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Nothing is like it seems ✨ . Life as we perceive it is an illusion. We’re here for a very different reason than what it seems. The spiritual path is not about doing Aya or whatever, it’s about the awakening to who you truly are and from that place being the authentic you. It's not about choices, it’s the only path there is. Everything else is playing low-level games with your anxious, survival-driven mind - missing out on the very purpose you came here for. The chal-lenges of life like having a family, being alone, sickness or whatever are the very schools to help you to awake. It’s not about having or not having them. That's missing the point. It’s about what you learn through them so you can evolve as a spiritual being which is who we truly are. And then, all the suffering disappears and is replaced with a serene presence, gratitude and awe for life. Nothing really is as it seems and the less time we spend in the mind and the more we feel into the actual experience as a dispas-sionate observer of our material exis-tence the clearer that becomes. ✦ . . . #life #illusion #spiritual #being #awaken #disease #games #consciousness #transcendence #peace #awe #grace #gratitude (at Planet Earth) https://www.instagram.com/p/CTpgSK9sesZ/?utm_medium=tumblr

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I am your student 🙏🏻 . . . . #life #student #gratitude #depth #psychology #awakening #mindfuck #deepwork #mastery #humility #teacher #truth #consciousness #embodiment #creator #victim #ownership (at Planet Earth) https://www.instagram.com/p/CR6YSWcM_Af/?utm_medium=tumblr

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What constitutes success in life? Some reflections. . . . . #success #life #presence #authenticself #authenticity #makingit #external #internal #peace #heart #soul #mind #rationalmimd #freedom #freedomofmind #financialfreedom #suffering #pain #beingyourself #consciousness #awareness #wakingup (at Planet Earth) https://www.instagram.com/p/CRoIOcCMLUV/?utm_medium=tumblr

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1/5 Your Divinity. “You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.” — Rumi. Today is my birthday. It’s an incredible day. Not because it’s my birthday but because I’m ecstatic. At times, I have been fighting my way through life trying to figure this thing out. I can report that today I am the closest I have ever been to bliss. I don’t know of any way to convey my relationship with life in words but I feel closer to God than I ever have. I am not talking about the religious God, I am not religious. I am talking about the Oneness we are all part of. The fabric of life that connects us beyond the realm that our mind can grasp. It’s the divinity, the God that is both within each of us and the same for all of us. It’s a place of infinite beauty that cannot be explained - just experienced. It’s a place that has nothing to do with what is happening around you and everything to do with how you are relating to yourself - who you are being. It’s a place of awe, gratitude, beauty and deep humility. It’s a place we are all meant to experience every moment in our waking lives. Yet, on my birthday and in my bliss, I realise that most of the world is not in that place. That most of us are struggling whether materially or mentally. It is a constant battle and it has been for me for most of my life. I always had a very positive outlook on life and was excited about what the next adventure would bring. But I also had moments of darkness, stuckness and lostness not knowing where I was meant to go, what I was meant to do with my life. I have been torn between being successful in the conventional sense or following a deeper calling yet it wasn’t clear until recently what that really was. (Cont’d in comments) . . . . #soul #divine #you #god #surrender #beauty #oneness #thegodinyou #awakening #yourself #wakingup #awake #mind #spirit #bliss #peace (at The Universe) https://www.instagram.com/p/CRNB2t0M2so/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Total surrender is the only place to be. It’s where you meet yourself and come alive. . . . . #surrender #comingalive #awaken #life #beauty #acceptance #authenticity #peace #bliss #purpose #journey #alive #awakening #nomind #heart #love https://www.instagram.com/p/CRG1VF5MsIL/?utm_medium=tumblr

