Full-time nerd

☆Makina ☆not a minor ☆she/her  ☆Self-proclaimed geek ☆ Bisexual (if you're also bisexual just know I love you) ☆Fluent in the langauge of buffoonery ☆Currently obsessed with: Ninth House

[sincerelywhiterose]

Friendly reminder that tomorrow is the first day of pride month and if I see any biphobia, I will throw hands

This includes, but is not limited to:

saying that bisexuality excludes trans/nonbinary people (it doesn't)

saying that bisexuality is too binary (it isn't)

saying that bisexuality is outdated (again, it isn't)

saying/implying that bisexuals only care about gender rather than personality (which is gross and untrue)

derailing conversations on biphobia and its effects

excluding bisexuals from mlm and wlw spaces/discussions

speaking over bisexuals in conversations on the issues we face

refusing to listen to bisexuals if we say something is biphobic

ignoring bisexual history and activism

ignoring the present contributions of bisexuals to LGBTQ culture

making demeaning jokes about bisexuals or jokes that rely on negative stereotypes

stereotyping bisexuals in general

viewing bisexuals as 'half-straight'/'lesser' members of the LGBTQ community

and finally, speaking over bisexuals about the very definition of bisexuality

yes this includes saying things like 'that sounds more like [other sexuality]' or 'if you define your attraction that way you're [other sexuality] instead' in response to a bisexual person describing how they define their orientation for themself

[sincerelywhiterose]

Friendly reminders for Celebrate Bisexuality Day too! :)

[this-is-trans-joy]

I don’t know if this is an obvious take or a hot take, but I think people need to start re-framing feminism as the fight for body autonomy as opposed to whatever this second wave revival gender essentialist bullshit we have going on right now. Once you reframe it in this way, it’s easier to understand intersectionality and why cis women are not the only people who need feminism. The lack of body autonomy effects cis women, trans people, intersex people, disabled people, poc, homeless people, sex workers, etc. and your feminism needs to include and prioritise all of these groups of people (which will include men btw) because feminism is about autonomy, not about establishing a matriarchy. Body autonomy is the biggest threat to the patriarchy, both with reproductive rights, LGBTQ+ rights, and even the right to not be drafted into military services. Once body autonomy is established for everyone, the patriarchy no longer has a leg to stand on.

And body autonomy does include things that you don’t personally like either. I was prompted to write this post after a series of bad takes from progressives, but one of them was re-hashing the Sabrina Carpenter album cover drama with “I don’t think it’s conservative of me to think that the album cover is a bad look when we’ve seen images of women being abused in this way” because I do actually think you’ve failed to understand feminism by projecting your morals onto a woman who was consensually expressing her own autonomy just because she expressed it in a way that you didn’t like or that made you uncomfortable.

Body autonomy also means unhealthy choices. Body autonomy also means regret rates. Body autonomy also means freedom of sexuality. Body autonomy also means mutilation. If you believe body autonomy has limitations and exceptions, then your feminism is most likely surface level.

TERFs are some of the biggest opponents to body autonomy, and if you find yourself thinking “oh people can do whatever they want with their bodies as long as it doesn’t harm them or make others uncomfortable” then you are far more susceptible to TERF propaganda than you think.

[rootingformephistopheles]

I feel it would be good to have a word that's like not ragebait but shamebait, where you can read a post and just go 'ah, this person just wants me to feel ashamed of myself and is not engaging with the issue in a constructive or useful way. I do not have to participate in this actually' and like. move on with your day

[punishedsaints]

[youthinkofacoolname]

Listen I fully believe that Joanne is a pedo, no doubt about it, but it's weird to imply writing books for kids is "suspicious". Like do you believe children don't deserve books written for them?

[transandrogyny--turtlebug]

being a woman isn't a feminist action btw

[transandrogyny--turtlebug]

being a lesbian isn't a feminist action either. It's just a thing

[theangryman]

being trans doesn’t make someone an activist either. “TRA” is absolutely stupid as a phrase

[manykinsmen]

“men can’t be oppressed” -> men of colour

“white men can’t be oppressed” -> gay men

“heterosexual men can’t be oppressed” -> trans men

“cis-het men can’t be oppressed” -> intersex men

“perisex men can’t be oppressed” -> disabled men

“able-bodied men can’t be oppressed” -> neurodivergent men

“cis-het perisex white able-bodied neurotypical men can’t be oppressed” -> buddy let me tell you about wealth and class and homelessness and immigrants and minority languages and cultures and being a child and being an elderly person and and and

we can keep doing this all day but the reality of the world is that very few people don’t face any kind of oppression at all and everyone exists in a complicated, intersecting web where they have privileges over some people in some contexts and some others are have privilege over them in other contexts. no one individual is incapable of enacting oppression and if you think that about yourself you need to go away and interrogate that belief.

