Gender That Can Be Told Is Not The Eternal Gender

Yes this is a stoner blog now apparently. Raven (she/they). Formerly cardi-brouch-junior, snapdragonmyheartaround, and crowleyxcx. White Latina who doesn't know much Spanish. Transfeminine, but admittedly male-socialized. Totally lesbigay, or at least mostly lesbigay. Literally neurodivergent but not a minor. Agnostic occult-dabbling Unitarian Universalist, raised by ex-Catholics. This blog is primarily a mix of fandom, discourse, shitposting, and thirstblogging. Also some untagged Sex, Drugs, and Profanity, and the occasional inconsistently tagged Triggering Content, so stay away if you have a problem with that.

[rederiswrites]

Donald Trump, let's be clear, is circling the drain. His mind is well and truly going. When they put him in front of a camera, he mumbles and confabulates wildly and forgets the names of his own cabinet and mispronounces words egregiously. Or just falls asleep. Donald Trump is still a clear and present danger, because he's a sadistic, spiteful old man with all the self restraint and sophistication of a spoiled toddler. But we need to be mindful of the fact that not only do we know that he's on his way out, but his donors and puppeteers and handlers know it as well, and they have to be feeling extremely urgent about securing their efforts, but even more so their position and safety. As Steve Bannon said, if they lose the midterms, a lot of them aren't just out of power, they're going to prison.

So yeah. He's sundowning, hard. But that makes this a really dangerous time, and we can't just sit and wait for a good housecleaning at the midterms. We have to get out there and protest and organize and fight and call our reps and support each other in every way we know how. We have to put massive pressure on Congress to stop these insane threats of war. They've made it clear they don't want war; but they need to actually act to make that happen. We have to slow the administration down in every way we can. Because they're running out of time.

[protectthecitizens]

As always:

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The day is won through thousands of individual acts of resistance hitting them on all sides! These resources are just a drop in the bucket, I guarantee there is something you can do to help!

Stay strong!

[let-the-water-hold-me]

Cynthiafit1

[aokozaki]

The Mandala Effect, (named for the Buddhist and Hidu visual motif of Mandala, which symbolically represents the entire universe and acts as a meditation aid) is named for the idea that it may be possible to cross over between universes, where small details are found to be different.

[aokozaki]

Huh, that's weird, Google spells it wrong.

[jantesika]

okay, this is a good joke.

[aokozaki]

Thank you.

[butch-king-frankenstein]

AFAB people are "allowed" to be nonbinary in the same way that young girls are "allowed" to be tomboys, as a sort of get-the-sillies-out phase that stops being permissible after a while if you don't go on to make yourself palatable to men, and any attempted construction of gender theory that doesn't account for this is either severely flawed or an active attempt to erase this reality

[butch-king-frankenstein]

The patriarchy "encourages" gender nonconformity for AFAB people in the sense that it maintains it as a sort of Rumspringa for straight girls, a moment of controlled freedom that ends with its subjects "growing up" to embrace femininity and be acquired by a husband. Anyone who chooses to reject this eventuality and remain GNC has abandoned the patriarchy (in at least this one way) and is treated accordingly, as an escaped prisoner to be hunted down and dragged back into captivity. Resisting this treatment is an act of extreme bravery and should be recognized as such.

[butch-king-frankenstein]

It is obviously also brave of AMAB nonbinary people to resist the patriarchy's treatment, though the context is different; the patriarchy does not encourage AMAB gender nonconformity because male bodies are the patriarchy's most valuable resource, too precious to lose even one. Female bodies are expendable, so it doesn't matter if a few of them slip through the cracks into gender nonconformity; they can always be reclaimed later.

