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[elizabitchtaylor-deactivated202]

When my aunt was in her late 20s people used to rudely ask her “Why aren’t you married yet?” and she’d reply “Just lucky, I guess” which I think is one of the best things I have ever heard

[all-encompasing-amoeba]

The Gentrification of Womanhood

Featured image: Crosses marking the mass grave of femicide victims in Chihuahua (Wikipedia) by Raquel Rosario Sanchez / Feminist Current These are hard times for women. The feminist movement of the 70s and 80s raised awareness about violence against women on a global scale. As a result, today, we are able to identify the … Continue reading The Gentrification of Womanhood →

[niktipolos]

niqabisinparis: i noticed this thing with a lot of men. they tend to be really generous and kind only to women they’re attracted to. duh, obvious statement to most of you but it’s jarring when you see it first hand and it’s so prevalent and insidious to the point that it feels uncomfortable accepting help from a strange without thinking of the possibility of him having ulterior motives. and it’s disheartening knowing that if you’re in a position needing a man’s help, a lot of times it will depend entirely on whether or not he’s attracted to you. and the problem is that they think this goes both ways. i can show a simple gesture of kindness and a man will take it as me coming on to him. me letting you go in front of me on the checkout line because you have one item, me offering change because you don’t have any, or anything other well-intentioned act of kindness results in a man trying to eventually make a move thinking that it’s mutual. how sad it must be to think that there’s no kindness for the sake of kindness. that all good done in this world is based on sexual impulses instead of the desire to help another human being just how you like to be helped. 

[ogprincessmusic]

friendly reminder that the human race currently has the technological capacity to eradicate poverty and secure a safe existence for every person but that doesn’t happen because capitalists limit production so they can make money and live in comparative luxury to the rest of us

[tockthewatchdog-deactivated2020]

not to be a bitter asshole but the overwhelming “my gf is perfect and relationships between women are are all pure and perfect” culture on here is annoying. there are a lot of us out here being used, cheated on, dumped, abused, having communication issues and shitty breakups, and lesbian culture is not a binary of “im alone and pining after an imaginary perfect gf” or “i have a perfect gf”. it does baby lesbians and bi women a disservice. don’t feel like there’s something wrong with you if you have bad dates or weird dates or women treat you like shit or trespass your boundaries and in general don’t act like perfect magical moon princesses and your relationship isn’t a magical dream of cat ownership and cuddling. women are people too, and that means women are flawed too. there are wonderful women out there and you will find one someday to build your life with but there are a lot of assholes out there too, you’re not failing at anything if you date one of them. and you have the capability of being a shitty asshole too!

[tockthewatchdog-deactivated2020]

Boy there’s a lot of defensive creeps on this post!

[relax-o-vision]

tfw you’ve had bad experiences with women but don’t want to talk about it on the hellsite because homophobic goblins will take it as proof for why lesbians are garbage

[violentwavesofemotion-deactivat]

on a class on gay literature (rly, the name of the class is "gay literature: history, theory and works......") the prof said virginia was bi, not a lesbian. plz tell me hes wrong and how to fight him. i only said that she was only warried to a man, not in love with him, and that in her more mature writings she clearly prefers women....

Virginia struggled all her life to perceive herself as a sexual being let alone develop physical feelings for Leonard (she’s only admitted to ever have had sexual feelings for Vita, among all people) but I wouldn’t go as far as suggesting she was either lesbian or bi. Like, if I absolutely had to, I’d say she was a lesbian but that’s only because she seemed to be romantically involved exclusively with Vita and female idiosyncracy interested her on the whole way more than male idiosyncracy but…eh…sexuality and V is a tricky one. I think the facts somehow overlap in one way or another; she had expressed jealousy and possessive tendencies toward Vita, something she’d never done with Leonard but I do not think she perceived Leonard as merely her care-taker. I think she loved him. Deeply. We cannot afford to be narrow-minded or rush for labels when it comes to it, basically. Virginia preferred to be very indirect and subtle about it so you cannot say she claimed in her more “mature writings” this or that. What’s official, and she includes it in “A Sketch of the Past”, is the fact that she had been sexually abused as a child of fourteen & from then on it spiraled to her struggling over self-image issues and sexual orientation issues. That’s as “official” as you can keep it though. The rest is very fluid.

[words-and-coffee]

I testify to silence. Don’t say I’m not grateful. Most will have only one death. I will have two.

Margaret Atwood, Morning in the Burned House: Half-Hanged Mary (via words-and-coffee)

[antigonick]

I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.

Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre (via antigonick)

[hedonisticparadise]

It really sickens me to see what lesbian women have to go through

- Sexual harassment from straight men - Homophobia from straight men - Homophobia from straight women - Sexual harassment from trans women - Corrective rape - General misogyny, intensified by the anger society feels for women who don’t rely on men - Coercive bullshit from EVERYONE admonishing and harassing them for being attracted to female bodies - General intimidation and homophobia in society 

ugh please. stop. they have enough to fucking deal with. i really wish that i could actually do something to help

[shinyglasseye]

Cotton ceiling, anyone?

[muffininspiration]

If you have a penis and only want to have sex with someone with a vagina, that’s cool. If you have a vagina and only want to have sex with someone with a penis, that’s cool. If you have a penis and only want to have sex with someone with a penis, that’s cool. If you have a vagina and only want to have sex with someone with a vagina, that’s cool. If you don’t care about the genitals of the person you are having sex with, that’s cool. What is not cool is telling people who they should be willing to have sex with.