[gender-trash]

zero patience for "irreversible damage" rhetoric because like... parents are allowed to do all kinds of other irreversible body modification to their kids and nobody gives a fuck. you can pierce your kid's ears, you can sign them up for a sport that will injure them for life, you can provide or withhold medical care like vaccines according to whatever whims you like. i've mentioned this before but my mom forced me to get laser hair removal done on my legs when i was a teenager because my body wasn't mine, the way i chose to upkeep it was a reflection on her. "irreversible damage" is very much part and parcel of the broader belief that parents own their children's bodies.

[b-side-takes]

not to be like that but misgendering is still misgendering even if you think you know someone’s gender better than they do. because that’s the basis of literally all misgendering you don’t get a special pass because you’re Transing Them

[schrodingers-afab-privilege]

"trans women are more likely to be misogynistic because they are male socialized" "all AFABs know more about misogyny because of life long experience" false, terrible takes, shut up forever

"women, whether cis or trans, have the capability to be misogynistic because being a woman does not make you immune to being misogynistic" the truth

[ghostboyravenight-deactivated20]

one of the biggest indicators that biphobia is still raging through the queer community is that people act like chappell roan is god’s gift to sapphics for writing mainstream songs about being queer as if we’ve never had an openly gay female artist before while women like lady gaga and kesha and doechii are just treated like allies to the community despite literally being bisexual like you’re not slick how obvious it is y’all think lesbianism is a more valid form of queerness than bisexuality, these women are not allies they are PART OF YOUR COMMUNITY. They are not “for the gays” THEY ARE THE FUCKING GAYS.

[fizzle-wizz13]

the same people who say "radfems reduce women to their reproductive systems" sure love to use inclusive language such as "birthing person" "menstruating person" or "person with a uterus"

our reproductive systems are the whole reason we've been oppressed our entire lives, you do not get to call yourself a woman because you "feel like it"

[theangryman]

you get that it isn’t about referring to women as “menstruating person”‘s right?

like, when someone uses the term “menstruating person” - they are using specific language, because it’s in the context of advice to people who menstruate? which the word “woman” doesn’t really encompass?

there are women who don’t menstruate. there are people you wouldn’t recognize as women who do. it’s kinda important in medical contexts to be specific about what populations you are referring to. maybe the med makes menstruating people bleed more, maybe it’s safe for children or women post menopause

imagine living a life so privileged that this is the crap you get mad about

[pineapplecake555]

Not all women menstruate but ONLY women menstruate. If a person is menstruating, that person is female. Special pronouns don’t change that.

But let’s talk about privilege! Imagine saying that confusing language that mostly alienates low literacy women and immigrants (so people with real challenges) is totally fine in service of not hurting the feelings of misogynistic women like you that demand the world validate your belief you’re a gay man.

Aren’t you embarrassed? Aren’t you ashamed that you’re telling a black mother that thinks this language is dehumanizing because it’s reminiscent of the language used by slavers that she can’t comprehend the pain of a white girl that is being told she isn’t a gay dude?

[theangryman]

hey pineapple - i know reading comprehension isn’t your strong suit, so i’ll spell it out a little more clearly for you

when people use the term “people who menstruate” - they aren’t trying to use a term to replace the term “women.” they are using a specific term because they are not wanting to refer to people who don’t menstruate, because in that context the menstruation is important

eg, if i were recruiting for a scientific study on menstruation and wanted to recruit participants, i would be putting on my posters that i was looking for “people who menstruate” and not “women,” because if i put “women” i would be recruiting people who would not be relevant in my study. or if i had a medication that was maybe bad for menstruating people (like fucks with iron or something), i would again need to clarify that this issue is for “people who menstruate”

because your entire “movement” is about feeling attacked all of the time, your alt right rage machine turns any usage of the term “people who menstruate” into “HOW DARE THEY TURN WOMEN INTO JUST UTERUSES” for your next stupid distraction rage cycle

i know this hard for you, but i really want you to read what i *actually* said, instead of whatever your brain wants me to have said. that’s typically how discourse works

[john-boneman-lich-lord]

"Summon ketamine ape is a banned spell" fuck it fine whatever, I summon a normal gorilla. I summon some ketamine.

[teaboot]

Maybe this was just how my family did things growing up but when I was a kid and we saw a lady with chin hairs or a small chest or large feet or a broad shoulders we’d say “it’s rude and mean to pick apart someone’s appearance” and mind our own damn business.