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1/3 Welcome home. Yesterday, I wrote about „your light“ and that you decide how you feel rather than your circumstances do. You are the god of your life experience. You give meaning to whatever happens and that meaning decides how you feel rather than what‘s happening around you. Later that day I shared a conflict I had with my coach. We were not meant to speak until next week but she immediately replied and said she can speak at midnight my time so midnight it was. In that call she made me realize how pathetic my message to her was. She read it back to me with her own emphasis and I had to laugh at it and to admit that I am embarrassed the way she puts it. We laughed and then we moved onto the real message: There is no maybe. There is only a hell, 100%, no doubts YES. Everything else is a betrayal to oneself and that is the very thing that is separating me, you and everyone else from the very feeling we are seeking in life. As long as I don‘t live 100% authentically and in congruence and coherence with who I truly am, I am lying to myself, I am living a lie and that‘s the very suffering we are all experiencing. The place I and you are seeking is the place of peace, serenity, bliss, happiness, contentment, free of suffering, stress, frustration, you name it. And that place exists: It‘s right there in front of you. And all you have to do is to trust yourself: To live, act and talk 100% in alignment with who you are. Not what your mind says or wants, what you want. Your mind is the enemy. It gets in the way of you living your life. It gets in the way of life taking you where you need to go. It gets in the way of you stepping into your greatest power. It gets into the way of you unfolding fully. It gets into the way of you thriving. It gets into the way of you shining your light brightly. And then it hit me like a blizzard and the scales fell from my eyes: This is it. That‘s the key to life. It‘s to be 100% yourself. To not trying to be safe, to be comfortable, to be liked, to do the right thing, or it to be easy or convenient. That’s the reptilian mind talking that wants you to survive, that wants you to be safe. (cont‘d in comments) https://www.instagram.com/p/CREPSBmM0z2/?utm_medium=tumblr

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1/3 The other day, I was sharing with friends that I can see where someone is in life just by looking at them, even a picture is enough. They were laughing and said that that is impossible. Recently, I finished reading a book called Luminous Life. A beautiful book that brings together science and spirituality around the topic of light, eyes and seeing. The author makes the point that our eyes not only absorb light but also emit light, the spark we see in all babies and few adults. It’s the spark of life and it’s the very thing I am (and you probably can) notice in others. If you want to look at the the whole range, look at a baby and then look e.g. at a recent picture of Mark Zuckerberg, the lights are out. What you see is the life energy, the enthusiasm, the peace we have in us. This is not a question of age but a question of how easily you navigate life, how much you know that life is happening for you and not to you, how present you are, how accepting you are of whatever reality is present right now. The more you see life as a competition and having to fight for your place everyday, the less you can be living from an authentic place but rather are doing what one should or must do, the worse you feel and the darker your eyes will be. I am not talking about the eye colour but your sparkle, the light that comes from your eyes. As I am moving on my own journey it increasingly strikes me that it really doesn’t matter where I am, what my circumstances are, how much or little money I have, whether I have or don’t have a buzzy social agenda, many friends, whether or not people think I am cool or not, all that matters is how I feel about myself and that feeling can be completely independent of all the stuff that is happening around me. And, seemingly paradoxically but in fact all but that, the more you feel like that, the more people see that in you and the more they will want to be around you because you are a beacon of light. It’s the place of peace and beauty we are all seeking - whether we know it or not. We are looking for this place of arriving, where life is good, we are happy and we don’t have to worry about anything, in short: … (cont’d in comments) (at Lisbon, Portugal) https://www.instagram.com/p/CRB2_RrsINI/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Day 60/61: Your mind, your prison. Yesterday, I found myself in the company of old and new friends and the topic of Ayahuasca come up. Let’s call her Anja said she would love to do it but she can’t. I asked her why? She said, it’s not for me, I don’t like throwing up, I don’t like feeling sick, etc. I responded no one does, it’s not necessarily a pleasant journey but that’s where its power lies on. We don’t learn when things are good, we learn when things are difficult, the same applies to this medicine. Then she went on to explain what’s wrong with Ayahuasca, how it is dangerous, etc. I asked her how she knows all these things and she said that she has been told and read a lot about it. I said how can you talk about something you have not experienced, how do you know? She said I know. I responded you believe you know but you really don’t. Then she said, I’m on your side, I want to do it but I really can’t. As I was listening to this contradiction that Anja was expressing in the very same sentence - even once literally saying that she wants to and the next second she doesn’t want to - I started getting tense. I have no gain whether she would be doing Ayahuasca or not yet I could not help it pointing out that she’s standing in her own way. This was not about Ayahuasca or not this was about saying I really want to and then coming up with excuses why you can’t. It felt important to point this out to her. Yet she did not want to hear it so the tension in the room increased. We were triggering each other as we likely also spoke about different things. For me it was a frustrating that a) I was misunderstood in what I tried to show her and b) that she could not see how she is holding competing beliefs that are holding her back to do the very same thing she wanted to do. (Earlier in the evening I had noticed the same competing beliefs around relationships). As things were escalating with both sides getting more frustrated and tense, … Continued in comments 2/3 . . . . #400daysofsurrender #mind #beliefs #limitingbeliefs #competingbeliefs #prison #thoughts #consciousness #wakingup #fighting #peace #compassion #energy #contradiction #freedom #thought (at Prison) https://www.instagram.com/p/CHkwhTsHKxr/?igshid=14qim36xxm1gf

