My semi-controversial Cassandra Cain take is that I think that the things that sheād be angry about with regards to her past and time growing up with David Cain would/should not be the things a lot of people think she should be mad about.
I think an important cornerstone is her messy and atypical relationship to her own past that befuddles those around her (and should befuddle the audience too). At least, thatās a part of the Puckett written Cass which I still hold to be the best.
As an example, I donāt think that Cass would feel much anger over many of the physical aspects to her upbringing.
These were the parts of her childhood that she actually enjoyed. Cass *likes* being the best, and the physicality of it isn't really a negative thing for her. She likes fighting and succeeding. Doesnāt make it "right" at all but itās still *her*. What she hates is that it all amounted to murder and thatās where more of her sadness about her past shows up. A kind of contradictory and inseparable quality that combines a deep sense of pride with self-loathing is my preference for Cass.
It's hard to divorce and cordon off these deep seated emotions that Cass would have about her own self, and I'm not really interested too much in the kind of stuff we get more often in modern Cass depictions that reference David Cain that to me often feel like the writer wants Cass to be as aghast at David Cain as we the audience would already naturally be. Seldom did Cass ever cry over her past in her 2000 solo but these days Cass cries like... a lot over it.
On a broader level I think it should also be a bit of a blueprint to Cass in other areas too like her being confusing to other people who have trouble relating to and adapting to her approach to herself and others and that coloring her relationships with them.
A Cass depiction that embraces that kind of off-putting ambiguity on a more broad level would be a boon for character relationships
Tim takes a while to get comfortable around her and even then struggles to really see things from her POV a lot of the time:
Barbara throughout Cass' solo struggles to really relate to and often pushes Cass to be the kind of person she wants her to be.
And conversely her relationship with Stephanie is made all the better by being a point of contrast where she seldom treated Cass like this weird thing (outside of a few instances here and there like when they both got locked out of the Batcave) which is in large part why Cass and Stephanie got as close as they did.
She was one of the few to really take her as she was while also not really "enabling" either (see Bruce throughout Puckett's run). She didn't baby Cass or balk at her general abrasiveness but just kind of accepted her for who she was even if she didn't accept all of her specific actions.
Embrace letting Cass have contrasts that don't always track with "healthy" relationships to things whether they be with herself or others.
Makes for a much more compelling and unique Cass imo