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@anotherath-iii-na
a deeply underrated part of the gay taylor swift conspiracy theories is that if they're right and she really has spent over a decade sending subliminal messages based on minute details for people to decode then she's uuuuuh. I mean she's insane. she's jigsaw. she's the riddler. her dad bought her career because if she didn't have music to distract her she would have started building deathtraps.
the legally blonde mentality isnt just for law students. u can bring that attitude with you into every field of work. be the whimsical force of positive change. wear that neon outfit. snaps for us all.
this post was inspired by my boss telling me she couldnt "take me seriously" in a pair of dinosaur print overalls. sorry i have two degrees and a dope wardrobe. you dont need to take me seriously but You Will Take Me.
hakoda borrowed it and forgot to give it back <3
"How many lines do you have?" "Oh, well let me see... *picks up the script with a human hand and holds it to the muppet's face*"
They're fucking real, okay, they can clearly READ.
Can someone who understands psychology explain why this makes someone "rude"?
Phatic discourse, a subset of affiliative signaling.
When Co-workers do things like ask about weekend plans, chat about non-work topics, eat lunch in the same room, they are--subconsciously--reaffirming that they are part of a cooperative (or, minimally, non-antagonistic) social group.
The other primates cement social bonds by grooming each other; we do it by making small talk.
If they solicit your participation in these rituals, and you repeatedly refuse those bids, you are marking yourself out as, at best, an outsider to the group, and thus potentially antagonistic.
This is all happening on the monkey-brain level; they have no idea what they're doing or how they are interpreting your response, so there's no way to clear up the misunderstanding.
To the ape sleeping in your co-worker's DNA, either you are part of the grooming circle, or you are an outsider who, for all it knows, may be coming to steal all the bananas.
Even if you would prefer not to socialize with your co-workers, it's generally worth it to set aside 5 minutes a couple times a week for phatic communication. You don't have to answer your co-workers' affiliative signals every time, but it's less trouble in the long run if you respond to a few of them.
if you are the type of person who really just wants to be left alone to do their work in quiet: it is actually easier to achieve this as part of the in-group. when you enter a new space, in this case, a job, make it your GOAL to make everyone Know Who You Are. introduce yourself to everyone you meet. literally everyone. "hi I'm Jack I'm New." this helps burst the awkward bubble. you are now one of the monkeys.
at some point, either in response to an invitation, or just in the natural course of conversation, you can add in that you are a "quiet type" who "needs their silence" or what have you. customize to your personal needs. i find it helpful to imagine a well dressed elderly woman describing the sort of peace she needs to manifest.
roughly once a week if you see a group of people chatting, engage with them. keep it pleasant. it can be superficial. word will travel that you are Nice and Quiet and Not The Chatty Type protecting you from group lunches etc. if you have an office with a door that you keep closed a lot, putting up any kind of decor will also send positive signals.
humans are monkeys! for better or worse!
Pro tip: try to make a note (write it down if you have to) about some inconsequential thing that your coworker mentions so you can ask about it later. Kids and pets are great for This. As are hobbies. One guy in my office zoom called in from his house and I saw he had an arcade game in his office so I asked him about it later and he lit up like a Christmas tree. Another coworker has a pet pig and I ask every couple months how the pig is doing. This is a great strategy for pivoting conversation away from you and will make them think you are the friendliest monkey in the pod.
The grooming circle also serves a very practical purpose. Getting to know each other - even superficially but regularly - makes people more likely to feel comfortable asking for something they need, more likely to say yes, and more likely to trust each other with sensitive information. All of this makes people better fellow human beings to each other.
It means my coworker is more likely to feel safe enough to tell me "Can you take over my shift tomorrow?" and I'm more likely to say "yes" even when I don't want to, because I care about his well being and he also takes over shifts for me when he doesn't want to.
It means my coworker is more likely to ask me for help if they experience sexual harassment at work, or if they think they're being underpaid, or if they're actually very lonely and need someone, anyone, to go to their Mom's funeral with them.