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Day 51-59: Powerful beyond measure. More precisely: You are powerful beyond measure! And the only thing that’s standing in between you and living up to your potential is you. The moment you realise and embrace it, you can start to unleash your full potential which in turn will make you come alive in a way you’ve rarely or never experienced. The reality is, most of us live average lives. And I’m not saying that in a judging way but just as an observation. And what I hope to leave you with by the end of this post is you and we all can live incredibly enriching, empowering, beautiful, heart opening lives. We are all special in the best sense of the word but we get out educated and conditioned out of it throughout our early lives which leaves us not even being able to see our own inner and innate genius that we all have. And genius is not an IQ genius though it can be, it is the fact that you are unique - again in the best sense of the word not the egotistical or hedonistic one. You are unique as in only you have the combination of your experiences, perspectives, upbringing, passions, skills, even handicaps that no-one else has. That gives you a way of looking at the world like no one else. And that again predisposes you to do something better and more passionately than anybody else. And that is the very thing or the very things that you want to discover because not only will you do them better than anybody else, you will also be more passionate about them than anyone else and hence work will not feel like work. It took me two decades to find it though most of the time I was not looking. And today, when I coach people or I work on our new startup (the reason you haven’t seen many posts of me) I never work. It doesn’t feel like work. It just comes out of me. And that’s what tells me I’m doing exactly the right thing. How can you find out what to do? I just came back from a walk in the park with a new friend and this is what I shared with her: … Continued in comments 2/3 . . . . #400daysofsurrender #possibilities #alignment #purpose #clarity #genius #powerful #power #wakingup #passion #freedom #life #innergenius https://www.instagram.com/p/CHfw3JLMIK9/?igshid=1x1xdfob33eim

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Day 48-50: All you ever wanted. I just got off a call with a coaching client of mine. When we got on the call, I immediately sensed that today was not her day. She looked tired, stressed, unhappy, exhausted and there was darkness around her. 60 mins later she was smiling, even glowing. I told her she should see how different she looks. Worlds apart. What had happened? It’s hard to capture an experience in words. It’s in fact impossible. That’s what’s the difference between reading a book (knowledge) and working with someone (experience which in turn creates insight and wisdom). One is theory, one is practice. I used to confuse the two. Insight and wisdom we only gain through experience, never, never through thinking and reflecting. As I saw her immersing herself in her drama of life I stoped her and asked her to stop fighting. There’s nothing you need to achieve, there’s no place you need to arrive. Life is just this journey in between birth and death and all you want to do is getting good at flowing through it. Just like a river flows around the stones in the riverbed rather than continuously banging our head against the wall we think we need to go through. And as we flow more, suddenly there is no more wall. The more we fight and believe we need to get to a certain place so we can be happy and feel good, the more difficult and darker our life gets. The more we think and try to get it all right, the more exhausting, tiring and unsatisfying life gets. Action creates reaction. If I fight with life, life hits me back. The more I fight, the harder it hits back. Until I get the message, to let go, to realise everything is fine no matter how much chaos is raging around me, I can be that place of deep calm and peace, even e beam of light. To make this more visual: Imagine you are in a plane and the pilot says we need to do an emergency landing in the sea. The chances you’ll die are close to 100%… Continued in comments 2/3 . . . . #400daysofsurrender #trust #transformation #beauty #surrender #fight #peace #ease #love #calm #river #water #flow https://www.instagram.com/p/CHIVMjPnyN5/?igshid=dij6pao47b0g

