[theslowesthnery]

anyway i looked up the post about seeing your grandma's boobs and tumblr has deleted the screenshot of the story where the finnish dude says that americans are "like that" because they haven't seen their grandma's tits

good job tumblr 👍

[antarctic-octopus]

[theslowesthnery]

there it is!

my comments on that post were (sorry for shamelessly copy-pasting them):

american attitudes about nudity are fucking wild, and the worst part is that because they're american, they just assume that everyone everywhere thinks the same. i will never forget seeing people on a left-leaning, progressive site saying that families bathing together is creepy and gross and clearly a sign that something is wrong with the family, that they'd never seen their siblings or parents naked and would in fact rather die. meanwhile to this day i bathe and go to the sauna with my sister and mother and have been bathing and sauna'ing with various family members - and even strangers! - my whole life. but yes, can confirm, seeing your grandma's tits as a child does you good, and not just because it teaches you that "beauty is fake and temporary", but because it broadens your ideas about what beauty even is in the first place. my sister and i used to spend our summers at our grandma's house by the countryside and frequently bathed and went to sauna with her. we saw not just her breasts but also her flabby skin, her moles and liver spots, her body hair and varicose veins, and we didn't see any of that as weird or ugly because they were a part of our grandma who we loved very much. and when we see those things in other people - ourselves included! - we think "well it wasn't ugly on my grandma's body, so why would it be ugly on anyone else's body?". it makes you much more understanding and "forgiving", if you will, towards the completely normal bodies of strangers as well as your own body.

[roughentumble]

[image description: a screenshot of a tumblr ask. An anonymous user says "boobs shouldn't sag like that", and OP replies "what a funny way of admitting that you've never seen a pair of boobs outside of porn"

then, someone else replies to the post with a screenshot that reads

"I always think of one of my co-workers at a husky farm near Inari, who told me apropos of nothing while we were clearing out dog shit together that he thought the reason Americans are "like that" ("like what, Veikka" got the response "you know what I mean") is because "they never see their grandma's tits." His logic was that "in Finland, you go to the sauna with your grandma from when you're a baby, and you see her naked, and this is years and years before you ever see any porn, so you know before you see any of it that it's temporary and fake. And when you get a girlfriend later, you know it's only a matter of time before her tits look like that too, you accept this. And Americans don't know that! They don't! They look at porn, and then they get a wife, and then they're surprised and bitter when she gets old - it's true!"

Like, to be clear, I think Veikka's analysis might have been missing more than a bit of nuance, this is the same guy whose motto was "Driving 600km south to Rovaniemi to get therapy is expensive, chopping wood till you don't care about it anymore is free", but I do occasionally still look at some British or American take online and think to myself, in his voice, "they've never seen their grandma's tits""

/end image description]

[telomeke]

This comment from the original post summarizes things quite a bit:

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Tumblr is a place to express yourself, discover yourself, and bond over the stuff you love. It's where your interests connect you with your

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[deadandwalking]

hey kitten. daddy needs to talk to you. your kink blog is great, but you are not highlighting the words correctly. kitten. stop highlighting. this is shit. did you seriously highlight that period. kitten.

[hagiomoto]

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[communistkenobi]

I feel a perpetual deep-seated alienation from most people in academia because everyone behaves like cops and hall monitors, and then I log onto tumblr to see the exact people who do the alienating posting about how emotionally difficult it is for them to report students for (possibly) using AI to write an assignment  

[communistkenobi]

wishing hell was real so people like this could be sent there

[kirikomamura]

whenever the conversation about difficulty and accessibility in games come up i want to slam my head into a wall because noone thats speaking has anything more than a surface level understanding of what "difficulty" even is

[kirikomamura]

your game should have accessibility options, but if your only accessibility options are "turn off central game mechanics" then you have made shit accessibility options.

[kirikomamura]

you know what accessibility option doesnt completely fucking butcher your game while allowing almost everyone to play it? an option that is not available in 99.99% of all games ever made? easy:

[kirikomamura]

bonus points: if you put a game speed slider in your game you can also allow Absolute Fucking Freaks to turn it higher than 100%

[the-bisexual-bitch]

*Stares into the middle distance* Anyone ever think about how a lot of normal/encouraged parenting tactics are also textbook abuse? Like...

Tracking (phone tracking apps are getting increasingly popular for parents)

Controlling appearance

Stopping a child from spending time around friends (grounding, taking away communication with people outside of the house)

Making a teen ask before going anywhere

And more that I don't have the energy to write out

The reason these things are considered acceptable for parents and abusive for everyone else is because youth are second class citizens who don't have the right to self determination

[qqchurch]

genuinely cackled at this

(source)

[json-derulo]

having the Aviation Accident Investigations Autism™️ has actually done wonders for the way I process and respond to my own fuck-ups

[json-derulo]

And I don't just mean "oh, my little work mistake is actually nothing compared to a fiery crash that kills people," either. The reason commercial flight is so many orders of magnitude safer than any other form of transportation is because after every accident and incident, an independent regulatory body investigated it with the express goal of figuring out exactly what happened, why, and how to prevent the same thing from ever happening again—not to root out which person deserved the blame or the liability.

