You are Wonderful

Welcome to this safe space! This is a side blog where I will reblog all my ace/aro and other a-spec positivity stuff. I am happy to talk to anyone and help as much as I can. My icon is from justaphobethings.

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

here, have some bi-ace solidarity

[1stsana]

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

my favorite part about this is everyone tagging their ace/bi mutuals like "look!! it's us! it's you!!" target audience

[theprideful-deactivated20251201]

stop being funnier than me on my own post

[arorambling]

one of the top ten Aro Experiences ™: being very touch-starved while also feeling like a small, bitey animal that’s been poorly socialized and has like a 50/50 chance of reacting badly to physical affection

[overcaffeinated-aro]

not to be aro on main or anything but I just think so many things would be better if we told kids “oh that’s ok, not everyone likes that kind of relationship” or “not everyone likes doing that” instead of “oh how silly, you’ll understand when you’re older~” when they express disgust or confusion around romantic and/or sexual relationships

[overcaffeinated-aro]

[ID: a set of tags by @guyramsayfieri that reads “😌 I think it would also be really helpful if we became more culturally aware because romance and sex aren’t the same all over the world. like there are cultures where kissing does not happen in a romantic context it’s only familial. where it’s gross to our mouths on each other’s or where it’s disrespectful or done to show deference. human experience is varied and not all the westernized monolithic bullshit we think it is” /End ID]

[thesevenumbrellas]

Supporting bisexuals is ace culture

[missmagooglie]

Supporting aces is bisexual culture

[bace-jeleren]

Holy shit, Dr. Tingle, go OFF!!!!

[witharsenicsauce]

That’s not all!

Bless Dr. Tingle!!!

[intangibel]

“Happy Autism Acceptance Month! In celebration, we created this infographic to inform and share our data with you all. With one third of surveyed aces being on the asexuality spectrum we would like to spotlight the intersectionality experienced by autistic aces. This data comes for the 2019 Ace Community Survey data which will be in a report later this year, so be on the lookout!” - Siggy April 17 2021, Asexual Census / Ace Community Survey

[ID: Graphical representation of the 2019 survey data produced by Asexual Community Survey titled: A-Okay Intersectionality a visibility report on autistic aces and their experiences. Heading - More than 1/3 of surveyed aces are on the autistic spectrum (bar graph shows 8.5% professionally diagnosed, 9% self diagnosed, 17.8% unsure.) Heading - Autistic Aces Largely identify as Queer (pie graph shows 72.5% of aces identify as queer, 14.4% of autistic aces are questioning or unsure, 13.2% do not identify as queer. N=3738.) Heading - Three in Ten Autistic Aces identify as transgender. (Graphic split into three colours reading: 29.8% of autistic aces identify as transgender, while 13.2% are unsure. N=3743) Heading: More than half of autistic aces are on the Aromantic spectrum (graphic grid of 110 blocks: 39 are pink labelled not aro, 23 are blue labelled unsure, 48 are grey labelled aro spec. N=3756) Heading: Autistic Aces are more likely to be poly than allistic aces. (Two bar graphs compare breakdowns: Autistic Aces are 55.6% not polyamorous, 26.6% unsure, 15.7% polyamorous, unlisted % labelled ‘other’. Allistic Aces 71.2% not polyamorous, 18.8% unsure, amount of polyamorous unlisted, visually appears approx 10% or less out of remaining 13%. N=3744) Heading: Autistic Aces are at higher risk of suicide (69.9% had serious thoughts about suicide, 37% had plans to commit suicide, 19.7% attempted suicide. N=3550) Data used from 2019 Ace Community Survey, special thanks to Tracey, Lea and Robin for the data analysis and the infographic. For more information: https://asexualcensus.wordpress.com/]

[catcrumb]

[arosonist]

[ID: A simplistic cat drawn in MS paint holding a tiny glass of lemonade with a little umbrella, along with black text saying “Pay no attention to my complex and extremely personal relationship with gender. This cat has a glass of lemonade.” End ID]

[luxarcher]

Ultra delayed post for Aro Awareness Week a while back bc I haven’t been on tumblr in a while, but hopefully this resonates in a few of you too!!

