When my aunt was in her late 20s people used to rudely ask her âWhy arenât you married yet?â and sheâd reply âJust lucky, I guessâ which I think is one of the best things I have ever heard
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When my aunt was in her late 20s people used to rudely ask her âWhy arenât you married yet?â and sheâd reply âJust lucky, I guessâ which I think is one of the best things I have ever heard
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niqabisinparis: i noticed this thing with a lot of men. they tend to be really generous and kind only to women theyâre attracted to. duh, obvious statement to most of you but itâs jarring when you see it first hand and itâs so prevalent and insidious to the point that it feels uncomfortable accepting help from a strange without thinking of the possibility of him having ulterior motives. and itâs disheartening knowing that if youâre in a position needing a manâs help, a lot of times it will depend entirely on whether or not heâs attracted to you. and the problem is that they think this goes both ways. i can show a simple gesture of kindness and a man will take it as me coming on to him. me letting you go in front of me on the checkout line because you have one item, me offering change because you donât have any, or anything other well-intentioned act of kindness results in a man trying to eventually make a move thinking that itâs mutual. how sad it must be to think that thereâs no kindness for the sake of kindness. that all good done in this world is based on sexual impulses instead of the desire to help another human being just how you like to be helped.Â
friendly reminder that the human race currently has the technological capacity to eradicate poverty and secure a safe existence for every person but that doesnât happen because capitalists limit production so they can make money and live in comparative luxury to the rest of us
not to be a bitter asshole but the overwhelming âmy gf is perfect and relationships between women are are all pure and perfectâ culture on here is annoying. there are a lot of us out here being used, cheated on, dumped, abused, having communication issues and shitty breakups, and lesbian culture is not a binary of âim alone and pining after an imaginary perfect gfâ or âi have a perfect gfâ. it does baby lesbians and bi women a disservice. donât feel like thereâs something wrong with you if you have bad dates or weird dates or women treat you like shit or trespass your boundaries and in general donât act like perfect magical moon princesses and your relationship isnât a magical dream of cat ownership and cuddling. women are people too, and that means women are flawed too. there are wonderful women out there and you will find one someday to build your life with but there are a lot of assholes out there too, youâre not failing at anything if you date one of them. and you have the capability of being a shitty asshole too!
Boy thereâs a lot of defensive creeps on this post!
tfw youâve had bad experiences with women but donât want to talk about it on the hellsite because homophobic goblins will take it as proof for why lesbians are garbage
on a class on gay literature (rly, the name of the class is "gay literature: history, theory and works......") the prof said virginia was bi, not a lesbian. plz tell me hes wrong and how to fight him. i only said that she was only warried to a man, not in love with him, and that in her more mature writings she clearly prefers women....
Virginia struggled all her life to perceive herself as a sexual being let alone develop physical feelings for Leonard (sheâs only admitted to ever have had sexual feelings for Vita, among all people) but I wouldnât go as far as suggesting she was either lesbian or bi. Like, if I absolutely had to, Iâd say she was a lesbian but thatâs only because she seemed to be romantically involved exclusively with Vita and female idiosyncracy interested her on the whole way more than male idiosyncracy butâŠehâŠsexuality and V is a tricky one. I think the facts somehow overlap in one way or another; she had expressed jealousy and possessive tendencies toward Vita, something sheâd never done with Leonard but I do not think she perceived Leonard as merely her care-taker. I think she loved him. Deeply. We cannot afford to be narrow-minded or rush for labels when it comes to it, basically. Virginia preferred to be very indirect and subtle about it so you cannot say she claimed in her more âmature writingsâ this or that. Whatâs official, and she includes it in âA Sketch of the Pastâ, is the fact that she had been sexually abused as a child of fourteen & from then on it spiraled to her struggling over self-image issues and sexual orientation issues. Thatâs as âofficialâ as you can keep it though. The rest is very fluid.
I testify to silence. Donât say Iâm not grateful. Most will have only one death. I will have two.
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I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.
Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre (via antigonick)
It really sickens me to see what lesbian women have to go through
- Sexual harassment from straight men - Homophobia from straight men - Homophobia from straight women - Sexual harassment from trans women - Corrective rape - General misogyny, intensified by the anger society feels for women who donât rely on men - Coercive bullshit from EVERYONE admonishing and harassing them for being attracted to female bodies - General intimidation and homophobia in societyÂ
ugh please. stop. they have enough to fucking deal with. i really wish that i could actually do something to help
Cotton ceiling, anyone?
If you have a penis and only want to have sex with someone with a vagina, thatâs cool. If you have a vagina and only want to have sex with someone with a penis, thatâs cool. If you have a penis and only want to have sex with someone with a penis, thatâs cool. If you have a vagina and only want to have sex with someone with a vagina, thatâs cool. If you donât care about the genitals of the person you are having sex with, thatâs cool. What is not cool is telling people who they should be willing to have sex with.