It's a simple, shockingly effective idea. It's also worlds away from how most people approach their own mistakes and the mistakes of others.

[json-derulo]

Because it’s never just one person’s fault. And even when it is, it still isn’t. 

The sharpest, best-trained pilots make worse decisions when they're tired or sick or stressed out, so there's two of them. The most dedicated and experienced air traffic controllers garble an instruction over the radio sometimes, so pilots are trained to always repeat clearances back to catch misunderstandings quickly. The best and brightest maintenance mechanic still overlooks a screw or misconnects a wire once or twice in her career, so aircraft systems are built with two or three or four layers of redundancy, and pilots are exhaustively trained to deal with failures safely. 

Everyone eventually has a bad day. Every component breaks down. Every computer gets a bad a Windows update and spirals into a reboot doom loop. If it’s possible for one person’s mistake to domino into a mushroom cloud of a fuckup, then that task is too critical to be one person's sole responsibility. The accident sequence starts with the design of the system—so how do you improve the system to keep it from happening again?

[json-derulo]

oh yeah. The “modern commercial aviation is the safest form of transport” thing only applies to planes, btw. A helicopter is a beautiful metal horse that wants to break its legs and die so so so badly

[thelawfulchaotic]

This is such a good example of systemic solutions to problems!! Putting it in my pocket for explaining problem-solving vs. blame and punishment in the future.

[fuckyeahchinesefashion]

OP: When exploring outdoors, don't act recklessly — not every body of water you see is meant for swimming. (cr 神秘园)

[recreationaldivorce]

sex testing isn't making people discover that they're intersex, it's making people intersex. if someone's sex characteristics are imperceptibly different to what sex defines they should have, it wouldn't have placed them in a different social category until both the technology and the drive to test were there. ppl just don't really believe that sex categories are also socially constructed and fluid. things like hormone levels naturally wildly range between people before it gets to a point where someone looks noticeably "different" for their sex—a cafab person with testosterone levels deemed high today would not have been intersex 200 years ago unless they displayed noticeably masculinised features, because nobody would have known anyone's testosterone levels and therefore can't use that as a basis for treating someone differently!

[gunsandfireandshit]

[chuunibyoucatgirl]

multi-round elimination gameshow where you take 64 of the most milquetoast r/animemes users possible—the kind of guys who know calling Bridget a trap is bad, or at least socially unacceptable, but can't recognize when the trans woman is calling herself a femboy for SEO despite the trans flag in the background of the pornhub vid—and ask them to sort a selection of 50 doujinshi tagged with at least one of (but possibly multiple of) "m: crossdressing," "f:shemale," "f:futanari," "gender bender," and "yaoi" into different groups over four rounds:

Round 1: does this work contain a likely depiction or caricature of a trans woman, according to our panel? sort yes/no. top 16 most accurate advance.

Round 2: take every work our panel of trans women says contains a likely depiction or caricature of a trans woman. now, is this work offensive to our panel of trans women? sort yes/no. top 3 advance.

Round 3: Take the group that our panelists thought was offensive. Does at least one of our panelists like this work anyways? sort yes or no. top 1 advances

Round 4, for all the marbles: These three look extra offensive. However, one of them is a favorite of one of our panelists! which work is it?

the grand prize if the sap wins round 4? a week-long, all-expenses-paid trip to Akihabara, but they're forced to cosplay astolfo the whole time while the panelists drag them around on a leash. if she decides to transition after enjoying the trip, she and the panelists get a lifetime supply of progesterone

[chuunibyoucatgirl]

i'm imagining some northernlion cruise redditor pouring over the pages of contamination's work and trying to conceal their arousal, while also trying decide if the depiction of a woman with a monster cock and g-cups that can give herself autopaizuri in this series where she's basically making three women leave their boyfriends because her cock is too good is transmisogynistic and then further imagining them asking themselves in round 3 if the panel is too enamoured with her massive tits and neet aura to care, without realizing the good thing is actually the part where the girl who's about to get railed gets the ruler put against her tummy. smh

[chuunibyoucatgirl]

this girl is such a chaser it's not even funny. this caricature is so far off from a real trans woman it's not funny. and yet. is there not an appeal to the dangerous, hot woman seductively sliding a ruler up your stomach and insinuating she's too much for you to handle? the author wants to get railed by a girl with a massive dick so bad. so fucking bad. it's so obvious. but they probably want to be a girl something awful, as well, given their genderswap doujin. is their ignorance too much? is this too offensive for our women to like? how weigh the scales of passion and politics? so, tell us, nlcruise r/animemes user. is this a favorite of panelist #4? answer wisely.

