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angry mentally ill cripple ~ adult ~ main is @amphisia

[cpunkhobie]

"disability only exists because the world isnt accessible" idk how to tell you this but chronic pain still hurts

[cpunkhobie]

i like the sentiment and i think its true in many ways, but people with mobility issues will still have mobility issues in an accommodating world, people with sensory disabilities will still have those disabilities in an accommodating world. and thats not including neurodiversity where two people with the exact same disorder will have very different experiences with them. like there's not a world where someone with agoraphobia wont be scared to leave the house just cause outside is more accessible

i dont think it accounts for the wide range of disability experience and caters more to low-support needs people. i think life would be so much easier if being disabled was less stigmatized, but disability wont just go away once it is

[cpunkhobie]

you can't autism proof a bright summer day, but you can normalize stimming and using sensory aids in public

[bakedbakermom]

FEDERAL INQUIRY INTO ADHD MEDICATION SHORTAGE ANNNOUNCED

IF YOU HAVE STRUGGLED TO GET YOUR ADHD MEDICATION, YOU HAVE 60 DAYS TO TELL THE FTC YOUR STORY FOR CONSIDERATION IN THIS INQUIRY AT THE LINK BELOW! The FTC must read all responses. So tell them about having to call multiple pharmacies, being unable to get generics, your struggles with insurance coverage, everything!

[neil-gaiman]

In the olden days they did things so sensibly. Page 8 of The Liverpool Daily Post, 29 March 1937

[jupiter-suggestion]

what a beautiful thing, to be queer. how lovely it is to be strange, to have edges that spill out over the lines, to be undefinable. the oddity of our hearts is something to be treasured. never change for anyone.

[ajaystillblue]

“Not queer like gay. Queer like, escaping definition. Queer like some sort of fluidity and limitlessness at once. Queer like a freedom too strange to be conquered. Queer like the fearlessness to imagine what love can look like…and pursue it.”

—Brandon Wint

[milkygothgf]

I love when people integrate my disabilities into kink. Like yes please make me ride you until I physically start giving out then take over thrusting into me while still underneath me. Swat me with my own cane. Lay my braces out for me with the lingerie you pick. Look up ways to tie me up that aren't putting pressure on my bad joints. Plan out multiple positions so we can keep me from getting sore. Take over jerking yourself off for me and make me watch when my wrists are giving out. Somno on days I'm too in pain to do anything but sleep. Intox kink when I'm self medicating for the pain. Sensory deprivation when I'm too overstimulated to enjoy myself. Disabled people can still be kinky and it makes me so much hornier when you take my disabilities into account!!!

[selfhealingmoments]

[positivelyadhd]

text reads: "you're struggling to make the change because the old behaviour is still meeting a need. instead of shaming yourself, indemnify the deeper need and allow it to exist. then get curious about a new way to meet it."

[sic-semper-hominibus]

re: that last post, ive said it before and ill say it again: no one deserves to die (deserving is fake and death is bad) but some people need to be stopped and choose to make death the only way to stop them

[richard-lengthenhancer]

I disagree. Pedophiles 100% deserve death.

[sic-semper-hominibus]

you are moralizing and weaponizing your disgust in order to construct and justify a category of person you're allowed to murder

what do you think you deserve for this?

[richard-lengthenhancer]

Sorry, no person deserves to die, thankfully child molesters and pedophiles aren't human, so this doesnt apply to them.

[sic-semper-hominibus]

denying the humanity of people who do horrible things accomplishes exactly three things:

give cover to people who haven't been caught yet by allowing them to use their humanity as "proof" of their innocence

silence any criticism of societal structures and institutions that facilitate those horrible things by putting the focus on individuals who are assumed to be so uniquely monstrous that the ways it was made easy for them are irrelevant

provide a shortcut to dehumanize anyone you feel like killing: simply accuse them of doing a horrible thing

3.a. if you've already established that only an inhuman monster could kill a child, then all you have to do to get people to burn down the jewish quarter is say that jews kidnap christian children to bathe in their blood

3.b. if you've already established that only an inhuman monster could commit rape, then all you have to do to get people to string up a black man you don't like is find a white woman who's willing to point at him while she cries and babbles

3.c. if you've already established that only an inhuman monster could molest a child, then all you have to do to get people to drag gay people behind their trucks is say that since gay people can't have babies, the only way they can make more gay people is by following a nefarious Agenda to "convert" children by molesting them

3.c.a. meanwhile if you try to address the rampant sexual assault of catholic altar boys, you're met with "don't be ridiculous, he's a priest!" (see #1) and with assertions that even if it does happen sometimes, those priests are just infiltrators who don't represent the church and there's no reason to make sure priests and altar boys are never alone together (see #2)

tl;dr: your disgust-based violent politics are not less reactionary than any run-of-the-mill homophobe or racist's disgust-based violent politics

[richard-lengthenhancer]

I realized how bad of a take this was after I added my last bit, i apologize for the idiocy i portrayed in my half thought out statements. And I appreciate the way you rebutted this with reasonable statements rather than going hog wild because I said something you didnt agree with.

[sic-semper-hominibus]

hey no worries. we've all been there, and anyone who says they havent is either 11 or afraid of their social circle

unlearning our kneejerk reactions is a process, and it's not a linear one. its good to practice thinking before we post, but sometimes thinking after we post just has to be good enough

[makingqueerhistory]

The Queer History of Self Care

While the term self-care started with the medical community, specifically discussing how it can improve the lives of people with mental illness, Michael Foucault has traced the ideology back further to Socrates.