Apart from being reductive, transphobic, and anti-woman, all this “transvestigating” nonsense is just plain bad manners, and I think we should say that more

[runby2]

very specific situation that happens to me and my partners a lot

[souplover13]

image: comic depicting two people talking to each other.

the first caption is "[discussing factual issues abt a media]". one character says "oh yea it was weird that the workers had to be pushed on a game crunch and were mistreated therefore that is why the game looks bad." and the other says "i wish this media wasn't filled with racist propoganda. i wonder if the writers were aware of it."

second panel shows a third person shouting "WELL I LIKED IT!!!! I LIKE THAT MEDIA" while the first two people talk to each other.

third panel shows the first two people looking with question marks above their head. one of them says "? ok thats ok. im glad you like it ?" and caption reads "PRO TIP: discussing objective unbiased facts about media good or bad does not always imply someone likes or dislikes that media or that they are mad at you personally for enjoying what they're discussing."

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[shamebats]

Why I am done saying "I hate men"

By @ lioxaviera (she/her).

Video transcript below:

I'm trying to break a really bad habit, and that bad habit is saying "I hate men" because I don't hate men.

I hate the patriarchy. I hate sexism. I hate homophobia. I hate white supremacy. I hate racism. I hate transphobia. I hate fascism. I hate capitalism. I hate evil power structures, which are held up by men who benefit from patriarchy.

And I hate the way that patriarchy forces men to participate in it in order to maintain their sense of self.

But there are many, many wonderful individual men. I know men with high degrees of integrity—who do the work, who understand that they are not the only people on this earth who count as people. But it's a really hard habit to break because sometimes it feels like I hate men, because there are so many men who do not know how to separate themselves from the power structures that benefit them.

And I am positive that the same thing can be true with me and whiteness.

But I really need to stop saying "I hate men" because I don't hate men—I hate what they benefit from, and I hate the way they do not divorce themselves from it when they don't.

[skzloona]

Idk who needs to hear this but bisexuality includes trans people. Not "it can" include trans people or it "sometimes" includes trans people. It does. It always has. Any bisexual who says there's doesn't is just a transphobe and doesn't fucking represent what we're about.

[teashoesandhair]

'Pansexuality is like bisexuality, except it includes trans people' was one of the biggest brainrot takes of the mid 2010s on this hellsite, truly.

[thesituation]

i feel like too many people on here don’t rlly Get how hard and traumatizing it can be to force yourself to have sex that you don’t want to have, especially with someone you have no sexual attraction to. it’s not “just like doing a chore” and i think if you’ve actually done that or tried to do it, you’d understand how unnatural and sickening it feels. it just irks me so bad how nonchalant people are about saying “you don’t have to be attracted to someone to have sex with them” because like .. yeah strictly speaking i guess not? like objectively that is true. but the majority of the time it’s a sentiment used against lesbians and a means to reinforce compulsive heterosexuality and it disregards how traumatizing that can be later down the line, and how damaging it is to your personal idea of sex. instead of like, the groundbreaking sexual liberation people seem to think it is

[homobloquy]

These are, for the most part, the same people who go on and on about sex being just like any other activity, about sex not being any more special or intimate than platonic affection, and about everyone else being the real puritans or whatever for ascribing so much importance to sex. Plus the “kink isn’t actually sexual” and “not all sex is even sexual” shit.

And it’s like alright… so sex isn’t a big deal, and it’s also not a big deal to have sex you don’t want or don’t feel like having, and it’s fine and normal if it feels more like a chore or if you’re just satisfying your partner rather than actually getting anything out of it yourself. And it isn’t even really sex, stop being allonormative, it’s not much different than holding hands or giving a massage.

Do you hear how that sounds? You literally sound like a sexual predator. Why the fuck are we letting people normalize this?

Having actually been through comphet (and mercifully not really exposed to this shit at that time in my life) I’m so fucking grateful that I didn’t prolong my own suffering or put myself through any worse than I already did due to these fucking people saying that it’s fine and normal to date and have sex with someone you’re not actually attracted to. It really does fuck you up to constantly tell yourself “no, this is fine, I’m having a good time, yeah I’m not getting anything out of letting this person have access to my body and intimate knowledge about me but this is what a Good Partner does and it’s not a big deal anyway.” So for someone to have those thoughts reinforced as fucking pro-ace praxis? You are fucking people up in ways that will take god knows how long to untangle.

[transcephalopod]

all these people saying shit like "it's totally fine to have sex you don't like because your partner wants to! sex isn't a big deal at all!" man i guarantee you would not react the same if a random stranger grabbed your arm vs if they groped you. sex is not just like watching a movie or eating food you sort of dislike and you know it.