A woman states a simple opinion and men crawl out of the woodwork to dehumanize her and tell her she should be removed from public spaces.
Theyâre like Pavlovâs dogs and they donât even realize it
Conditioned to defend male supremacy with specific tactics designed to deplatform women. This is a favorite male tactic because it leaves no room for considering what a woman has to say.
A man simply labels a woman as unfit, and he is taken at his word about her emotional state. She can be calm as a cucumber and it wonât matter, menâs words over ride realityâsuch is the power of male privilege.
Itâs not that cut and dried, as in this is what itâs like for ALL men and ALL women The fact that people state things like this so assertively makes me wonder if ultimately they are perpetuating this more by themselves than the people they think are the oppressors.
you are so ignorant of the lives of womenÂ
And youâre not better by generalizing them.
When men generalize they call it philosophy
Itâs tiring, often boring â and can mean a return to more traditional roles. Why some mothers (and fathers) feel they made a mistake
Curiously enough, what scientists do is much more like what literary critics or art historians do: Scientists study patterns. And this suggests that what we explore in the humanities is not just some decorative, pathetic human candy on a rather boring cupcake of unthinking matter. We are too often afflicted with a form of Stockholm syndrome in which we beat up on anyone who declares that there is more to life than what fits the default, dominant materialist reductionism. The aesthetic dimension (the place where patterns happen) is where all the relations between things live (thatâs what a pattern is, after all). Taking patterns seriously means that the aesthetic dimension isnât just a cinema that humans get into sometimes, but rather that what we call âaestheticâ isnât confined to objects in the Centre Pompidou but is in fact the sensual glue of the universe that enables things to happen.
Timothy Morton, Rock Your World (Or, Theory Class Needs an Upgrade)
The nuclear family is probably the greatest enabler of child abuse, ever.
Putting two people in complete control of another person (who is particularly vulnerable and has few legal rights) and then having no oversight for the whole arrangement is the absolute worst idea.
Families are garbage.
Hahaha wtf
I wouldnât even know where to start with this. omg.
OP, what would you propose as an alternative to families?
communal child raising
less isolated familial structures in general
children being made aware of how they should and shouldnât be treated
Some form of child protection services that donât just believe the parents and assume a child is lying when they report abuse
more legal and counselling services made available to children
I donât get people that are like âlol, what? thatâs so weird, lets laugh at the very notion that traditional families are abusiveâ.
dismantle the patriarchal family structure 2k17!
matriarchal communism 2k17!
Communal child raising is actually how weâve done it for most of humanityâs history. The nuclear family is a very modern concept.
My mother tells me that her great-grandmother (yes, she met her, and I met my great grandma too. Women un my family all have very long lifespans) used to own a huge house, and all her kids and their mates pretty much lived there. When a woman had a child, they were always surrounded by relatives who would help to care for them, in particular older women who were more experienced in raising children. She said for the first 40 days a new mother wasnât supposed to do anything but rest and breastfeed. The rest of the women in the family would clothe and bathe the child, clean, cook and do everything else that was needed.
Men did not help much because men have always been kinda useless and selfish, but the norm was to have your whole extended family together. My own grandmother was instrumental in raising me, specially when my mom went back from maternity leave. This situation where you have just one couple trying to work full time jobs plus take care of a newborn with zero help is a very recent situation and, frankly, it doesnât work.
If we had the extinction of father rights, organized our family units in a matrilineal fashion and stopped that crazy idea that you gotta isolate a couple to sell them more shit, everyone would be happier.
Omg, PREACH. Abolish the nuclear family 2k17! Matrifocal family, now!
the poet who did the cow poem also did this Nice Guy Poem, its great.
I watched that Ted talk where the woman and her rapist tell âtheirâ story and it honestly shook me. A perfect storm of performative grief, the expectation of female forgiveness, and a âfeel good, learn a lessonâ ending.
I just keep thinking of her describing her rape, and his face turned towards hers, watching and listening.
Stories have power. Representation has power. And here we have a man who says this, one of the most chilling lines of all: âInstead, I was offered to really own what I did, and found that it didnât possess the entirety of who I am. Put simply, something youâve done doesnât have to constitute the sum of who you are. The noise in my head abated.â
How many rapists are going to read that line, hear that line, remember that line? How many rapists just heard that their guilt itself can be assuaged? Because that is the audience here: victims being told to forgive, and rapists being told they should be forgiven.
I want everyone who reads this to know something important: you never have to forgive someone who hurt you. Ever. It may be to your benefit not to dwell on the hurt and keep it in the front of your mind, but you do not need to forgive. How dare they compare his âsufferingâ to hers? How dare they?
Women are called upon to forgive the unforgivable every day. Your anger is revolutionary and it is deserved.
ngl I hope he dies slowly
You never need to forgive your rapist. Ever.