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Day 45-47: The inconvenient truth. Yesterday, I attended a dinner of new and old friends where we talked about consciousness, truth, well-being, spirituality, the soul, life, happiness and the current crises. To all of us it was clear, given the information we have explored and looked into, that what currently happening in the world makes little sense. Today, I found myself in a WhatsApp discussion with another group of friends of mine around the current crises, sharing some of the information I have found that completely changed my perception of this crises vs a newsletter that I had written less than six months ago. As often in discussions where the camps and opinions are clearly formed, there is no point in really having them. If someone has a certain opinion they rarely or ever like their opinion to be changed by people showing them facts. It’s just not how we are wired because socially it was dangerous for a group to work if people where not reliant on terms of what they stand for. So it is something that’s deeply ingrained in us. And it’s something that creates this crisis in the first place because we are fed a certain narrative by the media - and I thought I would never say that - and it is just a narrative. We are presented cases instead of talking about deaths. We are not shown who is actually dying - which is by 99% only old people, people that are already sick, people that are already in the process of dying, people that are already in hospital, people that are above age 65 and have some health conditions. Everyone else has a minute chance of dying - just like they would have a minute chance of dying from the flu. And then there are these measures when we have to wear a mask and when we don’t have to. They are so inconsistent and there is no scientific basis for them. And then there are the opinion of people who challenge what we are doing that are suppressed by the media. Why don’t we have a debate about what the best way is how to tackle this? Why don’t we bring the best minds together to… Continued in comments. . . . . #400daysofsurrender #truth #wakeup #challenge #godeeper #consciousness #democracy #future #freedom (at Somewhere on Planet Earth) https://www.instagram.com/p/CHBHG6aHukh/?igshid=1c0kfb5tmczmn

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Day 44: Your worst enemy. Today, a friend of mine was sharing why could not do something that would help her to be better. Of course she could. She’s just finding excuses so she does not have to do what’s uncomfortable but what would ultimately help her. Like most of us. I’ve spent the majority of my life in victim mode thinking that I’m disadvantaged because my parents did divorce, that I did not come from a family that was better off, that I did have a father with a temper, that I did not have a stronger body frame (I’m thin) or a bigger penis (whatever that means), that I had dumbo ears which I got mocked for, that I was shy and not good with girls, that I was bullied at work, that I was not valued by others, that I was not knowledgeable enough (the imposter syndrome) and I could go on and on and on. But none of these things is a reason to not live an incredible life. Many of them are simply not true and some of them can’t be changed but that doesn’t matter. As I’ve been on my journey I’ve come to recognise that the only thing standing between me and the life I want to have is me. No - one - else. No one. And nothing else. The moment we believe that there’s something else we become a victim. It’s a very comfortable place to be in (because there’s nothing you can do about it) and we might even get compassion for others which makes us even more comfortable in that place. And that’s your biggest and only enemy to a beautiful life: Yourself! Write that down and remind yourself every day of it. I am the only one who is standing in the way of the life I want to have and the life I have. And the same is true for everyone. And that’s great because that insight gives you the power to change whatever “needs” - or better: you want - to change. There’s nothing else in the way. And even better: You can but you don’t really need to change anything to feel good. And that’s ultimately we all strive for: To feel good and not to feel pain. Continued… . . . . #400daysofsurrender #enemy #yourself #victim #victimhood #agency #takecharge #takeaction #wakeup #presence #beautifullife (at Home) https://www.instagram.com/p/CG5E4ICnAjB/?igshid=n8g47bk0dhyk

