woo-person of indeterminate gender

Toulouse, they/them pronouns ——— [icon ID: me and my wife holding hands in front of a lake, zoomed in to show just our hands and forearms. /end icon ID] [header ID: gif of a white pelican trying to fit a juvenile capybara in its beak; the capybara seems, at most, mildly annoyed by the attempts. /end header ID] header credit: ID/video

[catchymemes]

[crossed-quills]

OH! This is the first time I’ve seen a picture for it!

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

this is my single favorite halloween post in all of time and history

[highlights-of-the-lowlife]

Stop vilifying adults that live with their parents.

We’re still deep in one of the worst economic recessions of modern times. For many of us its not a choice but a requirement in order to survive. For many of us we have disabilities that make finding accommodation that suit our needs a lot harder and a lot more expensive.

Many of us pay into the household. Many of us are trapped in abusive households because we don’t have the means to leave. We aren’t moochers or afraid to leave the nest. The world simply isn’t built to support us anymore.

[solitarelee]

This is actually an incredibly western (and specifically American) thing. In a lot of other countries and cultures it’s NOT AT ALL uncommon for an adult to still live with their parents. As a second generation immigrant, it’s BEWILDERING to me. My cousin still lives with our grandmother; it’s important. She needs someone to watch after her, and she has the space… why wouldn’t he? This obsession with “adults” being “fully independent” of their parents is a fully American, bizarrely capitalist notion and it needs to be stomped into the ground.

[shutyourmoustache]

When my mother forgets a word, she is the queen of coming up with new words. Words that would take a third National Treasure movie to fully decipher. I was talking to her yesterday, and she said this: ”You know the time for los jibbities is coming up. You must be so excited!” Oh, is it time for los jibbities already? I must have missed it on my calendar. Are we celebrating something? “Of course! We should all be celebrating, shouldn’t we?” OK, so los jibbities is a happy thing. It’s not like something is giving you the heebie-jeebies, which would have been my one and only guess. “Los heebie-jeebies? Now you’re making things up...and this is my show.” You’re right. The time for los jibbities is coming up. Is this a season? “Yes, the season for love. The season for pride.” OK, los jibbities. “Yeah, sound it out.” Los…jibbities. LGBTs! “Sí, mira cuz you’re gay!” “You couldn’t just say pride season? You couldn’t just… *laughs*

[karalynlovescake]

The same mom who came up with horse tornado

[meangirlnurse]

In college we went to Shabbos dinner at the local Chabad house a lot and they’d renovated their garage into a big dining room where we’d eat. One night their 18 month old baby got into the kitchen and locked the door, effectively locking everyone else out of the house. It then became a game of “How quickly can we break into our own home without breaking any shabbos rules before the baby learns how to open drawers”. The baby was also their most mischievous child and the real danger was less her hurting herself and more that she loved opening and dumping bottles of grape juice and there were so many for her to get her hands on in the kitchen.

Eventually a hockey player tossed their 12 year old on the roof and he wiggled through an open second story window. It was the most fun shabbos dinner I’ve had to date

the chaotic energy of this anecdote is off the charts

[rainbow-femme]

Important secondary information:

It was sushi Shabbat night so there were 15+ college kids standing around on the lawn eating sushi off paper plates at 9 at night and watching a 6’4” hockey player, a rabbi, and a 12 year old discuss the proper force needed to launch the 12 year old onto the roof without chucking him face first into the side of the house

And by discuss I mean

Hockey player: I just don’t want to break him

12 year old: It’ll be fine!

Rabbi: Yeah it’ll probably be fine

[cryinginthelightofthetvstatic]

can we like…get rid of the so-called leather and rubber “pride flags” ? it’s honestly ridiculous and offensive to the lgbtq community. those aren’t pride flags. 

[dead-dyke]

The leather pride flag is the second oldest pride flag. It has been at almost every single US pride parade and protest in history.

It’s older then you are, it’s older then I am. The leather community is responsible for pride. Leather daddies were the ones chasing away cops when they tried to arrest us for being queer in public back when Pride Parades were illegal in the US. They are still the ones chasing away cops and corporations from smaller pride events and those that aren’t sanctioned by Wells Fargo. The leather community is essential to the queer community and has a long and rich history.

Please fuck off if you’re not going to learn the actual history of pride.

And don’t fucking out your hate in our tags, asshole.

[budgiesmuggled-deactivated20210]

The leather pride flag represents an expression of self which is inherently queer, and a community which has been around for generations. It is not offensive to the LGBT+ community in any way. I have seen cis gay and bisexual men standing shoulder-to-shoulder with trans men, all of them united by their leather community roots. The leather community is more diverse and nuanced than you perhaps know, but that is no reason for you to shit on a community you don’t understand.

Here is a photograph from 1998, displaying the leather pride flag, the bear gay pride flag, and the rainbow flag. This is our history.

Source.

