hi, the names creature and im a TMRA

the name's creature & i'm bigender (boygirl + panxeno) 💌CEO of contradictory labels 💌 do NOT add my terms on any site w/o explicit permission 💌as long as it's done in good faith & u'r not a bigot of any sort (u can ask me about which counts), u can use my terms

[yaoi-orc-pussy]

gonna say this again but transfems are NOT the perpetrators of transandrophobia. it is a product of a cisheteronormative patriarchal society that punishes anyone deviating from the norm, including disabled men and moc.

just because some trans people are being shitty doesn't mean that the community is your enemy

please stop

[angstydevil]

Please, block sysmeds whenever you encounter them.

Sysmedicalism is an unsafe ideology, just like transmedicalism.

Nonmedical plural or plural adjacent experiences can be found throughout human history. Socrates had a friendly daimon. The renowned poets in Fernando Pessoa called themselves a multitude.

The medicalization of plural spectrum experiences is a much younger phenomenon than the experience of multiple entities in one body.

Please block sysmeds. Don't debate them. Don't feed the algorithm. Their entire ideology is based on invalidating others' internal experiences. They're wrong. There's already plenty of posts showing why they're wrong. Block them.

[angstydevil]

I support blocking sysmeds instead of debating them because we were there when the ancient texts were written. The world has changed. I smell it in the air.

Transmedicalism, neopronouns, and mogai genders used to be far more controversial on tumblr than they are today.

I don't remember us enbies debating anti-mogai people off of this website. Folks made banners and informative posts and painstakingly added transmed/truscum, anti-neopronouns, and anti-mogai to the transient “standard DNI criteria”.

It has now been years since I've seen so much enbyphobia in the wild on tumblr. They've retreated to their own tags.

Sysmedicalism is not something you can have a “civilized debate” about. Its basic premise is that when you look at a person whose identity you don't understand, instead of going “wow this has nothing to do with me” and moving on with your life, you go “this person I think is cringe is so cringe that they literally do not exist. It is morally correct to invalidate their name, gender, pronouns, memory, their very existence”.

If you're going to engage in syscourse, elevate posts that center endogenic and nonmedical plural experiences. Interact with posts that highlight why sysmed ideology is dangerous and misinformed without promulgating sysmedicalist misinformation.

Sysmed ideology is too toxic to be safely platformed. There is so much queerphobia, misgendering, and plain bullying inherent to fakeclaiming all headmates of a certain origin, identity, or presentation. (And sysmedicalism really does go hand in hand with transmedicalism: sysmeds are rarely fucking normal about gender diversity in any systems, especially if those genders include systemgenders, nonhuman genders, or nounself pronouns.)

Another side of all this is that most sysmeds are young and misinformed. Most appear to be teenagers or under 25. It's pretty rare to encounter an older adult system who still cares about the “cringe” of kinds of systems they disbelieve in. Sysmed tumblr seems to exist in a kind of slow revolving door or eternal September, with new sysmeds coming in and gradually realizing they're part of an online bullying brigade.

If older plurals, who've been in the community for longer, can stigmatize sysmedicalism, then young, newly discovered systems may be less inclined to become sysmeds until they realize they've been propagandized into bullying.

In short, I think it's time to stop spreading bigoted propaganda and start spreading inclusivity as much as possible.

[nerdyfangz-deactivated20250725]

Happy Pride Month to all 'weird' queers

Happy Pride Month to all lesboys and turigirls

Happy Pride Month to all neopronoun users

Happy Pride Month to all gender nonconforming people

Happy Pride Month to all queer alterhumans and therians

Happy Pride Month to all queer systems and plurals

Happy Pride Month to every flavor of queer out there!!

[morsobaby]

My tip for trying to compartmentalize your emotions or desires is to realize when you're using hyperbolic shorthand for an actually realistic desire. I know realizing even that can be difficult sometimes but let me demonstrate

"I wish I was popular" -> I want to be noticed and engaged with, and I need reassurance and the feeling of connection

"I wanna delete my blog and ghost my friends" -> I want to act out in a visible way that expresses how frustrated I am / I feel overwhelmed with connections and need time to cool off

"I wanna do something reckless/dangerous" -> I feel trapped in obligations and am buckling under stress, I need a sufficient outlet and more freedom to exist in peace

Obviously there may be different kinds of feelings or needs under your particular impulses, these are just some fairly common examples of what you could be feeling. The harder part is trying to figure out what it is that causes this impulse, and even harder might be if you don't have control over the situation, and are unable to have your needs met. It's not always your fault if you're feeling bad, but realizing where it stems from can help you seek out new paths to relieve it. This is something I've learnt working in therapy.

