okay ladies

aishah b. 1993 / sg of beauty, justice, and wanderlust

[today-only-happens-once]

You’ve heard of “wanting to write”, now get ready for: wanting to want to write.

[ketzalcoatl]

[mijomii]

Sometimes I say self loathing things to my therapist and he looks at me dead in the eyes before saying “You fucking moron.” and tbh same

[mijomii]

Me: I think I don’t exist.

Therapist: Listen, you do exist, and if you didn’t, someone would have to create you because the world would be a much sadder place.

Me: Jerome, how dare you saying something so sweet when I’m dissociating.

[mijomii]

Me: Honestly, (thing that is totally fucked up for any ‘sane’ person) is normal, right?

Therapist: No.

Me: Wow.

Therapist: You’re just a fucked up bitch.

Me: I do agree with the fucked up bitch part.

Therapist: That’s a start!

[mijomii]

Me: I guess he’s still my friend?

Therapist: Considering what you told me and how much you wanna beat him to death, he’s not. You pretty much hate him despite knowing him for years.

Me:

Me: Why did I need to come here to realize that.

Therapist: Because that’s my job to help you to understand some stuff. Also because you’re way too kind and you would let someone punch you in the guts and still consider them as your friend while they stab you.

Me: I don’t need that kind of call out, Jerome.

[mijomii]

Me: Hey, I brought you coffee. And croissants too, but I ate them. *puts Starbucks coffee in front of him*

Therapist: Oh that’s nice!!... Oh my name is on it!!

Me: Yeah!!

Therapist: It’s wholesome but... *very confused and silently*... How do I drink it?

[mijomii]

Me, not being able to come to my appointment and having to call him: I’m sorry, it’s all my fault, I’m so so so sorr-

Therapist: I dare you to say sorry one more time. I dare you.

[mijomii]

Therapist: Hey I wanna show you this super funny image I found the other day.

Me: What-

Therapist: *turns his screen and show me THIS* 

Me: 

Me: Jerome.

[mijomii]

Therapist: You went to the gaypride?

Me: Yeah, I went.

Therapist: Was it something you enjoyed?

Me: Mh. Yeah. Sorta.

Therapist: Did you see some bears?

Me:

Me: Jerome wh-

Therapist: That’s the only term I know outside of the LGTB one, I wanted to use it. 

[mijomii]

Therapist: Are you sure you’re not becoming roommate with (name) because of pity? Kinda sacrificing yourself?

Me: No, I want it!!

Therapist: Finally, you’re not forcing yourself for the others! And you’re doing something you want! I’m proud of you!

Me: You’re more of a dad than my own father.

Therapist: That’s not very hard.

[mijomii]

Me: I always wondered, are you queer?

Therapist: I am not.

Me: Ooh.

Therapist: Or am I?

Me: Ooh!

[mijomii]

As an update, Jerome gave my appointment to someone’s else today so we were both in the waiting room, confused and he walked in, patted my head and said sorry but honestly it was hilarious.

The secretary came to tell me that Jerome actually forgot to write me down on the appointment list.

This is a 100% normal situation with Jerome as my Therapist.

[mijomii]

As an addition, more than half of my friends want Jerome to adopt me and refer to him as “Therapist dad”.

He’s aware of it and think it’s hilarious.

[mijomii]

Me, after complaining for the 25 times about my birth father: Idk if you noticed, but I’m full of anger against him.

Therapist: Oh, really, I never noticed. You know, you should turn that anger into indifference. It would help you.

Me: Unholy gods, I wish it was me.

[mijomii]

Therapist: You know, people will still love you even if you don’t offer them things all the time. You don’t have to do that.

Me: What??

[mijomii]

Therapist: Why don’t you send a mail to your psychiatrist when you have a bad mood swing?

Me: Like what? ‘Hey Joël wassup, I’ve been very suicidal lately last night I wanted to die. Hope you have rad vacations and the weed is good save some good kush for me, kissy kissy.’ ?

Therapist: Exactly.

Me: You’re as bad as me with human interactions Jerome, y’know.

[mijomii]

Me, heavily dissociating: I don’t exist-

Therapist: Can I touch you to prove you that you do?

Me: Dinner first.

Therapist:

Therapist: Damien, you moron.

[mijomii]

Therapist: You need vacations.

Me: I’m broke.

Therapist: Oh yeah.

Therapist: You still need vacations tho.

Me: Jerome, I am still broke.

[mijomii]

Me, by text: Hey, you just walk by me!

Therapist, by text: Oh sorry. I didn’t see you.

Therapist, by text: Wait. Were you at the tattoo shop?

