Hey guys. I don’t usually crosstag on here but I promise this is important and serves to protect both of our communities, regardless of our opinion.
Theres a person going around in both pro and anti endo tags posting transphobic content as well as transphobic wojacks. The user is radneagerdeath. Below is some examples of the content this user as posted
TW for transphobia, specifically towards trans women, as well as depictions of hanging.
I never cross post but this is extremely important. This person is damaging both and all communities. Please not only block but report as this is genuinely disturbing content. Please be safe out there all of you.
Here’s the thing I feel like a lot of folks don’t get: I’m not trying to forget what you said. Honestly, I really tried not to. I can’t control what I do and don’t remember—forgetting things just happens. It’s annoying for you, I know, but for me it’s distressing as hell and when you make a big deal out of it rather than just reminding me you make me feel ashamed. I’ll remember that, at least.
It costs you nothing to be kind to people with memory problems. Please. It’s scary enough without people treating memory lapses as a personal failing.
Okay! I reblogged a post about this before, but was informed that the OP is pro endo and doesn't want their post being put in "exclusionary spaces"??? Lmfao. Anyways!
Orbit openly uses AI, and refuses to back down no matter how much people have explained that AI can be harmful for apps such as theirs and the systems using said app.
Indigo has made a post saying they can look at users information and ban endos. While I agree that endos are not valid, that is not an excuse to look through someone's personal log for tracking DID/OSDD symptoms. It is an invasion of privacy.
I just saw someone say they are endogenic with trauma but they aren't traumagenic because *checks notes* their splits are caused by stress? That's just a cdd. Theres nothing endogenic about that, its just a cdd and I don't understand why people who say these sorts of things are so unwilling to learn about cdds to the point that they think splitting from stress is different from being traumagenic. What goes through their heads?
It’s probably due to how pro-endo spaces operate. Very endo centric, and I’ve probably said that a million times. They assume endogenic plurality by default.
The 4th of July brings sudden noises and flashing lights that can bring distress to people with disabilities and/or pets! These are my tips to you as someone with PTSD/autism and anxious pets.
The end part is seizure first aid and how to handle someone else having a seizure if you are nearby!
♿️ People with Disabilities ! (e.g; PTSD, anxiety, epilepsy)
- Try to pinpoint exactly when and where fireworks will occur in your area, this is to eliminate a "startle" factor. If your neighbors set off fireworks, prepare at least an hour before 8pm. People start setting fireworks off at around 9pm to 10pm ; probably longer because they don't necessarily consider us or pets nearby until an officer stops them.
- Sensory blocking is KEY!!!! Headphones, TV, shutting the blinds, or hiding out in the bathroom works too.
- Keep any medications nearby! Melatonin, panic attack medications, and so forth. They may be needed.
- Try to have doctors or trusted people on speed dial if possible. Seizures, panic attacks, and other conditions may require medical attention.
- Grounding techniques are your best friend. Try to engage your senses in the moment, whether it be taste, smell, touch, and so forth.
- Hydration and nutrition helps!!!! Even if you feel that sinking feeling or you're going out to a firework show; drink plenty of water and keep snacks on you!
If you're like me and have a particular dislike towards the taste of water, I suggest flavored electrolyte water like Propel or Powerade! This will combat the summer heat and lower seizure/panic attack thresholds.
💚 For Friends, Family, or Neighbors of Disabled folks.
- Ask in advance about what triggers them, what the coping plan is, and how to help if they get overwhelmed. Most people with disabilities know their disability best!
- If you choose to light fireworks near their home, do try to keep them away from their area. Warn them via text, call, or quickly checking on them in person before starting so they aren't too startled by the sudden noise or flash.
- If you attend a public show, try to park your car in an easy-to-reach place and stay nearby. Make sure you're both on the same page around leaving if things get stressful.
🤍 Strangers
- If you see someone who appears distressed or overstimulated, ask calmly if there is anything you can do to help them in the moment! Respect their answer if they say no.
- If someone is experiencing a panic attack, sensory meltdown, or a seizure, keep crowds back! Give the person physical space and privacy from onlookers.
🐾 Pets with Disabilities
- Ensure you secure your environment. Try to keep them indoors, in cages, and/or in a space where they can't escape.
- Drown out the noise for them! Playing the TV, turning on a fan, or any other white noise to muddle the sounds of fireworks.
- It's common for pets run away on the 4th of July. Please make sure your pet has identification tags or a microchip, even if they don't normally wear a collar or get out.
- Pets cannot have medication meant for humans. Please speak to a vet about anxiety medications or calming pheromone diffusers. Some pet stores carry calming treats. Administer such medications at least an hour or 30 minutes before fireworks! Some anxious pets won't take the medication or treat if they're already going off!
