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[badolmen]

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[beemovieerotica]

[beemovieerotica]

[motherfucker-somewhat-limited]

[zombblehh]

Shout out to the autistic who’s abilities have regressed as they’ve gotten older.

“You didn’t used to be like this when you were a kid.” I know please don’t remind me

[theconcealedweapon]

"This never bothered you when you were a kid."

Yes it did. I just let it slide because I was taught that I'm "too sensitive" anytime something bothered me. But now I'm finally standing up for myself.

"You never struggled with this when you were a kid."

Yes I did. I just burned myself out in order to do it so I wouldn't be punished. But now I'm accepting myself enough to not force myself to do what I was never meant to do.

[countessravengrey]

"You didn't have these problems when you were younger."

Yes, I did. I just spent my child/teen years with structured institutions like school while not having to worry about whether I had a roof over my head or food to eat and spent my early adult years using up every bit of adrenaline I will ever have to ignore the fact that I've been chronically burnt out my whole life.

[princess-pepper]

being queer is such a fucking incredible experience like holy shit. I was reflecting on this for a while and I figured I'd give the newest members of the queer experience their flowers while I'm at it

the truth is "baby gays" (loosely quoting- I mean everyone) are some of the most underrated members of the lgbtqia+ community. instead of welcoming them with open arms, for a while online spaces were really toxic and hostile to them (2020 was obv a rough time for queer discourse AND being a closeted kid with mental health issues). so here's me outstretching my arm to the crowd, beyond harmful stereotypes and jokes made at their expense. because learning happens with open minds, and starts with acceptance.

to all the baby queers celebrating their first pride month: we want you here. I want you here. everything is likely so new to you right now, and with this comes curiosity and wonder and discomfort and massive numbers of unlearning.

I see you. I was there once. In fact this is my 6th year out and my identity is still changing and evolving as I move through different chapters in my life. Im still learning. and I want you to know even if it's been hard I would never change this about myself. I wouldn't change any part of how it (coming out for the first time) happened because it brought me here right now to this blog post.

It does get so much better. I know it's hard, being closeted for whatever reason at all cannot only be a dangerous secret for your safety but can also make you feel trapped in your own body and mind. this will pass. you will look like yourself one day and you will feel like yourself and you will love yourself one day. you are celebrated. not only by me but by so many others as well

I see all of you lovely people. I love you all. you are so brave and appreciated. If you needed one more reason to stay today then let this post be a sign.

I'm thinking of you, I know it will work out for all of you like it did me because you are strong enough to admit to yourself that things don't feel quite right the way the world is pushing them onto you. It takes a lot to give in to that and let it take you onto an entirely different path of life and I want you to know that that is acknowledged

be safe, know that someone out there loves you for who you are in your heart, and happy fucking pride. so many members of the queer community are fighting for your chance at a happy future right now as you read this. know that your existence is perfectly yours. it will all make sense in time.

-xoxo your cool queer internet cousin pepper ❤️

[ratbastarddotfuck]

Reblog if you’re part of a hostile nation that’s declared war on Australia

[mycroftrh]

Oh my god though guys you don’t know the best thing!  The best thing is: he’s right.

The Gay and Lesbian Kingdom of the Coral Sea Islands is a micronation near Australia.  This is their flag:

The Gay Kingdom (as it is colloquially known) was founded in 2004 in protest against Australia’s legal stance against same-sex marriage.

Here are some of their stamps:

They are currently ruled by Emperor Dale I, and their currency is the Pink Dollar.

And, indeed - they declared war on Australia for not recognizing same-sex marriages performed outside the country.  (Second link.)

[sailurmars]

You’re telling me there has been a Gay Island this ENTIRE TIME and I’m only just finding out about it????

[feitanswife]

WHAT

[gondorsfinest]

okay, but not enough people know the details on this. people at pride were upset about gay rights in australia. so they decided to sail 200 miles into the coral sea just ‘cause and put a rainbow flag on a fucking empty island out of spite. and i’m talking empty. no inhabitants. zero. it was a flat piece of land with a bit of dry grass. now it has a camp site and a post office. 

they have a declaration of independence that talks a bit about gay rights and then just flat out copies the “life liberty and the pursuit of happiness” part from the american declaration of independence. and here’s the best part: the founding group actually elected their emperor. he was originally going to be called the “administrator” of a republic. their website, however, says that “upon legal advice, his title was changed to that of Sovereign on the grounds that under Australian law a defacto prince trying to claim his crown cannot be charged with treason”. so they made it a kingdom and he now claims to be a descendent of edward ii.

everything about this is glorious and everyone should know about it.

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[ileolai]

Not one of you mentioned that the anthem for this nation is I Am What I Am by Gloria Gaynor. Not. One. Of. You.

[ebonykain]

This is the greatest thing I’ve ever read

[faejilly]

Highlights from the timeline via wikipedia as this thread is from 2017:

As previously mentioned, the idea originated at Pride (Brisbane 2003) in reaction to punitive anti-marriage legislation

“On the 14th day of June 2004, at this highest point in the Coral Sea, Emperor Dale Parker Anderson raised the gay rainbow flag and claimed the islands of the Coral Sea in his name as homeland for the gay and lesbian peoples of the world. God Save our King!”

