A comedy of errors

32, he/they. Angry and tired, but not giving up. I had to leave and then I had to return. Assiduous blocker. Social media was a mistake. Free Palestine. Nazis and terfs fuck off.

[berlynn-wohl]

Me in 2006: I’m still bitter about that

Me in 2016: I’m still salty about that

Me in 2026, probably: I’m still umami about that

[allaark]

Well, are you?. We’re waiting.

[berlynn-wohl]

There’s a lot to be umami about these days.

[spin-the-wheel-polls]

you have to dress in this style for the rest of your life!

(you do not have to follow the beliefs associated with the style if that style has associated beliefs. The wheel curse does not affect anything like that.)

Do you like it?

yes!!

it's okay I guess

no

NO.

I dress like this already

results/other/unsure

Remaining time: 6 days 12 hours

[frontmansdog]

there’s a t-shirt that says “I survived a bad day and all I got was the rest of my life” and yeah I still think about it

[rob-by]

The pathologization of anger needs to be talked about. What do you mean my therapist is telling me that there’s something “chemically wrong” with me because I am still angry about my mom DYING OF COVID.

of course I’m still angry? My mom and 1.3 million other Americans are dead and you want me to shoot sunshine out of my ass about it?

[rob-by]

“But It’s been 3 years since she died, you have complex grief” yeah and she was on a ventilator for 11 days and she kept writing “I am scared” and “I don’t want to die” on a notepad over and over again. While you were still going out unmasked and unvaccinated and coughing all over each other, I was living a nightmare I couldn’t fucking wake up from. And every single day I’m reminded of it in the form of “haha wasn’t the pandemic such a wacky time haha” and “I’m not getting a booster you can’t make me 🤪 (nobody asked)” and “it’s not real they made the numbers up!!!”

“You’re not coping” Ok here’s the deal; I’ll stop feeling this anger when we have a national memorial (we don’t) or a cdc equipped to stop it from happening again (we don’t) or a population that takes a deadly disease seriously BEFORE it effects them personally (WE DON’T!)

until then, I’m pretty sure my anger is A COMPLETELY NORMAL HUMAN REACTION given the facts at hand

[circlusion]

The world has irrevocably changed 😃

[whatthefuckjeeves]

The person who told the cops about her abortion was her boyfriend btw. For your safety, do not sleep with or date men who would not defend your rights. There is no "we don't talk politics" or "we just agree to disagree" when his disagreement is your loss of freedom. Stop dating men who would turn you in for a nickel if you hurt their feelings.

[busket]

if you make up a new gendered binary to sort people into and nonbinary people ask "well where do I fit into this?" and your answer is "that depends on the sex you were assigned at birth" well I dont think thats very good, tbh

[fangs4faggots]

i think we should start openly mocking male creatives who can't figure out how to write women. like actually i think it's embarrassing that it took elliot page transitioning for christopher nolan to give him a good role. why did it take like ten years to get the first female lead in a marvel movie? why is it a Known Fact that stephen king can't write women? why is 50% of the population omitted from large ensemble works? i asked my friend to name a movie directed by a man with a majority female cast and he said ghostbusters 2016. ghostbusters. ghostbusters. g

[amarits]

Elliot Page also starred in Inception before transitioning, and from what I’ve heard is in The Odyssey for less than five minutes, so that’s a really weird example to use. Like, I don’t disagree with the overall point, but why is that the first example? Kind of feels more like criticizing Nolan for hiring a trans actor than actually being about men not able to write women.

[fvckw4d]

Elliot Page is such a good example of how when trans men transition people automatically read privilege into their experiences—them specfically, in a way that singles them out among the sea of cis men they are surrounded with living their lives uncontroversially—when all evidence suggests they are actually experiencing the exact opposite of that. Elliot Page has gotten nothing but hate and scrutinity from the general public and the media and his career has taken some serious damage since coming out.

[leo-fie]

Shoutout to Harry King, the King Of The Golden River, for his non-discriminating hiring practices, for treating his workers right, and for contributing more to Ankh-Morpork's health and safety than maybe anyone else.

[kosmogrl]

depressed at 11 was crazy i should have become a child prodigy

[leiten7]

[stephexmachina]

genuinely insane to me that bikinis are the Default swimwear marketed & sold to women. that's nylon underwear. & if you don't want to wear one people treat you like you're childish & insecure & suggest ways to "get over it"

[stephexmachina]

"i feel uncomfortable with the idea of wearing what amounts to fast-drying underwear in front of other people, many of them complete strangers" "have you tried gradually acclimating to showing more & more skin? have you tried being more confident? are you ashamed of your body? don't you want to show off your beach bod?" girl what the fuck are you talking about!!!

