Alice in FandomLand

AJ-- 26 -- They/Them-- Scorpio -- INTP I fell down the rabbit hole and landed here. And the rest of the world fell as well.

[midshines]

Current Mood: Crying While Watching Blue’s Clues Pride Song

[midshines]

[personinthepalace]

It’s sung to the tune of The Ants Go Marching One By One song!!!

Another reason why Blues Clues and You is like the best reboot ever

[heartshapedguillotine]

some highlights from the notes 💖

[metalheadsagainstfascism]

Stop.

Oh, my god. I’m already crying with asexuality included.

Now you’re telling me other groups feel the same way?

There’s legit tears down my face.

-fae

[metalheadsagainstfascism]

The more you look at it the more you love it.

The drag queen is holding a BLM sign.

There’s a Hijabi on the all races float (and if you look closely at the flag, I think the owl is indigenous).

One of the babas is disabled.

They could have just stopped at including all the flags.

But no. They said “I don’t care if they’re animals. I’m going to make it very clear we’re including all races and disabled people.”

And it’s such small details, but they’re there.

-fae

[metalheadsagainstfascism]

Found 2 more hidden BLM flags.

And I consider myself pretty versed in queer identities, but even I don’t know what some of these flags are.

Which really shows that you’ve never had the opportunity to feel validated like this, and that makes me love it even more.

-fae

[nicnacsnonsense]

I already made my own post about this as well, but it seems like a good idea to add the info on this post too, since it’s really taken off. There are (at least) 30 different flags plus assorted other representation. They include:

Pride, Progress Pride, BLM Progress Pride, Lesbian, Gay Man

Trans, Nonbinary — Dolphin wheelchair user, Top surgery beaver

Gender Queer, Genderfluid, Intersex Demigender, Demiboy, Demigirl, Bisexual, Pansexual, Asexual, Demisexual, Gray Asexual, Aromantic — Blind bird

Bigender, Genderflux, Omnisexual, Neutrois, Maverique, Pangender, Drag — llama(?) with prosthetic leg

Trigender, Ally, Two-Spirit, and Gender Questioning — Hijabi owl and Native American owl

[crabdinners]

I’m so fucking happy for the LGBTQ+ kids that have things like this to let them know they’re valid

[moved99999999999]

This much representation including stuff I’ve never fucking seen before

and in a KIDS show, like that’s insane, people will finally grow up knowing it’s ok to exist

Blues clues did their research, said LGBTQ+ rights and fucking meant it bruh

[pulsinghurricanespell-deactivat]

Please like it to show your support. Conservatives are dislike bombing the video and the likes to dislikes ratio is 53:41. Earlier it was 51:39. If the ratio is too bad then Nik might not do anything like this again - bad for publicity. So please show them how important this video is!

[a-girl-with-sparkling-lies]

PLEASE like the video, the redneck right have dislike bombed to nearly 50/50, please support this amazing video

[1-800-i-ship-it]

this is so beautiful ahhh also if u dont want to scroll up again, 

heres the link!! currently at 59k:53k june 5, 2021

[im-simmin]

61:59 right now, go like the video!!!!

[injuries-in-dust]

65:65 now, we can do this.

[great-tweets]

We just knew.

[awed-frog]

As a reminder, this is what she looks like:

[yougetsomekisses]

[larkiethings]

Also I hope everyone knows that Miette was fostered before she was adopted, and her foster mom loved that little kitten so much and always hoped she'd gone to a good home. this tweet got so popular that she recognized Miette and reached out to her current mom, and was able to share previously unseen baby pictures

[darthmelyanna]

You mean, she saw Miette was kicked like the football and did nothing to help put Mother in jail for a thousand years? I am appalled.

[tigerses]

her!!!

[madeofstarsandfairylights]

Baby Miette!!!

[aroloverboy]

Hey it’s ace week and you’re local ace has something to say! I’ve been out as ace for 3 years now and it’s still a big part of my identity that I’m proud of so here’s a lil something for those who need it!

[roboco-san]

my personal curse is the knowledge that I function best with rigid structure and strict routine but am almost totally incapable of independently establishing or maintaining that structure and routine

[curlyfried]

Don’t forget this special feature: at the same time hating when people tell you what to do

[one-time-i-dreamt]

[mythicalcoolkid]

Habits, Tics, Stims, Compulsions, and Behaviors

You are tapping your foot. Someone asks you to stop. You do. You feel no ill effects aside from maybe disappointment at having to stop. You tap your foot often. This is a habit.