The roots of the current understanding of the term can be found with The Black Panthers. Black women, in particular, have been recognized as the people pushing forward the idea that self-care was necessary for activist communities to continue their work and energize their minds.

Black feminist lesbian activist Audre Lorde is often credited as the woman behind how self-care is viewed today with the iconic quote:

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”

In current discussions, queer women of colour continue to be the leaders. Though there has been an attempt to depoliticize self-care, the origins and history of the term don't allow for a non-political interpretation. Self-care as it exists today was built by and for the marginalized. It is a tool not only to care for the self but also for the dismantling of systems of oppression.

[etherealspacejelly]

me when the disability disables me: oh what the fuck? this sucks. what the hell man!

[inkskinned]

oh i don't know what young adult needs to hear this but you should google what day your 10,000th day will be & set a reminder in your calendar. it happens somewhere in your 27th year. i was really bummed when i googled my own and found out i had missed it by like 2 months.

(if you missed yours too, no worries, we both get another chance to celebrate 15,000 at 41. Unfortunately you will be 54 years old before you are 20,000 days old, at which point we will have overthrown the concept of linear time anyway)

life is very cute, and you have struggled a very long time to be here, and i love you. sometimes i think we need to invent our reasons for celebration. maybe today you are 10,345 days old. or 12,345. or 8,435. maybe u should just celebrate because it is a weekday, and those are hard days. i love u , light a candle and blow it out. i'm proud of you for staying.

[partingggg-deactivated20240227]

here's a link! you'll have to make an account in order to pre-order (for free) and access the course. 🤟

[partingggg-deactivated20240227]

asl ii will also be available for free!

[virtualhell]

mental illness hasn’t been destigmatised but commercialised

[queeranarchism]

Sooo true.

You can’t have serious conversations about your mental illness and you can’t even mention having one of the more stigmatized mental illnesses.

But you can endure a long line of ads recommending medications, self-care products, gym memberships, self-help books, online seminars, crystals, plants, sunlight lamps and other overpriced shit that’s supposed to be good for your mental health but is mainly just there to take advantage of people who are at a vulnerable place in life. Disgusting.

[cultural-antifascism-deactivate]

Marta Russel called this “handicapitlaism” and identified it as one of the traps of bourgeoisie/free market disability rights activism 

[smoov-criminal]

i just rbed a post about something similar but. i need my white disabled to folks to be more aware of the privileges they have when navigating the healthcare system. every bit of medical ableism one can experience can be made even worse by being a poc. some of us can't threaten to report a doctor to the ethics board, or refuse care from healthcare workers who aren't masking, without jeopardizing our access to care in general or even our physical safety. we are more likely to be seen as drug seeking, or marked as noncompliant, or experience medical abuse and neglect. that's not to say these things don't happen to white disabled people, but i just think it's important to recognize how dangerous receiving medical care can be for disabled poc specifically. please keep this in mind when giving advice on navigating healthcare.

[positivelyqueer]

reminder that what is undignified for disabled people is entirely dependent on the individual and the context.

When I do not have access to my regular AAC methods or my AAC is not being respected, I may sometimes communicate using vocalisations like grunts or whines, and this is often uncomfortable and feels undignified. However, I frequently choose to communicate this way around friends to be playful, or to communicate general displeasure or fatigue.

For some wheelchair users, the idea of crawling or otherwise mobilising on the floor may be strongly undignified. But for others, or in safe, comfortable environments like their own homes, it may be easier or preferred, or an important part of recreation and physical therapy.

Always most important to respect and acknowledge the wants, needs and opinions of the disabled people involved.

[aaa-battery-not-rechargeable]

shoutout to southern queers fr, holy christ y'all deserve recognition and celebration

show some appreciation and support for queers in the american south pls

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

I think it's actually cool and great not to have any especially specific descriptors for your gender and/or orientation. just do whatever you want. yeehaw.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

the way people talk about gender and orientation often has an implied understanding that through enough introspection/reading/fucking around and finding out you'll eventually arrive at the True Answer but actually that's uh. listen it's not gonna be the experience everyone has and that's fine, especially since the language we currently have to explain gender and attraction are pretty recent and relatively limited (as all language is!) and it's like. it's fine not to jive with that. you don't have to find a box you fit in perfectly and you also don't have to build a new box for yourself, you can just exist in whatever way feels right to you.

[antimony-medusa]

Btw, if you have not had tragedy dropped on you before, grief does fuck you up in unexpected and physical ways. If you can’t sleep or sleep more than expected or have more or reduced appetite, or energy goes weird— your brain just had a bunch of emotions dropped on it and sometimes it reacts by hitting every button in your brain. It will pass. Just try to not get too frustrated with yourself.

It’s also fine if you feel normal. Grief literally hits everybody differently, and some people are made to be able to to keep the farm going the day after a death, and some of us turn into sleepless gargoyles and get really into trying to help, and some of us are just unspeakably sad. Grief is weird. Be kind to yourself.

[antimony-medusa]

Something else I want to say is that grief is cyclical. It is very common to go "why am I just a wreck today/this week" and then you check the calandar and see that something awful happened at this time last year. Or a couple years ago. Or a decade ago (my decembers are a wash every year).

So if you find yourself having memory issues or unaccountably grumpy or anxious for no reason or however it hits you, be gentle with yourself.