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What has been your worst "nice guy" experience?

So, possibly one of the coolest things I’ve ever seen. I mean you know how you hear the “women want him, men want to *be* him” stuff in old movies? Well I’m a man and by *god* I wanted to be this guy. Anyway!

I’m having dinner with my girlfriend at the time, and behind us are a couple on a date. It is.. not going well. Guy was being rather creepy and making some pretty inappropriate comments, the girl doesn’t look at all comfortable.

The girl finishes her appetiser really quickly, my guess is she wanted to get it over with. Guy proceeds to comment on it and says “well, least I know you can swallow right?”. Loudly.

Girl goes red and tells him that isn’t appropriate, he literally waves his hand in a “shoo” type motion and says “oh calm down I was going to find out in a few hours anyway”.

I missed her exact reply as she moved to a hushed tone, but it was fairly obvious what was being said - fuck no, fuck off, fuck this. He responded with “sweetheart I picked you up, I know where you live”. She lost the colour in her face and said nothing.

No. No. Fuck no. I’m one of those “get involved” type of people and there is no way I’m sitting here watching this go down. I get up. I don’t know what I’m going to do, but I’m 23, fighting fit and happy to put that motherfucker through a wall. I may have had a slight temper in my youth. But anyway.

I was halfway out of my chair when a hand came down on my shoulder and I look up to this mid-50s but super fit guy who says “Easy.. I’ve got this one son”. Absolute, total confidence in his voice.. so seeing as my current plan amounted to “stab him in the neck” and I’m already thinking maybe that’s not the best idea, I sit down.

He walks over, grabs a nearby chair, flips it around and sits down with the couple. Then.. he pulls out his police ID and puts it on the table. Now the guy doesn’t have any colour in his face.

Cop: “So, I’m quietly celebrating my daughters birthday with my family when I distinctly hear you threaten this young lady, would you care to explain yourself?”

Guy: “I, ah, well, um, you see..”

Cop: “That’s what I thought. Now see, we take a *very* dim view of that kind of thing, so right now I’m deciding if I want to have some of my buddies come pick you up.”

Guy: “oh no well that…”

Cop: “But that would disrupt everyone’s dinner, so how about you hand me your ID, because I wouldn’t want you running off on me, then you go see one of the staff here and settle your bill.. the full bill now, this young lady shouldn’t go hungry on account of your poor behaviour. Or we can go with the first option, I’ll leave it up to you.”

Guy: “No no! That’s perfectly fine!” \*hands over ID, gets up and walks very quickly in the direction of the counter\*

Cop: \*while writing down the guys details\* “Sorry about that miss, I hope I’m not intruding it just seemed like you could use some help. Oh and don’t worry, if you want to pursue this further I’ll have some of the boys pick him up on his way home, we can definitely take this further.”

Girl: “No, thank you so much, I wanted to run out 30 minutes ago but he drove me here”.

Cop: \*shifts from hardarse cop to comforting father figure in about half a second\* “Well I’m here with my daughter, she’s about your age, perhaps you’d like to finish your meal with us? We can run you home afterwards if you’d like, unless you’d prefer to call someone else?”

Girl: “Oh.. that would be really nice.. thankyou so much!”

\*guy returns, so does the hardarse cop\*

Guy: “Uh so, I’ve paid the bill, if I could have my ID back..”.

Cop: “There you go.. now I have your details right here so I *highly* recommend you don’t go near or contact this young lady ever again.”

Guy: “Yes yes of course, I’m so sorry!”

The guy pretty much fled the restaurant, the girl went and sat with the cop and his family and by the time we left they were still sitting around talking and laughing about random crap.

It was hands down the best way I have ever seen anybody handle any situation, ever. That cop is my hero.

malicemismanager

Dude. I hope that man has a great rest of his life.

cozmeesah

EXCUSE ME?!?? Bring it BACK? I wasn’t aware it was gone. But, oh that’s right, it must have been because there’s been a black FLOTUS for 8 years. She couldn’t possibly be glamorous, right?

somethingratchet

The white house will never look this good again

liberianbadbitch

Ctfuuuuuu they tried it

melanin-enhanced-deactivated202

They make me sick man

drankinwatahmelin

These turkey neck bitches always hating on FLOTUS.

kanobies

bi guys are wonderful.

shoutout to all the bi guys who are in a relationship with a woman. shoutout to all the bi guys who are in a relationship with a man. shoutout to all the single bi guys. shoutout to the bi guys who like women more than men. shoutout to the bi guys who like men more than women. shoutout to the questioning guys who don’t know where they sit quite yet.

bi guys are wonderful and you all matter and are valid.

