I am Haunted&Bedeviled by the matter of pronouns

mid 20s // they/them // moss // tme

[xxxsarihartxxx]

[nymph1e]

On Discomfort and Morality

My father finds gay men uncomfortable.

He's told me before that it's like a knee-jerk for him. Something he doesn't consciously control. He sees two men behaving romantically, and his body reacts with mild discomfort.

In the 1960s, when he was in high school, most of the boys in his form thought he was gay on the simple fact that he wasn't homophobic. He wouldn't participate in insulting queer people, he didn't care if someone was gay, he wouldn't have a problem hanging out with gay people. So people thought he was gay. That's how prevalent homophobia was in his formative years.

When I was 10, my dad told me very seriously that Holmes and Watson were gay. That it was obvious from the literature and the time period that they were meant to be a gay couple. When I was 14 and I came out to my parents as bi, when my mum was upset my dad ripped into her for it. Told her that she was being stupid, that it was my life to live how I wanted to and that she needed to get over herself.

My dad formed my views on censorship: that being that it was completely ridiculous and thoroughly evil. He didn't believe in censorship of any kind. If I asked him a question about sex, he answered it honestly. When I was 12 and I asked him about homosexuality, still young and uncertain, he told me that there was nothing wrong with it. That it was just how some people were. That there was likely an evolutionary reason for it. And that for some people it was uncomfortable on an instinctual level.

He taught me that just because you're uncomfortable with something, doesn't make it wrong. He also taught me that most people don't understand this.

I see a lot of this on the internet as of the last few years. The anti shipping movement, the terf movement, the anti ace movement. It all stems from discomfort that people have crossed wires into believing means wrong. Really every -ism and -phobia out there stems from this same fundamental aspect of humanity.

The next time you see something and you automatically think it's disgusting, or wrong, or immoral, I invite you to ask yourself: is this actually wrong or does this just make me uncomfortable?

[darrelodin]

So this morning I found out that the RPG Maker forums will be shutting down this year, and it’s really just another depressing thing to see.

If you read the link the company does of course say they’re replacing the existing forums with new ones, and I’m sure no one would say the old ones didn’t perhaps need a lil bit of a glow up, some tech debt fixing… but there’s a few key notes in there:

They are NOT carrying over any history, data messages etc. from the old forums

They are NOT archiving, retaining or in any way saving the existing forums in any way

They have NOT provided any reasoning past ‘as part of continued efforts to support developers’

As an offhand, moderate read, this sounds to me like a desire for some change in the forums but deciding nuking everything is less expensive than rebuilding and carrying over info.

If I’m cynical, and likely realistic? Probably to increase sales of their latest GameMaker software by making it inherently more difficult for someone getting the older software for cheap pushing it to its limits. The amount of institutional knowledge on those forums is absurd.

And even if it is a benign reason, it’s still terrible because what do you mean you’re doing this with no recourse or potential for change? You sell software that runs on community goodwill? In an era where people are pulling away to open source software?? Crazy.

There are yeeeaaars of answers, plugins, suggestion, community built up on those forums - I’ve used the em to learn and grow my own skillet!!! And soon it won’t exist.

At the very least, they gave a ‘heads up’ - the deletion occurs mid December, so archiving by the community is possible from now. It’s just absurd that it needs to happen in the first place.

It’s just reflective of how the industry is right now - and why it’s so important for communities to grow and build up knowledge together, knowledge that is NOT reliant on a company that can pull the plug at any time in the very name of the very customers, users and supporters they are screwing over.

[eigwayne]

The good news is that other people are already starting external archival. Here's a couple posted on the r/RPGMaker subreddit:

https://web.archive.org/web/20260000000000*/https://forums.rpgmakerweb.com/

https://rpgmakerchat.com/

https://github.com/imraf/rpgmakerweb-archive/

https://wiki.archiveteam.org/

[max-out-of-ten]

Bless the archivists of our time

[videogame-fake-brands]

Doggies Magazine - Vampire: The Masquerade - Bloodlines (2004)

[wordfather]

not my circus not my monkeys but thanks to my mutuals i know some of the lore

[autophoenix]

me doing stand up: and what about the rain? when she comes here she cleanses us, and is good. we love the rain.

audience: we love the rain.

[despazito]

[despazito]

Awesome

[headspace-hotel]

This dog is so inbred holy cow

[headspace-hotel]

I somehow missed that the dog was born literally the day after Charlie Kirk's death, giving the name an appearance of suggesting that Charlie Kirk was reincarnated as an inbred Pomeranian.

The way Americans attempt to show reverence and honor gives disrespect and blasphemy a run for their money.

[crawfishcomic]

Peephole People

[charl0ttan]

i should read everything

[africanaquarian]

I thought I needed a new laptop but nope, youtube is slowing down your PC if you have adblock on on any open tab...

[astraltrickster]

To be very clear about this: CPUs aren't magical devices that can operate forever. They generate heat. They wear out over time. This happens faster when they're operating near capacity. This is not just an attempt to inconvenience you; this is an attempt to damage your property.

For the "crime" of not wanting to be tracked/have ads pissed into your eyeballs 24/7.

Even if you've paid for the "privilege" of the latter.

Fuck Google, and I hope they get sued into oblivion over this.

[fernwah-funzone]

i see everyone in the notes talking about newpipe but nobody's talking about youtube alternatives for desktop

IF YOU USE A DESKTOP PC OR LAPTOP, TRY INVIDIOUS

https://invidious.io/

it is a free, open-source alternative YouTube front-end. in addition to not having ads, it has other great QoL features like a download button. try one of the several instances on that link up there ^^^^

[measlyscrapofseafood]

day one of having a fandom mutual: you like The Character too? no way!

day three hundred of having a fandom mutual: The Character probably gets vivisected recreationally. no doubt

[strawberry-crocodile]

that one video of the guy tossing his pet sugar glider outside and having it fly back to him makes me insane because releasing a slow-moving glider in an open area surrounded by trees is basically the most efficient way to feed wild hawks imaginable

[strawberry-crocodile]

the video has all the fun and cuteness of watching a small child playing on subway tracks

[ryebreadgf]

my dad is very intensely involved a battle with his city’s public administration over a playground they have tried to forcibly remove like five times in the past 20 years and DID remove once in like 2005 but then had to rebuild because my dad was such a pain in their asses and came through with undeniable receipts of the zoning plan from the 60s/the historic/cultural value of the urban planning…. like there’s a woman in the city office who is his arch nemesis. he is literally the daredevil of urban planning

[ryebreadgf]

everyone in the tags needs to stop saying they want to fuck my dad.

[transgenderer]

its cool that sometimes people try to have one kid and accidentally have two kids. flavorful. more things should work like that. get married and suddenly there's a second wife. pass the interview and end up with two jobs. etc. keep em guessing

[datadegroove-deactivated2026042]

I will NEVER deactivate. and how DARE you

[hemipenal-system]

when i say autogynephilia isn’t real in any meaningful sense, i don’t mean that trans women don’t get turned on by themselves being hot. i mean that it is perfectly normal to do so and many cis people also do that

[hemipenal-system]

also you totally can transition for sex reasons. that's a thing you can do. your reason can absolutely be "god it would be so hot if i was a girl" and you're not a weird pervert for thinking that because cis girls think "god its so hot that im a girl" allllll the time. they really never stop thinking it

you can want to get bottom surgery solely so you can neopussy bounce on another trans girl so hard that it makes her want one for herself. that's totally legal

[feldfrog]

If a fantasy world has an ancient tree of wisdom, that means it must also have young trees that are dumb as shit. Just giving terrible advice like, "the evil wizard is kinda hot"'