You are tapping your foot, whether you want to or not. Someone asks you to stop. You can’t. If you try to it feels like holding in a sneeze and the pressure builds up. It might come out in a different, even less controllable action. This is a tic.

You are tapping your foot. Someone asks you to stop. You do, but immediately feel worse physically or emotionally. It was a way for you to express yourself and how you feel. You may feel pressure. This is a stim.

You are tapping your foot. Someone asks you to stop. You can’t, because if you do something bad will happen, possibly some specific bad thing. You know it’s irrational, but not doing it gives you anxiety. This is a compulsion.

You are tapping your foot. Someone asks you to stop. You can’t, because if you do this specific bad thing will happen. It is not irrational to you, although it is to others. This is an erratic/disorganized behavior.

[vespaaurinkos]

Make Her Proud ✊🏽

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Many white lgbtq folks have spoken out about their distaste for the current riots and protests that are happening across the US right now, but still want to celebrate pride. 

So in honor of pride month, here’s a quick history lesson. 

This is Marsha P. Johnson, a black trans woman, and the reason we can celebrate pride today. 

In the year 1969, the police were raiding gay bars and nightclubs and arresting people by the dozens. This had been going on for several months when one night, the police showed up at the Stonewall Club, and began their usual arrests.

 One of the cops pushed a woman against a cop car, hurting her head and causing her to cry out in pain, and that was when Marsha decided enough was enough. She grabbed her shot glass and threw it at the wall, and so began the Stonewall riots, which went on for several days. 

Starting to sound familiar? 

Marsha took a stand for the community and she started the long tradition that lead to the Pride we know today. So not only was pride a riot, it was started by a woman of color. So now, it’s time to pay it back. Stand up for your black and brown brothers and sisters as we fight oppression, just as we fought for you.

 Fuck Shit Up. 

Give Them Hell. 

Make Her Proud.

[pinchemorramexa]

I love (not) how Pride month just became Trans month. I haven’t seen talk about gay men or lesbians in the two weeks we’ve been in June. I haven’t seen anyone posting black gay and lesbian support organization links, not even for trans men, just trans women. Kind of makes you think. Pride is no longer a gay movement, it’s a trans movement. Sex is not real apparently, so no wonder no one talks about sexualities, it’s all about identities and the new make up you wear. As a lesbian this is really disappointing. 

[spaghettioverdose-deactivated20]

I sure fucking wonder why people have been focusing more on trans people lately 

could it be transphobes like you who are constantly crying that the evil transes are trying to abolish sex?

could it be the amount of bigotry trans people have been constantly getting even within the LGBT+ community?

could it be the amount of harassment and violence trans people suffer?

no one’s stopped celebrating sexualities

no one’s stopped talking about gay issues 

but a lot of people have been focusing more about trans issues specifically to spite TERFs like you

have fun being mad though

the evil transes are going to take your sexuality away tomorrow 

[kulluto-remade-deactivated20201]

trump really rolled back healthcare protections for lgbt people during pride month AND on the day of the 4 year anniversary of the pulse nightclub shooting. i don’t know why i’m even shocked at this point but i still feel physically ill

[kulluto-remade-deactivated20201]

while this is going to affect lgbt people in general because we are now at risk of being charged higher premiums or fees for being lgbt or at risk of being completely denied healthcare for simply existing it’s especially going to affect trans men and trans women. i know there is a lot happening right now but please don’t let this go unnoticed. they are purposely passing these anti-lgbt laws right now because they know with the protests going on it’s an ideal time to do so. it’s an evil, underhanded tactic. don’t let them get away with keeping us in the dark about this.

[keratonin]

the article mentions that lambda legal is challenging the rule. (they’re a nonprofit that works to protect lgbtq+ rights) here’s a link to their donation page and someone’s doing donation matching right now so anything you can donate will be doubled!

[t5t]

international blm sites & resources, reposting from this tweet

general eng: blacklivesmatters.carrd.co

🇨🇦: justice for regis korchinski-paquet (google doc)

🇰🇷: blmkorea.carrd.co

🇯🇵: blmjp.carrd.co

🇨🇳: chineseforblm.carrd.co

🇲🇫: blacklivesmatters-french.carrd.co

🇪🇸: lasvidasnegrasimportan.carrd.co

🇩🇪: blacklivesmatters-german.carrd.co

🇮🇹: levitenerecontano.carrd.co

🇭🇺: blmhungary.carrd.co

🇵🇹: asvidasnegrasimportam.carrd.co

🇧🇷: blmbr.carrd.co

🇫🇮: finnblm.carrd.co

🇵🇬: weneedtotalkaboutpapua.carrd.co

🇮🇩: indonesianblm.carrd.co

🇵🇱: blm-pl.carrd.co

🇹🇭: blmthai.carrd.co

🇦🇱: blmalbania.carrd.co

🇻🇳: vietsforblm.carrd.co

arabic: blm-arab.carrd.co

[one-time-i-dreamt]

VOTE!!!! DON'T LET TRUMP AND PENCE GET AWAY WITH THIS!!! EVERY VOTE COUNTS!!!