Me, by text, totally at the tattoo shop: You have no proof.

[mijomii]

For a bit of context here: Around two months ago I went to a friend’s who happened the live on the same street as Jerome, which I didn’t know. He was really surprised to see me and came to check on me, asking me why I was here with a bit of concern on his voice. And this take place earlier this month:

Therapist: So your friend lives in the same street than I?

Me: Yes. Town’s short I guess.

Therapist: Were you really going to your friend...?

Me: Yes?? Why else would I be here?

Therapist: A lot of drug deals happen in this street and I see often teenagers and young adults coming and buy stuffs. I was a bit worried for you.

[mijomii]

Me, at 2pm: I’m sorry I’m going to be late!

Therapist: Your appointment was this morning at 11:30am, Damien.

Me:

Me: What.

[mijomii]

Jerome is still not aware of his fame and idk how to announce him.

[mijomii]

Therapist; What’s up with you and wanting domestic rats.

Me: I’m gonna get a rat and call him Jerome just to piss you off.

Therapist:

Therapist: How dare you.

[mijomii]

Therapist: Weed doesn’t do much on me and I must admit I’m kinda disappointed.

Me:

Therapist: Do you smoke?

Me: Jerome.

[bread-n-bed-n-head]

On hard days I wonder how Jerome is doing

[mijomii]

He’s doing fine, last time he shown me his fav pic of a red panda which is this one

[whatinrandamnation]

I FOUND IT I FOUND IT I FUCKING FOUND IT AAAAAAAH YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW HAPPY THIS MADE ME FEEL

[mijomii]

It’s really amazing how happy people get when they find this post omg

[aethera-secat]

Always reblog Jerome.

Is he now aware of his fame?

[mijomii]

After months, he is, and he just told me “Haha, this is funny. I’m happy it’s helping people!”

I think he doesn’t realize that he’s known *worldwide*

[nevermindreal]

A black man rides a bus restricted to whites only, in Durban. In an act of resistance to South Africa’s apartheid policies, riding a bus restricted to whites only, in Durban, South Africa 1986.

[bando--grand-scamyon]

That bitch MAD AF 😂

[pcesomh]

How the fuck you going to have a “whites only” anything in Africa

[theepoetspoet]

Because colonizers are delusional mothafuckas

[oh-so-negro]

He look like he know he about to catch a beat down but fuck it cause this shit ain’t right.

[shehassomuchsoul]

1986

[dragongirltitties]

notice how they made the photo black and white to make it look old and try glossing over the fact that this was a single generation ago

[spiroandthelacktones]

The people in this photo are probably still alive and in the work force

[crunchbuttsteak]

apartheid ended in the 1990’s. it ended within the same year that the lion king in the US.

[impling]

YEAH LET’S PUT THIS YEAR IN A BIT OF PERSPECTIVE.

I was six when this happened. Apartheid in South Africa ended in 1994, when I was 14. I’m not even 40 yet.  This is WELL within Millenial lifetimes. Does it feel like forever ago because of the speed of technology? yes. Was it forever ago. Hell, no.

This was the year Chernobyl happened. That was far more recent than we like to think, too.

1986 was the year Challenger happened.

It was the year Studio Ghibli got their first film out.

Americanized movie timestamps, this was the year Top Gun came out. Tom Cruise is still acting. This was the year Star Trek: The One With The Whales came out. We’re still quoting it.

This shit is a lot more recent than it feels.

[mitsutakatajiri]

寿町

[millennial-review-deactivated20]

[historium]

“Let them die in the streets” USA, 1990

[enoughtohold]

Installation at Petrosino Park by Gran Fury, a collective of AIDS activist artists formed out of ACT UP New York. 

[sprmint-bkgsoda]

Just like I said. Illegal adoption.

https://abcnews.go.com/Blotter/immigrant-mom-loses-effort-regain-son-us-parents/story?id=16803067

[stephanemiroux]

Here are the thieves btw:

[waluwadjet2-deactivated20180727]

im actually physically ill

[dontwantthenextcommanderiwantyou]

Keep this post alive so that when CARLOS is old enough he’ll know these KIDNAPPERS stole him from his MOTHER!

[dopeluminarydreamer-blog]

Guatemalan mom: “Please help me my son was taken from me”

Those two assholes: “Lol finders keepers bitch lmao”

[one-time-i-dreamt]

Carlos was taken from his mom, Encarnacion Bail Romero after she was arrested during a work raid. Her words, “Nobody could help me because I don’t speak English,” are still resonating deeply within me. This child was kidnapped from a loving mother, and she went to hell and backwards trying to get him back, and a judge literally told her she had no rights to her own child.

https://twitter.com/evanchill/status/1010399759088193536

Completely unfit parents can get their children back like it’s nothing and this poor woman who loves her child and just wants him with her again cannot? How is this not human trafficking/kidnapping? 