[395nm]

endorsed

endorsed (and i love that you use the word rumspringa, which i just learned yesterday)

i don’t think that’s true

In patriarchy a female body is precious property. Ownership of a woman’s body passes from her father to her husband at marriage. Her owner should guard her jealously and be willing to kill for her if need be. Consider the Taken movie, where an aggrieved father guns down dozens of racialized men to rescue his kidnapped daughter. It speaks to the fantasy that drives suburban white men to drive trucks and collect guns: “I want to kill men to protect my woman. That is Success.”

Male bodies are expendable in patriarchy. Men are competitive agents in a survival of the fittest. The goal is to posess the strongest reputation and the most land, money, and women. The men who “rise to the top” (as the myth goes) are handsomely rewarded. The rest are disposable—thrown away in coal mines, infantry charges, and prison work camps.

When an amab person abandons masculinity, it removes itself from the ingroup of victorious masculine warriors and enters the outgroup of human threats. “Human threat” is a political class also occupied by racialized men. The suburban white man fantasizes about murdering human threats: immigrants, thugs, junkies, and trannies. Human threats have the highest rates of becoming murder victims, and we are disproportionately victims of prison slavery.

In war, a Great Man is threatened for his possessions: vast territories and entire nation-states. In war, good men are expected to lay down their lives by the hundreds to protect the possessions of the great man.

Women are not allowed on the front lines of war. A woman is an object to fight for, not a man whose body can be spent. The possibility of her capture by the enemy is unthinkable: It would emasculate the men of her country. When a woman is murdered, her killer is typically her husband. This is the ultimate expression of men’s ownership of women’s bodies.

In more patriarchal cultures, brothers and fathers who own a young woman will kill her if she brings them shame: she is blamed for their failure to guard her purity. The paradigm of men owning women is the expression of ancient man’s insecurity over whether he sired his own children. Note how patriarchy is designed around this insecurity. Man’s solution was ownership of women: women’s objectification into means of (human re)production.

None of this is incompatible with your first two posts. The tomboy rumspringa is an indulgence meant to help an afab person fit the mold expected of them, as you describe. It ends when the person’s male owner(s) are ready to make use of them.

That’s interesting, isn’t it? The patriarchy gives men power over women, but it kills men while it preserves women. It makes sense because patriarchy sees women as property. The woman is precious to the man, while rival males are expendable. Patriarchal society doesn’t need one man for every woman. The most successful men are expected to possess many women.

Women who step out of line, go on rumspringa, are property to be reclaimed. Men who step out of line are disposable. But it’s still men who have power over women!

[who-canceled-roger-rabbit]

"In the game of patriarchy, women are not the opposing team; they are the ball."

[who-canceled-roger-rabbit]

Okay I generally don't buy a lot of the more paranoid theories about supposed transphobic messages that She Who Must Not Be Named deliberately inserted into her magnum opus two or three decades ago. Yeah it is a little weird in hindsight that a woman with a big masculine jaw and hands is changing her body to spy on kids, and that the main villain is a child groomer who changed his name and body after whipping out his giant snake in the girls' bathroom, but in all seriousness I don't think trans people were even a blip on Jojo's radar when she was writing the Scottish series.

But sometimes I wonder, because in addition to what I mentioned above, the mastermind behind the main villain's resurrection in the fourth book is a mentally ill NEET failson who

in the backstory drank a potion to transform into his mother (apparently not uncommon as a negative transfem stereotype; it seems to have started with the pop-culture-filtered version of the Ed Gein story, by way of characters like Norman Bates and Buffalo Bill) specifically so he could get transferred out of prison

at the time of the story starts taking more of this potion every day behind his dad's back so he can again change his physical appearance (albeit not into a woman this time but into an amputee, and a subplot in the third Cormoran Strike books with the amputee title character taking offense at a subculture of people who want to have healthy limbs surgically amputated was widely interpreted as an allegory for trans women) to gain access to a school where he ends up rigging an athletic tournament

(Tagging @asneakyfox here)

[who-canceled-roger-rabbit]

@wisteria-lodge

[who-canceled-roger-rabbit]

@reddherring3

[who-canceled-roger-rabbit]

@vauxhallroadnewsagents

[who-canceled-roger-rabbit]

Iggy Azula and TyLee XCX in their hit single "Fashy"

[jieqionq]

SEJEONG behind the scenes of tenth letter concert vcr shooting

[markovchaingang]

evil mad scientist making you sign an informed non-consent form so you can properly understand the consequences and side-effects of the next stage of human evolution whilst you're writhing and thrashing around fruitlessly in your restraints

[facts-i-just-made-up]

Darned if Dark Souls 2 didn't summarize American politics...