The toddler in your heart has valid needs. But it is a toddler and will scream and cry about it. Learn to sit by until it's done and then ask if it wants a juice box or a hug

[fuj0sheep]

Here's a key part of the transfemme experience that is very overlooked: when you don't pass, people don't actually see you as a man, or treat you like a man.

[fuj0sheep]

Men are generally treated with a level of respect and seriousness that transfemme people don't get. Even if they don't see you as a woman, they still know they can talk over you, they still know to view you as a sexual object.

I think this is also why discussions of "male socialisation" are often very unproductive. I sure as hell wasn't getting treated like the other boys, my abusers definitely understood that. There must be a better word to describe it, but I think there's a huge difference between growing up as a boy and growing up as a "faggot".

[sludgebitch]

its a key part of the policing and reinforcement of masculinity that if you fail to meet the standard of masculinity you are A Faggot and the faggot is someone you can harass and assault. the fear of that disenfranchisement is what drives the performance of masculinity to such a ridiculous degree that people don't wash their assholes or whatever. the benefits of masculinity are not conferred by default they're the reward you receive for being strong and dominant and heterosexual. deviate and you are no longer a man, you are a weak degendered pansy. faggot is the third gender

[gettinontopic]

White trans men stop telling me how I'm opressed for being trans not a man. My black ass dont care what you think, your understanding of opression is shallow and white and i dont want to hear it anymore. I am not gonna seperate my identity into little parts and sort them into the "opressed" and "not opressed" boxes, bc that's straight up just not how it works.

If you're a white trans man maybe consider that your views on privilege may still be skewed twards whiteness and be a little more tactful when you decided tell all trans men who their opression works

[gettinontopic]

To clarify

I dare one of you to once again say to me "Well you're opressed for being black, not for being a man. those are seperate!" and not sound the same as the racist who strip me of my manhood because of my blackness.

Black and Man are intertwined and so are Trans and Man and Black and Trans. Why? Because they're all in my ONE body and shape my experiences together, every damn day.

You cannot separate them in any way that won't reflect the taking of my manhood from my blackness and I will not qualify you as anything but a racist if you try.

[gettinontopic]

Hey fellow trans men I love you so much but this does also start with not announcing your whiteness on our post about our color, even if you have something insightful to add. Saying how you don't understand how other white people can be racist or that you approve of my post is not insight that's just making it about you and your fellow white people again. You also can just reblog without adding since I already said the point I really wanted here.

[queerum]

Free (mostly academic) aro theory resources

On Amatonormativity

Amatonormativity, Aromanticism, and What Defines a Relationship - Rilee Granger

Amatonormativity in the Law: An Introduction - Silver Flight

"Allonormativity and Compulsory Sexuality" (chapter 6 of Encyclopedia of Queer Studies in Education) - Stephanie Anne Shelton

'I Dont Want To be a Playa No More': An Exploration of the Denigrating effects of 'Player' as a Stereotype Against African American Polyamorous Men - Justin L. Clardy

On Relationship Anarchy

The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy - Andie Nordgren

The Relationship Anarchy website

Thinking Relationship Anarchy from a Queer Feminist Approach - Roma De las Heras Gómez

Beyond romantic love – an analysis of how the dilemma of closeness vs. autonomy is handled in relationship anarchy discourse - Ricardo Guillén

The Ethics of Relationship Anarchy - Ole Martin Moen

On community

Examining aromantic and asexual inclusion in queer-serving organizations - based on Lauren Lichty's work

Exploring Aromanticism Through an Online Qualitative Investigation With the Aromantic Community: “Freeing, Alienating, and Utterly Fantastic” - James Fowler et al.

Community Listening Sessions with Aromantic People: Summary and Recommendations Report

Aurea Aro Census

Sexuality, romantic orientation, and masculinity: Men as underrepresented in asexual and aromantic communities - Hannah Tessler

On QueerPlatonic Relationships

Queerplatonic Zucchinis: A Short Primer - Omnes and Nihil (unsure)

Queering the Nuclear Family - Katie Linder

Queer(ing) consensual nonmonogamies, queering therapy: queer intimacy, kinship, and experiences of CNM in LGBTQIA+ lives - Christian Klesse et al.

