An AroAce Dork

Hello! My name is Meg, I’m aroace, I use they/them pronouns. I wanted to create this blog to better be involved with the aro community. All aspecs and people who fall under the aromantic umbrealla are welcome!, all discourse will be tagged, and if you want me to tag anything feel free to let me know!! -💖Meg

[lovetownstuff-deactivated202102]

Felt in the mood to upset some people,

[the-sacred-now]

Just as those who aren’t sex-repulsed don’t owe you an explanation of what sex is (or isn’t) to them, and generally shouldn’t have to defend their orientation! :D

[arodabi]

Aro culture is liking songs more for their sound/vibe rather than their meaning bc so many are about love

[bpdkipland]

my favorite picture ever is the one that says “HELL IS FULL, BITCH” and then it has the national suicide prevention hotline on it. it makes me smile every time 

[bpdkipland]

THIS ONE!!!!

[bogfox]

I wonder who made these! I have this one saved:

[bitchstew-deactivated20240821]

Chaotic Good

[bpdkipland]

*slamming my fists on table* I NEED MORE!!!! MORE!!!!

[cozza-frenzy]

If anyone has the skeleton apologizing for triggering someone, I’d like that for my collection, please.

[catalystforameow-deactivated202]

Here!

Plus some more^^

[puddox]

[spiderman-anti]

ME ME ME

[wetwareproblem]

Gangster Popeye, the inventor of this style and artist behind several of these pieces (I’m not sure about all of them, though they appear to be her style) is a Salvadorean trans woman. Her Patreon is here.

[sewickedthread]

reblogging for artist credit and patreon info

[fuckoffstraightpeople-blog]

“why can’t female heroes kick arse in heels” because it’s not practical and will literally snap your damn ankle you can scream weaponised femininity all you want but first off, you need to admit that they’re not an almighty symbol of empowerment, and secondly that if you do a job with a lot of physical activity in heels you’re risking your own safety. all these women fighting in heels on tv are going to end up seriously injuring themselves. 

[fuckoffstraightpeople-blog]

weaponised femininity is a concept made up in an attempt to get us to embrace the industries created to hold us back/profit from our insecurities so that we can continue to fit into the male expectation of what a woman should be and not question why we are forced to spend thousands on our appearance every year

[wizzardhat]

just a small anecdote. I had a friend who worked in theater; she was the stage manager and an actress came to her in tears one day because the director absolutely refused to let her do a choreographed fight scene in less than 3 inch heels because “they’re platforms so you’ll be okay.” My friend, who is a woman’s size 10, brought her own heels in the next day and DEMANDED the director put them on and try the choreography before the actress did it. He finally agreed to change it, without putting the heels on.

so like I know you might think of “all those women on tv fighting in heels” as fictional woman who WOULD hurt themselves in real life, but its fiction so its okay…except those women are portrayed by real actresses who are actually fighting in actual heels, being directed by dudes who have never worn a pair of heels in their lives, alongside men who aren’t expected to constantly wear things that make their stunts 2x more dangerous than they have to be. Just a thought.

[marzipanandminutiae]

Men take “let’s see feminine women being badass” to mean “let’s see women impractically focused on their appearance in combat situations.“

[ai-yo]

That’s why I loved Black Panther even more Nakia took off her heels and used them as weapons and was running and driving around barefoot in that one scene

[crystalzelda]

A number of stuntwomen have spoken out about getting injured on sets because the character is wearing heels and skimpy clothing that provide no protection or padding. It literally harms rl women.

https://amp.theguardian.com/film/2016/jun/29/why-stuntwomen-are-in-more-danger-than-men

[link-the-feral-anon]

The only way I wanna see a women fight with heels is if she takes them off and fights with them a la Mulan/Nakia style.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

sorry i can’t hear the noise of male entitlement over the sound of Evangeline Lilly and every other woman sighing in frustration

[thestoryteller23]

They photoshopped the heels onto wonder woman. Not even Gal Gadot could fight in them, but it was so important to The Look™ that they frame by frame added them. Gal wore flats to the red carpet in protest.

[northray]

My high school had a dress code that required skirts and pantyhose/tights for girls. Our male gym teacher insisted ten minutes was more than enough time to change after gym class. We asked him if he’d ever tried to put on pantyhose over sweaty/damp legs. He tried it. Took 45 minutes. Two things changed: all-male school board changed the dress code for girls to include dress pants, and our gym change time increased to 20 minutes. Men literally have no frame of reference for their privilege and misogyny and need to be schooled.

[somethinglikeinterests-deactiva]

“Weaponized femininity” with the current definition is so stupid. I’d like to see reasonable weaponized femininity. Hair clips that can double as throwing knives, clutches that can be transformed into shields, wearing dresses both for the look and for the added range of motion. None of this “Fighting in 5 inch heels” or “Stupidly tight spandex that you can’t move in but still Looks Good.”

Anybody out there advocating for “weaponized femininity” needs to be advicating for practicality and safety as well

[assignedmale]

[hollask-deactivated20161205]

Yes.