[bacchilles]

babey i have envy for genders youve never even heard of

[wondersmith-and-sons]

when asexual woc talk about existing in intersections of racialised misogyny and acephobia, the conversations starts with the fact that our bodies are objectified and dehumanised by white patriarchal culture. lack of sexuality is almost incomprehensible and lack of sexual availability for men – any kind of unavailability regardless of whether they’re ace or not, either bc we’re not interested, not sexually attracted, or in a relationship – it is literally seen as insubordination by certain men who think it’s their god-given right to a woc’s body. 

women of colour are hypersexualised and objectified in different ways because of our race, but our universal experience is based on how our culture promotes the idea that our bodies are for male consumption. as an asexual woman of colour, it means that our lack of sexual attraction is seen as something to be conquered, or fixed, or a wrong to be righted. for white men, it’s another space to colonise. 

so when the predominantly white ace discourse brings up again and again that “acephobia isn’t real” calls ace people “straight people who don’t have sex”, you’re erasing the way many ace woc are trying to navigate our bodies and sexual agency as asexuals. don’t derail this by saying what we face “isn’t acephobia, just misogyny”, we’re facing intersections of both that have arisen from a culture of compulsory heterosexuality and white supremacy. many asexual women of colour have talked about it and you do not get to silence our voices. 

white people on both sides of the Discourse need to acknowledge this, especially in regards to the erasure that goes on in the white ace community and non-ace poc need to stop throwing us under the bus by pretending that we don’t exist and our sexuality is irrelevant. 

[aroloverboy]

Happy Non Binary day!

[movedto-moodycrush]

I made pride rats!!

You can get them in stickers, phone cases, totes, prints, and more on my new Redbubble shop!

Please check it out if you have the time. If not, reblogs always help! Thank you so much for your support!!

EDIT: He now comes with an aromantic heart as well!! My apologies for forgetting it before.

[dankmemeuniversity]

[xelayxes]

[xelayxes]

@matzahball

[dracophile]

For a second I didn’t realize it meant “high” as in a stoner--I thought “High Geologist” was like a rank of geologist or something and he was insulted you would challenge him to naming stones

[hamptercatapult]

great poast every one👍

[shirecorn]

I have drawn him.... The High Geologist

[syberfire117]

Can’t believe he’s ace

[shirecorn]

He is now And here’s the photo evidence:

[aphorisnt]

hey guys...https://twitter.com/MatthewLillard/status/1322648148364324864 so does this make it canon?

[shirecorn]

the high geologist has ascended

[aroquestionstotheworld]

Like how people assume I get a free pass from the existential crisis of “What if I never find anyone”. Bruh, tried growing up with your sexuality being every straight person’s worst case scenario?

[hottestaceinthisplace]

If you don’t believe being asexual has any negative affect on people I was told by a psychiatrist that none of my relationships count because we didn’t have sex, and I can’t say I’m gay since I don’t want to have sex with girls.

and I was taken off my antidepressants because they may be lowering the libido I never had in the first place (plus various other reasons, but still immediately, cold turkey, which should NEVER happen unless they’re switching you to something else)

But aphobia doesn’t exist and asexuals are privileged, right?

[bitterqueerandtired]

Sorry to add to this but I wanted to say since I’ve had bad experiences with mental health professionals and biphobia, I usually get asked “but are you sure you are sexually attracted to both sexes, are you sure it’s not just an emotional attraction?!” Like my dude don’t you think I can tell the difference between wanting to date someone and wanting to be friends? Also, due to be gray ace 90% of the time I am not even attracted to anyone but like sure, make me feel guilty that I can’t “prove” my bisexuality.

[lesbianpeachs]

Sorry too but to add on, being aro isn’t much different. I told my therapist and she was immediately concerned that my meds were repressing “all my emotions” and wanted to take me off them. My insurance ran out and I went off them bc of no money before that happened. She also suggested dating someone anyway to “fix” the “issue” and expressed concern that my emotions (romantic feelings) weren’t present because “I’m suspicious and untrusting of everyone and don’t want to try hard enough.”

Having your orientation medicalized and invalidated is bad enough, but its fucking dangerous to have your meds taken away because you’re not performing relationships the way some doctor thinks you’re required to.

[star-anise]

Aaaand this is why we need the bi/pan/ace/aro alliance.

[grandmaestheticc-deactivated201]

this is why we need to recognize more queer experiences and identities than gay and lesbian, through increased awareness, information and representation.

[asexualspectrumspector]

My hand slipped…  (P.S. It’s transparent!)

[asexualcheetah]

Join the alliance!!

[hoardofhyperfixations]

Yes!!

[smitethestate]

I love it, I have joined the alliance effective immediately, I love all my ace/aro/bi siblings.

[ironwoman359]

solidarity, baby

[aroaceness]

black aces and aros are an important part of this community

Black asexual people. Black aromantic people. Black aroace people. ANY BLACK ASPEC OR AROSPEC PEOPLE.

You matter to this community

[a-space-for-a-specs]

I'm struggling with what I feel my gender is. I don't really feel like male or female, but I don't particularly identify with the term non-binary, I just kinda feel like... me, I suppose.

However, the other week my mom and I went to grab some starbucks and while she was telling the person what drink I wanted she unintentionally refered to me as "they." And duuuude it made me feel ✨ so ✨ good ✨!!! I didn't want to say anything because I'm just not ready to have that kind of conversation with her, and I didn't want to ruin the elation of the moment. But I've been riding that high for weeks now 😂