Also:

The judge said the biological mother had no rights to even see her child, according to the mother’s lawyer.

Asked if the Mosers would allow Bail Romero to see the child, the Mosers’ attorney, Joseph Hensley, said the couple was “not willing to comment on that at this time.” source

[rock-fish-deactivated20201231]

reminder that many children are funneled specifically to Christian families and communities for the same reasons they always have: destroy culture, stack votes, add bodies to communities that otherwise wouldn’t hold majorities. it is literal, actual trafficking.

[trashmouse]

This is a part of genocide.  Removing the children from their parents, who generally desperately love and want to raise them, and placing them with white American families is a way to erase their culture from existence without the ugliness of directly killing children.  But it’s still ugly, and it cares nothing for the actual welfare of the child.

[scottishwobbly]

when are y’all going to fucking tear down the detention centers?

[brunhiddensmusings]

anyone who supports this has no business calling themselves a christian, saying they have any moral authority, or pretending that nothing wrong happened any person with a functioning moral compass should be sickened by this

[lightning-crown]

I hope Carlos and other kids like him see this post and know they were not fucking adopted. they were kidnapped.

[sprmint-bkgsoda]

http://hill.cm/uQlpkcB

AP: Migrant children may be adopted after parents are deported

Holes in immigration laws are allowing state court judges to grant custody of migrant children to American families without notifying their

That happened a few years ago. But this is just from last October.

[fireeater06]

REBLOG EVERY SINGLE TIME. How can these people live with themselves???!

[saucyboulette]

THIS IS HUMAN TRAFFICKING.

[distinguishedbaloney]

[umbriss]

Wow that’s some bullshit?

[sluttyvegeta-deactivated2019111]

How to be a shitty parent

[hesgreatness]

how is this shitty parenting if i tell you to be home at a certain time you better be there. Shit my mom would have been out looking for me.

[sluttyvegeta-deactivated2019111]

Right? How is this shitty at all?? If i tell you to be home at a certain time you better be there or else you aren’t allowed in the home. I care about my kids safety so much I’ll endanger them when they dont listen to me.

[squidwardchat-deactivated202205]

i do not have the energy to explain why this is a shitty thing to do but yeah it’s shit

[ip2lb]

I do! If you’re gonna be a vindictive little shit to your kids, you shouldn’t be having them. Having abusive parents like the ones up here fucked up my perception of love and affection. 

I got locked out of the house all the time just like this poor kid. Do you know how fucking cold it gets at night? NO because you’re cushy and comfortable behind those decorated glass doors! I slept in 30 °F weather. I was on the swim team so I had to wake up and run with the team at 5 am then go to class. I’d wake up with frozen hair and bugs crawling on me. I’d start crying and it would rain fucking cold water. I had no friends in the neighborhood to go to. I’m still somewhat scared of the dark. 

There’s wild animals and predatory strangers and shit out there. You’re gonna put your fucking CHILD in that situation and FAIL to be their guardian at one of the most important times of day just because they made it home late? Kids make fucking mistakes, and if you aren’t prepared for that, you shouldn’t even have pets. You’re not a caretaker, you’re a lazy abusive perfectionist snot. I’d kick your ass if you were my neighbor and I saw you pulling this shit! No joke!

My roommate talks all the time about how if her kids mess around she’d smack them around, but she and a LOT of other people do not understand that punishments like those are abuse. They fuck your kid up for life.

If you leave a kid out in the cold they’re more likely to get into more trouble/danger to keep warm anyway. Who’s gonna take your kid into their home? Do you even give a shit what happens to them? No because you wanted to play god and get back at someone who is still developing. Be a fucking adult.

Your kid is not  a robot. It’s so shitty these parents have done this kind of stuff before and have NOT given the kid a blanket. 

Neglect is the chronic inattention or omission on the part of the care giver to provide for the basic emotional and/or physical needs of the child, including food, clothing, nutrition, adequate supervision, health, hygiene, safety, medical and psychological care and education. Emotionally neglected children do not receive the necessary psychological nurturance to foster their own growth and development. The consequences of neglect can be very serious, particularly for young children. The child who does not receive adequate emotional, cognitive and physical stimulation, physical care and nutrition may experience lags in development. These lags in development may be irreversible.