[one-time-i-dreamt]

VOTE!!!! DON'T LET TRUMP AND PENCE GET AWAY WITH THIS!!! EVERY VOTE COUNTS!!!

[paxamericana]

Man who trains San Jose police about bias severely injured by riot gun during George Floyd protest

Derrick Sanderlin helps train police recruits about implicit bias, and last Friday, he was seriously hurt after being shot with a riot gun during a protest. Now he and his wife aren't sure if they'll be able to have children.

[hyrude]

itch.io is offering a 743-game bundle including night in the woods, oxenfree, and overland, for as little as $5! just skimming the list, i also see tons of lgbt+ and poc-centric games available. 100% of contributions go to NAACP legal defense and educational fund and community bail fund. if there’s a game you were already thinking of buying, spend that money here instead and get an extra 742 as a gift! 

[autumngracy]

✨HOLY SHIT✨

[autumngracy]

PSA: Days after its launch, game developers are still adding their games to this bundle! Besides the initial 743 games offered, there are over a hundred, if not hundreds more, games that will be added to the bundle in batch updates (after they pass admin review) which anyone who bought the bundle at any point will be able to access!

There is still a week left to buy this incredible bundle for the ridiculously low price of $5!!!

[luxwing]

As of June 9th, this bundle now includes

Over 1400 titles 😳👀

Including some familiar names like

Celeste

2064: Read Only Memories

Nuclear Throne

Dungeons & Lesbians

Sewer Rave

And almost 50 pages of content you can own for a minimum purchase of $5 (although you should pay the average donation price which at last check is $10)

[whitepeopletwitter]

[weaselle]

There was an arrest across the street from my place in Oakland one day – three cop cars with a bullhorn and guns out – and before I could even get out the gate there were a couple people posted up and one of them was filming and another one was narrating in a calm but very loud voice, just

“HE IS COOPERATING! HIS HANDS ARE EMPTY! HE IS DOING WHAT HE IS TOLD TO DO! HE IS HOLDING STILL! HIS HANDS ARE EMPTY! HE IS NOT BEING THREATENING! HE HAS PUT HIS HANDS BEHIND HIS HEAD AS ASKED! HE IS NOT RESISTING!”

and that was something I hadn’t thought to do before. It certainly let the cops know what the narrative of eye witnesses was going to be. 

I especially liked “his hands are empty” because this statement would still be true and a witnessed reason the police should not become violent even if it turned out he had a weapon on his person somewhere.

[lotrlocked]

I see people in NYC stop and record a lot. Even if they are just being nosey, that’s still witnesses if shit goes down.

[teashoesandhair]

In the wake of JK once more being a total jk, here’s a (non-exhaustive) thread of works by Black trans writers.

Don’t Call Us Dead - Danez Smith, poetry about Black masculinity, police brutality, gender and queerness. Probably the best book of poetry I’ve ever read. Smith has several collections available and you should read them all.

The Deep - Rivers Solomon, a speculative fiction novella about the descendants of murdered slave women. Themes of trauma and memory. Really beautiful writing. Their sci-fi novel An Unkindness of Ghosts is equally unmissable.

Redefining Realness - Janet Mock, the memoir of Mock’s childhood and adolescence as a trans woman before she transitioned. Mock’s second memoir, Surpassing Certainty, focuses on her life in her twenties.

Felix Ever After - Kacen Callender, a YA novel about a teenage trans boy (at the start of the book), Felix, as he further questions his identity, tries to find love, and works on his artistic future. Everything that makes YA novels great.

Reacquainted with Life - KOKUMO, a debut about Black trans womanhood and the power of her voice and body. This work is so hard to describe. Ferocious? Lively? Witty? Completely different to literally any poetry I’ve ever read? All of the above and more.

Mannish Tongues - jay dodd, a poetry collection about Black youth, queerness, religion, family, and gender. I hate how pretentious the word ‘visceral’ is, but it’s pretty accurate here. dodd’s collection The Black Condition ft. Narcissus is also phenomenal.

