she didn't write them a strongly worded letter

dragon age inspiration blog turned ??? who knows i need a break

[vintage-bentley]

“Nonbinary” woman makes this video

And somehow the comments are actually supportive of lesbians!

All the top comments are like this. And it gives me hope! You may be wondering, did the creator acknowledge this criticism that the overwhelming majority of commenters had? Did she apologise for spreading homophobic conversion rhetoric?

Nope, she made a pinned comment to appeal to the penis havers and their worshippers. That’s her main concern. Not that she’s saying lesbians can be attracted to men, but that she didn’t police how she talked about dicks at the expense of lesbians enough.

But once again, the commenters are not having it

It’s really interesting to me that somebody not only thinks this is an okay video to publish…but then completely refuses to acknowledge the criticism rightfully calling her homophobic for it. Why make a video about lesbians if you clearly don’t give a shit about us?

[radsideblog]

Soo.. She deleted the video, because of "woke". Lmao.

[vintage-bentley]

She literally has they/them pronouns and panders to males before apologising to lesbians for homophobia lmao. The comments on this post are great too. I’m so curious about what happened here…usually people eat this shit up because they’re so excited to believe that lesbians aren’t real. I wonder if she had a majority lesbian audience and misjudged what that meant? Or if lesbians banded together against her? Or if for some reason lesbians were suggested this by the algorithm and got pissed off?? Whatever happened, it’s so refreshing to see this shit being treated like the homophobic garbage it is.

[magaramachchh-deactivated202402]

It is interesting just how much of the rage directed at JK Rowling seems grounded in utter bafflement that she will not back down.

She is just about the only woman in the world with the power and the financial resources to take the stance she's taken in as uncompromising (though polite) a manner as she has done, and both women and men the world over are clearly baffled by this because it's without precedent in a woman.

And all she had to do was write the most popular fiction series in the world to do it.

There's clearly an element of the backlash and confusion that has to do with what I think of as soft-online-version American cultural imperialism (see also all the references to the UK as "TERF island") but the majority of it is such obvious woman hatred it is truly galling to watch it be peddled as somehow representing the feminist POV.

I'm thinking of (and these are just from the top of my head) the now commonly peddled ideas that she:

Made up or is exaggerating the violence of her first husband in their marriage (the truly poisonous idea that victims can "weaponise" the violence by which they were victimised)

Is not that talented anyway and the terrible films of her books are why she is famous (factually untrue, as anyone who bought one of the original series books at a midnight release to frantically read before the whole world was finished with it by morning knows)

Was peddling uniquely terrible views in her books which were secret hidden Signs Of Her Problematic Nature (often due to the poor reading comprehension of people who don't understand what she was doing with SPEW)

Is an Evil Rich Capitalist who deserves any abuse she had coming to her (the only billionaire here to lose that status by appropriately paying her taxes and sinking so much of her money into sound evidence based charity work)

Has in some way discriminated against or inflicted violence on the trans community (untrue, the usual reversal)

Owes grace and mercy to the people stalking her home address and posting it online to incite others to go there and commit violence because they are "q*eer activists" who face "ruined lives" because she stood up to them and called out what they did as wrong by name (obviously bonkers to think you can stalk and harass and face no consequences for your actions because they're righteous in your own head).

Only in a world this steeped in the hatred of women could you write the most beloved children's books of all time (Diana Wynne Jones hipsters don't fight me, I am one of you) and still, for daring to publicly hold the safety and health of girls and women more dear than the desires of men, be instantly deemed a liar, a fake, an attacker playing the victim, a harasser playing the harassed.

In short, a woman, whose every action to defend herself is but further evidence of her fitness for greater and greater punishment at the hands of the mob who have decided they have the right to mete it out, and call it justice all the while.

[bittermarching]

This is so true. The amount of posts I've seen saying some variation of "JKR could've just lived off of HP royalties and kept her mouth shut and she would have been one of the most beloved authors of all time!" Which is just another way of expressing bafflement and rage at a woman expressing her viewpoint.

I think that that statement -- "she could (and should) have just not said anything" -- is very telling. What they're really saying is that if you have an opinion that doesn't align with the current Internet Approved Take, the morally correct thing to do is to shut up and pretend you do.

Regardless of whether you agree with her statements, it is mad to me that these people have come to believe that being spineless is a virtue and that the worst sin you can commit is debate.

[theresagooseinthemainframe]

The biggest sin a woman can commit is self expression bc it means she’s staking her claim to personhood. Having a perspective. It means she’s a person and some people are extremely uncomfortable with that thought. How very dare she. And the louder she is, the more vicious the backlash.

[hyperdemona]

To the "...kept her mouth shut and she would have been one of the most beloved authors of all time", my scrote in Christ, she is literally STILL one of the most beloved authors of all time. Your opinions aren't universal.