The campsite/capital Heaven was named after the London nightclub

War was declared on Australia in September 2004

The aforementioned stamps were issued in July 2006 “with the aim of creating a high and distinctive reputation amongst the philatelic fraternity”

They were never recognized legally/internationally as a micronation (and in fact Anderson refused to attend a conference in 2010 because they weren’t actually trying to be a sovereign nation)

In Feb 2017, Abetz was objecting to the flag of a “hostile nation” being flown

The Gay and Lesbian Kingdom of the Coral Sea Islands was dissolved in November 2017 (when same-sex marriage was legalized)

[storyweavingspider]

feel free to delete this ask if you dont want to open this can of worms but what are your thoughts on the argument transandrophobia defenders use that men of color experience oppression for being Men intersectionally with being POC?

My general thoughts when I see them is:

And

It’s overwhelmingly crackers in the “misandry exists movement” that make that argument and point to one or two non-whites to justify it, and the main theory point in Black feminism is that while Black men experience a gendered racism because of being Black but still being a man, but they are experiencing it because they are *Black* not *because of being Men*. The difference is because *they are not the gendered oppressed class* they do not experience the additional racialized oppression of Misogynoir or Transmisogynoir.

Were they not Black, they would not experience discrimination solely for being Men, otherwise the discrimination would be the same across races.

Alas, “Man” is not an oppressed class as a group, as much as Incels, Hoteps, and MRAs would like to position “the male loneliness epidemic” and “men policing their own ability to express emotion” as signs of oppression rather than a symptom of the patriarchy despite being part of the oppressing class under patriarchy but not white supremacy (but definitely being part of the oppressing class in Black-majority patriarchal countries).

In similar ways, trans men are not experiencing an oppressive misandry because even with one existing axis of marginalization (trans), similar to the case with being Black, they would not experience an oppression for being solely Men if the trans were removed. What they are experiencing is the lack of an additional marginalization in the form of transmisogyny or transmisogynoir, rather than a marginalization unique to being a man.

While in a world liberated from patriarchy and white supremacy, “man” would not be considered “the default experience”, we are unfortunately currently living in a society where that is considered true, and the terms that affect how we need to find liberation reflect that. Transandrophobia and similar phrases are explicitly counter-liberatory by positioning a ruling, controlling, oppressor class as a being the true victim of their own oppression.

Much like whiteness, where having a marginalization in addition to being white does not negate their whiteness under white supremacy, having a marginalization in addition to manhood under patriarchy does not negate their manhood either.

The weird transphobic defense they use that boils down to “um actually trans men experience life as women and trans women are really men, so-“ also doesn’t hold up because it’s fuckin T*RF shit and many Transandrophobia preachers weave in TERF talking points, especially about trans women who talk about transmisogyny.

TL;DR; trans men are men, trans women are women, MRAs are cringe, stop inventing trans MGTOW and Hotepery

[secondlina]

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[our-queer-experience]

that anon talking about some queer ppl act sex-negative in response to being oversexualized by bigots reminded me so much of this old post!

(oop has deleted basically everything, so I’m glad i saved this screenshot)

!!!

[assignedmale]

[burgerdotcom]

reblogs were off

[the-zenith-calls]

My favorite scenes in the LotR books are the ones where Legolas has vital information and just decides it's not important to share.

Like when Gandalf spent literal PAGES trying to figure out why the vibes were off in Moria and Legolas chimes in with just "it's a balrog :) that shit's evil :) we're so fucked :)" like what do you MEAN you knew already and just didn't tell him??

Or at the beginning of Two Towers when Aragorn thinks there's something nearby so he puts his ear to the ground to listen, and then like 10 minutes later is like "hmmm i hear horses" and Legolas is just like "mm yep. there are 105 blond bitches with spears" like you just let your friend put his face in the dirt and you can SEE them??

Legolas please gain a sense of urgency

[knives-in-the-dishwater]

It's because legolas hasn't spent enough time with non-elves to remember that they don't know what he knows.

gandalf is scratching his head in moria, and legolas is thinking "oh man, the wizard noticed something off *besides* the obvious balrog that we all are aware of??"

"I wonder what aragorn is listening for? must be hard to hear, what with all of the horses. How many horses are there, actually? 1... 2... 3..."

[taavicleric]

"What do your elvish eyes see?" is Aragorn saying, as politely as possible, "Because the REST OF US are at a significant disadvantage, Prince Dipshit."

[classycookiexo]

[wholesomequeershit]

And don't worry about it being 'childish' embrace the whimsy.

Also, for the love of all things good and sacred, don't try to turn your hobbies into a side hustle. That's just a way to ensure your hobbies burn you out too instead of being a recharge.

Also, if your 'hobby' was Joanne's HP books, find a better hobby. The person needs to fade into obscurity.

*If* your finances allow for it, consider buying the things you weren't able to have as a child. I collect and restore vintage computers with a focus on machines the little me desperately wanted but obviously could never afford. That's not a great example since used prices are becoming higher, but you get the point.