Pet - Akwaeke Emezi, a YA novel about a Black trans teenage girl and having to confront the existence of monsters. Emezi also has an acclaimed adult novel out, Freshwater, and I believe their new adult novel, The Death of Vivek Oji, is out in August 2020.

trigger - Venus Selenite, poetry about being Black, trans, queer, and unapologetic. This one is hard to get hold of, but worth it if you can. Selenite also co-edited and is featured in Nameless Woman, an anthology of writing by trans women of colour.

Surge - Jay Bernard, a poetry collection written in response to the 1981 fire at New Cross Road, as well as Grenfell Tower and the Windrush Scandal. Bernard is one of those poets who can use 10 words to say more than most of us can in 1,000.

Nameless Woman: An Anthology of Fiction by Trans Women of Color - ed. Venus Selenite, Ellyn Peña and Jamie Berrout, this one includes several stories by Black trans women and is, as a body of work, completely invaluable. The stories here range from semi-autobiographical and romance to sci-fi and speculative fiction.

Resilience - ed. Amy Heart, Larissa Glasser and Sugi Pyrrophyta, an anthology of writing by ©AMAB trans people. Again, this anthology is not specifically dedicated to Black trans people, but it includes work by KOKUMO and CHRYSALISAMIDST, amongst others. This book is super varied, with short stories, poetry and personal essays.

Consider ordering these, where possible, from independent Black owned bookstores.

You can also financially support Black trans people through donating to organisations such as this and these.

Important addendum: I tried incredibly hard to find published works by Black trans women, because trans women are the focus of JK Rowling’s tweets and indeed an overwhelming amount of violence and bigotry in general, but I’m sure it’s no surprise to anyone that Black trans women are enormously discriminated against by the publishing industry, and are routinely denied a platform for their work and their voices. Literally, when you Google ‘black trans woman author’, you just get Janet Mock’s author page. I think all of the books by Black trans women in the list above, with the exception of Janet Mock, are self/indie pub.

I have trawled through online indie and radical publishing magazines, message boards, and nearly 100 lists of ‘trans authors you must read now!’ and I would charitably say that about 1% of people featured in such lists are Black trans women. Obviously, Black trans women are writing, but the lack of available platform for their work is a huge barrier to their voices being heard. If anyone else has recommendations for work by Black trans women, whether it’s a physical book, an online chapbook, an Insta account of poetry, or anything else, please add it, because there must be so much more than I’ve managed to find.

[dovekiss]

The most comprehensive link to donations, petitions, resources and information. Silence is compliance in violence.

[luckcat-deactivated20240730]

A list of misinformation that’s being spread, please check that things are true before you repost/reblog them

A playlist of 56 videos that are all donating their ad revenue to causes related to the black lives matter movement

[partialbirthabortion]

We really have harmed a whole generation of trans and gnc children by failing to communicate how serious a decision binding actually is, how there’s no ACTUALLY safe way to bind, how it permeneantly damages the body, how it can make top surgery more difficult in the future. I don’t think we should be keeping trans kids from binding (we let kids do all sorts of things they’re really not old enough to understand the potential consequences of) but we owe them the ability to make informed decisions at LEAST

[arty-ari]

So this is definitely an important conversation to have, but can you point me at some reading about “permanent damage”? I might just be lucky, but I had zero lasting effects from binding. I’d like to at least read up on it so I can have this conversation and be more specific than “be careful.”

[partialbirthabortion]

Of course! I can’t easily source right now but I am more than happy to provide further info when I am not at work and on mobile. Unfortunately, like a lot of trans healthcare, a lot of what we know about binding is anecdotal and word of mouth. BUT permeneant damage can include:

-Musculoskeletal damage. Binders are indiscriminate compression tools; they can’t flatten the chest without applying pressure every other anatomical structure underneath including the spine, ribs, lungs and heart. Many people who bind experience chronic back pain, shoulder pain, sharp stabbing chest pains, permeneantly decreased lung capacity, literal spine deformation, etc etc.

-A continuation of the above but the ribs are actually jointed bones. Their ability to flex is absolutely vital to their ability to withstand trauma and protect your vital organs. Imagine the damage that would be done to your elbow if your bent your arm to full flexion and then tightly bound it closed like that, for six, eight, twelve hours per day, every day, for weeks or months or years. And you don’t NEED a functioning arm to live!