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Day 42/43: Childhood and psychopaths. We are all a bit crazy or insane no matter how much we like to think differently. Only the degree of it varies and it varies a lot. We are a product of our circumstances, mostly of our childhood. Most if not all the troubles of life are created there. And as a society we royally fuck this up, the way we educate and bring up our children is pure insanity and it is getting worse: Screentime/iPad/iphone for a four year old didn’t exist a decade ago - instead it was creative playtime in nature. And now it’s prevalent. Today, I met a friend who shared with me her story about her ex who completely went crazy on her. He’s not only her ex but also her business partner. From one day to the next, he didn’t want her in his life anymore, changed the locks and pushed her out of the business that they created together. First she was in shock and didn’t understand what was going on. Then little by little she pieced together what was going on. She identified that he is suffering from malignant narcism which is similar to being a psychopath: Thinking about the grandeur pof oneself, being manipulative and having no empathy are some of the cornerstones. I know some people in my life that are psychopaths. At the beginning I could not figure out why they are in one moment very charming and the next they treat you like shit despite nothing seemingly changed. I saw them make their girlfriends cry all the time until they finally left them. We think those people only exist in textbooks but they are actually quite frequent. Something like 3 out of a 100 people - with varying degrees - and 10 out of a 100 in leadership roles. People get to the top by sometimes getting people out of the way and that is what psychopaths do best because they don’t know empathy… Continued 2/4 . . . . #400daysofsurrender #childhood #parenthood #psychopaths #narcisist #children #kids #society #raisingkids #upbringing #trauma #conflict https://www.instagram.com/p/CG3JdhOHKaI/?igshid=1cgken0dhc2e0

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Day 39-41: The magic of flow. I spent the last three days with my new business partner socialising, brainstorming and doing some deep work around our new baby. In fact, it’s not a new baby. It has been on my mind for at least three years and on his even longer. It’s been a dream for a while and it seems the universe wants us to finally create it. Why am I saying this? The two of us met in person for the first time this weekend. A mutual friend that I also had just met this summer and shared my dream during a deep conversation with had introduced us. She said: You have to meet my friend. And so we did. We spent the past two months messaging back and forth on a daily basis. We did a few personality tests, look at our astrology matching - you might be laughing but this is what it says: “Headline: Life changing. Powerful Alignment. This dynamic in your friendship is incredibly special. Being in each other’s lives is helping to align you both with your personal destinies. This is one of the most progressive and supportive connections two friends can have. Your souls are travelling in the same direction, and you’re activating each other’s greatest potential.” Not that we would base our choice on astrology alone but this was encouraging. More importantly, despite him still having a full-time job and renovating his apartment (another full-time job), we started messaging daily and constantly. It was flowing effortlessly, it seemed two very similar souls and individuals had met. And not just that, incrementally we discovered that our visions where not just very similar and aligned but also how we thought about them, why we wanted to do them (not to be grand but to do something grand - not for us but for the world - not because we must but because we can - and because given where the world is going this could not be more timely). You know this feeling when you meet someone and the friendship and pull towards each other is instant. This is what happened here. Given the lack of history we had, we kept putting the disclaimer in front… Continued in comment . . . . #400daysofsurrender #surrender #flow #project #connection #magic #friendship #serendipity #life #lettinggo (at Stockholm Arlanda Airport) https://www.instagram.com/p/CGyExIhHdeI/?igshid=wmjm977c4luy

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Day 38: On being in your heart. Today, I had a WhatsApp conversation with a friend about my journey. I asked him whether he had any feedback for me and he said: “I would love to hear you write more from the heart. At the moment it seems quite intellectual. But maybe it’s just my perception.” It’s something I am aware of and I appreciate it being pointed out to me as it is a constant “struggle.” Not struggle as in fight but because my entire career and success has been largely built on intellectual prowess and using it to succeed in life it’s my main modus operandi. It doesn’t help that our society celebrates cerebral people with a focus on the left hemisphere - logic, rationality, reason, science and not creativity, feeling, heart, connection, humanity. Our whole Western society is modelled on that “enlightenment” of reason which actually turns out to be very unenlightened in isolation as we can see in how the world is developing. And even those few lines so far have been written from the intellect. It’s my race horse. And it has also allowed me to make big changes in my life by questioning things and thereby actually getting more in touch with my heart, my knowing, my intuition, where life pulls me, connecting more deeply with others. Now that I’m thinking about it, I’m actually struggling to write differently. The way I write and share is the way I look at the world. And I’d argue that even though it sounds intellectual, there is actually a lot or increasingly heart in it. Just because you use logic and reason to make a point doesn’t mean the underlying motivation doesn’t come from the heart. The two don’t have to be opposites or contradictory. I’d argue we are at our best when we combine the heart and mind, we let the heart steer us but we used the mind to be more powerful at what we do. I’d like to think that by writing in a logical/rational/intelectual manner I can reach people that would not be open to a more heart based/spiritual language. Continued in comments… . . . . #400daysofsurrender #heart #surrender #openhearts #gratitude #love #intelectual #wakingup #life #presence #beinghuman #awareness #reason #knowing #thinking https://www.instagram.com/p/CGpnOOMnCzX/?igshid=635hr9euscqe