On intersectionality

Intimacy and Desire Through the Lens of an Aro-Ace Woman of Color

Being Aroflux & Black - Kimberley Butler

Transitioning into Aromanticism as a Trans Student - Amethyst

Existing and Defying Stereotypes as an A-spec Disabled Person - Sapphire Crimson Claw

A Reflection on the March Carnival of Aros (several testimonies by aros of color and non-cis/non-het aros are linked in this article)

Other aro-related interesting reads

New Dimensions, New Directions: Asexualities and Aromanticism in the 21st Century - Megan Carroll et al.

Enriching the Story: Asexuality and Aromanticism in Literature - Adrienne Whisman

The Importance of Representation for Lesser-Known Sexual Identities on the Example of Asexuality and Aromanticism - Jasmin Kiechle

Experiences of Italian Asexual and Aromantic Individuals in Healthcare Settings: from Explicitly Aggressive to Affirming Interactions

Other lists of aro-related ressources (not all sources listed in these are free though)

by Aurea

The Asexuality and Aromanticism Bibliography

If you know of any other free ressource about aromanticism please consider adding to this list

[blkaroculture]

not a submission, but I was just curious about where you found the flags for the “black queer solidarity” banners. I just wanted to save some for myself for pfps and stuff. I’ve only been able to find some ugly ass flags and nothing else 😭

-Irene

Half of them I found on pinterest, the other half i made myself.

Here, I’ll post them for you now:

The nonbinary, LGBT, gay, lesbian, bi, pan, genderqueer and genderfluid flags all aren’t mine (so from pinterest) and the rest are. I just made them in higher resolution.

[sweetashe]

Thank you so much!! :)

[blkaroculture]

Ofc! I also added in the asexual flag on the other post cause I forgot it incase you were looking for it <3

[gonyadaldysgenesis]

ovotestes/ovotestis pride flag

[pt: ovotestes/ovotestis pride flag]

"ovotestes" is used to describe a gonad which has both ovarian and testicular tissue in any formation. the majority of ovotestes cases are found in XX individuals, but can come about in any chromosomal makeup. ovotestes can also be used to describe someone with one teste and one ovary, or in polygonadism for someone who has two ovaries/testes and one or more other testes/ovaries.

based on the intersex pride flag, with blue to represent wholeness and yellow to represent genderlessness (as ovotestes can occur in anyone). left pattern has free-floating circles to similar to follicles on an ovary, and the right is solid similar to a teste.

[flappyhappystim]

It’s good to encourage people sometimes if they want encouragement. But sometimes, if someone says they can’t do something, it’s better to say “that’s okay” and mean it genuinely while taking them at their word. Sometimes we really can’t do something because of our mental illness, physical condition, the day we’ve had or whatever else. And we need to learn that sometimes what people need is acceptance and a reminder that they’re worthy, regardless of whatever they can and can’t do.

It’s okay if you can’t do something. It’s okay if you can’t do a lot of things. You are worthy and that doesn’t change based on your abilities.

[chanafehs]

‘you put that cig out, you can hold her’

[autistic-robo-deactivated202605]

Seeing other autistics be like

“I have autism and still have age appropriate interests and skill. That’s not autism that’s bad parenting”

is absolutely wild to me..

Like no that’s still autism.. it’s still a spectrum… having age inappropriate interests is an extremely common [higher needs] autistic trait… many of use like children things,, and use children items like toys plates etc…

And it always be the lsn autistic saying it… your experience is nothing like someone like me with higher needs. Yea YOU don’t do that one particular thing, doesn’t mean it’s not an autism trait.. it means you have one completely different experience than me.

And that autistic being behind has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with their parent. “Discipline”and forcing them into something that don’t like/ understand does nothing but traumatize the person- trust me I know from experience. The best parenting in the world wouldn’t change the fact that the autistic can’t, doesn’t and/or won’t engage in age appropriate interests. It’s something completely out of anyone’s control.. accept the fact and make their life safe and happy instead..

[ipso-faculty]

This pride month is an excellent time to drop the term "cishet" as a word for "conformant" or "nonqueer".

Intersex people belong in pride. "Pericishet" is only a bandaid solution because stacking prefixes will always leave some group out.

If you want to talk about allorepropericisheteronormativity you probably are trying to talk about cultural hegemony.

[willgrahamscock]

why would you ever outsource fun to chatgpt? are you stupid? you can make mediocre shit by yourself too.

[crippled-queer]

literally been on my mind to write a fic thet subverts the enemies to lovers trope, where they have a enemies with benefits relationship. theyre the one ones who get each other off, thus i feel like this leads to morals into question & i really wanna explore that.