[vintage-bentley]

Looked into Velvette being a lesbian…and wow I hate people so much

[vintage-bentley]

I hate people part 2

WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS 🤮

[armorstruts]

SO much here but i keep circling back to “lesbian umbrella” 🙄🫩😖

[femanthropy]

she’s so real for this. she dgaf 😭

[kkoffin]

Trans women are women 🏳️‍⚧️✌️

(closing my door) no thank you, i’m not interested. (slowly pushing away your pamphlet titled “GENDER SAVES!! SAVE YOUR CHILDREN FROM HOMOSEXUALITY AND GENDER NON-CONFORMITY TODAY”) sorry. no. thank you, i’m busy. sorry. goodbye.

[radsplain]

when will women stop degrading themselves like this on the red carpet when their male costars would never? she looks uncomfortable as hell

[femsolid]

Naked actress next to her fully dressed male co-star. He's here to present his work. She's here to present her body. He's 14 years older than her. Yet they play a couple.

[cheesyradfem]

Easy to see why young female actresses are IDing as “non-binary” if this is the way they’re expected to dress compared to their male costars

[r0tt3nc0r3]

Even the non-binary ones are styled this way

You can't identify your way out of female oppression. You have to actively fight it.

[the-land-of-women]

“To live in a culture in which women are routinely naked where men aren’t is to learn inequality in little ways all day long” - Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth

[hugewoman]

[uncertainwaters]

i have been saying for a while in private that i'd rather walk around bare titty topless than perform the humiliation ritual of femininity and male gazed ornamentation of my body anymore. abolish whatever the fuck this is. free the nipple. if it's humiliating when a man does it, it's humiliating for women too.

[pommedefemme]

It may be irrational, but I feel especially betrayed when a same-sex attracted woman who's dabbled in GNC style/first hit the scene in more practical clothing wears these sort of outfits like NOOO you were supposed to hold the line! Be the last bastion! How'd they get you too?

[lauren-xx]

I hope all terfs to understand that the genocidal fascist movement taking over the US (and other Western countries) sees eliminating all trans women as one of its primary goals, and that they also want to restrict all cis women to lives of domestic servitude and childrearing. They are coming for both of us.

No one is going to "eliminate" you, there is not going to be a trans genocide. There are actual genocides happening around the world right now; your narcissistic victim complex is pathetic and insane. The world just wants you to stop enforcing your delusional religious beliefs about gendered souls onto everyone else to the point that it infringes on freedom of speech and the rights and safety of the real women/lesbians you are pretending to be, and to leave the minds of children the fuck alone because they are literally being mentally and physically harmed by pediatric gender medicine which is pseudoscientific, experimental, and ideologically rigged.

I'm fully aware of what the right is doing to women's and LGB rights. Radical feminism is leftist. The fact that "TERFs" and the right both agree that trans ideology is fake and dangerous is like how we both agree that grass is green. What is your point. "They are coming for both of us" you are a 30 year old heterosexual man pretending to be a lesbian, you will be fine.

[androc1dal]

it’s too fucking early for this shit

[pineapplecake555]

I like how sexual dimorphism in humans is so evident at a glance this artist captured a clear male and female relationship with a few simple lines.

[occasionaltmblrforafreehero]

those are the most obnoxious people, I met a straight couple like that. Being ugly and dressing badly DOES NOT MAKE YOU LESBIANS.

[sossegato]

"Unless...?" and they become evil caricatures lol

Gotta hand it to Freud sometimes. They do slip.

[vintage-bentley]

I want these types to do a very simple thought exercise: if same-sex marriage was outlawed in your country today (assuming it’s legal, which is likely since I only see this behaviour in the western world), would you be able to marry your partner tomorrow? If the answer is yes, then you are a straight couple with all the privileges that comes with straight relationship.

[neopetdestroyer]

Nothing will ever be funnier than, “she actively funds anti-trans legislation!”

-> example: women’s shelter.

[feeltheoceanholdmeunder]

[butchpeace]

On Hurting Trans Women

How do you measure pain?

Great article by Kitty Robinson about whose pain matters, and whose doesn’t, in the “queer” community.

[xxactlyperfect]

[im-not-an-object-ok]

Take the time to read the whole thing, I struggled not quoting the whole thing here because it was so good:

"Sometime in 2013, I was driving with my trans girlfriend of 3 years. They were angry with me. We parked in a parking lot. They became more angry with me because I talked back. I do not remember what the fight was about. From the passenger seat, they lunged at me and slammed my head three times against my driver’s side window. I became dazed. My vision blurred. My cheek was bleeding from their nails. My hearing was foggy. As I turned to look at them, I saw their face fall and the tears gathering in their eyes. Numbly, I reached for them. I held them as they cried. They were sorry (as domestic abusers often are). They were experiencing intense self-hatred, self-disgust, and sadness. I pet their hair and told them everything was going to be okay until I had to open my door and throw up.