[classicslesbianopinions]

it is like. i am deliberately not posting that much about the nolan odyssey because i don't have much genuine interest and i find the whole like outrage theater people do at adaptations to be exhausting and unproductive and often misguided + i don't really care what celebrities are doing. but zendaya's 3000-year-old iranian earrings are like. such an on-the-nose fuck you. like 1. you can practically feel the stylist going "oh, it's old, it must be on-theme!" without really considering that ancient cultures are not interchangeable. but also 2. there's a very clear and important difference between ancient greece and ancient iran, in that there's a reason zendaya isn't wearing ancient greek artifacts on her ears--ancient greece has a cultural cachet that ancient iran does not, by virtue of its position as the perceived origin point of "western" (white) civilization. they are just interchangeable enough that zendaya can wear the artifacts of one civilization to a premiere of a work based on the mythos of another, but just different enough that she can get away with one but not the other.

and of course there's 3. which is that modifying and wearing a cultural artifact of dubious provenance taken from a country the us is actively bombing (and in doing so presumably destroying plenty of historic buildings/artifacts) asserts a certain lack of respect for and/or sense of ownership over that country's people and culture. and obviously this is what makes it seem like such a specifically heinous move.

[perrenlore]

Really important to note when it comes to (3) that the elite (and frankly Orientalising) appropriation of ancient Near Eastern artefacts as jewellery has a long colonial history. Cylinder seals are these little cork-shaped cylinders with pictoral or written designs engraved on them, and work the same way as a signet ring in that you could roll them over wet clay to leave an impression of the engraved relief on the clay to dry. They look like this:

(Cylinder seal of First Dynasty of Ur Queen Puabi, found in her tomb, dated circa 2600 BC, with modern impression. Inscription: 𒅤𒀜 𒎏 - Pu3-abi(AD) Nin - Queen Pu-abi. Nicked straight off Wikipedia as it's a fab comparison of seal / relief.)

In the British Museum you can find "Lady Layard's jewellery". Austin Henry Layard is a guy whose academic efforts I'm admittedly very indebted to. He was passionate about Venetian and Roman glass and did a great job re-popularising both styles in the UK, but more importantly he was the assyriologist who excavated Nineveh and the Library of Ashurbanipal—where we've found the majority of the Gilgamesh tablets. Pioneer figure in terms of Near Eastern archaeology... but check this out:

This is a necklace Layard had made for his wife. It uses real cylinder seals.

To quote the British Museum's entry on the item: One cylinder seal is Akkadian (about 2200 BC) and four belong to the second millennium BC, but eight are late Assyrian (about 1000-612 BC). Late Babylonian and Achaemenid stamp seals (about 600-350 BC) are used for the pendants and clasp.

Enid later wrote in her diary that, when they dined with Queen Victoria in 1873, it was 'much admired'.

Ancient Near Eastern artefacts, repurposed as jewellery in a set that doesn't give a single fuck about accurately dating them, let alone treating them with the sort of respect you might perhaps expect of items over four thousand years old. Instead they've become a mark of elite colonial status, an Oriental curiosity utterly separated from their historical context. They're 'old'. They're non-descriptly 'other'. Time and place dissolve into an attractive and vague exoticism.

All while the place these seals have been appropriated from is busy being exploited by the very empire this "jewellery" is being shown off to!

So to bring it back to your third point: you're absolutely right!!! And this has precedence dating right back to the start of Western study (and plundering) of the Ancient Near East. It's a carelessness, it's an ignorance of historical context, and it's explicitly colonial.

[doe-eyed-disaster]

the statement: "a legal theory was proposed in which trans women could be targeted without violating the Constitution because other women and other trans people are excluded from our specific oppression, which suggests that transmisogyny is real and that transmisogyny affected and exempted are meaningful categories for analysis of our material conditions."

the response: "you are sowing divisions in our community by saying this. everyone has to get on board to fix things, which will only happen if you stop bringing this up. you are crazy, paranoid, and confused and the more you talk about your problems, the more we'll blame you for the violence that's done to you."

[doe-eyed-disaster]

the smug condescension of a man who, upset that his privilege has been identified, asserts his male privilege knowing that a fair number of people will hop on board the "trans women are paranoid and divisive" train rather than interrogating their own biases and coming to the defense of more vulnerable members of their community.

the cherry on top was the tags, where he addressed the transfem he reblogged by name and said "I'm disappointed in you" as if she had done something wrong by sharing a post about her specific oppression. it's genuinely gross how trans women are treated so poorly so casually. how dare we speak?

[firem4ge]

Getting Sent to a Fantasy World as a TS Succubus But They’re Still Transmisogynist There and Now I Don’t Have Internet or a Vibrator!

[tpwrtrmnky]

"Whether someone understands it or not, these are the consequences of the political views they're espousing" is a pretty important analysis tool for online movements because quite honestly, over half of everyone engaging in politics online have no foundations for the stuff they're saying and are just saying whatever makes them feel like a member of an in-group.

[tpwrtrmnky]

If your in-group is "the left" you're very much not immune to this. In fact, trying to do left-wing politics without even trying to build a foundational political understanding is a great way to end up as a neo-nazi with a tumblr accent rather than an effective left-wing advocate.

[pocket-deer-belly]

transmisogyny genuinely does start eroding your ability to understand extremely basic ideas about feminism, like "outfits are not consent" and "men materially benefit from patriarchy even if they are underprivileged in other areas". you need to actually listen to trans women who point out transmisogynist behavior or you will become jk rowling.