Here is a photograph from 1987: three queer women entering into the Ms. National Leather Association Contest, or simply gathering as spectators.

Source.

A flyer from 1989, rallying the leather community to march in a Stonewall anniversary protest.

Source.

A photograph from 1988: Tony Deblase, the creator of the leather pride flag, and a gay man, embracing a fellow member of the leather community. Over his shoulder is Judy Tallwing McCarthy, a Native American woman who was part of the leather community from 1959. She co-founded the first lesbian BDSM group in Portland, along with her partner, Sashie Hyatt.

Source. Source.

Just because you don’t know the history, doesn’t mean it isn’t there. Be humble, and always assume you have more to learn. Hatred, and outright dismissal of communities you know nothing about, is the most aggressively anti-LGBT thing I can imagine.

The leather community has always included trans people, lesbians, gay men, and bisexuals. The leather community is global and nuanced. The leather community is where many of us encounter our found families, and our lovers. For you to dismiss that is cold-hearted and ignorant. Just because queer sex is involved, doesn’t make the community dirty or bad.

[creatingaquietmind-deactivated2]

the speech impediment of the 21st century (by Marc Johns)

[lyctorgideon]

I’ll fuck you up buddy this is not a speech impediment it’s linguistic evolution!! the existence of the phrase “Aisha was like” allows the speaker to convey whatever Aisha said without making the listener assume they’re quoting Aisha directly while still maintaining the FEELING of what Aisha said.

ie, Aisha said she didn’t want to go out with me VERSUS Aisha was like, “I’d rather kiss a Wookie”.

the addition of “XYZ was like” lets the speaker be more expressive and efficient and it is a totally valid method of communicating information!!

[corvidaedream]

With the way language has evolved, this is one of the few ways I can even think of to express in casual conversation what someone said. 

“So I said to Aisha,” is certainly used, but if you remove the “so,” which implies casual tone (“and” can be used in the same way), you get

“I said to Aisha,” which is really formal in most English dialects/variations. I don’t know about all, but in New England dialects, you sound like you’re reading aloud from a novel.

“I told Aisha,” is really only used when you continue to describe, not tell, what you told her. Ex: “I told Aisha that James was too punk for her” works while, “I told Aisha, ‘James is too punk for you’” crosses the line back into formalness of the “I said.”

Things like “I asked” or “I answered [with]” are similar levels of casual and efficient to the “So, I said [or say, as many conversations about the past take place in present tense anyway, as if the speaker is giving a play-by-play in the moment]” but are specific to only certain situations. 

“I was like, ‘Marc Johns, what is your obsession with restoring archaic speech patterns and interfering with the natural progression of English from complex to efficient?’” envelopes all of these easily and is accessible and crisp, and allows for more variations on inflection than the others.

Of course, James is probably like, “I already fucking said that.” But eh, I tried adding on.

[axonsandsynapses]

#linguistics #a.k.a. how I learned to stop worrying and love the evolution of the English language without being a discriminatory elitist jerk (via crystalandrock)

[themaefive-deactivated20241122]

This a million times

[huntydraws]

For whatever reason you’re in the closet, you deserve to enjoy pride! 

[prideknights]

You don’t have to be out to be proud!

[vintage-lgbt-pins]

[joelleity]

[ID: photo of a pin that says “self-organize! change your sex & your workplace”]

[oh-so-negro]

That smile at the end? Priceless...

[drinkyourjuiceshelby]

[joasakura]

N I C E

[s00nstuck023]

2021 be like: I'm thriving. I'm miserable. I am revisiting old hobbies. None of my hobbies are fun. I'm walking a lot. I have a vitamin D deficiency. The pandemic has lasted one month. The pandemic is over. The pandemic has lasted for 10 years. I am completely isolated. I talk to my friends constantly. I love working from home. Fourteen months have vanished from existence. I have a repetitive stress injury from working from home. I'm sick to death of working from home. Everyone is getting vaccinated. There's three new variants that no-one is vaccinated from. Stay indoors. Start going out. Outdoor dining. Restart the economy. Don't touch. Isn't it great that we're finally going back to normal?

[probablyasocialecologist]

[respectwomen-deactivated2021102]

[Image description: a white cat looking exhausted and miserable. End ID.]

[jadenvargen]

STREAM MONTERO(Call Me By Your Name) BY LIL NAS X.. NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

[cartilageandperfume]

[ID: Two digital paintings of shots from Lil Nas X’s Montero video. The first one is Lil Nas X in shades of red, dark blue, and black staring into the camera as he bends forward, giving the devil a lapdance. In the second image, Lil Nas X is centered with a pink and orange sky behind him. He stares, wide-eyed into the camera, eyes bright blue and white sparkly freckles across his cheeks. /end ID]

[scribefindegil]

i literally never want a program to turn my smileys into one of their accursed emojis and yet they persist in their wretchedness

[hairbackc0llarup]

hey shout out to queer people that didnt immediately recognize their queerness, or didnt understand the signs from early on.

trans people that didnt know they wanted to be another gender until later in life? i love you.

queer people who werent in the closet for years and just realized it all at once? i love you.

bi/pan people who developed/recognized their attracted to other genders later in life? i love you.

ace or aro people who recognized that later in life and didnt know from the beginning? i love you.

there's a stereotype that theres always "so many signs" from the beginning of a queer persons life. and for many people, this is a very relatable experience.

