#victimhood

[hexagr]

The paradox of binding your identity to victimhood is that it tends to generate social currency, but in a longer, broader perspective, it makes you spiritually and mentally weaker. This is true even if you're really a victim.

[billyengland]

Liberals love pretending that black people's power is being taken away but when they had the chance to vote for a black woman for Governor of Virginia, they chose the old white Democrat lady instead.

And Obama told them to do it. Barack Obama actively worked against a black woman, Winsome Earle-Sears, endorsing a liberal white woman, Abigail Spanberger, after lecturing black men for not supporting Kamala Harris who isn’t even black but was disgracefully marketed as a black woman to get the black vote. Think about that....

Notice how ‘representation’ suddenly stops mattering when the Black candidate is not the preferred ideological candidate. That is what many Black Americans are starting to notice.

We are constantly told: ‘Vote Black.’ ‘Protect Black voices.’ ‘Preserve Black power.’ But the moment a Black candidate steps outside the approved ideological lane, the political machine redirects support somewhere else.

So was this ever really about Black representation? Or was it always about ideological obedience?

People are waking up to the reality that many political operatives do not prioritize independent Black leadership. They prioritize controllable leadership aligned with the broader Democrat apparatus. That contradiction is becoming impossible to ignore.

[batwingsrosa]

Snape and what a victim is supposed to look like.

Or: The reason you all hate him so much while making up excuses for other characters!

Would he still be so despised by the fandom, if he had been portrayed as weaker? As more emotional?

No, i don’t think so.

Others have said this before and i have to agree with what they said:

Y‘all are angry, because he is not the perfect victim.

He is not what you would expect a victim of abuse and bullying to look like.

He is confident.

He is strong.

He is sharp.

And he is bitter.

He is so, so bitter.

he harbours resentment.

He does not forgive those who wronged him.

When that is exactly what you would expect from a victim, is it not??

A victim is supposed to look weak and behave weak and to suck it up.

And to forgive.

When you tell people they have to forgive their tormentors, do you really tell them that so that they can heal?

Or…. so you don‘t have to deal with the mess?

Maybe, so you don‘t have to adjust your world view?

People are not obligated to forgive their tormentors.

It doesn‘t matter if they have changed.

What matters is how they made the victim feel.

And if the victim feels if they can forgive them.

And if they chose not to forgive, they turn in something else in your eyes.

They turn into the hater, the bully, the bad guy.

Bacause the victim is supposed to forgive and forget and let it go and not be bitter about it.

A victim is supposed to turn into a good person.

To learn from their experiences to be kinder to others.

To not treat others like they have been treated.

They are not supposed to not be able to let it go.

And if they are not able to do that, well then there‘s something wrong with them.

If a victim doesn‘t turn out the way they wanted them too, well - then they had it coming from the beginning and they probaly deserved what happened to them because they would have turned out bad either way!

Snape is the opposite of what a victim is supposed to be like.

Severus turned into a resentful and bitter adult.

He was never able to move on and heal from his trauma.

And at the same time, he knows who he is and what and doesn‘t make up excuses for his behaviour and instead just accepts himself the way he is.

And that is what makes you so fucking mad.

He turns into an asshole and is not sorry about it.

He is openly resentful and at times hateful.

And he is not fucking sorry about it.

And it makes all of you mad because that is not what is supposed to happen.

And let‘s not lie to yourselves- if he didn‘t have greasy hair and a hooked nose- you would look at him from an entirely different angle.

Like you do with Tom Riddle, or Regulus Black or Draco Malfoy.

[relatablejoe]

Through fractured glass, every face looks like an enemy. 👁️ We wear others' scars while leaving our own marks behind. 🌪️ If everyone is both guilty and broken, who remains? 💔

[selfhealingmoments]

[pinkypoodle]

I genuinely believe once a male child is corrupted, there’s no going back. There’s no such thing as rehabilitation for those males. I used to believe people could change, but I’ve come to think those males are so consumed by misery and victimhood that nothing pulls them out of it. I also think males who used to identify as misogynist incels but later got a girlfriend are still misogynistic, because all it takes is one bad experience with a girlfriend or wife for them to fall right back into hating women. Those males can’t be saved. You have to eradicate them. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[democracyunderground]

[the-healing-mindset]

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In having dealt with someone like this for the better part of almost two years, I recently discovered that no matter how well you try to inform them of their actions, they won't be able to recognize what it is that has taken place. You see clearly that they've done "X" which led to "Y" and "Z" is the resultant issue.

In their mind, "X" didn't happen, so "Y" must have happened for some other reason, and they don't see why the consequences of "Z" are being brought upon them, if "Z" is even recognizable or acceptable to them at all.

They end up bending and contorting a story multiple different ways until you're confused and your reaction is the sole reason for the issue you are bringing to their attention.

This isn't healthy. This is something that you need to pay close attention to and if at all possible, distance yourself from it. This dynamic will drain the life out of you and one day you will realize that you are only a shell of who you once were.