And maybe this ritual of trust-building feels unnecessary to you. Maybe you would do all these things for random strangers, but your coworkers won't know that unless they get to know you a little, so they won't know that they can ask you for help.
#take part in the grooming. become one of the ingroup. band together to demand more bananas from your zookeeper aka your boss#monkey together strong or something
YES. Unionize your monkey grooming circle.
WARNING FOR ANYONE WITH AUDITORY EPILEPSY AS OF 8/23/25 - theres a new ad for i think it was "the conjuring" ? that starts with yellow text that reads "test your hearing, best to wear headphones" -
THE FREQUENCY THAT PLAYS SECONDS IN IS A SEIZURE INDUCING PITCH!
please mute the ad or click skip!! in our ad we couldn't click skip in time because it made us sit through the beginning of the pitch.
PLEASE STAY SAFE and avoid this ad's audio if you're seizures or migraines are triggered by high frequency noises!
The Conjuring in question is the new "Last Rites" and I was able to find the ad posted on the Warner Bros. India channel on Youtube. To be more specific, the ad plays three audios and then a jumpscare. The audios are in 12,000 Hz, 15,000 Hz and 16,000, the jumpscare coming right after this one.
Im not too familiar with auditory epilepsy, so hopefully some of the information above helps someone.
thank you!!!
here's what the start of the commercial looks like! so you all know what to look out for!
{ID - A black screen with white headphones in the center. Yellow text reads, "Test your hearing in 15 seconds! Use headphones for best experience"
Further text on the screen advertises The Conjuring Last Rites
END ID}
Advertisers proving once again that ad blockers are not only a must for security, but also for health.
With that said- Oh no! Dear me! I dropped the link to download ublock origin on every browser!
uBlock Origin is not just an “ad blocker“, it's a wide-spectrum content blocker with CPU and memory efficiency as a primary feature. Develop
Historically a lot of marriages have basically been political or business agreements between families that they expect will produce children so even if your setting is okay with homosexuality you can still write your character’s parents trying to pressure them into a hetero presenting marriage.
“The miller’s son is really cute you know. And you’d never be low on flour.”
“Mother I have a girlfriend”
“Well I don’t see why that should stop you.”
This can also lead to an “everyone has sex with their same gender friends” society but romance with same gender friends? Scandalous. Or having an affair with someone of a different gender that’s not your spouse? Scandalous. That’s what your pals are for.
There’s many different and interesting ways to make drama with shades of homophobia only visible to shrimp is what I’m saying
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quilt by Jo Wollschlaeger
2nd place in American Patchwork & Quilting Transparency Quilting Challenge, QuiltCon 2025
this challenge focused on the illusion of transparency in quilting.
So I noticed this was second place in a contest.
So I looked up first place:
This is "Light Me Up" by Lindsey Berres. Closeups here.
Here is the (partial?) gallery of entrants on the QuiltCon website, but the image files are so large that I literally can't load them so have a selection of much lower quality screengrabs from this video tour instead...
"Neural Overlap" by Jane Eileen García (3rd place)
"Surfacing" by Tara Glastonbury
"Dot Your Eyes" by Nora Bauser
"Risograph Rings" by Colleen Kesterson
"Benched" by Linda Hungerford
"Windmill Meadows" by Lynett Muhaso
"Starman" by Lorena Uriarte
"Triple Silk Transluscence" by Cassandra Beaver
"Who Invited Cyan?" by Samantha Saturday
"Star Crossed" by Karin Rabe
"Contintuity of Radiance" by Svetlana Silver
"Mod Layers" by Anthea Naylor
"Dialectic No. 4" by Heather Akerberg
"Perfect Pansies" by Holly Clarke
"Still Life #1" by Barbara Strick
"Circle of Friends" by Erin Case
"Orange Peel Overlay" by Stephanie Bracelyn""Orange Peel Overlay" by Stephanie Bracelyn
"Spotlight" by Amy Friend
"Blobs" by Lucie Belanger
"Sunshine Amidst Rain" by Sarah Wigton
"Cellophane Squares" by Sharon Thomson
"Evolution of Man" by Carrie Stout
ok note to self i gotta leave the house regularly so that i dont feel like im slowly transforming into an evil fucking shadow clone of myself
So as it turns out your sense of self doesnt exist in a vacuum. You gotta actually use it and bounce it off of other people like echolocation to see where you are as a person and shit. So if you dont regularly interact with other people the echoes just get weaker and weaker and before you know it your personality is a blurry fucked up fog clone of its former self. which it sucks because this makes it really hard to interact with people again but yknow
I like the idea of a Vulcan character who constantly does very reckless things so her human crewmates think she's strange but then she always has a logical explanation she delivers with absolute confidence.