This goes extra for trans folks who weren't able to have something because their parents said it was too girly, boyish, etc. Buy that doll you wanted, or the Tonka truck, or the clothes you're 'too old for'. It can be extremely healing. Especially for those of us who transitioned later in life.

[defconprime]

Even in the 25th Century everyone’s on their phones

[wholesomequeershit]

I find it both very satisfying that their mask colours are red/gold like their division colours but it's driving me nuts that the shade, especially the red, is so far off.

[romans-art]

Janeway art idea: Does Janeway have an angel and devil on her shoulder, and are they both Tuvok?

she's thinking about it

[wizard-dax]

✨🏳️‍🌈🌈 Star Trek Pride🌈🏳️‍🌈✨

Song: Acid Tunnel of Love by Toby Fox

[wholesomequeershit]

I've seen it a few times now that people who are (or claim to be) autistic say they can reclaim the r-slur. Usually, after they were rightly called out for their ableisim. In the majority of cases I don't think their argument is made in good faith. Even if it were though, it's not a valid argument regardless. I don't like seeing people trying to use their being part of a community I'm a part of as a shield for their bigotry.

I'm autistic. The r-slur is not ours to reclaim. We were never the intended target of the slur. Even if we sometimes catch strays. If catching strays was enough then everyone who got called The n-slur, r-slur, d-slur, t-slur, f-slur, etc. by a bully as a kid could claim they're "reclaiming" them. I don't get (or want) to say the n-word as a pasty-ass white person just because some racist little shit called me it on the school playground. A cis woman mistakenly called the t-slur, no matter how often, doesn't get to say the t-slur.

If you want to get pedantic and technical, the r-slur is derived from the old clinical term for "intellectual disability". Autism is (officially, though I take issue with it classed as such) a "neurodevelopmental disorder", not an intellectual disability. If you have both you could possibly make an argument, not my place to adjudicate at that point, but then whatever legitimacy your argument had would not be because of your autism because your autism isn't relevant to the use of the r-slur.

It also frequently seems the type of person who does this uses the r-slur as a pejorative. That's not reclaiming a slur. That's just using the slur as a slur at the expense of those it targets. You reclaim a slur by using it for yourself or others (if you know they are ok with it) as a term of *pride*, endearment, humour (fine line), resistance and resilience.

When I say I'm a dyke, I say it as a point of pride. I say it because it's not a negative thing to be called. When I say I'm queer, I mean "I'm queer as in 'fuck you'".

I can appreciate some autistic people who are struggling in our deeply ableist world wanting to be able to use the r-slur because they may have been called it. To try to gain some power back, but you're doing it at the expense of another marginalized group. That's not ok.

Do better and don't try to invoke autism as a shield against being rightly called out for your bigotry.

[kirinandvlindertje]

“transition poses some ethical questions. Such as, from what age should you be allowed to irreversibly change your body.“

This of course completely ignores the fact that puberty makes irreversible changes to your body. But let us just rephrase the question: “from what age do you gain bodily autonomy?” Now it gets very easy to answer: From the moment you’re fucking born.

[puppyprivilege-deactivated20151]

I’m sorry, I’m reblogging this twice in a row it is that important

[numinous-queer]

Stand up and say it again for the people in the back row. 

[drtanner]

This is all completely true and correct, of course, but on the topic of changes that irreversibly change a child’s body, prithee, go and talk to a fucking ballet dancer.

If you start ballet at 16, you are too old to ever expect to be able to do it seriously. If you start at 12 you’re too old. If you want to do ballet as a serious thing, as a career, you need to start at like eight years old or even younger, because your bones and joints need to be trained while they’re still flexible in order for you to be able to perform many of the required motions and stances of ballet. In particular, you need to be able to perform turnout of the hips, but all of your joints in your legs and feet will be affected, and this irreversibly changes your body.

And yet! Nobody talks about this as a negative thing! Little girls say they want to be ballet dancers, and if their parents have enough money, that’s what they get to be! Does it cause problems in later life? Yeah, sometimes! Often, even! But nobody talks about that because it’s a thing for cis people to do and so naturally it’s all fine!

Go and talk to a fucking ballet dancer.

[roni-not-tyler]

I was a ballet dancer (among other styles of dance) for 10-11 years, starting at age 6-7ish. I loved it, but not enough to make a career out of it. Dance was just a way to exercise is a fun way.

By the time I was done dancing at age 18, I had been through physical therapy for 3 separate issues caused by ballet. The worst one was because of how my hips and muscles developed and it cause discomfort in my knees so bad that I couldn’t walk very far without pain, much less climb stairs. One time at a pt session, a neighboring patient, who was elderly, said I was “too young to be here”. I was in middle school so I rolled my eyes. It was/is funny to me.

I am 23 now, and I still get stiff in some places, and I’m sure it is related to dancing as a kid. I snap, crackle, and pop like Rice Krispies.

I have no regrets because ballet and was a big part of my life. I just know that it will have long term effects on my body and there is nothing I can do to change it.

I didn’t know that ballet would affect me physically the way it did, but I still did it. If somebody wants to transition and goes in knowing and wanting the changes they will experience, then they should be allowed to do it.