-Tissue atrophy. Forcing chest tissue to lay in an unnatural way can and will change the way that tissue looks, even to risk of atrophy. Some people who bind and only moderately dislike the way their chest looks find that they HATE the way it looks after binding for a period of time. Tissue atrophy can also make top surgery more difficult in the future, and increase the risk of complications like nerve damage.

-Worsened dysphoria. Once someone starts binding and becomes accustomed to seeing themselves with a flat chest, it can be much more difficult to see yourself without one, and dysphoria that much more intolerable. You can imagine the psychological feedback loop of binding more in response.

The typical safety measures passed around about binding are harm REDUCTION measures and should not be advertised as making binding “safe.” Binding is not safe. It is a very serious health decision with long term consequences and should be treated as such. That doesn’t mean it’s the wrong decision, but it should not be considered the DEFAULT decision for chest dysphoria which is frankly how it’s currently treated.

[mikstapes]

gonna drop some links to read more:

Health impact of chest binding among transgender adults: a community-engaged, cross-sectional study Inside the Landmark, Long Overdue Study on Chest Binding  

Binding FAQ

Health Consequences of Chest Binding

[fandompariah-deactivated2021120]

@pooflyperfectprincess

[clothing-references]

Holy shit

[wellgreathereiam]

I went to the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference and went to a workshop held by a chiropractor who works with trans men (as well as being a trans man himself), so I’m going to pass on his advice to people who bind:

Stretch your chest, shoulders, and back everyday (at least)

This is a passive stretch where you place a foam roller at the bottom of your spine (to support your hips and lower back), and lifts your shoulders off of the ground, with your arms on the ground to balance you.

This stretch is meant to be held for a few minutes, open up your chest, and aid your everyday posture.

You probably don’t own a foam roller, he advised to wrap a towel or blanket very tightly and tied as a substitute. I use a layer of bed foam rolled up with two belts to keep it rolled. Whatever you use, it ought to have a bit of give and it needs to lift your shoulders off the ground.

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This is an active stretch. Stand in front of a doorway with your feet together (if the door way was not there, your toes would be touching the wall, not crossing through it). When you lift your arms up and put them against the wall, your feet, hips, and arms should all be in line with each other (your arms should not be behind you with your feet and hips in the doorway).

Make a “W” shape with your arms against the wall so that your elbows are the closest part of your arm to the ground, and take one small step forward.

You should feel a pull in your lower shoulders, but it should be comfortable to hold. Do not over stretch, you shouldn’t be leaning your weight into your arms to balance, your weight should be balanced by your legs. Do not judge yourself and think you are doing yourself a favor by thinking that you ought to have a bigger step. Sure, you could overstretch today, but you need to be able to do this tomorrow too! Hold this for 10-15 seconds. (Yet again. Do. Not. Overstretch.)

Bring your feet back together, and do it the other foot. There will probably be one foot that is easier than the other, stretch that step more often than the less difficult step.

Bring your feet together and bring your elbows up so that your upper arms are parallel to the ground and your elbow forms a 90° angle with your forearms. Take your small step forward and hold for 10-15 seconds and switch feet.

Now reach your arms up as high as you can. It doesn’t have to be much higher than the last stretch, if that is as high as you can go, then that’s it. If you can’t reach higher than the last stretch, put your arms down at your sides and then lift your arms up from your sides and put them against the wall (sorry he didn’t include a picture of this one in the slides, message me if this is unclear.)

Your goal is to be able to reach your arms up like in the picture so that you form a Y shape. Step forward and hold for 10-15 seconds, then switch feet.

His advice was to do this stretch as often as you use the bathroom at home (shoot for 3-5 times a day).

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The next two stretchs don’t have pictures! If you can do these stretches with ease and want a more intense version, try using dumbbells and incorporating it into your workouts.

If you’ve ever done snow angels? Put your heels, butt, shoulders, and arms up against a wall (as much of your body as you possibly can should be touching the wall) and lift your arms up as high as you can go like you are making a snow angel.

Alternatively, lay down on the ground instead of up against a wall if you need to work your way up to lifting your arms above your head.

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Again, with your body up against the wall, but this time with your arms in front of you, bring your arms up like Frankenstein’s monster, so that they are as high as your shoulders. Hold this for a few seconds.

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After trying these stretchs, it’ll probably be clear where your range of motion is most limited. For me, the most useful stretches are the W and 90° angle doorway stretch and foam roller stretch, bc I have the most trouble with my lower shoulders and chest. Try to maintain your range of motion where you have it, and use these stretches to improve your range of motion where you are limited.

[cerulean-beekeeper-deactivated2]

For all my binding buddies.