"No, it was perfectly logical for me to jump out of the shuttle at that time. I had a breathing apparatus, and I was certain I could seal the subspace rift by hand before the Romulans opened fire. This was the only solution that would result in zero casualties. I might have died, but giving up is illogical."
She's known as one of the most fearless members of the crew.
Other Vulcans try not to acknowledge her.
"I eliminated all the threats with ruthless efficiency. To do any less would be illogical."
An absolute menace.
"I concede that by taking further stock of the issue I could have arrived at a more elegant solution. However, the more time one takes to analyze, the greater the odds of a window of opportunity elapsing. Most issues can be dealt with most effectively by applying a peculiarly logical human maxim - Occam's Razor." "Or an actual razor." "It was in arm's reach and was sufficiently sturdy and well maintained, so yes."
Gotta hand it to my ex who I dated when I was a cis guy who sent me a post on National Ex-Girlfriend day and said "Congrats, you're my only one!" I got a good laugh out of that one
She found out I was trans accidentally a year before I was public to the folks in my hometown but she was super chill and her only real response was "wait so I have an ex-GIRLFRIEND now???? :D"
autism is not a horrible disease that ruins lives and tears apart families. elon musk, who is autistic and an evil billionaire who doesn't pay taxes, has ruined thousands of lives, and whose family hates him, is a statistical outlier adn should not have been counted
this is from a "manipulation advice" video and it's just so fucking funny to me. why didn't I think of responding to insults like this
I can’t remember where I got the information now, but apparently if you stare silently for at least 4 seconds it triggers a feeling of rejection which I don’t have to tell you is uncomfortable and makes most people backpedal pretty quickly and awkwardly.
Immediately going concerned/extremely polite always throws people off their game, it's beautiful.
The Quiet Stare Of Disappointment is also super effective, indeed .
My sister and I were walking across a car park.
Random bloke: Maybe if you walked more you wouldn’t be so fat
My sister stops dead, stares him in the eye and goes: Is everything alright at home?
I’ve never seen a man’s face turn to horror so fast
We just walked to her car and drove off
The silent stare is so effective. I learned about it in social psychology in undergrad, and have often used it to great effect. Probably the best example is when I went to sign the papers on the car I was buying—I had already worked out a price and my trade-in with the salesmen the day before—and they decided they were going to take $1000 off the value of my trade-in. (I want to emphasize that I was buying a 10+ year old car; I ended up paying $8k total.)
"No," I said. "That doesn't work for me. If you're unwilling to honor the deal we made, I'm not buying a car from you."
Well, they talk for a living. So they talked. Here I am, a young woman on my own, and these two men at the dealership are giving me all the reasons they couldn't possibly honor the deal we made yesterday.
So I sat. I didn't say a word. I just stared at them.
They kept talking, trying to get a reaction out of me. After about 10 seconds, they abandoned all pretense of logical arguments and started hammering pathos. They weren't even buying my old car from me for the dealership; it was a personal favor for which they were using their own hard-earned money to help this poor guy at church who just got out of rehab and his house burned down and his children exploded and his dog left him for another man, etc etc
I didn't say a word. I just stared at them.
They began falling apart. They continued trying to hustle me, but their confidence left them. I think they might have been sweating.
Within five minutes they caved and signed the papers for our original deal.
I have been told for years I am intimidating, and by people who had never even seen me angry. Just in general, intimidating. This absolutely baffled me until a friend one day pointed at me and said — “This! Right now! You’re being intimidating!”
