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There are words some people should not say. Slurs that most folks agree on. Words that have been used to denigrate, other, harm. Some of them may even be considered reclaimed. Usable only by the group that ostensibly bears the label, as it were.
N-word, R-word. Iâm sure there are others but you get the point.
Even they shouldnât be âcensoredâ so much as there are certain people who should recognize that if they use them in certain contexts, people are definitely gonna judge (and rightly so).
Words (and phrases) like: die, kill, rape, murder, assault, sexual assault, child sexual abuse, suicide, forced sexual contact, grope, self-harm, cutting, fondle, groom, and all others like them, describing the acts or states themselvesâŠ
They are words that mean awful things. Traumatic things. Things that people have done to themselves or others. Things that hurt.
But the words themselves are not used to hurt, harm, or other, the way that slurs are.
Stop hindering clear, respectful communication in the name of being sensitive. Youâre not being sensitive. Youâre being a scared little baby, afraid that people will cancel you.
You might fuck up, sure. But if youâre kind and careful and listen to the people whose toes you step on, you are far more likely to receive grace, and learn from your mistakes.
Donât let a bunch of social media bullshit take communication from you because youâre worried that saying the word ârapeâ will cause someone to drop dead.
(Also: Arguments in bad faith about subtle nuance or false equivalence are just Richard Maneuvers and wonât be tolerated. You can get fucked.)
OP Iâm curious, did the young person swallow their own face in shock or manage to take the feedback?