[thefairytaler]

Happy Pride Month! Just So You Know; If You’re Not Talking About Transandrophobia, You’re Not Talking About Racism.

Let’s talk about transandrophobia. Especially as it shows up against Native trans men and transmasculine people.

I’m saying this flatly and upfront: if you deny that transandrophobia exists, you are not just being transphobic, you are participating in an active form of anti-Indigenous racism. That’s not poetic, that’s not theoretical. That is what it is. If that makes you uncomfortable, you should be uncomfortable and I am glad you are uncomfortable and if you try to reply and argue with this I deadass will not even respond directly to you, I will just screenshot your reply, block you, and post it on my blog for me and my friends to laugh at, so make good choices.

Moving on.

When you erase transmasc pain, when you laugh off the reality of our oppression, especially the kind Native men face, you’re not just being a dick, you’re parroting colonial violence. You’re continuing the same patterns of cultural erasure and gender policing that white supremacy used to dismantle Indigenous masculinity in the first place.

You think it's all just TERFs and Reddit boys? It’s not. It’s your favorite leftist creators. It’s that non trans man who claims being mistaken for a man is the worst oppression possible but scoffs when a trans man talks about surviving sexual violence or being kicked out of a doctor’s office. It’s queer people who act like all trans men are secretly just Theyfabs playing dress-up, because that is what they were taught about us.

Let’s get specific.

Traditional Native masculinity was never just about brute strength or cold stoicism. It was about community, balance, presence. It was spiritual. It had responsibilities. You were a man if you took care of your people, if you contributed, if you honored what you were part of. There was room for softness. Room for duality. Room for multiple genders. That is what settler colonialism came here to destroy.

Colonial masculinity, white masculinity in particular, is defined by dominance. Power over. Extraction. Individualism. “Man” as an identity became a status you could lose the second you failed to fit its violent shape. It is fragile. It is poisonous. And it has no resemblance to the masculinity of my people.

So when people say trans men are “just women trying to be men,” or "Fucking Theyfabs trying to gain male privilege" what they really mean is: “You’re trying to be the white version of manhood, and you’re failing.” they actively erase indigenous transmasculine people, because no, we’re not trying to be that kind of man at all.

We often wear our hair long, because for many of us, long hair is sacred. It’s strength. It’s love. It’s what our ancestors did to show pride, family, honor, and connection to the land. But to white society, a man with long hair is suspect. Too feminine. Too queer. “Unprofessional.” Wrong.

A native trans man will never have male privilege because even cis native men don't really have male privilege under systemic racism. Not unless they conform to white masculinity.

White masculinity demands sharpness. Coldness. Silence. It tells you to cut your hair, speak deep and slow, take up space like a weapon. But Native masculinity? It has room for caretakers, for brothers who cry openly. It has room for the man who farms, who feeds, who loves openly.

TRFs and others like them have made it their mission to flatten transmasculine people into a single narrative white, easily passing, cringe. That’s intentional. It’s erasure. It’s easier to dehumanize us if we’re just memes and anime boys and bad takes.

But we’re not.

We're Native. We're brown. We're Black. We're deeply scarred, and deeply aware of what it means to walk through the world as someone who has always been told their manhood is a mistake. You cannot claim to be anti-racist while mocking transmascs for “thinking they’re oppressed.” You cannot separate this from race.

That’s the bind: They say we’re trying to be white cis men. When most of us wouldn't even be white cis men if we were born cis. We are Indigenous. Our genders are Indigenous. And every time we’re misread, mocked, or discarded, it’s not just generic transphobia it’s a continuation of colonial violence.

If you’re committed to anti-racism, but still believe trans men are just women trying to escape misogyny, or that trans men automatically gain privilege, you’ve already lost the plot. You’re still thinking through a colonial lens, the very one that made sure most Indigenous languages no longer have functioning words for the gender roles we used to fill.

So this Pride, start asking who you’ve excluded from your idea of oppression. Ask who’s been forced to make themselves smaller, quieter, less “problematic” to survive in these supposedly inclusive spaces.

Because transandrophobia is real. It is systemic. And it is killing us slowly.

And if you disagree, you're fucking racist and not worth my time or energy.

[foeofcolor]

Only day you can rb this

[foeofcolor]

This post is like a fucking rosetta stone I've had the same theme song tagged in at least 6 languages so far

[trans-androphobe]

if you see forced detransition as anything other than an act of violence akin to attempted murder i dont want to hear from you