When we were breaking up a year later, this incident became a fixture in our fights. I couldn’t stop bringing it up. “I held you,” I would scream, “after you gave me a concussion! I held you and I told you it would be all right!” This hurt my trans girlfriend. This incident had caused them a lot of pain. It hurt them to be reminded they had done this to me. It hurt them that I insisted on still being upset about it a year later. It hurt them that I would bring it up after being told that bringing it up caused them a lot of pain. It hurt.

I’ll ask you again: what about my pain?"

and

"In most circles of trans activism, this question is forbidden. The lesbian’s pain is not acknowledged as pain. It is dismissed outright, without hesitation, as bigotry of the worst kind. It is dismissed more easily and with more completeness than the media response to murders by angry, lonely white men. The humanity of a female person who wants to gather with other female people is gone in the blink of an eye. The humanity of a lesbian who explictly says she is not interested in male trans people romantically or sexually is erased. Now, she’s just a TERF, who deserves what all TERF deserve."

This essay is just so good

[womenarehuman]

Male pain (often from their ego being challenged) is considered paramount, while female pain (often real physical or deep emotional trauma) is considered as trivial or irrelevant.

Glad someone is calling out this disparity.

[vintage-bentley]

TERFs are incapable of pain. TERFs are removed from the section of humanity that have complex reasons for the actions they take, the words they speak, and the viewpoints they hold. TERFs do not have rich emotional landscapes or varied interests. TERFs are not people (certainly not lesbian or women, either.)

So of course, the trans woman’s pain is the pain that matters, because TERF (read: female, read: lesbian) pain is not truly even a factor.

Perfectly puts into words how “TERF” is used to dehumanise women and paint us as faceless and emotionless villains.

[bosrevolver-deactivated20250811]

gender idealogy is wild because what do you mean you feel like a set of stereotypes and therefore that makes you into that. its completely based on feelings and completely disregards tangible truths. and no, acknowledging said tangible truths is not bioessentialialist.

[paleo-violet]

a normal person: I'm a woman who likes outdoorsy things

a gender ideology believer: teehee the signs that I'm actually transmasc were always there, I mean, just look at how I liked to play outside instead of play with dolls when I was a kid!!

[redditreceipts]

guys, I think that there is some change happening on reddit.

yes girl STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!!! you got this!!!

YES GUYSSS!!! I FEEL LIKE WE ARE GETTING SOMEWHERE!!!

[lostandfem]

---

cool yeah... 'tired of boob sweat' is a normal and healthy reason to put your body through the trauma of surgery. because yes putting your body through surgery is a trauma. it takes so much of its resources to recover from what is basically a very well-crafted wound so that when it does heal it heals cleanly, but its still a wound your body has to heal.

i really think its this type of attitude why so many TIFs are caught so offguard when they get their top surgery. like ive seen plenty of videos where theyre suddnely having to contend with a mental stress they didnt know would happen *because* their community treats it so lightly. even aside from the fact that informed consent isnt complete, their own community keeps pushing it as no big deal so theyre shocked by their own shock

[mysterycat-official]

I don't like verrucas and thus i will cut off my feet

[uneducated-swine]

This attitude on top surgery pisses me off so much.

I'm a big chested woman. There is nothing I can do about it, no matter what I do it will show. I struggle to find certain kinds of clothes that fit properly for me, like sports bras, button ups, swimwear.

I'm constantly sexualised at every turn and the attitude people have now is "just cut off your tits so your clothes will fit better!" and "get top surgery if you don't want men to sexually harass you". I saw an ad for a binder where a woman with and without binder was shown wearing a sweater with the comment "that's better, isn't it?" On the one with the binder, where the sweater was flat in the front, and it made me furious to no end.

Mostly because it's the reinforcement that I'm doing something wrong - although I didn't choose how my body looks, and I have no problem with it. But when I was IDing as non-binary the push to get top surgery was there, and occasionally I still get this message ("tits are useless" and so on).

We've reached a level of misogyny in this society where the sex related characteristics of being female need to be altered because there is no space for them. We don't tell men to not sexualize women, we tell women to wear a binder so men will stop looking.

Surgeries are no joke. In medicine surgeries are often the last treatment resort for a reason, not only the risk associated with going under, but there are infections, the surgeon screwing something up and being disfigured, there are also psychological responses to the changed appearance, there is the long recovery and long-term side effects.

For some people sure this could be the right choice. But considering how invasive top surgery is, people should really start wondering why this is constantly pushed on women and trans people too (I don't see trans women being pushed this hard towards breast reconstruction, and it's not weird to have tw not go through that at all - I wonder why).