[stephexmachina]

wearing a bikini is all about confidence & self-love 🥰 but remember to wax all that icky yucky body hair first!!! 🤢 nobody wants to see that 🙅‍♀️

[cheaphalloweencostume]

“everyone is mad at me and they just won’t tell me” —> “no one has said anything about being mad at me and i haven’t done anything to warrant being mad at so if someone is silently fuming about me and not saying anything that’s their problem and actually quite weird of them and i can effortlessly move on with my life”

[cheaphalloweencostume]

this took SUCH a huge deal of unlearning because, like so many of you, i came out of a home where being quietly in trouble WAS the default state, and i DID grow up not just with the assumption but borderline religious conviction that Everyone Is Mad At Me, I Am Bad, I Must Exist In A Constant State of Attempting to Pacify The Natural Rage I Inspire In Everyone. and no it actually turns out that my family are the freaks . and yours are too

[cheaphalloweencostume]

“this isn’t true because i DEFINITELY silently fume at people in the hopes they’ll figure out what they did and apologize” that’s not good. you shouldn’t do that

“this isn’t true because the ex-friendship that traumatized me ended explosively after they were mad at me and never told me why” that’s not good. they shouldn’t be doing that

“i don’t think this is true because my current friend group is constantly icing me out until i figure out what ive done to upset them and properly apologized without being told” hey thats not good. they should not be doing that

if the peacefulness of your relationship with someone (familial, romantic, friendly, anything) can be destroyed by effective communication/asking them for effective communication, you have got to get out of there. if you can’t get out of there, you’ve got to throw away any ideas about what that person thinks of you because they have their own shit to figure out before they can accurately read anyone else

[secondquarrel]

so venezuela has become a usamerican colony. like that happened and everything carried on like normal

[secondquarrel]

like i know venezuela is going through a huge humanitarian crisis right now and their political regime is low in the list of priorities when tallinmg about it obviously it's just it shocked me to read trump congratulating his secretary of energy on how well he's running what used to be a sovereign country until a few months back you know

[ralfmaximus]

He wants to do that to Canada, Cuba, and Greenland too and is simply shocked that it hasn't happened yet.

[dandeliont3aandsageleaves]

Hey so it's worse then that

Does anybody remember when back in January Trump kidnapped the Venezuelan president? Well the American government proceeded to place someone else in charge and is directing them via text message. They are telling him who to appoint into office and allowing US businesses into the country.

They are "not looking to instate democratic elections at this time."

Is Venezuela a Colony Now? A Sovereign State? Modern Empires Rule in Ambiguity.

Occupation is a hassle. Large countries have many new ways to control small ones.

[s-t-a-r-c-o]

im reading discworld and im on the third book and i only just realized they arent arranged like this

[sator-the-wanderer]

I raise it to

[evilbatmanisagatewaydrug]

>experiencing interpersonal drama

>ask myself internally if I’m being reassurance seeking or if I actually need that information

>brain doesn’t understand I pull out a list of symptoms of reassurance seeking vs actually needed information

>brain laughs and says you actually need the information sir

>ask the question

>it’s reassurance seeking

[midnightssea]

it’s amazing how women are able to navigate crowded rooms without ever touching a palm to a man’s lower back

[dumbdogdiscourse]

If you believe trans men are "only" seen as confused girls then you are, more likely than not, willfully ignoring the transmasculine experience. Trans men and mascs have been talking for years and years about how there is more to it than that.

First, there's the ignorance about what being treated as a "confused girl" means. It means being infantilized, it means being institutionalized, it means having your body autonomy stripped from you, it means being put in your place through rape and abuse, it means being property, it means forced to become a wife and mother. Thats what happens when you're a "confused girl".

Second, the "confused girl" stereotype dwindles the more masculine a trans man/masc becomes. Then he's dangerous. He's a predator; here to steal your daughters away to become hysterical, defective, unfuckable things like himself. He's going to take her fertility, her beauty, her ability to contribute to "proper" society. He's invading women's spaces. He's tricking straight women into being lesbians and gay men into being straight. He is past the point of no return; he can no longer be "fixed"; he must be killed.

To ignore these; to assert that trans men and mascs are "only" seen as confused girls, are never seen as predators, is contributing to systemic transmasculine erasure. Do better.