[mclennonyaoi]

working with kids and one of them says “you know you eat 8 spiders a night on average right?” and another goes “no no no those statistics are actually skewed by people who like eat spiders recreationally for fun and stuff” and my head snapped up like a fucking sleeper agent

[bagelbarr0n]

Really funny one two punch on my dash this morning

[dogpuppy]

[nookisms]

Person in my gas station talking to someone on the phone: ...We're in Ohio...

Me, knowing we're in Utah: ????

[nookisms]

[paddysnuffles]

Thank you for the map for context. It makes this 1,000 times funnier and intriguing.

[vonsalomonii]

The oldest map in Europe, discovered in Leuhan, Finistère, and dating back 4,000 years. Musée d’Archéologie Nationale, Saint-Germain-en-Laye

[liache]

ok kids repeat after me

vinegar and bleach makes chlorine gas, which is highly toxic

ammonia and bleach makes chloramine, which is highly toxic

rubbing alcohol and bleach makes chloroform, which is highly toxic

hydrogen peroxide and vinegar makes peracetic/peroxyacetic acid, which can be highly corrosive

be careful about your cleaning products and dont get yourself injured or potentially killed ok

[gutsygills]

why it so dangerous to be clean

[catholic-aviator-deactivated201]

As someone who’s job is to handle chemicals like this, I need to state that this information is IMPORTANT. Plenty of people have accidentally injured or killed themselves at home because they didn’t know what kind of reaction certain substances have with one another. Play it safe and don’t mix chemicals.

[thegoodfoothousehold]

Also don’t use bleach to clean up urine it’ll create chloramine bc of the ammonia in it and you can give yourself chemical pnemonia that way

[theraphos]

Every time I see “helpful” posts telling people to mix these things while cleaning I cringe with my entire body.

[cumaeansibyl]

reblogging in this time of heightened interest in disinfectants. please don’t get fancy

[aeliad]

Pick one. Stick with that one. 

[theconcealedweapon]

Parents think it's a sin for their children to disobey them. Parents think it's okay to assault their children in order to instill the fear of God in them.

Those parents are prime examples of using the lord's name in vain. But they don't want their children to know that. So they instead invent some bullshit definition.

[fierceawakening]

Yep.

The people who take the Lord’s name in vain are the people who say “Jesus doesn’t want migrants around here.”

[who-canceled-roger-rabbit]

Hopefully this isn't derailing, but in my experience as an occasional occult dabbler, this is also my take on pagan deities.

Like, the one I'm most familiar with is Aphrodite, and in my experience "disrespecting her" is less "saying you're hotter than her and provoking her to turn you into a plant or sic a sea monster on you"; more "being selfish or insincere or shortsighted in love in a way that bites you in the ass."

[boringkate]

Ginger Snaps (2000): Hair where there wasn't any before??? There's actually no difference between puberty and becoming a werewolf! Lycanthropes menstruate like crazy!

Nightbitch (2024): Hair where there wasn't any before??? There's actually no difference between perimenopause and becoming a dog! Stray dogs are total MILFs!

The protagonist of my upcoming film about the universal male excperience: Oh fuck! I got a boner and then I jizzed in my pants! Does this mean I'm turning into a cat boy???

[who-canceled-roger-rabbit]

In all seriousness, see the Goosebumps book My Hairiest Adventure for an actual example of that last thing you mention