[armorstruts]

@vintage-bentley such good points !!

[byelmfaoooo-deactivated20220301]

#girlslikeus was a hashtag for survivors of trafficking.

Cotton ceiling was taken from the term “glass ceiling.”

“Nothing about us without us” was from the disability movement.

Think about that for a minute.

[pastafem-deactivated20211225]

- #TransGirlMagic (original: #BlackGirlMagic)

- #TransExcellence (original: #BlackExcellence)

- #TransIsBeautiful (original: #BlackIsBeautiful)

- #TransLivesMatter (original: #BlackLivesMatter)

- #StopTransHate (original: #StopAsianHate)

- "This is what I was wearing when I was misgendered" (original: "This is what I was wearing when I was raped")

- "Trans rights are human rights" (original: "Women's rights are human rights")

- "Coercively assigned female/male at birth" meaning "doctors gave me a gender identity when I was born" (original: intersex terminology for genital mutilation happening to intersex babies so they "fit" a certain sex more, not necessarily their actual sex but whatever sex the doctor decides)

[in-di-visiblewoman]

It infuriates me because Asian-Americans VERY CAREFULLY chose “Stop Asian Hate” over “Asian Lives Matter” because we knew it would be inappropriate to appropriate terminology from BLM. I’m incredibly angry the Trans movement has hijacked both of these instead of making their own slogans or terminology.

Also, someone else mentioned it somewhere in the notes but “passing” was also stolen from POC.

[radkindoffeminist]

They're too dependent on activism and theories and histories from other movements to ever do something unique because they are not a rights movement, but misogyny and homophobia pretending to be progressive. How many times do we have to hear stuff like ‘trans women are women like black women are women’ and ‘people thought being gay was wrong/weird and now trans people are experiencing that’ and ‘to deny trans/NB identities is to deny the identities of non-white cultures which is racist’?

The trans cult hasn't had an original thought. They're a parasitic movement which takes from others to make some weird mix of points in order to convince everyone that the right, progressive thing to do is support them.

[templeofpoes]

(sorry for the addition!)

they also stole "would you rather have an autistic kid or a dead kid" that was originally about vaccinations.

[hugewoman]

[australian-red-cedar]

i simply do not respect 'non binary' people. You worked out that gender stereotypes are bullshit but all you took from it is 'i am a special interesting third thing, unlike all you boring peasants'

[clytemnestradidnothingwrong]

#‘blehhh cis people are so boring and they allow gender roles to define their identity 😝’#okay but you also do that#you reduced ‘man’ and ‘woman’ down to gender roles#and you think only you are special enough to exist outside of them#also anyone notice how a lot of these nonbinary identities seem performative and consumerist#you felt the need to buy and wear xyz to look more nonbinary or prove how nonbinary you are#you say [X person] gives you gender envy because of the things they buy and wear#there are probably a million middle aged women who you would dismiss as boring karens who are way cooler than you#because they don’t feel the need to prove anything to anyone

Too good to leave in the tags.

[sad--fem]

I spent so many years trying to reconcile being trans with collectivism and came out of it with no other recourse than concluding that there is nothing more hyper-individualistic and solely self serving than the trans movement. cannot imagine the cognitive dissonance going on with all the TRAs that still believe they're somehow communists/anarchists or fighting individualism and capitalism or whatever

[a-griffin-in-the-clouds]

laughing in punk.

the trans community isn’t punk! conservatives hating you doesn’t make you punk, it just means you’re not conservative. punk is about rejecting systems, not feeding them 30k for surgery and calling that liberation.

there’s nothing rebellious about reinforcing the most rigid body/gender norms capitalism ever sold. and let’s be honest they’ll turn on anyone who steps out of line. it's not community, it's conformity

bootlicking wrapped in dyed hair and pronoun pins. punk was never about being validated, it was about being unwanted and still spitting in the face of the world anyway.

like sorry, but if your motto is “i was born in the wrong body” you’re not punk, you’re parroting beauty myths in a new accent. punk is about owning the body they said was wrong, not buying your way into the “right” one.

the world told you to hate yourself and instead of burning that down, you bought in.

punk isn’t saying “i was born wrong.”

punk is saying “you were wrong to tell me that.” 🖕

loving your body in a world that profits off your dysphoria is rebellion. saying “i’m fine as i am there is no right way to be a woman or a man” is radical.

they want you to carve yourself up to fit in. punk says stay ugly, stay weird, stay loud be everything they said you shouldn’t be and don’t pay a cent for it 🤘

[mademoisellemaddox-deactivated2]

there's no liberation in a 30k cosmetic surgery that complications may last for a lifetime, if anything that's ultimate compliance