[wit-witch]

A woman states a simple opinion and men crawl out of the woodwork to dehumanize her and tell her she should be removed from public spaces.

They’re like Pavlov’s dogs and they don’t even realize it

Conditioned to defend male supremacy with specific tactics designed to deplatform women. This is a favorite male tactic because it leaves no room for considering what a woman has to say.

A man simply labels a woman as unfit, and he is taken at his word about her emotional state. She can be calm as a cucumber and it won’t matter, men’s words over ride reality–such is the power of male privilege.

[most-angriest-deactivated201706]

It’s not that cut and dried, as in this is what it’s like for ALL men and ALL women The fact that people state things like this so assertively makes me wonder if ultimately they are perpetuating this more by themselves than the people they think are the oppressors.

[wit-witch]

you are so ignorant of the lives of women 

[most-angriest-deactivated201706]

And you’re not better by generalizing them.

[wit-witch]

When men generalize they call it philosophy

[all-encompasing-amoeba]

‘It's the breaking of a taboo’: the parents who regret having children

It’s tiring, often boring – and can mean a return to more traditional roles. Why some mothers (and fathers) feel they made a mistake

[ranchocarne-deactivated20190105]

Curiously enough, what scientists do is much more like what literary critics or art historians do: Scientists study patterns. And this suggests that what we explore in the humanities is not just some decorative, pathetic human candy on a rather boring cupcake of unthinking matter. We are too often afflicted with a form of Stockholm syndrome in which we beat up on anyone who declares that there is more to life than what fits the default, dominant materialist reductionism. The aesthetic dimension (the place where patterns happen) is where all the relations between things live (that’s what a pattern is, after all). Taking patterns seriously means that the aesthetic dimension isn’t just a cinema that humans get into sometimes, but rather that what we call “aesthetic” isn’t confined to objects in the Centre Pompidou but is in fact the sensual glue of the universe that enables things to happen.

Timothy Morton, Rock Your World (Or, Theory Class Needs an Upgrade)

[asciiheart]

The nuclear family is probably the greatest enabler of child abuse, ever.

Putting two people in complete control of another person (who is particularly vulnerable and has few legal rights) and then having no oversight for the whole arrangement is the absolute worst idea.

Families are garbage.

[libertarirynn-deactivated202006]

Hahaha wtf

[yourownpetard]

I wouldn’t even know where to start with this. omg.

[amal-wa-ahlam]

OP, what would you propose as an alternative to families?

[asciiheart]

communal child raising

less isolated familial structures in general

children being made aware of how they should and shouldn’t be treated

Some form of child protection services that don’t just believe the parents and assume a child is lying when they report abuse

more legal and counselling services made available to children

[tracyalexander-deactivated20201]

I don’t get people that are like “lol, what? that’s so weird, lets laugh at the very notion that traditional families are abusive”.

[wit-witch]

dismantle the patriarchal family structure 2k17!

matriarchal communism 2k17!

[shamelesslyunladylike]

Communal child raising is actually how we’ve done it for most of humanity’s history. The nuclear family is a very modern concept.

My mother tells me that her great-grandmother (yes, she met her, and I met my great grandma too. Women un my family all have very long lifespans) used to own a huge house, and all her kids and their mates pretty much lived there. When a woman had a child, they were always surrounded by relatives who would help to care for them, in particular older women who were more experienced in raising children. She said for the first 40 days a new mother wasn’t supposed to do anything but rest and breastfeed. The rest of the women in the family would clothe and bathe the child, clean, cook and do everything else that was needed.

Men did not help much because men have always been kinda useless and selfish, but the norm was to have your whole extended family together. My own grandmother was instrumental in raising me, specially when my mom went back from maternity leave. This situation where you have just one couple trying to work full time jobs plus take care of a newborn with zero help is a very recent situation and, frankly, it doesn’t work.

If we had the extinction of father rights, organized our family units in a matrilineal fashion and stopped that crazy idea that you gotta isolate a couple to sell them more shit, everyone would be happier.

[wherethegeesego]

Omg, PREACH. Abolish the nuclear family 2k17! Matrifocal family, now!

[cucumber-kimchi]

the poet who did the cow poem also did this Nice Guy Poem, its great.

[hmsindecision]

I watched that Ted talk where the woman and her rapist tell “their” story and it honestly shook me. A perfect storm of performative grief, the expectation of female forgiveness, and a “feel good, learn a lesson” ending.

I just keep thinking of her describing her rape, and his face turned towards hers, watching and listening.

Stories have power. Representation has power. And here we have a man who says this, one of the most chilling lines of all: “Instead, I was offered to really own what I did, and found that it didn’t possess the entirety of who I am. Put simply, something you’ve done doesn’t have to constitute the sum of who you are. The noise in my head abated.”

How many rapists are going to read that line, hear that line, remember that line? How many rapists just heard that their guilt itself can be assuaged? Because that is the audience here: victims being told to forgive, and rapists being told they should be forgiven.

I want everyone who reads this to know something important: you never have to forgive someone who hurt you. Ever. It may be to your benefit not to dwell on the hurt and keep it in the front of your mind, but you do not need to forgive. How dare they compare his “suffering” to hers? How dare they?

Women are called upon to forgive the unforgivable every day. Your anger is revolutionary and it is deserved.

[americanpsycho1991]

ngl I hope he dies slowly

[chadradfem]

You never need to forgive your rapist. Ever.