alexanderfrickinghamilton

Probably definitely

thefederalistfreestyle

To an insane degree, the best shows are the student shows, because they’re prepped. They know what they’re coming to see. You don’t realize how much life has beaten you up until you see a bunch of kids see a show. The things they react to wouldn’t occur to you to react to. There’s a moment where an American spy passes another spy a letter and a redcoat comes and just twists her neck and pulls her away. It’s not on the album, it’s a physical moment, it’s just before “Right Hand Man.” Adults watch and they go, ‘oh, this is a transition, it’s a stage transition, this is information we needed to know.’ When kids see that moment they go “OH!” Honest. Life hasn’t beat them up yet, they can actually be surprised and afraid and annoyed. It’s such live ammo to have an audience of students but it’s so much more rewarding because they’re there for all of it. They’re there for Anthony being gorgeous because he’s gorgeous, so when he says “Let’s strip down to our socks it’s like, “Aaah!” – ten kids just started puberty. Twenty girls just started puberty and ten guys just figured something out. ‘Oh. Oh this. I know this about myself now.’ The inverse is true for Jasmine. Jasmine did one of our video Ham4Hams and the overwhelming comment was from teenage girls saying, “I’m so gay, I’m SO GAY.” That’s because they’re in love with her. All this is to say the student matinees are just thrilling because the reaction is completely unguarded. When our characters pass away there are honest to god hitching sobs. We get that from adult audiences too, but its harder to get to you. It comes unbidden from these kids.

Lin-Manuel Miranda: “Life’s a gift, it’s not to be taken for granted” (HESherman.com)

aphchocolatemilkshake

i relate to this on a spiritual level

vinesforall

Writer: [singing a slightly monotonous chant] Come on brain, think of things! Come on brain, think of things! Come on brain, be so smart–

kaarevs

is this lin-manuel miranda

pornstargazing

yes

inirac

@hueandcaste

hkjhgjklhkjl

this is why nobody likes straight men to be honest

blacklgbtdeservetolive

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This account started because OITNB killed Poussey Washington. They said they killed Poussey to teach white people a lesson about police brutality. We chose the imagery in our poster to underline the specific pain and fears that Black and Black LGBT people experience everyday of their life.

As a Black LGBT account, this trend will have tweets about police brutality, experiences with the police, experiences that are unique to us, what Poussey meant to us and why representation matters to us. Please keep this in mind as you tweet and support those who tweet about their experience.

paddysnuffles

2 questions (just to clarify so I know the protocol to follow for this):

1. So if we have white skin but are members of one or more minority groups (eg. I’m part Native Brazilian, an immigrant, and Latina but pasty due to my German side) do we fall under a minority group supposed to post about discrimination or are we supposed to just boost?

2. If we’re an ally who’s witnessed discrimination and/or heard from our minority friends about instances of discrimination should we/could we post about that? Or post stats related to discrimination or something like that?

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1. Yes. Any POC and/or LGBT+ member falls under minorities who have more than likely experienced their own form of discrimination.

2. As an ally, people are welcome to post about experiences they have learned from their friends who are minorities. As long as they don’t talk over other minorities, they are welcome to post statistics and post about injustices they have seen done to their friends. They should just keep in mind not to talk over minorities and to try to boost and support tweets from minorities.

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blankkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk-deact

bring back the gay rhino

scriboniuscurio

polis-and-recreation

This scene will forever be the most important scene in any movie to me. This is a little girl who has been told all her life by her parents that she is a mistake and that she is worthless. This is a little girl whose family life is so horrible that books are her only escape. This is a little girl whose parents constantly belittle her for reading, the only pleasure in life she has. And in this scene, this little girl answers very shyly, because she has been conditioned to be embarrassed of her own existence. At first, she answers slowly, and without making eye contact. And in this scene this little girl is beginning to realize that maybe she is special. Maybe there are kind people in the world. Maybe she is worth something.

blackmiracleworker-deactivated2

Matilda is honestly one of my favorite movies

goddessartemys

Dear authors: you have to learn the difference between a bad boy and a bastard abuser.

ashaywalker-author

Um, yes.

thatwriterchickyouknow

For those of you who are confused: Bad boy: probably poor, doesn’t follow rules because he thinks they are harmful or stifling (”I can’t sit there all day when teachers don’t give a shit if I learn or not”), outbursts are at injustices, fights to defend (”leave them alone/you’re hurting this place leave!”) Bastard abuser: probably middle class or higher, doesn’t follow rules because he think’s he’s above them (”school is a waste of time I can learn what I need to from books”), outbursts are about things not going the way he wants them, fights to prove superiority or lay claim (”stay off my turf/away from my girl!”)

a-cumberbatch-of-cookies

Bad boy: Bender from The Breakfast Club. Bastard abuser: Christian Grey from 50 Shades.

busterposeys

at what point in history do you think americans stopped having british accents

libby-on-the-label

lesbian-state-of-mind

Actually, Americans still have the original British accent. We kept it over time and Britain didn’t. What we currently coin as a British accent developed in England during the 19th century among the upper class as a symbol of status. Historians often claim that Shakespeare sounds better in an American accent.