Friends, I was staring silently at someone while inwardly flailing desperately to come up with a response to something they’d said that wasn’t overly rude but also was holding my ground. In my mind, I was being hellishly awkward. I couldn’t summon any charm, I couldn’t figure out a sentence to string together. Silence spooled out horrifyingly between us as I got farther and farther away from being articulate and became more and more flustered by this failure to respond. From the outside, I guess, I just looked like a stone cold bitch waiting for them to get their shit together, lol.
I still don’t think I’m intimidating but you know I’ll take it.
ok so i think that my favourite fantasy subgenre is The Inherent Tragedy Of Being Born Into Royalty. which mostly means that i like to read about gay princes but with some nuance
IT'S VERSATILE!!!!!!
adding my own tags as well
yes... yes........
@charlesoberonn
Don't forget the fact that your family, the people who are supposed to love you and support you, are all inherently your political rivals and potential enemies from the day you're born.
I think the biggest thing mascot horror things need to get a grip on is the reasonable balance of cute/creepy. The mascot in question needs to be cute enough to realistically be for children but scary enough to actually make for effective horror. Most games always lean too far in either direction and idk maybe it's just me but immersion with these kinds of games are important for me to actually find enjoyment in them.
Can anyone hear me
GUYS...
"not being allowed to sit at work is bad for disabled people" true statement but like. you do know it's inherently bad for literally everyone right? like it kills your joints. what's crazy is I saw someone in the notes of that post being fucking SHOCKED at articles saying it's not good for you to never sit at work. idk it pisses me off that low wage workers are so disposable no one even acknowledges this by default, it is an issue of disability as well but you never fucking thought it could possibly be a problem until this issue is brought up, are you dumb?
and i'm saying this as someone who IS disabled and has gone from work to the hospital several times <- only clarifying that for people on this site who will call me ableist otherwise although I should stop caring atp because you aren't entitled to SHIT about my medical issues as a stranger online
Disabled people are usually canaries for bad enviornments. spending 8 hours with no chairs is bad for you. your friend with bad knees will be the first to show why. spending hours lying down in a less ideal position is also bad for you. your friend with a bad back will be the first to show why. spending 12 hours seated at a desk is ALSO bad for you. your friends with hip, back, or energy problems can show you why pretty fast. getting no regular exercise is bad for you. your friend with a muscle problem is at a faster rate of how bad than you are; pay attention. never seeing the sunlight is bad for you. ask your friend with a vitamin D deficiency. getting too MUCH sunlight is bad for you, even if you don't get skin cancer. ask your friend with sensitive skin, or your local albino pal. total boredom and monotany can drive a person insane over time. just ask your autistic coworker, or the guy with adhd who wasn't allowed to listen to music. they can also tell you what it feels like to be Overwhelmed, and what might be doing it.
breathing in smoke and chemicals is REALLY fucking bad for you. your friend with asthma or emphysema will sound off when you might be in a danger zone.
if your grandpa's bad knee is going all wonky, check the weather, there might be a storm coming. that's not an old wives' tail, that's bad joints reacting the pressure changes in the atmosphere.
If your disabled friend or coworker is having trouble in an environment, that's usually a sign it's not great for YOU, either. pay attention and stand up for their accessibility and accommodations. when the coworker with mild cerebral palsy gets a chair, it becomes infinitely easier to convince the manager to let everyone have a chair.
You ever hear that old chestnut about how most people neglect the part of the story of Icarus where he also had to avoid flying too low, lest the spray of the sea soak his feathers and cause him to fall and drown? You ever think about how different the world would be if Icarus died that way instead? If the idiom was to Fly To Close To The Sea? A warning against playing it far too safe, about not stretching your wings and soaring properly? You ever think about how Icarus died because he was happy?
If I told you I wrote this while thinking about the dangers of being visibly trans vs never trying to transition at all, happiness followed by a bright, burning end, smacking hard against a concrete ocean vs playing it too safe and never flying high, dooming you to a cold, crushing end from drowning, You'd believe me, right?