SOME FORMS OF ABUSE & NEGLECT:

*Rejection, ignorance and isolation

*A lack of shelter

*Emotional neglect or lack of supervision

*Deliberate locking children out of the house

So if you think pulling this childish bullshit is ok, I will break into your house and steal whatever funds it takes to care for your child. I’ll fight you in the morning because you’re a garbage human being.

Stop teaching your damn kid they’re worthless. YOU made them.

 Stop being your child’s enemy, start being their actual fucking caretaker.

[siawrites]

Just so y’all know… in the state of Texas, this is grounds for me to call CPS on your ass.  

And I will, too.

[darthmama]

Same in Illinois and I fucking will.  

[siderealsandman]

TBH all the people coming out in support of locking kids outside for missing curfew need to just not have kids

[pour-some-aspartame-on-me]

Reminder that one of the victims of Ted Bundy (the serial killer) was locked out of her house because of missing curfew, and he offered his “help.”

This can get your child KILLED.

[kuroba101]

Also, not everyone chooses to get home late.

There may be traffic, or an accident of some kind, or they may simply have a shit sense of time or direction.

[jose-bote]

I hope that these parents got called out and arrested for child abuse.

[anandasamsara]

Reblogging again bc i want to understand something. Is it a cultural aspect of americans (or anywhere this is happening) to NOT give your kids the house keys? Or is it some kind of suburban subculture?

Me, my friends, most people i know have the house keys since childhood. Mom gave me the house keys when I was 9. But i had a boyfriend once that was 21 (i was 19) and HE DIDN’T HAVE HIS HOUSE KEYS. And he lived fucking far away, it took him 2 hours to get to my house. And he had to leave early ON HIS FUCKING BIRTHDAY or he would be locked out of the house by his dad.

Like, wtf is wrong with people??? Why would you do that to your kids??? “Oh, you’re not home and safe when I wanted you to, so now you’ll stay out and unsafe because I want to. Also, you have no right to have the keys for the house we live in”???

Is this what people think is normal???

[the-library-alcove]

It’s semi-common and shows up most often in authoritarian parenting that seeks to control every aspect of the child’s life. Rather than a right, house keys are a “privilege” that can be taken away. Ditto for phones, computers and, in extreme cases like this one that actively pole-vault over the child-abuse line, denial of “privileges” like food and shelter.

[dragonsatmidnight]

There are also better consequences for your kid being late for curfew than locking them out. Like, say… 

Restricting access to non-necessary electronics, cutting off internet privileges after a certain point, having a serious conversation about why you set the curfew that you do, talking to your kid about how you worry about them, and that’s part of curfew, docking their allowance or having them do extra chores… 

And if it’s a chronic problem, there’s probably a reason. So having a chat with your child about hey, you seem to have a really hard time sticking to the curfew. Are you getting lost? Can I show you how to use GPS on your phone? Is your bus route too long? Are you having chronic car troubles? Do you need more freedom because you’re going to specific events? 

Great, let’s have a solid conversation about things like drugs or alcohol, so that you know how to keep yourself safe, and know that I will come get you if you need me to. 

My parents were like. If you go to school, put in the work, get passing grades, or at least demonstrate that you’ve done everything you’re capable of doing and ask for help when you need it, then we’ll pay for your car insurance, we’ll pay for your gas. You show us that you are responsible, and we’ll trust you. 

That was super effective, and helped me learn how to be independent without being unsafe. Obviously not every family can afford the motivation of a car, but trusting your kid to make sound decisions when they’re teenagers is a big part of them growing up into functional adults who can make sound decisions. 

[i-hate-chick-fil-a]

FREE THEM

[hotcommunist-deactivated2019032]

I say this without a shred of irony:

pageant moms are abusive monsters.

[crunchy--milk]

i also say this without a shred of irony

children’s beauty pageants should not exist and perhaps should even be outlawed for encouraging abuse and contributing to the idea that children need to be beautiful when they are LITERALLY CHILDREN

[holdtightposts]

On another serious note, children’s beauty pageants attracts pedophiles. The stories my friend told me about her growing up as a “contestant” is horrifying.

[bauliya]

so women are supposed to grin and bear the books, the comics, the movies, the plays, the tv shows, the stories, the sci-fi, the translated ancient poems, the fucking millennia of men writing about their self inserts torturing women and it being declared as High Art by other men, we’re supposed to read it in our free time, study it in classrooms, include their styles in our own writing, accept their cultural influence as natural, watch it in the cinema, write about it, talk about it, accept it, aspire it, but men can’t tolerate three seconds of female wish fulfilment of a woman snapping the wrist of a creep without feeling personally kicked in the balls.