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Day 37: Why you want to own Bitcoin. The following post is no financial advise. As with this whole journey, I am simply sharing my insights and truths. Do you own research. Every investment carries risk and Bitcoin can be classified as a high risk asset. With that out of the way, early this morning European time Bitcoin crossed the long anticipated $12k mark and appreciated by 6% today as of this writing. Many of you are likely to look at Bitcoin suspiciously as just another casino where the foolish play. I want to use this opportunity of Bitcoin’s new recent high to make the case for Bitcoin and why everyone should have at least a little invested in it. Yes, Bitcoin has been worth much more nut I’d argue that the 2017 ATM >$19k was driven by a complete speculative frenzy and that today is very different. Bitcoin has since proven it’s continued resilience and - 11 years into the making - keeps being never successfully compromised and attacked despite it having a current “market capitalisation” of $200 billion. Bitcoin is being secured by cryptology and it’s ability to withstand an attack is a function of the computing (hash) power that stands behind it. Despite it’s price being a lot lower than it’s 2017 peak, it’s hash rate (how many key computations it can make per second) has increased 14 times in three years from 10 Tera hash (Oct 2017) to 140 TH right now (1 TH/sec = 1,000,000,000,000 hashes/second). It is thereby the most powerful computer on earth which is what keeps it secure because you would need a computer network that is just as powerful to compromise Bitcoin’s integrity. And even if you had a budget of 10’s of billions of dollar to compromise its security you would not be able to acquire all the hardware that is necessarily to build that attack network. It is therefore literally the most secure way to hold your money. Bitcoin can’t be attacked, can’t be censored, can’t be compromised no matter your resources. Continued in comment… . . . . #400daysofsurrender #money #sovereignty #Bitcoin #scarcity #investment #innovation #revolution #finance #awareness (at Planet Earth) https://www.instagram.com/p/CGnHg2fHSBI/?igshid=qn119z5g5de3

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Day 36: On not being ready. Today, I went for a walk in the park with a new friend. She was telling me how she has been thinking about moving from finance into coaching, that she’s really passionate about psychology and helping people but she would not want to do it now because she’s not ready and the time is not right. I asked her what that means and she said she would need to study psychology and I asked her why’s that? To be a therapist you need to do that. I said but you can become a coach and start helping people now instead and possibly much more powerfully than as a therapist. Then she said but I need to do an NLP course and a proper coaching course and I said, yes, of course, that can be helpful but you don’t need to do any of that, you can simply start helping people, the people that want your help, that already ask for your advise. If you can help someone you are already doing what you want to do. Then she said but I don’t think I have enough life experience and again, I looked at her and said: What makes you think that? You had a professional career and are in your late thirties what do you mean you don’t have enough life experience. This is a beautiful example of both the imposter syndrome - believe one is not good enough based on their own high internal bar though probably much better qualified than many people who are doing the very thing she wants to do - as well as procrastination because of the uncertainty of how it all would unfold and being comfortable - though not satisfied - in the current setup. In short, they are all excuses both made up and actually believed based on the stories we are telling ourselves. It’s our ego “protecting” us from uncertainty that we are so very afraid of and it makes us fail to see all the upside and possibilities that change can bring. It’s the reason why so many people stay stuck in places they know they don’t want to be and often they even know where they want to be but they just don’t have the guts to pull the trigger for all the aforementioned and other reasons. Continued in comments . . . . #400daysofsurrender #dream #start #coaching #career #purpose #imposter #ready #notready #justdoit (at Notting Hill) https://www.instagram.com/p/CGk7Ll-H_iA/?igshid=11ns25v8zy4q7