water and think "this is too few gelatin sheets for this amount of cream." this is the devil speaking. it will thicken in the fridge and if you add too much you will end up with milk jelly

shithowdy

at some point in your life you will be baking cookies. you will take the sheet out after twelve minutes as the recipe instructs and the cookies will still be glistening and soft. "these don't seem cooked enough," you will think to yourself, "i should place them back into the oven until their edges are nice and golden." this is the devil talking. this is how you get dry, overdone cookies. the cookies will continue to bake on the warm sheet for several more minutes and then harden up after sitting on a rack for a while. trust the process. trust the process.

whitachi

at some point in your life you will be adding a small pasta to a soup and you will think "that is not enough small pasta." this is the devil talking. the pasta will absorb the stock and expand. this is how you end up with a soup that is a solid mass of soggy ditalini.

araceil

At some point in your life you will be adding garlic to a dish and you will think "that is not enough garlic." These are angels speaking. They are correct. Add more garlic.

animentality

sua-sponte-deactivated20200331

I’m watching that documentary “Before Stonewall” about gay history pre-1969, and uncovered something which I think is interesting.

The documentary includes a brief clip of a 1954 televised newscast about the rise of homosexuality. The host of the program interviewed psychologists, a police officer, and one “known homosexual”. The “known homosexual” is 22 years old. He identifies himself as Curtis White, which is a pseudonym; his name is actually Dale Olson.

So I tracked down the newscast. According to what I can find, Dale Olson may have been the first gay man to appear openly on television and defend his sexual orientation. He explains that there’s nothing wrong with him mentally and he’s never been arrested. When asked whether he’d take a cure if it existed, he says no. When asked whether his family knows he’s gay, he says that they didn’t up until tonight, but he guesses they’re going to find out, and he’ll probably be fired from his job as well. So of course the host is like …why are you doing this interview then? and Dale Olson, cool as cucumber pie, says “I think that this way I can be a little useful to someone besides myself.”

1954. 22 years old. Balls of pure titanium.

Despite the pseudonym, Dale’s boss did indeed recognize him from the TV program, and he was promptly fired the next day. He wrote into ONE magazine six months later to reassure readers that he had gotten a new job at a higher salary.

Curious about what became of him, I looked into his life a little further. It turns out that he ultimately became a very successful publicity agent. He promoted the Rocky movies and Superman. Not only that, but get this: Dale represented Rock Hudson, and he was the person who convinced him to disclose that he had AIDS! He wrote the statement Rock read. And as we know, Rock Hudson’s disclosure had a very significant effect on the national conversation about AIDS in the U.S.

It appears that no one has made the connection between Dale Olson the publicity agent instrumental in the AIDS debate and Dale Olson the 22-year-old first openly gay man on TV. So I thought I’d make it. For Pride month, an unsung gay hero.

is-the-post-reliable

RATING: RELIABLE

you can listen to the clip of the 1954 interview here and find him on wikipedia here

chirasul

there's like 10,0000,0 accounts with names like "Best Heritage Posts" and "Tumblr Hall Of Fame Posts" and "So Funny Hellsite Posts" but where's the shitty posts accounts. where's the hall of fail accounts. i want to see the worst of the worst

shitidiotloserheritageposts

heritage post

chirasul

come on man

wheelie-sick

sometimes people experiencing psychosis and/or mania will come up to you on the street and talk in confusing or upsetting ways. your job is to either have a regular human-to-human conversation with that person or politely leave. your job is not to call 911. do not call 911. you might kill that person if you call 911.

wheelie-sick

I don't even have the energy to screenshot and respond to your tags- what the actual fuck is wrong with you? "the cops are scared and rightfully so" "mental health calls are the scariest for cops" OH so this isn't about the safety of psychotic & manic people this is about piggy feelings?

and no, actually, this is not USA specific and no, actually, people from other countries should not ignore this post. police violence and sanism weren't invented in the US and they are certainly not unique to here. if you (or anyone) thinks that this bullshit doesn't happen elsewhere then you are not listening.

headspace-hotel

cops r Some Guy with a Gun

do we want Some Guy with a Gun in this situation? answer is usually "NO"

uncivilliberties

This is legitimately useful reframing. A while ago I started replacing the word "cop" in my vocabulary with "a man with a gun." It really puts things into perspective.

This homeless person is making me uncomfortable. Should I call [a man with a gun]?

My neighbor is having a loud party. Should I get [a man with a gun] involved?

There are some teenagers skateboarding. Do you think [a man with a gun] would get rid of them for me?

It makes it very clear what you're saying. I can call a man with a gun to threaten or hurt someone mildly inconveniencing me. You're not calling the cops, you're calling A MAN WITH A GUN into a situation that does not warrant a firearm handled by a volatile lunatic who will not be held accountable for his actions.

headspace-hotel

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