[darkshrimpemotions]

This reminds me of something I observed in college while I was doing my honors thesis on women in modern horror films. I watched a LOT of horror during that time as part of my research, and sometimes that was done with my family around.

And my dad and brothers? Were deeply disturbed by the movie Jennifer’s Body. I was flabbergasted. It’s not scary! It’s not even that gory. But they were horrified by it. These men who grew up on 70s slashers were legitimately shook by 90 minutes of Megan Fox eating a few teenage boys, mostly off-screen.

Similarly, my all-male reading panel for my thesis? Were so disturbed by my synopsis of the film Teeth that they couldn’t even talk about it. One of them said he couldn’t look at his wife for a week after reading it.

Again, grown-ass men who study and teach media for a living. Who definitely watch and enjoy horror movies. One of whom was a huge Tarantino buff. We watched and read worse in his intro to mass media class! But one movie about a girl whose vag could bite was enough to haunt him.

Then of course you have things like the Gone Girl backlash–men yelling that Amy Dunne is evil and women clamoring to assure everyone that they know she is not someone to emulate–the backlash against Carol Danvers, and, more recently, the griping from MRAs against the upcoming film Hustlers, which is about strippers scamming their Wall Street clients.

My conclusion? Most men–at least most straight, cisgender men, who are both my sample population and most of the ones whining that Carol is a “villain”–are perfectly fine with, and desensitized to, media where men do violence to women (horror movies), or men do violence to men (horror and action movies). They’re even sort of fine when women do violence to women (“ooooo cat fight!”).

But they get intensely uncomfortable when women are depicted doing any kind of violence to men, especially in films that tilt the balance of power to the other side of the m/f gender binary beyond a single moment or scene.

So woman as flesh-eating monster with men as her preferred cuisine? Woman who responds to unwanted sexual contact by biting it off? Woman who frames her cheating husband for murder? Woman whose response to harassment–behavior that many of the loudest whiners know is both creepy and reflective of their own thoughts/actions–is to break something?

Too scary. Unacceptable. Disturbing. These men hate being presented with the idea, even in fiction, that their position of power is socially constructed, that it could easily be flipped the other way. It terrifies them.

In feeling that terror, they experience a tiny modicum of what living, existing, moving, being perceived as a woman in the world is like.

And they flinch every time.

[imposterogers]

avengers endgame treated their female characters terribly 

natasha romanoff: 

spent the five years after the snap acting as the leader of the avengers and was never given any recognition. sacrificed her life for the universe and the ones she loved most. and what was she given in return? whiny man pain, a single tear down steve’s face, and bruce banner throwing a bench into the water. (compare to tony, who died surrounded by his loved ones, had people kneel around him, and a funeral)

okoye & valkyrie: 

sidelined for the entirety of the film 

carol danvers:

sidelined for the entirety of the film despite being the most powerful character

nebula: 

shot herself (2014 nebula) in the head. while this is symbolic and all, 2014 nebula could have grown and changed just like 2024 nebula had if she was given the chance. nebula ALSO didn’t get to kill her abuser (thanos) both of the times he died over the course of the film. 

gamora: 

was never mentioned after being brutal killed by her abuser. instead of allowing closure or redemption for the character (or hey, found a way to bring her back), they brought the gamora from another timeline into the mix. 

pepper potts: 

sidelined and treated primarily as a love interest

hope: 

functioned primarily as a love interest and motivator to the Man (scott mourned her and that was his main reason for trying to save the universe, despite the other loved ones he lost in the snap)

peggy carter: 

no lines. exists for the man. treated 10000% as The Love Interest. had all of her character development ( she moved on from steve, became more independent) and her future (she married someone else, probably sousa, had kids, etc etc) completely demolished and erased 

but yah. that one scene of #girlpower really made up for this shit right (:

[antifa-hulk]

A fact that really snaps into perspective is that both of the only 2 women in the main crew dies on screen in some way.

[jasonmantzoukas]

[the-real-eye-to-see]

Gymnastics has come a long compared to that old footage, but this difference is particularly significant for black girls! Because they have never taken seriously our abilities! Just because the color of our skin is not what they want to see!

Simone Biles’s fantastic performance has been covered by many news outlets all these years! Now we can see the real difference!

#BlackGirlsMagic

[dannymrowr]

It’s like a metaphor of what millenials have to do to get jobs vs baby boomers lol

[advanced-procrastination]

I was debating whether to reblog but that last comment did it for me

[chewbacca]

Britney Spears in a 1999 interview

[thewiseone-owl]

[ampervadasz]