[immoralkiwi]

*rubs this on everyones face*

[rockercaterrorencountered404]

There’s a difference between laughing at a guy dressed as a girl in a *clearly comical* way and laughing at a trans girl.

[misogynistcatgirl]

No, there isn’t

[kiyotakadiscourse]

No, there isn’t

[bedrock-ruins-deactivated201911]

No, there really isn’t

[aleatoryw]

I think the reason so many ignorant people think heretoromantic aces and heterosexual aros are “straight” is because they see our asexuality, our aromanticism, as a weird “neutral” rather than an orientation, as a recessive gene that gets overwritten by the attraction we do feel. They are wrong. My asexuality colors so many of my thoughts, and in our romance saturated culture, I’m sure aromanticism does the same for aromantics. It is not an odd quirk for an otherwise straight person. It is a different facet of being queer, and anyone who wishes to identify with that word should not be pushed away.

[boypositiveplace-deactivated201]

Boys who are sex-repulsed/don’t enjoy sex/are too uncomfortable to have sex - you’re doing an amazing job at coping in a society that associates your maleness with having strong sexual desires. You are valid, you are loveable, you are not ‘weird’ for not fitting into the stereotype of men wanting sex all time.

[magicallygrimmwiccan]

… I really needed to hear that thank you

[growinguparo]

growing up aro is thinking you have crushes when you were little and using them to damage your psyche and lower your self esteem before realizing attraction was supposed to feel good instead of horrible and angry

oof that sounds not fun 💚

[zemathememequeen]

[Image description: Top text: When someone says you’ll find someone eventually. Image of Obi-Wan Kenobi from Star Wars episode III saying, “Oh I don’t think so”]

[magic-aromantics]

even the bees say aros matter!

[shelbylookshuman]

I did a bunch of sexuality unicorns! you can buy them on look human, they can easily be found by searching the phrases. If there’s any other you’d like to see let me know and i’ll do them!

[zemathememequeen]

[Image description: Bart Simpson holding a chair over his head about to hit Homer over the head with it. On top of Bart it says, “Valentine’s Day”, over Homer it says, “Aros”]

[zemathememequeen]

@firefly42​ I got you fam

[Image description: Bart Simpson holding a chair over his head about to hit Homer over the head with it. On top of Bart it says, “Aros”, over Homer it says, “Valentine’s Day”]

[roserace]

It’s never “a pity” that someone is aromantic or asexual. You don’t exist to fulfill other people’s desires.

[rightaboutit]

What taking testosterone will change: 

- how much body hair you’ll naturally grow (hint: a whole lot more)

- your muscle mass. you’ll gain muscle taking T, especially in the shoulders and you’ll lose body fat in the hips. it’s different to everyone how the body fat is redistributed but taking T is the best time to get in an exercise routine because you’ll gain muscle a lot faster. 

- your clit is gonna get huge within like the first two weeks. get ready

- you could get mood swings when you first start because it’s Puberty: The Sequel

- within the 3 months you’ll notice your voice dropping

-hunger and hot flashes. Hunger and Hot Flashes

- you may notice that a lot of anxiety is going away! that’s because testosterone (may possibly, this one is just my experience) can help mellow you out, and also some aspects of your dysphoria (high pitched voice, periods) are going away!

- also menstruation will stop by or even before month 5! 

What taking testosterone WON’T change:

-your aggression. you are not going to turn into some out-of-control rage beast. if you are, then you probably need to talk to your doctor about it. T can give you mood swings because of, like I said, you are going through puberty again, but it’s not going to make you an angry person. 

-your personality. i say this all the time, but deciding to transition does not equal deciding to be a brand new person. you are still you! in fact, transition means that you are becoming more you than ever! adding testosterone to your body is just something that you decided you’ve been missing to help you grow into the great person that you are!

-your overall health. of course, there are concerns when taking a new hormone, but if you look at the health risks, it’s mostly risks that cisgender men typically have. Increased heart issues? That’s a cisman thing. And the increased risk for problems in your ovaries/uterus? I mean, yeah, people who naturally produce the levels of testosterone that we are going for usually don’t have ovaries. So that one makes sense, you know?

Moral of the story is we need to stop scaring people who are taking hormones! Yes, it’s a big step and an important decision, but it’s has nothing to do with changing who you are on the inside. In the end, you are still who you are, just with a few different features! 

The stereotype that transgender men are sweet, soft boys before T and then afterwards are hairy, aggressive men is problematic and very tiring. 

[aroace-people-are-lgtbq]

Me most of the time: I mean, yeah I'm aromantic or arospec, but I don't hate love. Love and romance are fine, they're just not for me, at least not now

Me around Valentine's day: I literally hate everything about love and romance

[theawesomeadventurer]

this is my best tweet

[et-the-ezra-terrestrial]

This February we drink Aro and Ace Respect Juice

💚💜🖤

[asexual-territory]