be decent to aros and aces

somewhere on the aroace spectrum but every time i try to pin down a label it bites me

[animentality]

[hesgomorrah]

[audyssey55]

[asteroidtroglodyte]

BESTIES

[aroacepagans]

So I’ve seen almost no social media promotion for it, but someone created a website where people can list/find aromantic friendly professionals like therapists and doctors. It’s a little sparse at the moment, but almost all of the information is crowdsourced, so if people know of aro-friendly professionals I encourage you to submit a recommendation! The more people add to this, the better it will be as a community resource!

[certifiedsexed]

Certified Sex Ed Post!

[sawyerpilled]

my pride post i think

[sawyerpilled]

decided to make them seperate as well,,,, rock on ,,

[aroacearchangel]

happy pride month. if someone is pressuring you into a romantic or sexual relationship you have the right to kill them with hammers

[aroacearchangel]

if nobody’s going to write fanfiction with this character as aromantic i’m going to do it myself.

[aroacearchangel]

i’m going to say something that might be controversial and i’m sorry if this is cringe or whatever but i can’t sleep:

dan and phil are like. the perfect example of my ideal qpr. have they kissed. maybe. irrelevant. did they form an almost instantaneous soul binding connection within days of meeting in person. yes . are they literally soulmates, as proclaimed by mr howell himself. also yes.

did they design a house to live in together and still have separate closets. also yes . when they’re apart for even a few weeks they are soooooooo sad. i’m just. hooollyyy shitt.

in response to the age old question “are they dating or are they friends?”: does it actually change anything? they’re dan and phil :]

[aroacearchangel]

furiously googling “flowers with no romance meaning” because a. I love flower language and b. I love being aro and found exactly what I was looking for!!

image description under the cut

[id: A screenshot of a flower website stating: “Alstroemeria. Also called Peruvian lily, alstroemeria symbolizes the strong bond between two people that transcends romantic love. Send this elegant flower to a special friend to celebrate the strength and devotion of your friendship. Alstroemerias are tuberous perennials native to the cold, mountainous regions of South America. They are popular as cut flowers and also in the garden. Their delicate flowers come in many colors, and they bloom every summer and fall.” Above the text is a circular photo of the aforementioned orange and yellow flowers. Half of the petals on the flowers are speckled with dark brown lines. The flowers’ dark green leaves are long and thin.]

[aroacearchangel]

additions by @neverquiteeden !!!

periwinkle means early friendship, zinnia means thoughts of absent friends!

[i tried to take a screenshot but the photo isn’t attaching for whatever reason.]

[peach-pot]

when it comes to asexuality and aromanticism you have to be okay with contradiction. one ace person will say asexuality is about not experiencing attraction, another will say it’s about not caring to act on attraction, another will say it’s not experiencing arousal. one aromantic will consider themself queer, one won’t. two people with seemingly identical experiences will use two different labels. aro people will be in romantic relationships, ace people will have sex. you get it.

[aroacearchangel]

psa: the way i express my identity has no intent to force others to express their identity in a similar manner. do whatever you want. that’s what i do. who do you think i am, a cop?

[aroacearchangel]

yknow. i’m actually not romance repulsed. i just think i was so uncomfortable with the idea of someone wanting something i can’t give. i want to love someone forever with undying devotion and engrave their likeness into marble. and i will. have. often. is it romantic? probably not. not based on what i’ve heard about what it’s supposed to feel like, physically and emotionally.

i think as long as whoever was into me in that way knew that my feelings were adjacent but not exactly matching, and they were cool with that, that i would be alright with being romantically or sexually desired.

i still have complicated feelings about sex, but that’s less about identity. i do think i’m not sex repulsed, either. it’s weird realizing these things, using other aroace experiences to try to understand my own and understanding that my story of self understanding is my own.

[aroacearchangel]

hey. do whatever you want btw. it’s your identity. kiss people for fun. enjoy sex. nobody’s stopping you. being aro and/or ace doesn’t mean you have to be repulsed by romantic or sexual activities if you don’t want to.

and also! things only mean what you meant them to mean. you can have platonic sex and platonically make out with your friends. it’s true. just be sure to communicate so that everyone involved understands and you’re good.

[aroacearchangel]

feeling real strong queerplatonic feelings in the studio tonight

[aroacearchangel]

hey girl are you a romantic confession because. i do not want to listen to you

[aroacearchangel]

do people genuinely feel a …. need? for romantic attraction? It isn’t something they feel that they can opt in or out of?

[aroacearchangel]

i feel so alone. it’s hard to form deep connections with people once they know i can’t feel romantic attraction. i still want love, just not like that. why do i have to have romantic relationships with people to be worthy of their attention.

[aroastronaut]

Aromanticism & Companionship

Anyone else who is aro/aro-spec crave companionship without romantic attraction? Someone to take on dates, buy cute gifts for and send good morning/good night texts to. Someone who's there for you and you are there for them. Someone to take care of you when you're sick. Someone to share your interests, hobbies and life ambitions with. Someone to adopt a pet and share a house with. Someone to plan a future with. Someone who, to everyone else, would appear to be your romantic partner, but you both know there's no romantic attraction between you. Someone I can love in a way no one else would understand but the person involved. I don't want romance, I just want companionship. But in a society so focused on romance and finding "the one", how do I find someone who shares the same principles towards a relationship that I do? How do I find someone who understands my aromantic identity in a world so focused on romance?

[aroacearchangel]

why are romantic relationships / affection prioritized over other types of relationships / affection i hate it here