🍖 Loose or Panicked Pets
- Keep a spare leash on you or a treat pouch in your car! This may help to secure loose pets without cornering them.
- Please be careful and approach lose pets with caution. Frightened animals may bite or scratch out of fear. Crouch, avoid eye contact, and speak softly. Do not offer hands or fingers for them to smell, but I suggest throwing treats in their direction to secure them.
- Check for identification. Collars or taking them to a local vet/shelter to scan for microchips.
- Post them on local boards! Taking a clear picture of pets and sharing them to community boards to find the owner (whether public or shelters).
SEIZURE FIRST AID.
The most critical rule of seizure first aid is to keep the person safe until the seizure stops naturally. Most seizures end on their own within a few minutes.
Stay with the person until the seizure ends and they are fully awake.
Move away sharp objects, hard furniture, or tight hazards.
If they are unconscious, roll them onto their side to keep their airway clear.
Note the exact start and end time of the active shaking.
Place something soft like a jacket or cushion under their head.
Undo buttons or ties around the neck to aid breathing.
Never hold the person down or try to stop their movements.
Never put anything in their mouth; it is anatomically impossible for the person to "swallow their tongue".
Speak softly and reassuringly to them as they regain consciousness.
"When should I call 911???"
The active seizure lasts longer than 5 minutes.
A second seizure begins right after the first one ends.
The person is injured, pregnant, or has an underlying health condition like diabetes.
The person struggles to breathe or does not wake up after shaking stops.
If the seizure happens in water or another dangerous environment.
The person has never had a known seizure before.
First off happy 4th of July to every fellow American, but also please please please keep any headphones and earbuds charged up. I know for many of us, neighbors have already been setting off fireworks a day or 2 before, but still. Make sure if you're affected by loud noises to keep headphones and earbuds on hand and charged up if you can. If you have airpods, absolutely use both for the noise canceling feature. Play your favorite music or YouTube video. Watch a movie you find comforting. Eat your favorite snacks and drink water. Just stay safe and we love you!
The other day someone told me that I can't be a trans man because I'm intersex and have a penis, so I said, "Doesn't that mean that trans men who have had phalloplasty also cannot be trans men?" And they, without even blinking, replied, "Correct, because then they'd just be cis men because they would be men with penises."
I mean I could see someone not fully understanding intersex conditions and being an asshole when finding out that what they believed wasn’t how things worked.
But what they said was just…stupid. Like legitimately unintelligent.
Like, I’ve had people confused about how I exist as an intersex transmascneu (and some people in our system identifies as transfemmascneu) but like also being a system makes that different.
This disability pride month, let's have more conversations about how the dissociative conditions that cause multiplicity are disabling. Let's talk about how that intersects with marginalization because growing up in poverty, growing up Black or Brown or Indigenous or Asian, growing up queer, growing up under patriarchy, growing up in organized religion can all be traumatizing. Let's talk about how in a world that is already so harsh, this disability makes it harder to survive financially, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
Multiplicity is a symptom of complex dissociative disorders, and cannot be separated from it. It cannot exist on its own. Thus, multiplicity, especially when untreated or early in recovery, is disabling. And there is nothing wrong with you for struggling, for being unable to complete your education, for being unable to work. The powers that be reward malice and cruelty and exploitation, and the things you experienced that caused your disorder are evidence of that. There is no shame in your inability to conform to structures that hurt you and people like you.
This disability pride month, know that you should be proud of yourself for living, no matter what stage of recovery or ability you are at.
So many people will claim to be a system without trauma and then talk about how they were bullied as a small child and their parents were emotionally absent and they were forced into a religion they didn't belive and their parents got divorced and they moved around a lot and they didn't have any friends and they were socially isolated and outcast because of being autistic and—
Its like yall ALL of that can be traumatizing to a young child 😭 you don't need some big evil Abuser Who Abuses that you can point to and say "yes this one event traumatized me" like you don't need one single big bad event that cracked your mind like an egg, all those things add up, all those things upset the nervous system of a small child, all of those things can and do cause cdds.
I spent years and years and years denying my symptoms as being related to a cdd because I believed my trauma "wasn't bad enough" to cause such a "severe disorder." It was only when other systems talked about all the different things besides sexual abuse that cause dissociation did I feel comfortable enough to fight through the shame and go to therapy and get a diagnosis. Since coming to terms with the fact that all the things I mentioned above are traumatic did I start to really critically think about the things I went through as a child and be able to say "hey that wasn't ok and actually fucked me up." It wasn't the end all of what I went through yay repressed memories 🙃 but it got me to go to therapy which was really fucking important. I wish more people that say they are endogenic actually went to therapy to figure out if their symptoms are cdd related or something else because whether you're a system or experiencing delusions or something else you should seek help for it if you can.
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