But i want to say that sexuality and gender can be fluid and you are JUST AS VALID if you dont have these early experiences.

[howelljenkins]

i have a lot to say about the culture surrounding coming out and how much i hate it but it basically all boils down to how coming out is framed as necessary and something you just do as soon as it’s “safe” when you’re really not obligated to come out at all. like you literally don’t have to. even if it is relatively safe you do not have to put yourself through a potentially traumatic experience because you think it’s part of the lgbt experience or a right of passage or whatever. you don’t have to. that is an option.

[im-the-punk-who]

Also the whole idea of ‘coming out’ assumes that it was ever possible for people to hide, which is, honestly, a little bit ridiculous. stop telling people they need to hide who they are until a specific moment when they know who they are and then they’ll finally be able to tell everyone.

Or that in order to be those things they need to announce it to the world. You can be who you are in your own privacy and be just as real and valid in your identities as those of us who are vocal about them.

Coming out initially meant more of a coming in. A coming out was first meant to signify a drag queen coming ‘out’ into her first drag ball, and being welcomed into her community.

But now it’s seen as something we do for others, an experience of visibility that has less to do with claiming yourself and more to do with claiming the labels others want to affix to us.

Some of us have been out since childhood, we just never had the words until recently. i didn’t come out. i gained the language to talk about what had always been visible. And some of us have known what we were since childhood and hidden it because the risks outweighed the rewards. Some of us didn’t know until it smacked us over the head. Some of us *never know* except to define ourselves by what we aren’t.

And all of that is good, and none of it needs to be said out loud for it to be real.

[2productive]

Don’t forget that it’s absolutely okay to delete your posts and accounts whenever you want and as often as you like. Your digital spaces are yours and yours only. Unfollow when you stop vibing with someone’s posts. Follow only 3 people. Follow 3,000 people. Don’t feel obligated to like posts. Turn off your DM’s and comment section if you want to. Post once every 5 months or three times a day. It’s your account. Make it enjoyable for YOU.

[c-rowlesblogs]

Working in food service is so surreal because like... nothing I do for people is anywhere close to life and death, but some customers absolutely act as though it is. I look a woman dead in the eye and solemnly inform her that unfortunately we are out of oat milk, and I see her heart shatter in front of me, right there at the bakery counter at 8 in the morning. I feel like a handsome TV surgeon informing someone that their beloved fiancée died on the table. He’s gone... I’m so sorry. We lost him. We are out of oat milk

[indianterritory-deactivated2022]

hey you know it’s possible to include two spirits in the lgbt community who wish to be included while not including those who don’t want to be right?

and that no person in our community speaks for all of us? that not all of us hold the same view about being considered lgbt?

because i’m getting really tired of people continually telling everyone to not include us at all and encouraging people to remove the little amount of positivity that exists, and even telling us to stop including ourselves

include us who want to be included, dont include those that don’t want to be, and don’t say that none of us can be included because some people prefer not to be when no single person speaks for us all

basically, let us decide for ourselves

[indianterritory-deactivated2022]

this is ok to rb

[britomartis]

im just gonna add on bc i feel like a lot of ppl who arent native american misunderstand this bc they dont know what 2spirit like. MEANS. it was coined as a blanket term for pan-tribal usage (no this is not supporting pan-indigineity dw) since every tribe has their own gender identities & sexual orientations and etc.

for example, navajos have dilbaa and nadleehi, which are specific identities that fall under the umbrella of 2spirit (though i dont want to dismiss that recently there are people who will use a sort of non-denominational “2spirit” to refer to themselves the way someone might call themselves “queer”, for a whole variety of reasons).

so, because it’s already encompassing a ton of identities, you’ll get people who are like “oh im x y z gender but i dont consider myself lgbt because my identity already existed and was accepted pre-colonialism” or simply “i dont want to be referred to within the framework of a colonialist culture” or people who are like “yeah my identity existed pre-colonialism but now i suffer under the same sorts of discrimination so i consider myself lgbt” or “i’m mixed/raised off-rez and i feel a connection to both lgbt and 2spirit identities” and etc etc etc. every flavor under the sun! like i consider myself lgbt but NOT nonbinary since a binary never existed in my tribe in the first place, but some natives love the term nonbinary and consider themselves to be that, and that’s totally fine too.

like OP said it’s literally all up to the individual! because 2spirit isn’t an exact identity, it does no one any favors to leave us out entirely. (also disclaimer 2s is pretty complicated and there are some uses im leaving out for brevity lol)